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*weeter
writes:I am a married woman who has a close friendship with a single man at work. Our friendship did develop into a closeness where we felt comfortable discussing personal issues. We were attracted to each other and for a while there I felt a powerful chemistry. Over the Christmas period I realised that we were perhaps becoming too close and I cut off contact. When we met in the New Year I found out that he had been sick over the holidays and I expressed concern as a friend and that is when he told me that he is thinking of reentering the dating scene. I was taken aback but wished him well. I did feel bad but felt that I really did not have much to offer him. Your thoughts
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I don't think you can be friends because of how it started. Neither of you were looking for what the true definition of friend is. You wre more interested in romance. Don't tempt fate.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 January 2009):
 Only if you are sure you won't be tempted to step over the line with the guy, otherwise I wouldn't recommend you continue your friendship.
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reader, sweeter +, writes (8 January 2009):
sweeter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all the aunts. I think eddie is right the "dating" was mentioned to get a reaction and I did ok. However can we continue to be "friends"?
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reader, eddie +, writes (7 January 2009):
Yes, eyeswideopen is correct. You almost fell off the edge of a cliff as far as your marriage is concerned. At least you can identify all the things you did wrong. Feeling what you felt is normal, allowing it to progress is wrong. He probably or possible told you he was entering the dating scene to see how you'd react. You seemed to do well. Get some spark back into your marriage. What you had bordered on an emotional affair if it didn't actually cross the line. Speaking of personal issues with someone you're attracted to is actually baiting. Be happy you stopped it.
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reader, bitch +, writes (7 January 2009):
You need to understand you can only offer him friendship. Since you are married you should not feel taken aback by his wanting to date. He should want to date. And hopefully he will date single women. Are you happily married? Do you want to be single and date? Why does this bother you?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 January 2009):
I think you just had a close shave with disaster. I'm glad you wised up before you did something you would be very sorry for down the road. Focus on what you can do to spice things up in your marriage that's always a win - win scenario.
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