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writes:i feel really disgusted in myself i was diagnosed with herpes 3 months ago and it was the most painful thing i've ever had. i've slept with two people in my adult life. it seems pretty unfair to catch herpes from oral sex with a long term partner :( my question is can i not donate blood now? can i not work as a health professional? do i have to declare this if asked? :( this is ruining my life i think i can't even shave my bikini line just in case i feel like a slapper because when i type it in to any search forum it shows girls looking promiscuous and it makes herpes look disgusting when i know for a fact i didn't have gross lumps like the ones u see on google.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): I hope your Dr. shared with you the % of folks that have this condition. You're far from alone... I would suggest that you see if you can find an on-line support group to ask these questions of.This answers the donate blood question:http://www.herpes.org.uk/faq.html#29Here's a help line in the UK for Herpes questions:0845 123 2305Good luck! And don't let it ruin your outlook!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): thankyou for making me feel better about it my partner passed it on to me, the doc said since we had intercourse after theres a good chance he has it but he has no symptoms. It's just a scary thing to have but thankyou for reassuring me as i am currently studying to get into university to study medicine and if i've studied my ass off for nothing i'l be pretty sad haha :)
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reader, lovebird1  +, writes (4 January 2011):
Hi there,
I am sorry for you. It IS unfair :(
I don't have all the medical informations you need, and I don't know how strict the rules of your country are. But I don't believe that this will affect your being a health professional. Anyway, you should inform yourself well. You clearly need to get more informations from a serious doctor, and from a health profession school, and from the blood donation place, not from some internet forum. This will end the insecurity and will help you to deal with the infection. And you don't have to be ashamed. Not everyone will think you are promiscuous just because of this.
I would be honest, though, and not lie about it if asked. It could get you into trouble.
Kind regards
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Donate blood?
No idea.
Work in the health profession?
Yup, I have a friend who is a nurse and she has herpes. As long as you're not rubbing your outbreak on people it's quite harmless.
Declare if asked?
There is no legal rule that I'm aware of and you don't have to register with the CDC like you do with AIDS. I think it's only proper to warn potential lovers so they can decide if it's something they want to risk. It isn't right to spread it to other people if it can be avoided or it isn't their choice.
Really, you can stay outbreak free for years with medications. You don't really have to change much for your lifestyle. FWIW, there are online dating sites for people with Herpes. I have a friend with it and he decided that was the route to go because he doesn't even want to risk giving it to anyone else. He met his current GF on there and they've been together for a couple of years now.
Life is what you make it. 1 in 4 people has herpes. There's no reason you can't be fully happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): First of all you are NOT disgusting so do not feel that way. Sometimes you just get unlucky and this is exactly what has happened to you right now. You had oral sex with a LT partner and ended up with herpes. Its just one of those things.
Its understandable that so soon after your diagnosis you feel bad, but you will learn to live with it. I promise. As you will know by now herpes is not curable but its not a disease that can harm you if you live a healthy, stress free lifestyle.
Of course you would have to declare this on forms and yes as a healthcare professional this information would have to be disclosed. Also, from a moral standpoint its important that you tell any sexual partners that you have from now on.
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