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... Send *irtball a private message | | | *irtball's profile:Hello DC. Some of you may be wondering where I were I went. My life has taken a turn that has taken me away from here for the time being. I'm not really answering many questions at this time. If you PM me, I will respond, but it may be delayed a week or two. I had many problems dumped on me of my own, so I don't have much energy for the problems of others. I'll be back, but it just may be a while.
Wow, been away longer than anticipated. To sum it up, life sort of sucks for me at the moment. Not looking for pity, just letting you know why I haven't been around. I still hope things will get better soon, but who knows.
ALERT: If you're sending me a PM in regard to advice I've given you, please reference the thread or specifics so I can be on the same page. Lately I've been receiving lots of PM's with an answer to some question I asked, but since the question was from an Anon poster, I have no idea which answer it was in regard to. I give a lot of advice here, so I'm very sorry if I don't immediately recognize you. The question title or a link would be most appreciated. Thank you!
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Hi, I'm the bad bad charming sweetheart dirtball. Although recently I seem to have picked up the moniker "Dirty Balls" despite making sure to clean them thoroughly each day. Anyway, I love this site. I have a BA in Psychology which is part of the reason I think I like this site so much. I posted anon for quite some time before creating my profile. I took to the brutally honest approach which has gotten me in trouble a few times, but for the most part has gone quite well. I enjoy helping people and at times challenging them when I think it is appropriate.
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I've been getting lots of great feedback on my advice and I appreciate it, even if you didn't like it. With that said, I'd like to add a segment here I'll call (drum roll please)
DIRTBALL'S RULES ABOUT PEOPLE AND DATING (in no particular order)
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships don't work. Go ahead and tell me your success stories, I don't care. Most of the time it is just way too hard for the parties involved. Too much doubt creeps into the relationship. Plus, can you really call it a relationship if you only get to be together rarely? I think not.
Once broken up, you should stay that way. Make up/break up relationships don't work. Why do you always feel the need to break up? It's because things aren't working. Then you miss each other and get back together, only to have the very thing that drove you apart last time do it again. It is a cycle that doesn't get better. All you're doing is preventing yourself from finding someone who will actually make you happy.
People only change if they really (and I mean REALLY) want to for themselves. Changes for the benefit of others are temporary. True change is very hard to make. It requires diligence, effort, and support.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship. So many times we have people here asking about how they should handle a situation when the solution is simply to talk to your partner about it. We forget how important this is. It affects everything. If you are feeling upset about something, it is best that you discuss it with your partner instead of burying it and letting it brew. Later it will explode when it could have just been a calm discussion if addressed right away. Communicate with your partner. If you never talk, why are you even together?
People can love each other and not be right for a relationship. This kind of goes back to the make up/break up rule from earlier but it extends to present partners or exes as well. When someone is part of your life, especially for long periods of time, it is natural that part of the love you carry for them will always be there. Just because you love someone though, that doesn't mean you should be together. That's the case with most of my ex GF's as I'm sure it is with many other people. Sometimes you need to consider if love is making you do foolish things.
You should set ground rules in your relationships. Let your partner know about deal breakers. Deal breakers being defined as things they would do that would cause you to end the relationship. It is good to get these out of the way when you are getting serious. That way, you can refer back to them if your partner does something against said ground rules. An example that I tell all my girlfriends (including friends who I'm not romantically involved with) is that I will never answer the question "Am I fat" or any variation of it (does this make me look fat, does my butt look big, etc). I explain why too. It's a trap question. Answer yes, and that's obvious. Answer no, and "you're just saying that." So I won't entertain that question. I know, silly, but this works for the bigger picture too. Figure out what's important enough to you that you'd be willing to end a relationship. Tell your partner what these things are. If they want to be with you, they should know.
When one person in a relationship has a problem, it's a problem for the relationship. You're not alone in your relationship, and dismissing your partner's problem doesn't solve anything. It makes them feel devalued and unimportant. Why don't you care enough to address something they think is a problem? It's because you know it's a problem but want to hide. Don't hide from it. If you do, it won't go away.
When a relationship ends, you need to give yourself proper time to grieve it. Like dealing with death, you go through the same stages. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and finally acceptance. This is part of the problem with rebound relationships. Take the time you need. Don't be afraid to wait.
Let the past be the past. It's over, it's done, and there is nothing that can be done to change it. There is no use dwelling on it because there is nothing that can be done about it. Don't worry about things that cannot be changed. You can't drive a car by only looking in the rear view mirror.
I'm sure there will be more to come, but these are the few I've seen myself repeat a lot in my rather short time here.
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This is, hands down, the best conversation I've seen about porn yet on this site: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-there-no-middle-ground-when-it.html
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Dirtball Rants:
1) What the hell happened to punctuation and grammar? I blame text messaging for the trash I see people write. It's not the content but the way it's expressed that makes me wonder what's happening to society. I realize that we're a multinational forum here, and I give a complete pass to someone who is doing their best despite the fact that English isn't their first language. But the crap I see from Americans, the British, Canadians, and Australians often makes me sick. If any of you read this, your posts would be much easier to read if you used paragraphs, sentences with punctuation, and whole words instead of abreviations like U, cuz, or wut! Quit being so fucking lazy if you want help.
2) There is a difference between the words your and you're. "Your" denotes ownership. "You're" is the contraction of "you are." Saying something like "your lame" is wrong wrong wrong! The same goes for there, their, and they're. "There" is used for things like places (look over there). "Their" denotes ownership (they wanted their cookies back). "They're" is the contraction of "they are." An example, "they're going to the service station over there to pick up their car which was just repaired." I bet that just blew your mind.
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Abreviations.
I use a lot of abreviations when I type advice so I'm going to start a list of the most common ones I see for use as a reference tool.
OP - Original Poster, the person asking for advice.
BF - Boyfriend
GF - Girlfriend
SO - Significant Other, your BF, GF, Fiance, or spouse in other words.
BTW - By the way
FWIW - For what it's worth
TBH - To be honest
IDC - I Don't Care
IDK - I Don't Know
IMHO - In My Humble Opinion
IMO - In My Opinion
IOW - In Other Words
THO - Titty Hard On (erect nipples) |
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Have any hobbies? You could dive into one of those. Maybe read a book. Make her a nice gift from scratch, like a c... (read in full...)
Why do these guys hit on me?
Q. First off.. I'm not a whore..but I feel like many people "including friends" think I am!! All the guys with girlfriends ask me to get with them but I always say no! And I know I don't lead these guys on I mean I'm nice to them but they are all my ...
A. 22 December 2010: If you're not a whore, why did you name yourself "cheerwhore23?" O.o LMAO
Just teasing. I'm not sure why you're getting the attention or reputation you are. It's possible someone is spreading rumors, or it's just a possible that they're ... (read in full...)
My sister said she felt bad for my future children!
Q. Guys i don't know what to do. I know this will probably sound stupid but i'm really upset and confused. My sister and i got into an argument while mixing formula for our baby god-brother, who is staying with us for a little bit. She said she felt ...
A. 22 December 2010: Yes, you're thinking crazy because you're upset.
Parenting isn't something that comes without practice. Every parent screws up. That was just mean of your sister to say, but it was said out of anger. Things we say out of anger are often un... (read in full...)
Was it right for me to worry about this 15 year old girl my ex is dating?
Q. ohhhhh kayyyyy. So my ex boyfriend said i cant talk to his ex girlfriend and all i told her was the truth. He cheated on me. We live in same town. This girlfriend hes now seeing again live in a different state and shes fifteen. Hes twenty. Was this ...
A. 22 December 2010: "It was horrible how i couldnt open me eyes to wat everyone was saying..."
Yup, just like you won't be able to open her eyes either. that's why it's best if you stay out of it. If you don't you just look like a spite filled ex with issues a... (read in full...)
I have found out that my BF exchanges numbers with females and texts, sexts, calls them.
Q. I have found out that my BF exchanges numbers with females and texts, sexts, calls them. I have confronted him numerouse times and he claims they mean nothing. I even beleive that he may have cheated to but dont have any solid proof but only when i ...
A. 22 December 2010: Leave. Why continue to torture each other? This is extremely unhealthy for both of you.
Two wrongs don't make a right. They never have, and they never will.... (read in full...)
My minute man doesn't last long enough to satisfy me and won't do what will!
Q. my boyfriend have sex with me for only a minute ,and im not satisfied .we came up on ways he can satisfy me but he dont want to what must i do leave him or stay...
A. 22 December 2010: If he's not willing to satisfy you, then he's extremely selfish. Sex should be about mutual gratification. His refusal to satisfy you shows you that he doesn't care about your feelings or happiness. So, based on that, why would you even want to ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend acting so funny about me adding a friend on my PS3 when he adds new friends all the time on his?
Q. ok so my boyfriend n i have been together 3 yrs n generally we are a very happpy couple. he has a ps3 n created an account for me to play my games on. anyway yesterday he couldnt sign into his ps3 account so wanted to see if mine was working, whi...
A. 22 December 2010: He's just bitching because it's another guy. Like you're going to find lots of girls out there to be friends with on the PSN... *shakes head* If you check his list I can pretty much guarantee they're all guys. Why? Because very few women are ... (read in full...)
What positions do guys love most in bed?
Q. WHAT POSSITIONS DO GUYS LOVE MOST IN BED...
A. 22 December 2010: Everyone is different, and caps lock isn't your friend.
Personally my favorite position is either cowgirl or doggy. Cowgirl because I can last the longest, and doggy because I just love that position. I also love a good 69. Really though, ... (read in full...)
Was it right for me to worry about this 15 year old girl my ex is dating?
Q. ohhhhh kayyyyy. So my ex boyfriend said i cant talk to his ex girlfriend and all i told her was the truth. He cheated on me. We live in same town. This girlfriend hes now seeing again live in a different state and shes fifteen. Hes twenty. Was this ...
A. 22 December 2010: Stay out of his life. It's ok to be concerned for her, but really it's not your place. If he does have sex with her then that's statutory rape, no doubt about that.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's female friend is literally living at my place...with us!!
Q. my boyfriend has this friend that's a female, but heres the chatch they use to go out together but split up cause of some differences. Well at first I was ok with him talking to her and her working with him at his garage, but now she's every where ...
A. 22 December 2010: (scrambles) Catfight, what?!?
Sorry, I got distracted there for a second.
I don't have any idea what he's thinking, but this is definitely not good and I feel for you. A couple of tips though. All that little manipulative stuff you're doi... (read in full...)
He tells me that masturbating to porn everyday before work is normal?
Q. My boyfriend has to watch porn and masturbate everyday before work, even if I'm home he'll do it in the bathroom, he says it has nothing to do with sex, Is this normal, I mean It makes me feel like I'm not enough for him! He don't see a problem...
A. 21 December 2010: Ok, then it's a problem. Would you have any problems with a wake up quickie?
I think you should tell him you want him to bring that energy your way. If he can jack off every day, but can't satisfy your needs as much as you like, then he's got... (read in full...)
He tells me that masturbating to porn everyday before work is normal?
Q. My boyfriend has to watch porn and masturbate everyday before work, even if I'm home he'll do it in the bathroom, he says it has nothing to do with sex, Is this normal, I mean It makes me feel like I'm not enough for him! He don't see a problem...
A. 20 December 2010: I'm with Stayc on this one! Normal is different for everyone. I would venture to say that's fairly common. I know I've gone through similar streaks. It's a good boost to the morning.
Do you want to have sex every morning? Does he still ha... (read in full...)
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