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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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What am I doing wrong to annoy so many people? I keep having this problem where I lose fiends.
Q. I keep having this problem where I lose friends because of breaking up with/losing interest/not being interested in the first place. I guess my problem is two-fold. I could be friends with a group of people (mixed genders), we get along fine, we...
A. 10 May 2015: Yes OP, I think you have answered your own question. You are attempting at a more mature age to live that budding female sexuality and sensuality that you were forbidden to express when you were 14 or so.
Actually, with all the 13 , and 12 ! y.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
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A. 10 May 2015: In other words, you are just lazy- you'll only do what's easy and comfy.
Anything that you never tried, and that you don't have an inborn talent for, is hard and awkward at the beginning. That's part of the process of learning.
If you want to ... (read in full...)
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Every man I've ever been involved with has sought out porn featuring women who look different than me!
Q. Why does every man I'm with seem to prefer the typical porn star look to me . Without fail every man I've ever been involved with has sought out potn Witb womrn who are compeltely different to me , usually young and blonde and thin I'm pretty s...
A. 6 May 2015: You've got good advice alreday, but I want to try adding another angle.
You say you suspect that your exes settled for second best with you, and that if they could have " done better " they would.
Well, don't we all ? Including you ? Don't we... (read in full...)
Would girls laugh and blow kisses to someone don't know, but they do find that person to be attractive, to them?
Q. Interesting scenario and am interested in hearing thoughts. There is this guy I know who us girls find cute/good looking. I saw him trying to drive out of a parking bay at the side of the street. He was blocked by bit of a jam of cars coming t...
A. 6 May 2015: Who knows. Maybe they knew him, maybe they were just being silly.
Had it happened here, I'd definitely say it was a tongue-in-cheek, polite alternative to showing him the middle finger,in case he had been too brusque or impatient in waving them... (read in full...)
Is he telling lies too? He is calling me a liar about changinng my mind
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A. 6 May 2015: I think your bf is telling you the truth. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder ; perception is subjective and can shift,for better or for worse, according to what you feel for a given person. He is saying that you have " grown " on him.
I reme... (read in full...)
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A. 5 May 2015: First, move out asap. And second, don't take what she says so at heart .So she does not like your bf. And ? ... Be cool with it. She is another person from you, with another outlook on life, other ideas etc. - so what. Apparently, you do not like ... (read in full...)
A family holiday where my feelings were perhaps forgotten? Shouldn't they at least consider how I would feel, considering the problems last year?
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A. 5 May 2015: Often I agree with Chigirl, but not this time.
I think it is relevant that the Aunt is the one footing the bill . If she is the one so kind to pay for everything, do we want at least to leave her the privilege to choose WHERE she'd like to g... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
Q. Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...
A. 5 May 2015: OP, do you know what's the REAL long and short of it ?
That , if you had spent one quarter of the time you are spending researching "first time " issues on this and other on line forums... by joining instead some salsa dance class, or Meetup grou... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
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A. 5 May 2015: I am sorry to hear this, OP. Sorry...but not surprised ,I must say. AS you have seen, alas, love is not everything, then you've also got to sort of belong to the some " world " ( psychologically ), and yours sounded very different.
You sound like... (read in full...)
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Q. In my freshman year of college, I befriended a girl who I thought was a cool person. However, as we grew closer, I realized she was not a very cool person. She's a manipulative, selfish, immature, clingy/needy, bitch. She's told me some of the thin...
A. 5 May 2015: Why ? Because she is NUTS, that's why - hasn't she proved it to you enough ? Do you need more ? ..
As far as what she wants to accomplish,.. who knows what goes through her disturbed mind. Probably in her head if she MAKES you pay attention to h... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong to annoy so many people? I keep having this problem where I lose fiends.
Q. I keep having this problem where I lose friends because of breaking up with/losing interest/not being interested in the first place. I guess my problem is two-fold. I could be friends with a group of people (mixed genders), we get along fine, we...
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The silly/giddy/aw shucks / running around hydrants thing is cute when you are 16, - 10 years later is only CUTESY, and eye-roll inducing - YOU have fun, but the other peop... (read in full...)
How else could I have handled this situation? Am I wrong to be upset at his behaviour?
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A. 5 May 2015: I can't see that your husband did anything wrong. Maybe he was not mad when you complained, just baffled : why would you choose to wait in the parking lot ? It does not make sense . It's comfier and easier to go straight to the restaurant , it's ... (read in full...)
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Q. Why does it bother me so much that I sent my boyfriend a text saying "Have a good night. Miss you." And nothing. No response. No "I miss you too." It was five hours ago. He was out with his family for dinner and texted me to touch base. I texted ...
A. 4 May 2015: Major overreaction. Your message sounded pretty final, like : we are done for tonight- and did not require any reply.
Personally I feel that's also a by- product of the USA overuse of expressions like " Love you " " miss you " etc. A " miss you ... (read in full...)
I've repeatedly asked him whether he wants to break up but he says he doesn't. Yet he's cold to me and unaffectionate.
Q. I'm 31. I met my present fiancé about four years ago and we've been in a committed long distance relationship. He's 48 and twice divorced previously. We've always got along well. Needless to say, I love him very deeply. Over the past three weeks...
A. 4 May 2015: He does not want to break up- as long as he is not the one who has to adjust , or change communication and fighting styles.
At 47 people are pretty much who they are, they don't just turn into their evil twin overnight. Simply, before you had ... (read in full...)
Despite the difficulties I still love her. But what to do? My daughter thinks that I should ask her to leave
Q. My partner is causing me concern in that she does the complete opposite of what is asked of her, when we got together she was very quiet and then after a couple of weeks she started talking to me with rude words. I told her that I dont take this typ...
A. 4 May 2015: Your partner does not want ro be your partner.
What else can you do but letting her go ?
She is 42, it's HER call to decide if she is fit enough to be alone on her own.... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I have trouble trusting any guy? I can't help but get the feeling he is leading me on for a bet
Q. I like this guy and I can't help but get the feeling he is leading me on for a bet. I feel like it only because it has happend before. He tells me he's a virgin but yet I can't trust anyone. I want to tell him I like him. But he says I'm shy abo...
A. 4 May 2015: Why would you have to tell him ?
He knows you are shy, he said it himself. wouldn't it be up to him to reassure and make you feel comfortable by acting patient, consistent, reliable and dependable ?
What would you think you'd accompli... (read in full...)
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A. 2 May 2015: You DO baby her. A robust 3 y.o. is perfectly capable of pulling a baby's arm out of its socket , so you have to put firm, non negotiable boundaries on stuff like that. And you can't waste too much time and diplomacy on negotiations on this kind of ... (read in full...)
Dating a young guy but I don't see this is going to work out
Q. Hey, I'm living in weird relationship and I can't end it! The fair of being lonely again is stopping me! My partner is someone younger that me in 11 years ! I'm 31 he is 20 The age would not be an issue for me if he was older , as my ex was 1...
A. 2 May 2015: Uhm.. of course everybody has their own definition of love, but I think oin your case it's just your hormones which love him, and your loneliness, and coming out from a long sexual and emotional dry spell. He's cute, he's hot, he's sexy, he ... (read in full...)
We had a casual thing between us about 4 years ago. Why would she ignore me now?
Q. Ok, so me and this girl used to have a casual thing going about 4 years ago. We were both single then. Since then i've married someone else. We've stayed in touch and met up a few times. On a couple of occasions we have slept together which s...
A. 2 May 2015: Why should she NOT ignore you.
All you had was a casual fling four years ago !. Now you are MARRIED and she is in a relationship . Getting involved in long chats with an ex CASUAL sex partner is inane, serves no purpose, and it is very disr... (read in full...)
She calls me her daughter but charges me $US 500 per month to live with her. Is that too much?
Q. Im 19 year old, I live with my ex guardian. I have been living with Her since I was 16 year old when I dad passed. She increased my monthly payment to $500 a month for staying there. I used to pay $300 before. She calls me her daughter but why do I...
A. 29 April 2015: It's impossible to answer you without knowing where you live. There may be huge differences from a place to another.
If you lived in NY and you paid 500 $ for sharing with one roommate, you'd be deliriously happy, seeing that even a studio belo... (read in full...)
Yes, there's depression (being medicated). And the desire to be more positive. So how do I get a more positive outlook?
Q. How do I get a more positive outlook on life? I am twenty years old and I am struggling with severe depression. I currently work in administration with no hopes of furthering my career as my job contract ends here soon, and before that I have alw...
A. 28 April 2015: Maybe you won't have to learn and live with it.
I hope you'll find this interesting,it's worth looking into it, IMO:
Google " Depression and Chronic Back Pain " ( or viceversa ) and you'll see there are TONS of medical articles, and tons of ... (read in full...)
I found out about his daughter a year into our relationship, and he didn't lend me money for my school fees because he puts her first!
Q. I'm 24yrs and my guy is 29yrs too we have been friends since childhood but he asked me for a relationship as at last year so after one year he told me he had a 10yrs daughter out of wedlock and he said the reason why he refused to tell me such at ...
A. 28 April 2015: Maybe I misunderstood, but from the OP's post I did not get that THE GUY asked HER money for his daughter's school fees.
The way I understood it ,is that the OP asked him to borrow money for her ( the OP's ) school fees and he basically said no, ... (read in full...)
How can I politely deal with people who offer their advice on whether we are having a boy or a girl?
Q. Ok, so my fiance I have been thrilled to be expecting our first child. We dont want to find out what we are having because I cant wait for that moment when the doc says "its a..." when it is born, but I have had a lot of people who dont seem to get ...
A. 28 April 2015: But the point is, these people CANNOT know what you are having !, so how are they taking the surprise element away ? ( unless they have a portable scan unit ? ).
All these unfailable divination methods- pointy belly vs, round belly etc. etc.... (read in full...)
Should his voyeurism concern me? How can I believe that I am the woman for him when all his thousands of saved images of women all look nothing like me?
Q. i am currently engaged to my partner of just over 2years. I have since constantly found images he has taken of women in public, on screens or saved of women. Also the usual porn etc... On his phone, email, playstation, in our new home (dvd's, ...
A. 28 April 2015: Like maverick494, I don't quite understand what you mean- that you accept / tolerate what your bf is doing because you know WHY he is doing it ?...Strange.
Ted Bundy's case has been studied by tons of psychiatrists and criminologists by now, and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to distance yourself from somebody who is causing you pain?
Q. I am wondering. Is it normal to distance yourself from a person who is hurting you too much? Causing you pain or stress? Almost like you need the pain and stress to stop so you emotionally withdraw from them? Does this happen all of a sudden or o...
A. 28 April 2015: Ir is difficult to respond a question posed in such vague, general terms, without any context or background.
I think there's no one size fits all here, a lot would depend from individual personalities, past experiences and present circ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact? I felt like he totally blew me off so I basically told him to lose my number.
Q. I have been dating this man for approximately 3 weeks now after getting out of a 3 year relationship. On the second date, we ended up having sex. It was spectacular, I hadn't felt so sexually connected and charged by a person in years. It was early ...
A. 27 April 2015: I think too you did the right thing.
Some people may say that you have been too " uptight ", considering that it's just 3 weeks you had met. You just had begun to get acquainted, and, maybe it wasn't " just sex" , since you have also hung out with... (read in full...)
Are my large breasts an impediment to finding and dating a guy? I feel my breasts are a turn-off.
Q. I have large breasts ,( an e cup )and have been single a while now . It seems to me that men don't like big breasts and actually find them a turn off. I am beginning to feel insecure and think no man will ever want me as every guy I talk to or re...
A. 27 April 2015: Large breasts are disgusting ? Since when ?!!! I did not get the memo. LOL. Oh, then THAT's why breast implants are more or less half of the surgeries plastic surgeons do ! because all women want to be disgusting and turn off men !
Wait,I know... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 27 April 2015: In short, yes- I thought it was implied in my answer. Whose point wasn't " yours is a childish rant " but , more like.... " you are projecting your
( understandable ) insecurities and bitterness about this situation on your sister , whos... (read in full...)
!When I ask him why he doesn't give me any sex he answers that he just got lazy...Does that make any sense to anybody?
Q. Ive got a confusing situation that boggles my mind. But maybe there is someone out there with answers to help me understand things. Ive been with my guy for about a year now. I take our relationship VERY serious. Even when I have outside temptati...
A. 27 April 2015: Are you saying he is jacking off AT WORK ?? Must be a pretty laid back work environment !
The main problem is not your sex drive, I'd say, the problem is take you take your relationship very serious, ..but he does not. Let's say that web cam sex ... (read in full...)
I am 43 and I would like to have a baby.
Q. I am 43 and would like to have a baby for the first time. I was married for 15 years but didn't try for a baby because my ex husband didn't want one. Since we divorced 5 years ago I hadn't met anyone with whom I could imagine having a child and ...
A. 27 April 2015: In my country we have the European record for late maternities. 1 out of 5 babies is born from a 40 plus mother.
So, for possible it is possible, and for happening- it happens often.
Of course this does not mean it is always a snap of fingers.... (read in full...)
Why would a mistress leave her married boyfriend?
Q. What is the #1 reason WHY a mistress will leave a married man she has been seeing for a long time? ...
A. 25 April 2015: You are working with assumptions too, OP ; then again, what else could we work with ?! It's not like there's an Official Guidelines Book of Cheating Husbands .The most that I, and you , and anybody else, can come up with, is an educated guess, ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck. Is it reasonable that I feel so hurt at his lack of priority for me in his life?
Q. I have just ended a relationship with my boyfriend due to his lack of time for me. He says he will come over and talk but says he is busy and has a lot on with work. He is self employed but spends a lot of time procrastinating and chatting to custo...
A. 25 April 2015: You ENDED the relationship, - and he is not going to make more time for you as a "friend" than as a lover; what's there to talk about ?! You'll talk and talk.... never accomplish anything in terms of really moving on and really being over him... ... (read in full...)
Why would he keep talking about the ring if he doesn't intend on getting it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now. Half year ago, he told me he wanted to buy a promise ring for me. I was flattered and looked forward to receiving the ring. He said this in October. We researched styles online and he even ...
A. 25 April 2015: OP, thanks for sharing your story about ring taps, it is very sweet and romantic .
Although, frankly, seeing that you are ALREADY at the stage of planning your wedding on details, wedding favours and all, I do not get why he has to think abou... (read in full...)
Is it right or wrong to find a sex partner for my mother?
Q. ..my mom is 55 nw . My dad died 26 years back..I know that its been long that she had sex..i even know how it feels with out sex for humans ..so m planing to find someone for her sex life...is it right r wrong..?...
A. 25 April 2015: OP, you don't know your mother very well. She was widowed at 24, and that happened 26 years ago.. ( before the OP was born ?) which would make her 50 today. But in your post you say she is 55. You don't even know how old she really is, and you ... (read in full...)
Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?
Q. My daughter in law is leaving my son and has made it clear that she is taking the children with her. Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?...
A. 25 April 2015: Yes. In UK there are no laws or rights that state that the child should live specifically with either parent. Assuming that both have parental responsibility it is up to them to negotiate residency on the base of what's best FOR THE CHILDREN. ... (read in full...)
Why would a mistress leave her married boyfriend?
Q. What is the #1 reason WHY a mistress will leave a married man she has been seeing for a long time? ...
A. 24 April 2015: Of course not all men are serial cheaters !, some of them won't even cheat on their wife , imagine that.
So SOME times a man will only stray once , and have ONE mistress. But surely a married man with a secret mistress is not the best exam... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 24 April 2015: It depends when and how your father found out. If he just found it out too, yeah, he is only human, he might see you in a different light now, as the product etc. etc. If he knew ir all along, or knew it early on, and nevertheless he has had you ... (read in full...)
Why would he keep talking about the ring if he doesn't intend on getting it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now. Half year ago, he told me he wanted to buy a promise ring for me. I was flattered and looked forward to receiving the ring. He said this in October. We researched styles online and he even ...
A. 24 April 2015: Well, look at the bright side : now that you know how bad he is at keeping his promises... you would not know what to do with his promise ring, because any promise he may make, needs to be taken with a pinch of salt :).
Now, I admit I don't even... (read in full...)
Our relationship is drained and I don't know what to do
Q. Well, my boyfriend and I have been through a lot. We go to the same uni and I'm really into him and he knows it. However, there will be times when theres no doubt in my mind he wants to be with me... He acts so into me and I'll take it as a step f...
A. 24 April 2015: Uhm, no. That's not what you are supposed to do ; putting people on pedestals makes idols, or dictators ,out of them. And making another person a priority.... just if he is a baby /young child, or an elderly sick parent, stuff like that. But not ... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 24 April 2015: I guess we'll have to agree to disagree , OP. Personally, I don't find great logic in what you and anon male say and I'll give you what I hope is a clearer example of what I mean :
where I live there are many Muslim labourers immigrated from Nort... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to bite and doesn't seem to realize that I don't like it!
Q. I have been dating this guy for a few months and the chemistry is great. We're both really attracted to each other, have a great time spending time together and make each other laugh. These are all fantastic things that I'm happy to finally find in ...
A. 23 April 2015: I am optimistic here , it does not seem too hard to fix.
You can be assertive without being mean or rude. Just tell him that yes , it's a pity that you do not share his turn on, but ,too bad, it just so happens that you don't. You hate it , in... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to spend all of his time going out with his friends!
Q. Hey guys! I really need your advice about my relationship. I am 20 and my bf is 21. Me and my boyfriend have been together for around 1,5 years. Some of this time we were in a distance relationship. I felt that he was perfectly in love with me, we...
A. 22 April 2015: I see what you mean ; you say : how come !, he was so in love with me that he even moved abroad just for me.. and now he is giving me the cold shoulder ?!
Well, the truth of the matter is that seldom people are so adventurous or so single mind... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
Q. Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...
A. 22 April 2015: I don't know about "sleeping around " as in : becoming a certified player or Don Juan. That may take some doing , I guess, or a natural vocation.
For the rest , i. e. for young males wanting to have ther first sexual experience (s ) , that... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 22 April 2015: Strange reasoning, male anon.
He'd be an asshole allright ! ; it's all in the intention.
If in any given situation ,guy X on purpose acts toward me differently from the prevalent codes of social conduct, ( or simply, differently from how... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 21 April 2015: Janniepeg raises an interesting point which I hadn't thought of at first.
We are all conventionally assuming that these two girls must have felt crushed and humiliated by your friend's behaviour. But, seen the particular circumstances of thei... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or weird that I'm kind of jealous of younger women?
Q. Women it seems, are generally valued for their youth more than men are, despite me being a guy, as in human male, there are times I am jealous, envious of how women are valued for their youth more than men are. The reason why is because i'm a gu...
A. 21 April 2015: Life is not fair , OP.
So,you believe that it is your biological imperative being the initiator . Which is not true, btw. There are women, including yours truly, who will not mind taking the initiative, and I assure you that I may belong to a mino... (read in full...)
Can someone explain it to me? Why would a girl subject herself to being used and discarded?
Q. I have a friend who has the most uncanny ability to be a jerk to specifically women he just hooks up with and still have them at his beck and call. I've seen it with my own two eyes. It's the weirdest dynamic I've ever seen. Most recently, he had a...
A. 19 April 2015: Wow, I don't have an aswer for you, just a question, out of curiosity : how come are you still FRIENDS with a douche like this ? How come you are even in speaking terms ?...
You say that you do not condone his behaviour, but , pardon me, maybe in ... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 12 June 2014: Of course, Op,- I realize that what you suggested is reasonable and it's the same advice that a financial advisor would give.
A financial advisor without the passion for horses , though- without a life that revolves around horses.
The girl has... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: OK, so whip me everybody ( horse-whip me ), I am with the " why should she give them up ". I mean, you fell in love with " the girl with the horses ". It sounds like it's much more than a hobby or a passtime, it's a passion, a lifestyle, a part ... (read in full...)
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