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writes:Dear CupidMy bf broke up with me few months back and we are now friends. My problem is, i am not over him, i still love him. He sees me just as a friend, but he knows how i feel about him.He is asking my advice about dating other girls, it really hurts like hell. I have to put on a happy face whenever he talks about other girls, since i dont want to miss his friendhsip. How can i get him back , please help me.
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reader, CrazyCowboy +, writes (5 January 2011):
 If you ask me, he broke up with you b/c he no longer found you desirable so you only have one option... make yourself desirable, play his game, start asking him for relationship advice for a "wonder guy". Make "wonder guy" believable tho. Dont make him an astronaut, make him a buff welder makin 22 bucks an hour or something. make him jealous, just dont overdo it and next time you see him it wouldn't hurt to make it seem like it hurts when you sit down! j/k haha! GOODLUCK GIRL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): This is why you don't be friends with your exs. Unless it's a good booty call.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Be honest with him about how this hurts you. It's not fair of him to do that shit with you given your history and his knowledge of your feelings.
Maintaining a friendship with an ex is usually next to impossible. You can surely feel why. If you want to remain friends, lay down some ground rules so you can be comfortable in the friendship.
I wouldn't hold your breath for getting back together. It's best if you don't anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): If you want him back ask him if you two can work on a relationship again. You really have nothing to lose- the worst that could happen is that he says no.
However, I really think that you should not have any contact with this guy. Its hard to get over someone when you still have to see or speak to them on a regular basis. As a lot of aunts will agree no contact is the only way to go.
Also I would think twice about a guy who asks you about girls and dating when he knows you still have feelings for him.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Simple - You have to tell him how you feel.
If he knows how you feel about him, he shouldn't be asking you about girl advice. Thats pretty much rubbing it in your face really. Despite your friendship, you have to get your feelings out there. Just be prepared if his reply is not what you want to hear. It will be harder for you to carry on if you keep it all locked up.
Good Luck!!
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reader, lil212  +, writes (4 January 2011):
Hi there,
I really feel for you as I have been in this situation before. As much as you love him and want to see him I would break off all contact with this guy. When feelings are still raw and you still love him you just can't be friends, it hurts too much as you will analyse everything he does/says. It's not really fair he should be asking you about other women, you don't wanna be hearing that especially if he knows how you feel about him. The longer you are in touch with him the more you will stop yourself from getting back to normal and being happy. If you really want him back, don't see him/reply to him etc and give him time to miss you and wander what you are up to .... in the mean time you may just find that you are happy without him and meet someone else :-)
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reader, pinkpoodle5 +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I would distance myself from him. Faking like you are his friend is hurting yourself. If you don't take care of yourself no one will.
To heal from a breakup is is extremely important to have no contact with them.
Good Luck To You
Hugs
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (4 January 2011):
 I think your going to have to keep your distance if talks about his future relationship hurt you.
If you want him to see you more than just a friend than your going to have to make him miss you and he will not miss you if your always by his side. Don't be his friend if your trying to hook up with him.
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