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... Send *olly9945 a private message | | | *olly9945's profile:Hey-lo :) I'm just an un-adverage teenage girl in a committed relationship that not very many people believe in. I had a difficult past that has caused me to mature way past my years and have a wise outlook on thing, as many adults have told me. I choose to believe them. I'm not trying to be conceited, but I've always been the adult of my family and am told I'm mature and I have even helped adults lives by giving them opinions on what I would do.
One thing about me that is very important. I very rarely give advice, I almost always give you an opinion or I give you a "this is what I would do in your situation" scenario. I am not here to make you do things, because what I say doesn't always work, and if you listen to my opinion and follow it that is your choice, and if bad things happen then it's your fault you followed my opinion. If I give advice then it's my fault if you follow it, and I don't want to purposefully ruin something in your life. So if I give you an opinion or scenario it is all things I have used and have worked for me, that doesn't mean it will always work for everyone else.
Anywho that last paragraph was kinda mean to me, and I'm not saying I will tell you something bad. I have just been held accountable for too many mistakes made by other people and I don't want that haha
As mentioned earlier I am told I'm mature for my age, so if you're older then me and have a question, then you can private message me an adult question if you think I can help. But that's all your guys' choice.
I'm very opinionated about sex, age, relationships and maturity. If you have questions regarding those things I usually always answer. I think maturity has everything to do with sex and relationships and not age, so if you message me a question about these things also expect a bunch of questions back before I answer.
Hmmm what else... I argue, a lot. Not in a rude way, but I guess in a political way? I always present examples to defend my point, and if you can't do the same and just keep repeating your point without fact/example I will think you are childish, so any questions I ask that are "What do you think is best" I will usually argue with you, even if I agree. It's just what I do. Nothing against the person, just who I am.
Anyways any questions you have about me or anything then private message me. I love to make friends and try to help people :) |
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My 50 year old male friend is Facebook friends with girls as young as 17. Is this a Red Flag?
Q. I have a friend who friends a lot of young girls all around the world from 17 to 28, on his Facebook. He is almost 50. I don't think this is appropriate. He does have some older women but they are family members and co workers. Do you think he...
A. 11 January 2013: I personally don;t see a problem unless he is pursuing them. I was raised by a lot of males in my life, no females really, so I have a lot of male friends on facebook between 30-55. It's because they are family or family friends. So maybe it's one ... (read in full...)
Am I overstepping my bounds with my friend? He has a GF and I'm struggling to understand his actions.
Q. I just want to make sure I'm not over stepping my bounds here, and I need a little help interpreting someones actions, as I'm afraid my interpretations may be a little off. I have been hanging out with one of my friends a lot more now. He's funny,...
A. 11 January 2013: I respect that he has a GF, and though I don't understand why he is back with her as it is out of his character, I know it is not my place to talk. I never mention her to him. I don't flirt(Unless playing video games constitutes as flirting). We ... (read in full...)
What can I do during sex so b/f isn't doing all the work?
Q. Hello all! I have a question about sex. I'm kinda new to it and though everything is good(we both enjoy it) I don't know what I Can do during sex so he's not doing all the work when he's on top. Is it just inevitable that I can't do much but move my ...
A. 13 June 2012: I get on top a lot but he always does work too, I'm just asking if there is anything I can do o bottom that will help. But trust me, on top is my favorite position lol
Thanks for the advice ... (read in full...)
Who is responsible for kids turning into drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck?
Q. Who is responsible for kids turning out drug addicts? The parenting? The genetics? Or just luck? This situation is ruining my life,and my marriage, and I feel ,Im not responsible for this, but the society is turning against us . It is very painful ...
A. 29 May 2012: My advice, read Freakonomics and the section about drugs. It doesn't explain all of it, but the major reasoning. Parents are, but only VERY minorly, friends and peer pressure depend on the child's personality, but mostly it's the environment they ... (read in full...)
Why would my dad's girlfriend tell people that she is my mom when she knows that I don't even like her? I'm so mad at her!
Q. I just need some advice on how to approach something. Mothers day my family and my bosses parents came in to eat brunch(they were at different tables though) at the restaurant I work at. After dinner they ended up chatting and the conversation jus...
A. 16 May 2012: And it does go against the order which says I am allowed to visit either parent whenever I please and neither parent can deny me that right nor can either parent force me to live with them. It is all on my terms because of past abuse issues. I know ... (read in full...)
Why would my dad's girlfriend tell people that she is my mom when she knows that I don't even like her? I'm so mad at her!
Q. I just need some advice on how to approach something. Mothers day my family and my bosses parents came in to eat brunch(they were at different tables though) at the restaurant I work at. After dinner they ended up chatting and the conversation jus...
A. 16 May 2012: I like that idea eyeswideopen, sadly I was not around when she said she was my mom Confused- I try not to take it out on her, I always attempt be be civil but then she'll do something to make me a bad guy, and I get confused nd frustrated. Once... (read in full...)
Why would my dad's girlfriend tell people that she is my mom when she knows that I don't even like her? I'm so mad at her!
Q. I just need some advice on how to approach something. Mothers day my family and my bosses parents came in to eat brunch(they were at different tables though) at the restaurant I work at. After dinner they ended up chatting and the conversation jus...
A. 15 May 2012: I'm sorry I sounded irrational. When she first was going out with my dad I accepted that but we all agreed early on she wasn't my parent or authority figure and her and my dad where fine with that. It was all good for a while but then she started ... (read in full...)
What kind of porn do straight girls watch?
Q. What kind of porn do straight girls watch? And how often do they do it?...
A. 10 May 2012: I hate it, and I'm just curious. Why does it matter? ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to deal with this pressure from my sister?
Q. I'm so confused and frankly I feel bad. A couple days back I went out to dinner with my boss(19 I'm 17) as friends and strictly that. I then posted about it on Facebook Well my sister read this and when she came over she kept pestering me about...
A. 30 March 2012: Thank you Sage, your comment really brightened my day :)
Stepford, I was not trying to cause any drama. My thing simply said "had fun at sushi with ___ (my boss)" and nothing more. And she has done this to me before just because I mention a male n... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 15 October 2011: Thanks Cindy :) I'll look into those if it gets worse. Until then I'll try and find things to distract me from all of this! ... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 15 October 2011: I can't afford therapy unfortunately, that's why I said that earlier.
Thank you for your answer, I agree with what you say. My depression is not everything you described, but very similar, and it's only been going on for a couple weeks, so I'll ... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 14 October 2011: I'm going to say this one last time. The attention thing was a guess! And anon, did you not read that imam not trying to get pregnant, I just want to get rid of these feelings? I'm sorry if I sound rude, but what you said sounded rude to me :P... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 14 October 2011: Also to Redathena after I turned 8 my mom started taking drugs and I took care of her more or less. I raised myself and still do. I also know I am not ready, nor will I ever be ready, to tale care of a child, and that is why I'm never having one, ... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 14 October 2011: Again I'm not trying to get pregnant, and I HATE children. As soon as I turn 18 I'm getting surgery to prevent pregnancy(the name slips me and yes I know it has serious risks, but I know as a mother at any age I would probably end up abusive ... (read in full...)
I'm 13, and I want to kiss my teacher!
Q. I have a huge crush on my form teacher and no one knows but every day when I come in to form I get more and more desperate to kiss him. I dont know how to do it though, or to do it at all. Also i really want to tell my friend but i am also worried ...
A. 1 October 2011: Kissing the teacher can get him into serious trouble. Don't even think about it or tell your friend. Just ignore your feelings. Date kids your own age.
I understand teacher crushes, which is fine to have, but that's all they are, crushes.... (read in full...)
15 & preqnant how do I tell my parents
Q. hi umm well im 15 and pregnant and i am so terrified!:( my friends are happy for me my boyfriend is supportive so is his family! but i am so afraid of my dad not really my mom :( im ashamed to have disappointed them but how do i tell them? ...
A. 24 August 2011: Well tell your mom, since you're not as afraid to tell her, then both of you can tell your dad.
How I would approach this is go up to your mom and tell her you need to have a serious chat. Sit down with her somewhere private and just tell her. It ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 10 August 2011: I'm soo happy for you OP, I'm glad that this guy is soo nice and wonderful to you. Keep getting to know him and enjoy yourself! Embrace all this joy and happiness!... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: I understand why you feel selfish, and I would too. But if my boyfriend had XP I would still love him and stand with him every step of the way. When he died I would mourn him, but I would be happy I made his life the best it could be by granting him ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: It's not selfish at all, but you need to let the person you get serious with that you have a short life, but you want to fall in love.
I am very sorry for your condition and sad for you. I hope you find someone who will care for you, understa... (read in full...)
I don't like sex, people think thats a bad thing
Q. Hello, I am an 18 year old female and I dont like the thought of sex, at all. I think its repulsive and gross. I am still a virgin and perfectly okay with it. I dont see how its can be enjoyable or pleasurable for anyone. I have not been ...
A. 26 July 2011: I thought that way until I had sex. Masturbating was not pleasurable for me so I thought "Well if I can't pleasure myself then a penis sure can't" then one day I decided out of curiosity to try it. My bf's penis grossed me out at the time, as well ... (read in full...)
Ideas for some summer fun?
Q. Hey, what are some fun at home things my boyfriend and I can do besides movies, video games, or cooking? We sometimes have water fights or play with the dogs, but we just want some more ideas, seeing as neither of us can drive the other legally(I ...
A. 22 July 2011: Thank you everyone! I guess I should of mentioned we live in the middle of nowhere in a desert, so no walking to nearby stores, parks, or anything. Also no beaches or anything for teens close by.
Board games are good, and we ride the 4-wheele... (read in full...)
Ideas for some summer fun?
Q. Hey, what are some fun at home things my boyfriend and I can do besides movies, video games, or cooking? We sometimes have water fights or play with the dogs, but we just want some more ideas, seeing as neither of us can drive the other legally(I ...
A. 22 July 2011: Thank you everyone! I guess I should of mentioned we live in the middle of nowhere in a desert, so no walking to nearby stores, parks, or anything. Also no beaches or anything for teens close by.
Board games are g... (read in full...)
3 questions about lingerie...
Q. Sooooo today I went shopping with my best female friend. She convinced me to buy some lingerie, it's a corset like thing, red with black lace, very sexy. It wasn't for a guy or anything, I am single, but it was just for me, ya know? I didn't have ...
A. 20 July 2011: I don't hide mine, when anyone asks I just say "It's comfy and it's a confidence boost!"
If the black knickers look good with it then don't bother, and the matching ones might not be as comfortable, but it is up to you really.
Your friend c... (read in full...)
He can keep going for an hour! That's too long for me....
Q. This isn't much of a problem but, the guy I am seeing can last for an hour even more with no signs of him cumming anytime soon. When we have sex he really goes to town and it's great he even makes sure to go down on me beforehand he's really ...
A. 20 July 2011: Some guys can just last longer than others. My boyfriend lasts about that long, even longer. Try different positions or oral sex. Maybe he masturbates too much. That's another thing, if my bf and I haven't had sex for a while and he's neglected ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend falls asleep when I kiss her!
Q. Whenever I kiss my Girlfriend, she starts sleeping. she says she does this in utter enjoyment and I am the best French kisser of the world. Doesn't this sound kinda weird? or every girl does this? I would appreciate if you people could say ...
A. 19 July 2011: Unless she starts snoring I don't think she is sleeping. She might just be completely relaxed kissing you and seem sleepy.
Otherwise she should see a docter... (read in full...)
Some questions on sex in the shower and why can't I orgasm?
Q. Hiya All, I have some questions on sex. 1) I've heard some women physically can't orgasm. Is there any way to know if you can't climax? I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for 8months now and he knows my body and what i like better than...
A. 18 July 2011: I think it is possible for some women not to be able to orgasm. I haven't yet, and can't make myself, neither can my boyfriend, though it does feel great. Nothing works for me basically. You are always lucky when a condom doesn't break, and I don... (read in full...)
I don't really know what to do in bed...
Q. Hi everyone, i need your help. i lost my virginity about 1 month ago, and everythings great. sex isnt painful and IS pleasurable. but everytime ive had sex i havent had to do anything at all (my boyfriend has done all the work). The other day i ...
A. 16 July 2011: You can pleasure him more orally if it's difficult for you to do so during sex as you stated. Otherwise getting on top, doing lap dances, things like that work. And being on bottom and thrusting up IS difficult, and takes some practice. You can also ... (read in full...)
What do you think of this tattoo idea?
Q. soo i turned 17 in april.. and lately ive been thinking a lot about wanting a tattoo. the problem is my mother will probably nott let me get one. she wont even let me pierce my tongue but has let me pierce my bellybutton when i was 15. the past ...
A. 14 July 2011: In sentimental value it would mean a lot to me if I was your parent. In terms of size I would ask you to make it smaller but be happy it was hidden even if you were just wearing a tank-top. Also were you want to get it is very painful, especially ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: Well if my boyfriend told me masturbating was cheating I would slap him for being stupid. But don't do that.
Try asking him why it is cheating(calmly). If he doesn't give an answer or gets angry then he probably isn't someone worth staying ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts...
Q. I need some help, Recently me and my boyfriend have been trying to have sex. Btw we are being safe as i am on the pill and he uses condoms. however, we never manage to have sex as it really hurts me but we really want to do it, we have kept trying ...
A. 12 July 2011: Does being fingered hurt? Maybe your hymen won't break and you'll need to go to a doctor and have it broken.
If fingering doesn't hurt maybe you need lube, and a lot more foreplay. Maybe he is just to big(width) for you and you need more time tha... (read in full...)
I need to tell my parents that I'm pregnant, but I don't know how!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs and we started having sex 2 yrs ago. im 16 and now im pregnant. ive told my partner he's going to do all he can my only problem is how do i tell my parents?...
A. 7 July 2011: Be honest, sit them down and explain the situation. Say how you made a mistake, and apologize if you disappointed them. Ask for their support, and discus plans such as keeping the baby, or adoption.
If your parents are not happy and tell you to g... (read in full...)
Why do people think teenage romances can never grow?
Q. I just want to understand. Why do some people think teenage relationships can never grow till the two in love are old? I know that some teenagers are just dating, going through drama, but you're doing a childish thing setting a stereo-type on a...
A. 15 February 2011: Okay, and I'm not trying to be rude, but even though you were a teenager doesn't mean you lived the life of every different teenager. Each of us has a different personality, background, outlook on things, etc. And I know I will change as I get ... (read in full...)
Strawberries and cologne..anything else sound good?
Q. So I want to get my boyfriend something really cute and nice for him for valentine's day. I'm sixteen and he is also sixteen, we are madly in love. I don't know if it's just teenage love, but I could see myself with him forever. Anyways, back to my ...
A. 11 February 2011: Do you guys have an inside joke? You could do something with that :) or do something cheesy that a guy would do. That might get a laugh. Maybe a scavenger hunt, or make him pop hundreds of balloons till he finds a valentines card in one with ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend always has an excuse to not hang out on weekends...
Q. I've been going out with this girl for about 2 weeks now. We both like each other a lot and we flirt. Everything seems so perfect when I see her at school. But when it comes to me asking her if she can hang out over the weekend, she always comes...
A. 9 February 2011: You've only been dating a couple weeks? So two or three weekends? Don't be hurt buddy, maybe she is just getting to know you at school so she can be more comfortable hanging out with you alone at your house or hers(besides parents and siblings of ... (read in full...)
I am 16 years old, height is 5'5", is a weight of 103 lbs. normal??
Q. I am 16 years old, my height is 5"5. Is it normal that my weight is 103? ...
A. 1 February 2011: Personally I dont think it would hurt you if you gained ten or fifteen pounds, just as long as you're healthy. I'm 15, 5'2" and 150 lbs and I feel great, I'm healthy, and in shape. But it's personal preference just as much as it's doctor preference ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if he came but I didn't?
Q. Is it possible that I can get pregnant if my boyfriend came in me but I never came? And I start around the 5th of every month?...
A. 29 January 2011: Haha Dirtball
But I agree with Tennisstar. I'm 15 and I know that you can get pregnant regardless if you orgasm or not. Seriously read up or take a class on sex
Ed before you have sex again, and use at least two forms of birth control, bec... (read in full...)
I like my girlfriend's "natural scent". Is that weird?
Q. I've noticed that I really like how my girlfriend smells. And I'm not talking perfume or deodorant, I mean her natural body scent. Like for instance when she's all sweaty after one of her soccer games I think she just smells amazingly sexy and ...
A. 10 January 2011: I like how my boyfriend smells after he has been working more than when he's just out of the shower, so I don't thinks it's all too crazy. Maybe a bit odd, but nothing that's freaky I think :)... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend to workout ?
Q. I want my boyfriend to workout. He seriously has everything I look for in a guy. But lately he has been gaining weight. I love him so much and plan on spending the rest of my life with him. But I really do not want him to just let himself go and m...
A. 30 December 2010: Tell him you are planning to start working out too(not like body building though) and you really want him to do it with you like a couple activity. That way you will both stay healthy and if you work out he might feel inclined to also.... (read in full...)
A short girl with a tall guy?
Q. i'm asian.. therefore, generally short. i'm somewhat concious of my height, even though i'm 5'3". i'm not exactly super short like some other girls, and not all that tall. I used to weigh 110 but after track and such, i'm around 115..making me more ...
A. 28 December 2010: First off you are NOT fat. Actually you are probably underweight which is also just as unhealthy as being overweight. Second, my bf is six foot and I'm 5'2", so I usually stand on my tip toes and he leans down a bit. Sometimes he picks me up, which ... (read in full...)
Should I wear the promise ring like an engagement ring?
Q. I'm a bit confused. For Christmas my boyfriend got me a Promise ring. I'm not confused about that, I'm very happy about it actually! It's just that we are young and I want to wear it on my ring finger because it's basically a promise to get ...
A. 28 December 2010: Well I was planning on wearing no matter what, I just wasn't sure if I should wear it on my ring finger or not. I do want to wear it on my ring finger, but if someone is rude what should I say? ... (read in full...)
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