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writes:Okay well I'm 19, my boyfriend is 38. We've been together since August and I love him a lot. He says he feels the same way and we can really see ourselves being with each other for a long time. I never really cared about what people thought but recently I've started to wonder. Are people really going to look at us badly because of our age difference? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): i have been dating a guy 21 years older than me for 3 years and its amazing, he is everything i have always wanted and looked for in a man, i do not notice the age difference he is my soulmate on every level as i am his. if you have to write and get other peoples views on your situation then you are having serious doubts.
look deep within yourself. it can work trust me i know x
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reader, RosyCheeks87 +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Im 23 years old and my boyfriend is 39 years old,please believe me there are many factors that you must take into consideration before making any long term commitments with an older man. You must weigh the good with the bad! He might start experiencing male menopause any time soon which results in male mood swings, decreased sexual appetite, and jealousy. You haven't hit thirty yet, so just wait until your hormones go through the roof, and his rocket no longer can take off like it use to..viagra cant fix everything! Your going to want a family, your going to want a vivacious man tending to your kids, not a grandpa joe. If your good-looking or half way decent, dont think for a minute that other men wont notice you or vice versa..your man will notice that and he will feel the need to compete against the younger men with more vigor that may be able to satisfy you more than one way!
It would be nice to think that age is nothing but a number and love will conquer all, but that is only fairy tale thinking. Its great that you love your man, and your man loves you...but I dont suggest building new walls with old bricks..Im speaking from experience..I dated a guy that was 19 years older than me..and he put me through hell. I do like older guys because of the security and some of them have the knowledge of knowing how to date women unlike younger men...Just love in slow motion, and you'll be fine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I was once where you were. I am 20 years old and my boyfriend is 38. I started seeing him when I was 19. People will stare but it doesn't matter what other people think because we know that we love each other and that's all that matters to us. You will get used to the stares. I always see it like this, people will look at us and not understand why we are together, but we know that when we are together we are ourselves and we love each other for who we are. We've been together for 18 months now, and we've accepted the fact that people will stare. but it's none of their business.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): You won't be judged but he sure will be.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 At the end of the day age is only a number, you both love each other alot, so what other people think should not be a problem. You are above the age of consent, you are both adults at the end of the day. Ok so there are 19 years between you, people have made relationships work with bigger age gaps than this. But you have got to move forward with eagerness and optimism that it will work, and don't worry if people think badly. The moment you start worrying about what other's are thinking of you is when all the doubts start to creep in, Even if people do think badly, im sure they will come around in time. Your happiness is the key factor here.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): yes, people will judge thats a given. You just have to decide whether you think it's worth it or not, you say you really love him, and thats whats important.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Many people won't understand. What matters is your happiness. Many older men use young women because they are easy to manipulate when you have experience and know how. Be cautious that his feelings are genuine. I have trouble connecting with women even 10 years younger, so I generally question what you could have in common, but that's not my business either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): I say yes, but don't care what people think. Age doesn't matter, if you really love a person.
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