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Hopefully my thoughts will be helpful to others but they are NOT commands or orders. They are personal thoughts for what i would do personally in that situation or what i think would be the best idea. The decision in the end however is that of the one who asked the question. My thoughts will always be portrayed as a suggestion and i will try to put a personal experience that relates to the situation if i can. Also if i say "higher power" i'm saying so that i don't offend anyone. I don't know what God someone believes in and i don't want to say "God bless" and offend them. So please bare with me on that. If you need a shoulder to cry on send me a private message and I'll do my best to help.
My current relationship is a new thing for me. He is a soldier so I am ready to bear the cross with him and hold on and be his rock while he is gone. I just hope we can last and go far he is an amazing and sweet funny guy. Love him with all of my hear. Oh and he is my best friends brother. That is a new one for me as well. So wish me luck with this new chapter in my life. :) |
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What is a "hell-bent" heart?
Q. I was listening to the song by Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope you Dance". In the song are the lyrics: "Livin' might mean takin' chances, but they're worth takin' Lovin' might be a mistake, but it's worth makin' Don't let some hell-bent heart leave y...
A. 27 February 2012: In my opinion it's someone that has a bitter heart. They are more set on making everyone else miserable like they are instead of trying to make themselves happy. They can be mean and cruel and break a lot of hearts. That's just my opinion of it. ... (read in full...)
How do I curb my wish to check on him? I want to quit doing this
Q. How do i change myself to where i don't check up on him so much? I didn't mean to make him think that I distrust him or that i am "checking up" on him. I just tend to get worried about him and want to make sure he is ok. I trust him completely ...
A. 25 August 2011: Thank you. do you happen to know any of the titles so i know what to look for? I have been trying to break those thoughts and those habits. I don't mean to bombard him with questions and usually it's more that i'm worried he got hurt cause he ... (read in full...)
How do I curb my wish to check on him? I want to quit doing this
Q. How do i change myself to where i don't check up on him so much? I didn't mean to make him think that I distrust him or that i am "checking up" on him. I just tend to get worried about him and want to make sure he is ok. I trust him completely ...
A. 24 August 2011: I know why i feel those feeling of fear. His ex accused him of cheating on me with her while she is 100 some odd miles away and underage. I worry when we are talking and having a conversation through call or text and all of sudden the call ends... (read in full...)
Anyone understand the reasoning behind making high schoolers wake up so early?
Q. This really isn't a good dear cupid question but i have no where else to ask this. Does anyone know why they make high school students wake up so early as opposed to middle schoolers and elementary school students? In my school district, th...
A. 22 August 2011: That is really odd. When i was in High school all the schools in the district started at the same time. AngelDlite is right though it is to prepare to get up early as an adult and all that.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have to tell me that he finds other women attractive?
Q. Can anyone explain why my boyfriend has to tell me when he see's an attractive girl? When we are out together he will say things like "She is an attractive girl", or sometimes he just continues to stare at a girl we are passing by. Please can ...
A. 22 August 2011: My man does the same thing, well he doesn't stare but he will point out a woman and say she is sexy or attractive. He told me several times he does it so that i know what he thinks and that i know he isn't plotting in his head how to get her into ... (read in full...)
Still in love with ex, but badly in need of guidance
Q. I am still madly in love with my ex boyfriend. We still talk everyday but its always a fight. We tell each other every day that we wanna be together, but we can never get over things. He tells me how he's so in love with me and I'm the only girl he ...
A. 22 August 2011: I understand the same. It was the same with me and my ex and we even got engaged after 4 years of dating. I was miserable the last two years and cried myself to sleep most nights. I didn't know how to leave so i prayed and God took control. I'm not ... (read in full...)
I don't get hit on! Is it because I'm a redhead?
Q. Hi guy, just a question thats been troubling me for sometime now. I hardly get hit on by the opposite sex. I was wondering if its to do with the fact that im a redhead and have a lot of small freckles on my face and body?. After seeing comments...
A. 18 August 2011: I don't think it has anything to do with your hair or freckles. I'm brunette with natural red and blond highlights in it and it looks bright red when i'm in the sun with thousands of freckles every where. I have had my fair share of hit ons and ... (read in full...)
My depressed bf told me today he doesn't know how to love anymore...and I'm 15-weeks pregnant with his baby!!!
Q. Ok so my boyfriend told me today he doesn't know how to love anymore, he's so depressed ..which is very scary because I'm 15 weeks preg. But idk what to do...we both still live with our parents but he doesn't work cuz he has back problems on account ...
A. 17 August 2011: I'm sorry about that. Does he know that you are pregnant? I don't know what else to do to help him though. I have to agree with the anonymous writer that you should do some research and see what you can come up with. I hope everything will work out ... (read in full...)
My depressed bf told me today he doesn't know how to love anymore...and I'm 15-weeks pregnant with his baby!!!
Q. Ok so my boyfriend told me today he doesn't know how to love anymore, he's so depressed ..which is very scary because I'm 15 weeks preg. But idk what to do...we both still live with our parents but he doesn't work cuz he has back problems on account ...
A. 16 August 2011: Why does he feel depressed? I don't think that it is he doesn't know how to love per say just that the depressed feelings making him feel like he doesn't when in all actuality he still does. Has he talked to a doctor about his depression and what ... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly and gross! My only boyfriend just broke up with me...
Q. I feel so ugly and gross... I recently broke up with my only boyfriend. Granted, I'm only 22 and I met him when I was 17. It was a long, serious and intense relationship. We had a lot of issues but we always thought love could help us make it. ...
A. 16 August 2011: I understand what you are feeling, I too just came out of a 4 almost 5 year relationship just i felt like a toy for his amusement rather than getting the comments you did. Love yourself and don't let him take you down because he couldn't see beyond ... (read in full...)
What does an itchy red irritated belly button mean is wrong?
Q. My belly button has been itchy the past couples days. Today I noticed the inside of my belly button is red and irritated. Should I be worried?...
A. 7 August 2011: Have you worn any belts lately? It could be a rash or allergic reaction to the metal in the belt buckle. I have the same issue. If i don't wear and undersirt when i wear a belt my belly button gets read and itchy and it's a huge nightmare. You ... (read in full...)
My wife left me whilst I was away in Iraq and all she left was a note saying 'I'm sorry'!
Q. I just returned from Iraq on leave today to find my apartment empty. My wife took my son, my dog, and emptied my bank account...The one thing she left was a note on her side of the bed with her wedding ring was a note that simply said "I'm sorry". ...
A. 6 August 2011: I'm sorry that she did that to you. I will never understand how someone could cheat on someone they love. Yeah it must be hard but you have to be patient and wait. I would think that yes the nights are long and lonely but wouldn't that make the ... (read in full...)
My wife left me whilst I was away in Iraq and all she left was a note saying 'I'm sorry'!
Q. I just returned from Iraq on leave today to find my apartment empty. My wife took my son, my dog, and emptied my bank account...The one thing she left was a note on her side of the bed with her wedding ring was a note that simply said "I'm sorry". ...
A. 4 August 2011: First of all I want to say thank you for your service, and I'm terribly sorry she did that too you. I would agree with them about finding her and talking to her about why she left you. What is she sorry about and all that. I don't see why she ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my mother from sabotaging every relationship I'm in?
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 2 months now. I have met his family and friends.He hasn't met mine due to scheduling and distance issue but, that will be changing soon. I see him about once or twice a week because we live an hour ...
A. 4 August 2011: I understand the feeling. I have had my parents do the same to me. The only big differences is that i am a year younger and i live in the same city. It is a tough thing to bring up without some argument arising. The best thing i would say is to go ... (read in full...)
I am so lost it's unreal. IDK what my current bf will think. Should I just tell him?
Q. OK guys i have a problem. So I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful soldier man. I love him dearly and feel safe with him. He caught me and held me after my ex dumped me and was with me through all the crap my ex pulled after ...
A. 4 August 2011: Thank you guys. I have blocked him and i haven't replied to him on anything. I would love to keep in contact with his parents but i feel now that that may be a bad idea on my part and make things worse. Maybe even make him think that he may have ... (read in full...)
I am so lost it's unreal. IDK what my current bf will think. Should I just tell him?
Q. OK guys i have a problem. So I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful soldier man. I love him dearly and feel safe with him. He caught me and held me after my ex dumped me and was with me through all the crap my ex pulled after ...
A. 1 August 2011: I have never thought of getting back with my ex. My current bf has been amazing to me and has made me so happy. He knows of everything between me and my ex and even came to sit with me the day after my ex showed up at my bedroom window at 11 p.m. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend ruined my expensive pot, should I make him replace it?
Q. When I moved into my first apartment I invested in a really expensive ($200) cooking pot. My mom has several that I grew up cooking with and they have lasted her almost 30 years each, still going strong. I LOVE mine and treat it carefully. I now ...
A. 18 July 2011: IF the deal is that you cook and he cleans than i don't think you are being unfair or unreasonable. He did leave it to sit for a week and a half with the acids on it and virtually ruined the pot. I don't know how to tell him that he should replace ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to be trusting him? It all seems too good to be true!
Q. I'm inexperienced with guys and I can be really naive. So in really worried that I've been too believing with this guy.So I met this guy and we started talking so before I left he came up and hugged me his excuse he just felt like it. So that night ...
A. 18 July 2011: I agree with the rest of them. Go on a date with him and just get to know him first. That is all you really can do at this moment. I had the same thing happen with me and my current man and now i am happier than ever. So just get to know him first ... (read in full...)
I can't shake this feeling that I'm not good enough.
Q. I can't shake this feeling that i'm not good enough. I'm feel like a failure at everything that I do. I've had some success in my life, and when I had it, I felt it wasn't good enough so I think I sabatoge it subconsciously so that people wouldn't...
A. 7 July 2011: I would say to tell yourself every morning when you wake up that you are good enough. You don't have to meet everyone elses standards. Sometime some people are engrossed in themselves and think that everyone else should be just like them or work ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stopped talking to me and a girl answers his phone every time I call!
Q. Hi aunts! So I need some advice on what to do in this situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 months broke up 2 days ago. He was at a party and I was going out to. Well I called him and was asking who was ther and stuff nothing mean though. And he said ...
A. 26 March 2011: Hun i hope everything works out for you. Cheating never feels good and i hope you can get the closure and answers your seeking. Good luck my friend.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stopped talking to me and a girl answers his phone every time I call!
Q. Hi aunts! So I need some advice on what to do in this situation. Me and my boyfriend of 2 months broke up 2 days ago. He was at a party and I was going out to. Well I called him and was asking who was ther and stuff nothing mean though. And he said ...
A. 25 March 2011: I agree with the previous commentor. I think you should try to talk to him face to face. That is really odd that he acted like that and i know i would be beyond upset if some chick answered my bf's phone. I'm sorry that it happened to you. ... (read in full...)
Hit a deep low in our relationship, but I just don't know what to do anymore
Q. Hi, I've been together with my girlfriend whom I love very much, for almost 3 years now, we're in a long distance relationship, and have a 5 year age difference. But lately it hasn't been going so well and over the weekend it got really bad. A b...
A. 14 March 2011: I have to agree with Denise31, TEM, and JustJess. She is out of control. I'm sorry that she is putting your through this it isn't fair to you. You should tell her that she needs to call you when she has time too since you don't want to interrupt ... (read in full...)
Seeing each other for 4 months, and I found out he was dating someone else this whole time!
Q. I had been seeing this guy for 4 months now. At the onset he asked that we don't see other people anymore. I am faithful by nature so it was not something hard for me. Well New Year's Day, I found out that he's been talking and dating someone ...
A. 20 January 2011: I'm sorry to hear about that. The question is do you want to be with him still? Do think that if he proves himself to you that you two can be together? If you think that you can give him a second chance then i say go for it, but if you decide not ... (read in full...)
Arranged marriage is ruining my life!
Q. Aight so here is the situation. I had a girlfriend (Egyptian Muslim) who I really cared for and loved. Recently her mother died and she has decided that she is going to go through with an arranged marriage because her mom was trying to hook her up ...
A. 18 January 2011: your a good man. Especially since you understand that it's her mothers dying wish and respect it and her choice. good luck to you my friend. IF you ever need someone to talk to i have an open ear and you can send me a private message.... (read in full...)
Arranged marriage is ruining my life!
Q. Aight so here is the situation. I had a girlfriend (Egyptian Muslim) who I really cared for and loved. Recently her mother died and she has decided that she is going to go through with an arranged marriage because her mom was trying to hook her up ...
A. 17 January 2011: That is a hard one. I'm sorry that it happened to you. The only advice i can give is to listen and follow your gut. What does your gut tell you to do? Not your mind or heart, but you gut. Your gut instinct usually won't lead you astray. I have ... (read in full...)
Virgin and the Future
Q. Hello, I am 22 will be 23 in a couple months. I am dating a wonderful guy he is 21 and will be 22 this year. We met last year in Feb at work, he had a girlfriend at the time and would talk to me in getting my point of view on things. She was younger ...
A. 17 January 2011: Hi there. I think you may be scared because losing your "maiden head" to a man can be a very daunting prospect. It is a line that once it is crossed you can't turn back and to some people that is a scary thought. Waiting until you know your ready ... (read in full...)
Why are women so cruel to other women?
Q. What would you do? Stage four cancer, husband becoming more distant each week. Female @ his place of work keeps "needing" him...to help her buy a gun to make her feel safe, to give her a ride home (pretty far away), keeps bringing him his favorite ...
A. 17 January 2011: I have no clue why we can be so cruel. I'm sorry to hear about his actions and your condition. It seems life threw you a pretty hard hand and this woman certainly isn't making it any easier. I would try to talk to him and ask him to spend more ... (read in full...)
Do we need time away from each other to realize what we have?
Q. We have been married for 8 years now and were courting for almost 4 years before marriage. Everything was going great and we have had a very satisfying and fulfilling relationship. We understood each other perfectly and cared for each other. Until ...
A. 16 January 2011: I'm sorry that happened to you. I think it still haunts you because you still don't understand why it happened and your worried it will happen again. I think you should trust each other and believe it won't happen again. When you say time away do ... (read in full...)
My friends say I never should have opened and read the email from my ex
Q. i was dating a guy which i fell in love with deeply who broke it off with me cause he was being deported back overseas the next day and was married with a kid, and he loves her husband, since then i have gotten over him after many tubs of ice cream ...
A. 16 January 2011: ok first of all your NOT a fool for reading the message. In this situation there is only one thing i can think of. What does your gut tell you? not your heart or your head but your gut. If your gut says give him a second chance then go for it, ... (read in full...)
Tips on how to stop gagging during a blowjob and how to make it more enjoyable for the man?
Q. So i've been curious about this for a while and I would like to know if there are any tips to giving a blow job and not gagging during or gagging less. Ive tried not going down as far but its less enjoyable for him. I really would like to give my ...
A. 16 January 2011: Ok i had this problem too. If your gagging don't take him as deep. If it makes it less enjoyable for him then try knew things with it. Like licking around the tip and right under it (usually a great turn on for my man) and circle your head like ... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to experience sex without a condom but she refuses
Q. I want my girlfriend to experience sex without a condom but she refuses? We're in our late 20s and have been dating exclusively for over 7 years. We started having sex about 2 years after dating, I'm her first. I've had multiple sex partners bef...
A. 14 January 2011: All i can say is be patient with her. i'm in the same boat now with my fiance. I'm an oops baby. My mom had me when she was sixteen and has preached the whole don't have sex till your married and IF you do wear a condom thing. Plus with all of ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to ruin what I have with my boyfriend!
Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, we were together for a year, the relationship was tough, we were on and off and finally we both got sick of it called it quits. I've moved on now, I know im not completely over it but i'm fine. He on the ...
A. 10 January 2011: That is really messed up and i'm sorry he is doing that to you. You should talk to your bf so he know whats going on and that your ex is lying. I had something like this happen to me about 3 yrs. ago. Some girl i didn't even know and the only my ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend's hairiness but he hates it!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend about a year and a half. There is something that bothers me but I am getting used to it. He has a hairy back and he doesn't like it but I do. And because he is a bit over weight he never takes is shirt off during s...
A. 10 January 2011: Hi there. In this situation the only thing that i can think of to do is ease into the conversation. Some how start talking about it. then tell him you love it and it doesn't bother you like it might have his exes. My current fiance has two scars ... (read in full...)
I'm 6 months pregnant and my mother wants to kick me out!
Q. I really need your help. My mother I thought I could trust Out of everyone everything I tell her she goes and tells my step father. She thinks me and my babys dad were having sex in my room when it was a movie and my mother crys about everything...
A. 10 January 2011: i'm sorry to hear that hun. That is really messed up that the dog is treated better than you. I'm sorry she isn't supporting you like she should. Can you go live with the baby's dad? If you can i would say go and live with him. What does he ... (read in full...)
I'm going to lose my baby and my boyfriend is not comforting me !
Q. Hello, I just found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. completely by surprise i am always careful with my birth control and my youngest child is 18 years old with out so much as a scare since he was born. My boyfriend did not take it well. we have ...
A. 26 December 2010: I am so sorry to hear this. That is a really hard thing to handle. I've never gone through it myself but i have heard stories of it and the grief that came with it. I can't believe your bf was so insensitive to you like that. He is a cruel jerk. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend saved my life and is now handicapped. Should I stay with him?
Q. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 24. He is the best thing that's ever happened to me. It almost sounds unreal, but he saved my life about one month ago. He pushed me out of the way from getting hit by an oncoming car, but he was badly injured. Right now, ...
A. 26 December 2010: I would say stay with him. You have found yourself a wonderful man and it would be a shame to give him up. Stay by his side and help him work through this tough time. Your alive because he made it so. Help him handle the pain, help him with the ... (read in full...)
Are tampons comfortable?
Q. im 13 and i started my period not long ago and i use pads but there really uncomfortable and panty liners :/ i want to try a tampon but im not sure if it hurts? if its even more uncomfortable? and whats its even like to have one "in"?? please help ...
A. 25 December 2010: I don't think they hurt. I know what you mean about pads being uncomfortable. I used to wear them and felt like i was wearing a diaper when i did. Now that i'm with tampons i love them. they may feel weird when you first start to use them, but ... (read in full...)
I traveled 30,000 miles to get back to a boyfriend who broke off with me!
Q. I travelled 30,000 odd miles home 2 days ago to be told as soon as I got off the plane I no longer had a boyfriend - the boyfriend I was so desperate to get home to. The boyfriend I thought about the whole time I was away. The first 2 weeks it was ...
A. 22 December 2010: i have to agree with Youwish. You are not worthless and you should never let a man let you think other wise. He was a jerk to wait until you got off the plane to tell you, and just before Christmas. That makes matters worse. I hope all works out ... (read in full...)
Help! I want my best friend back!
Q. hey guys :] well im in a pickle at the moment, basically i have fallen out with my best friend of 3 years, she started to date a boy i really hate, and a few days ago i had a fight with him. suddenly after that she told the school about it and ...
A. 17 December 2010: Oh man i'm sorry to hear about that. I had something like that happen to me two years ago. My friend started dating this guy that no one liked. He lied about everything. Even tried to say that i tried to run him over while he was walking in a ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 16 December 2010: your welcome friend and that's a good e-mail. I think the sigh means that she realizes she has just lost the mind game she was playing. Again good luck and hope you find your true love some day soon. (Yes I'm a hopeless romantic, I can't help ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 16 December 2010: I hope that things go right for you. I hope that all has been helpful to you. I'm just confused by her actions and don't understand why some women do what they do. Good Luck and hope you find your love someday soon.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 15 December 2010: which ever you choose let it be the best decision for YOU and ONLY you. Though nothing you do in the game of love is a waste. All it does is prove one theory or another. Don't regret trying to win her back if it all fails. Though I have to say i ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 13 December 2010: That's a good idea. I like that, it should work in luring out her real plans. I don't like the idea that your her "trusty back up" plan for if this guy that seems to be boring her doesn't work. That is messed up. I hope it works. Tell her ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 12 December 2010: I'm glad i could help even though it was very little. If you want you can add me to your friends thing on here. Good luck and congrats on accomplishing all of your back up goals that's a very good thing.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps emailing me, I want her back but I'm pretending I don't!
Q. Summary: Breakup three weeks ago. She blamed it on a couple of mistakes I've made but I know she left me for a neighbour much younger than her. I've been working in another city for a couple of months, which is why she went looking for the new guy. ...
A. 12 December 2010: I'm not sure. I know most of the guys i know personally (and think of as my own brothers)would have left her because she went to another man while he was gone. I don't get why she keeps messaging when you tell her that she shouldn't. I'm sorry ... (read in full...)
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