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writes:I told him at the beginning of our relationship that there would be no oral, but then I said I would do it with him this week. I don't know what to do.I don't feel comfortable doing that, and I'm a minor, and he is an adult. Should I play around like this after the fact that I don't want to have oral? Reply to this Question
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reader, chitownbaby +, writes (7 January 2009):
 well yesterday i did some stuff too. but he ended up not eating me out lol i feel so stupid saying that. Okay yeah my boyfreind told me that he will not pressure me to do a thing. and that like idk he is really respectful of me, cause he doesnt really make me do stuff. Also i know what your saying it "still being in the back of his head" but what i did was lay it down flat. Say..I dont want to have sex with anyone even if i do love you im still not having sex, cause like i dont wanna get pregnet and screw up the rest of my life, or catch some disease that also will screw up my whole life! So if you want you can have some fun with him and play around just make shur if it gets so heated up where ur pants are off make shur his are on. Either his off yours on .. or your off his on..so like its not more tempting to do it. If he loves you hes not going to pressure you, but if he says like the only way i wanna be with you is by having sex or at least oral then he is def not right for you. and if you feel like hes too experienced and you feel like you'll never meet his standards its better to end it now before it gets deeper in the relationship to the point where you cant bare even thinking about life without him
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): just to let you know, the consent age is different in every state. and what that is is the age that a minor can say yes to an adult. here it's fifteen, look it up for your state.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so he hasnt been asking me to do it. he is more asking me to make us offical, even though he 18 and can go to jail for us touch, the which we have done alot of. and he told me at the beinning he wouldnt presure me, but durning phonesex, we talk about it differnt kinds of sex(including oral) alot.
up to no, today we played around alot!!! and he told me he wouldnt change a thing about me, yet i no that deep down inside he still is thinkin about it, and i've done almost everything i can to make him happy with are cloth on, so idk whats next. Do i ignore his wants, since he is not wanting to presure me?
cuz since he is more expeirnced, i dont want him to look down on me!
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reader, chitownbaby +, writes (6 January 2009):
hey im having the same issue! Im 15 and my boyfriends 17 so not nearly an adult yet but close..I told him i wouldnt have sex with him at the beginning. Its been 7 weeks and we have already done a few things. But he is goin to eat me out tomorrow. Im really nervous cause hes so expereinced and i have never done this kind of stuff before. I think you should go with what ever you feel comfortable with. Cause i mean hes my first love and i trust him completly so im going to have some fun ;] Do what you feel is ok with you. If you feel really self conscience around him, by showing him your body up close then i dont reccomend to do it cause that might be a sign you dont feel completly comfortable around the guy.
Hope that helped at least a little lol good luck :]
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reader, tux +, writes (5 January 2009):
 You have the right to change your mind all you want.. If he is upset about your decision, then I think you should think about even seeing him.
I think there is more to this story than you are saying... I have a feeling that he is constantly begging you for oral sex.. or sex in general. I don't think you should stay in a relationship in which he is always begging you for sex, because it is saying that is all he is in the relationship for. And that's even not taking the fact that he is an adult and you are a minor into consideration. Chances are is that he is seeing you as an easier target to get what he wants.. I think you need to step back... and decide if that is really what you want.. There are plenty of other guys out there that will love to be with you.. with sex not necessarily included.
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reader, dwi +, writes (5 January 2009):
 I personally think you're a little too young to be thinking about agreeing to give someone oral sex. He's obviously only in it FOR that purpose.. I wouldn't give him the time of day. When you find someone who truly loves you, they won't make you do something you're uncomfortable doing.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 January 2009):
 It's a woman's (and in your case, girl's) prerogative to change her mind. Tell this guy you decided you aren't interested in having oral sex of any kind at this point in time. If he persists then call on your Dad, big brother, or the cops to step in. No means NO, even when the day before you said maybe.
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