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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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You w... (read in full...)
He's double my age! Will people judge because of this?
Q. Okay well I'm 19, my boyfriend is 38. We've been together since August and I love him a lot. He says he feels the same way and we can really see ourselves being with each other for a long time. I never really cared about what people thought but ...
A. 30 December 2010: Many people won't understand. What matters is your happiness. Many older men use young women because they are easy to manipulate when you have experience and know how. Be cautious that his feelings are genuine. I have trouble connecting with ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend going to move out because my mom asked for $100.00 a month
Q. I'm 20 years old. I live with my mother and father. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and yesterday my mom asked if he would start giving her 100 dollars every 2 weeks to help pay for food and bills. He automatically said he wouldn't and that ...
A. 30 December 2010: He's being selfish. He can move out but I guarantee you he's not going to find a place with the same kind of deal. $200 a month for room and board isn't too much to ask. Hell, my rent alone is $675, and I still have to pay for my phone, ... (read in full...)
If a girl regularly wears tight clothes or shows skin, does that mean she may not be faithful in a relationship?
Q. OK, I may get flack for this, but the Agony Aunts have given me wise advice thus far so I will give my question a chance: In brief: If a girl you know dresses very immodestly, is that a red flag for a possible future relationship? ...
A. 30 December 2010: Women dress as much, if not more, to impress other women than they do to impress men. Men are easy to impress.
How a woman dresses has no influence on if she's going to be faithful. Like CaringGuy said, it's personality more than anything... (read in full...)
Missionary position is uncomfortable because boyfriend is so thin
Q. Hi, I need some sex advice. My boyfriend is really tall and skinny, and I'm a bit chubby, and he has really pointy hips. This becomes a problem in the missionary position, beacuse his hips hurt my inner thighs, sometimes I even get small bruises. I ...
A. 30 December 2010: Ok, what this means is he's putting too much pressure on you with his hips. He can adjust the position so that he releaves that pressure. How do I describe it? Kind of like if you guys were doing doggy style, but with you on your back. More of ... (read in full...)
Does my baby's father really love this Probation Officer or is he using her?
Q. I am 5 months pregnant with my boyfriend of a year. I broke up with him at 9 weeks. He was layed off from his job and I was working 2 jobs at the time. I would come home and he was never there, claiming to be looking for jobs (at 9pm at night). I ...
A. 30 December 2010: So, you'd want to be with someone who would use a girl just to reduce his sentence. What a great guy. Really. He's perfect in every way.
Get serious. What they are doing is illegal. What you SHOULD do is call the supervisor of the departme... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for the ex drama to calm down?
Q. Recently I started hanging out and getting to know a co worker. Everything is going great between us, but they are having issues with their ex (3 kids together). My question is how long would be a fair time to give them to take care of the ex i...
A. 30 December 2010: When kids are involved you'll never be completely rid of the drama. If you both are planning on getting together, you just need to give her the time she requires. It's different for everyone.
How long has it been since they broke up? Were the... (read in full...)
How do I tell my daughter about her father's other family?
Q. How do I tell my young daughter that she was conceived while her father was/is married and has a family to another?...
A. 29 December 2010: How old is she exactly? This is a delicate situation to say the least. She's the product of an affair. Is her father in her life?... (read in full...)
I'll never get my dream house with the white picket fence with my boyfriend's attitude
Q. hi,my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years now and we have a 10mnth old.he is not working and is not actively job hunting.he has paid once while out for a date but i had to pay half and i have been paying for dates and our baby's needs ever ...
A. 29 December 2010: Unfortunately, he will always be part of your life as you share a child. That's unavoidable. To get him out of your life you just kick him out. Tell him it's over because he doesn't contribute and you're sick of taking care of him and the baby. ... (read in full...)
I'll never get my dream house with the white picket fence with my boyfriend's attitude
Q. hi,my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years now and we have a 10mnth old.he is not working and is not actively job hunting.he has paid once while out for a date but i had to pay half and i have been paying for dates and our baby's needs ever ...
A. 28 December 2010: Well, he's a bum who's mooching off of you because you let him. He won't change because he has no motivation to change. I'd like to do nothing all day too. Sounds like a great life!
Want your dream house? I bet you'd be a step closer if you w... (read in full...)
In love with my friend so she said we can't speak to each other any more
Q. Okay, so I'm pretty sure many people have been in this situation at some point. I've been in love with my best friend for the past 4 years. I'm an 18 year old guy and she is literally the girl equivalent to me. Our humour, our everything is ...
A. 28 December 2010: "What seems to now put me in a very awkward situation is how do I go about this?"
Awkward indeed. Basically you're in a catch 22. A no win situation. So, you have to maintain the friendship in order for you to have a chance with her "someday... (read in full...)
In love with my friend so she said we can't speak to each other any more
Q. Okay, so I'm pretty sure many people have been in this situation at some point. I've been in love with my best friend for the past 4 years. I'm an 18 year old guy and she is literally the girl equivalent to me. Our humour, our everything is ...
A. 24 December 2010: Well, I'm very sad to hear this. My sincere condolences. It's a great shame that she decided to pass on this. I still think she's conflicted, but she made her choice. I'm very sorry it didn't work out.
Thank you for the update.... (read in full...)
In love with my friend so she said we can't speak to each other any more
Q. Okay, so I'm pretty sure many people have been in this situation at some point. I've been in love with my best friend for the past 4 years. I'm an 18 year old guy and she is literally the girl equivalent to me. Our humour, our everything is ...
A. 23 December 2010: It sounds like you handled that perfectly. Good call resisting kissing her. That poor conflicted girl. She's starting to realize it, but it's just taking her a while.
"She said the only time she doesn't wish she was doing something else is ... (read in full...)
In love with my friend so she said we can't speak to each other any more
Q. Okay, so I'm pretty sure many people have been in this situation at some point. I've been in love with my best friend for the past 4 years. I'm an 18 year old guy and she is literally the girl equivalent to me. Our humour, our everything is ...
A. 22 December 2010: I definitely want to know how this works out!
"I'm willing to wait as long as need be, she's worth it and all the hurt that is happening now in my eyes."
Tell her this. This is the kind of statement that defines love. Ultimately you w... (read in full...)
In love with my friend so she said we can't speak to each other any more
Q. Okay, so I'm pretty sure many people have been in this situation at some point. I've been in love with my best friend for the past 4 years. I'm an 18 year old guy and she is literally the girl equivalent to me. Our humour, our everything is ...
A. 22 December 2010: She pretty clearly has strong feelings for you but is really conflicted. Part of her wants to go for it, but part of her is too afraid to lose a friend. I can completely understand.
I would like to congratulate you on finally telling her how ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 19 December 2010: "so you think that he's interested in hooking up with me that night?If it is true,then he's pathetic.Do you mean that all he wants is just sex after we had a 9-hour skype conversation(normal conversation)?!"
Of course he's interested in hooking ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 16 December 2010: Hi again OP,
Ok, I think you said something important in your last follow up.
"He sometimes acts like a baby,but he sometimes acts like a MAN,especially when it comes to some serious matters..."
What this tells me is that he doesn't consider... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 14 December 2010: Haha, he'll always be single too if he keeps acting like this!
Honestly, you may like him, but his childish ways will get old really fast. You're likely much better off without him in your life. How could you have a serious conversation with him... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 13 December 2010: Thanks for the follow ups. He's missed out. He hasn't responded to you so it's time to move on. He doesn't deserve you anyway. He doesn't seem llke he takes anything seriously and then when there are serious consequences he gets scared. His ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 6 December 2010: I can't rule out either. He may just want sex, but he may be using the "sexually" thing to play off the joke, or break the discomfort of the actual question. I think you need to stop looking to other's analysis of the situation and take matters in ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 3 December 2010: He's afraid to ask you out. That's why he's asked you multiple times if you liked him. If you told him yes in a serious way, he would likely ask you out or confess his feelings. He doesn't want to put himself out there, and uses the teasing to ... (read in full...)
Does my guy friend like me romantically, sexually, or is he just joking around?
Q. A guy friend of mine often calls me 'ugly', 'fat', 'idiot','stupid' in a joking way but I'm really skinny and not bad-looking...He always mocks me. Every time he sees me, he just winds me up! Once when I was cooking in our friend's house, he threw ...
A. 2 December 2010: Wow, lots of examples here. Sounds like you've got a thing for him.
That behavior is how boys in grade school show they like a girl. Maybe he hasn't matured since then. Some guys get a kick out of winding girls up. It sounds like he does. I... (read in full...)
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