Does the ring signify anything?
Q. Hello... I saw this girl with a simple and very thin silver ring on her left hand on the ring finger, it has no design and its a simple ring. She is on her 20s, and wears no other rings..what does the ring mean? Would it mean something else i...
A. 26 June 2011: engagement ring or purity ring most likey... (read in full...)
Why should I forgive her if she isn't sorry?
Q. The girl i have been dating treated me badly, much deceit there, manipulation, etc. i wrote about this other day here. we broke up and shes moved on but im still bitter. thing is, some people tell me, forgive her, youre only hurting yourself...
A. 23 June 2011: You dont have to forgive, after all, what is forgiveness? To me forgiveness is saying to someone "you hurt me, but you know what that doesn't matter" and let's face it, it does matter. However you can also not hold on to the anger and the bitter... (read in full...)
3 years, and I want to end things. How do I do it?
Q. I need help breaking up with my boyfriend. I love him, I do, but I'm young and the serious, committed lifestyle isn't for me. I don't want to be tied down so young. I'm 21 years old and what I like to do like goin to clubs with my friends, he ...
A. 27 April 2011: just tell him its over. Ignore his suicide threats, thats emotional blackmail. if he keeps bothering you after youve split then get a restraining order against him... (read in full...)
Is it unusual that I'm 18 and have never had sex?
Q. Is it really that unusual that I'm nearly 18, living in London (UK capital) and have never had sex or done anything close - never even kissed anyone? It doesn't bother me and I don't feel any pressure to do so; nor am I physically repulsiv...
A. 19 April 2011: I am almost 17 and haven't even kissed a guy, tbh I dont care if it's normal or not it's right for me so thats all that matters... (read in full...)
I'm just not happy and feel like a failure in relationships
Q. In the past 6 years I couldn't sense too much happiness in my life but a lot of amusement instead. In academic, I am absolutely on the edge since I got a scholarship and accepted by the best state school in england. A lot of people at my age...
A. 9 April 2011: first thing... chill.
Forget about your ex, she isn't worth it so just try and move on from her. Your friends are right you deserve a great girl and I assure you, she is out there :) the hard part is finding her.
I know it may sound difficul... (read in full...)
I have loved my Science teacher for years. I need to find a way to tell him (discretely).
Q. just to give you a brief overview of the situation i was in year 8, young and naive, when i started to like my science teacher. he is rather attractive, i could go on for ages, but generally charming and funny. so naturally, i started to like ...
A. 4 April 2011: "because it would kill me not knowing what might have been." I can tell you what will happen... Nothing! He is your teacher and as such he is off limits to you and you are off him. If he did do anything he would lose his job, and his resp... (read in full...)
I'm useless with women!
Q. I've just turned 22 and never had a girlfriend, it's made me realise I'm actually useless with women. I've had a few drunken one night stands (Protected of course) but never experienced a relationship with a girl. It's easy enough going clubbing and ...
A. 4 April 2011: ((hugs)) you'll get there, dont try and rush things (easier said than done I know), your GF will come along soon enough and then you'll wonder why you ever worried. Try not to act desperate, but don't worry about nerves just get out there and t... (read in full...)
I'm desperate for a relationship
Q. hi i'm very desperate for a relationship. it's a natural thing but not said much but i masterbate almost every night due to stress. i've tried to cope this week and i did well talking to friends but just can't talk to girls in person. I wouldn't ...
A. 26 March 2011: "I wouldn't want to use a girl or sound too awkward here but i just want to passionately kiss a girl and get blowjobbed" If thats all you want a girlfriend for you've got a long wait ahead of you. So are those the only two things you want in a re... (read in full...)
I can't hav sex with my gf...because she reminds me of a horse.
Q. Hey aunties I feel really terrible about something about a dashing lady that I've been seeing for almost 7 months. That's why I'm here looking for advice. We get on well, have lots in common and here lately we've been getting frisky. We haven't had ...
A. 23 March 2011: her gums are brown and are coming between her teeth? that doesn't sound healthy and she should go to the dentist. what is her dental hygene like?... (read in full...)
I feel as though I'm meant to do something else. How can I figure this out?
Q. i'm so confuse lately,i'm taking up a course in college but i have this some kind of feeling that i'm not suited for this course,it's hard and there are times when thoughts of shifting cross my mind especially if i'm failing in an exam or i find it ...
A. 17 March 2011: I have just dropped out of my college courses, they were totally not for me and I was sinking even further into my depression wich i have bettled with for years. I dropped out in Feb and have never regretted it. I have had time to focus on me and ... (read in full...)
Hit a deep low in our relationship, but I just don't know what to do anymore
Q. Hi, I've been together with my girlfriend whom I love very much, for almost 3 years now, we're in a long distance relationship, and have a 5 year age difference. But lately it hasn't been going so well and over the weekend it got really bad. A b...
A. 14 March 2011: She needs to grow up and realise that she shouldn't dish it out if she can't handle recieving it!
You say she's at school so I'll assume she's five years younger than you and not the other way around, so so she's between 17-20? then she's ol... (read in full...)
Why don't any girls want me?
Q. Okay, I realise this is a difficult sort of question to answer so I will tell you all the basics about me: I am 17 years old and have never had a girlfriend. This isn't exactly through choice, girls just aren't interested in me. I'm a quiet ki...
A. 21 February 2011: "I know one shouldn't generalise, but what type of girl do you think would like me? and how do i meet her?"
me :P
I'll be serious now. I'm pretty much the same as you (shy and quite compared to the popluar kids, but more outgoing etc tha... (read in full...)
I'm a lesbian and its forbidden in my country. Do I run away?
Q. hello I'm very embarrassed to write about this but i need to let it go even to people that i dont really know...anyhow,I'm a 20 year old girl and I'm sure I'm a lesbian ....oh God that is killing me i dont know what t do or to whom i should talk i t...
A. 15 February 2011: It's as simple as just 'running away'. You'd have get a visa or claim asylum, this isn't a quick sort of thing (at least I don't think it is). But you cannot stay in a place where they would kill you just for been who you are!... (read in full...)
Are my standards too high to get a girlfriend?`
Q. Hello all, I'm a seventeen (Virgin) year old boy. I do want a girlfriend but I'm worried that my standards are too high. I don't believe in ANY sexual contact whatsoever, I wouldn't date a female if she had voluntarily given her virginity away o...
A. 14 February 2011: Would you then expect said girl to give up her virginity to you? Or to kiss you? Although I'll agree with you on the smoking, vile disgusting habit that it is. Personally, I've never kissed anyone let alone had sex, but at our age (I'm 16) tha... (read in full...)
Red hair please!!!
Q. I have been dying my hair for years now and it is currently really dark brown with a tinge of red in it. I tried to dye it a dark red like britney spears in the 'womanizer' music video but it just went brown and was tinged red in the sunlight. I...
A. 7 February 2011: schwarzkopf Live colour xxl is what I used the first time I dyed my hair from dark brown to red.
It worked really well and went red red red, after that i was able to experiment with different hair dyes to find the shade of red I wanted.
I the... (read in full...)
My online lover said if I took the job that would be the end of us!
Q. Dear Aunts, So here's the story: I met this guy online a year ago and it started off with a friendship. He was a bit loner and so opened up to me when we first met. He talked about his bad childhood, his life, and even his dreams about meeting...
A. 4 February 2011: So you want to throw your future/career away to be with him? You've never met the guy and he wants to tell you what to do? It sounds like you're a bright gal with a good head on your shoulders (after all, the Gov. wouldn't want you if you were ... (read in full...)
I like guys who are protective but my boyfriend goes way over the top
Q. I like lads who look out for me and are quite protective but my boyfriend of over a year is way over the top with it. I love him to pieces but its like its one rule for me and another for him. He demands that I don't see any of my friends (male or ...
A. 4 February 2011: there's protective, and then there's controlling!
Tell him you won't put up with it, you are an adult now and you can see and spend time with whoever you want... (read in full...)
How can I let him know that I like him over the phone?
Q. There's a guy who i like and i think he likes me too but there's quite a big age difference. Anyway he lives in a different country to me but when i went to visit the country he was in, he talked to me a lot. Most of the time my brother and sister ...
A. 4 February 2011: just tell him. You cant do subtle hints with a guy over the phone, hell I'm not convinced you can use subtle hints with a guy fullstop!
If your too embarrased then text him? but over the phone the only way I can think of telling him you like him... (read in full...)
Should I propose to her, or am I making a mistake?
Q. I've known and have been sleeping with my girlfriend for 2 years besides a several month period where she changed her number and took me out of her life. Here's the deal and I am trying to get to the bottom of this and it isn't easy...we have h...
A. 30 January 2011: You had to ask on here if you should propose to your girlfriend or not. Does that not tell you that you probably shouldn't?
If she's treating you like a doormat then she doesn't deserve you. Call her up on that, and if she trys to turn it into ... (read in full...)
I am insecure about certain parts of my body
Q. I have an insecurity problem about certain parts of my body - my wife says she doesn't care about them and they make no difference to our relationship. I have asked her to show me some extra love if possible when I am a little down or reminded...
A. 13 January 2011: she married you. Not anyone else. You!
doesn't that tell you she thinks your better than the others?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy, even though we never had sex!
Q. My girlfriend has an irrational fear of pregnancy I'm afraid. It's not a matter of sex even though, she gets super freaked out about touching my penis in case it somehow got her pregnant. She is even acts worried in the hot tub about over exciting ...
A. 12 January 2011: have you spoken to her about the possiblity of going on some form of birth control? hopefully that could them put her at ease... (read in full...)
Will any guy find me attractive despite my physical imperfections?
Q. I am 18 years old. I am not pretty, in fact, I think that I am really ugly. I have a lot of insecurities with the way I look. First, I have a lot of blemishes. But the one that really concerns me is this: I have stretch marks on my shoulders. I got ...
A. 3 January 2011: When you find a guy that likes you, stretch marks won't put him off! if they do then he isn't the guy for you.
Have you tried rubbing bio oil onto them? supposedly that can help reduce them, but i dont know how true that is... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with me? I push people I love away!
Q. FYI, I'm a 15 year old girl who's never dated and I really wanna this year.Purely my decision. Theres a guy that i really care about, we fell for eachother but once it got to making our relationship official, I started treating him bad (like ig...
A. 2 January 2011: Your in the UK and inder 16, you can go to your Dr's and see if they will reffer you to a counseller or child psychologist. It should be free. If not then you school should have a counceller that you can speak with
It might help for you have som... (read in full...)
How can I have safe sex without the use of birth control and condoms?
Q. how can I have safe sex without the use of birth control? My boyfriend doesn't like to use condoms and I trust him to pull out but sometimes I'm afraid. I would like to be on birth control but I can't be prescribed because I'm on chemotherapy pil...
A. 2 January 2011: personally i feel that the only way to have safe sex without the use of condoms or birth control is... not to have sex. Tell you BF it's safe sex or no sex, perhaps he doesn't like condoms but im fairly certain he'd like been a dad even less... (read in full...)
Online relationship is difficult because she's very protective of herself
Q. Alright, I have a very strange situation here. I'm in a long distance relationship (Haven't met in person yet, but yes, she definitely is who she says she is) with a girl 3 years younger than me. I'm 18, she's 15. She's very mature for her a...
A. 1 January 2011: She was sensible to be hesitant when giving her phone number, and don't pressure her to tell you where she lives, you've been speaking for 3 months and have never met. for all she knows your some psycopahic killer.
Ask her to talk, tell you what... (read in full...)
17, nearly 18 and I've never had a girlfriend - should I be getting worried?
Q. Less than five months ago I was a complete loner – I had never been to a party, only been out with friends and peers a few times, mostly on events organized by my school. I had a revelation in the summer that I myself would have to do something ...
A. 30 December 2010: hmmm... now why couldnt you be at my school?
You sound like a great chap, and you will no doubt find the perfect girl for you. But your still young (well I have to say that I'm calling my self old :)) and theres pleanty of time for everythi... (read in full...)
At 16, should I have already started having relationships?
Q. i am a 16 year old guy and i have never had any type of relationship with a girl. i haven't even kissed one and most of my friends have already, well you know. is this normal or should i hurry it up?...
A. 28 December 2010: I'm a 16 year old female and in exactly the same situ. as you. I don't think there's anything "wrong" with it. And think that it is fairly normal, up untill now I've never been emotionaly ready for anything even now I now I'm not.
Much as we ha... (read in full...)
Was I raped by this guy years ago. How do I get over this?
Q. I had a really traumatic first time, experience years ago. I was making out with someone and I was happy just with that. Then he forced himself on me and had unprotective sex with me. It was very painful. I couldn't stop crying, but he kept going ...
A. 24 December 2010: What your doctor told you was BS, the fact you were making out first was irrelevant! the fact that he had sex with you without your consent means that he raped you and that is illegal, regardless of what happened before hand. If rape in marriage is ... (read in full...)
We have sex but he won't kiss me
Q. I have been dating this guy on and off for about 8 mos. now, we are sexually active, but he never kisses me. He knows it is an issue, I have tried to talk to him about a couple of times. It is depressing. He is a really great guy besides that. I ...
A. 12 December 2010: ergh, smokers breath is absolutely horrid horrid horrid to a non smoker.
I can;t even stand my aunty standing next to me and talking/breathing near me when she's been smoking. The sheer thought of kissing someone who smokes is complete... (read in full...)
14 and never had a boyfriend! Help!
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, blond and brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. ...
A. 7 December 2010: i'm 16, and have never had a BF, hell I've never even had a kiss. But I want a good life and I'm concentrating on other areas right now lol.
your 14, concentrate on your schooling etc, there are goign to be so many distractions in your life et... (read in full...)
I really want a boyfriend. How can I get one?
Q. I desperately want a boyfriend. I know this sounds really desperate but most of my friends and friends of friends have now got boyfriends and I am like the only one not to have a boyfriend can you please help me on this subject how will i get...
A. 3 December 2010: I'm the same age as you, and you honestly need to "chill", if you come across as desperate it's really going to put up red flags and send guys running!
I don't mean to sound harsh but "what if i don't think anyone is fit" sounds really immature... (read in full...)
I hate being like this!
Q. Since i was born I've been surrounded by mostly women. My dad was around but he was absolutely useless that my mum just kicked him out when i was about 10. He didn't run away with another woman, he was kicked out. That's how pathetic he was. Anyway ...
A. 17 November 2010: Have you tried speaking to your mum about any of this? I don't think any mother would want her child to feel bad about them etc so mabye she just doesn't understand.
Do you have any friends whos house you can stay at for a while? then you can ... (read in full...)
My family is being cruel towards me and accusing me of lying, what do I do?
Q. When I was eight years old I was raped in my bedroom by my Mother's then boyfriend while she was out. After that I was always afraid of men until my late teens. I am doing okay for myself now and have a very successful career. I finally decided to ...
A. 26 January 2009: I don't know what to say to you about this but hopefully everything will be alright soon, an just make sure you are there for your sister when she finally wakes up an see's him for the man he is.
... (read in full...)
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