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female
age
30-35,
*ovellady
writes:I like this guy and I can't help but get the feeling he is leading me on for a bet. I feel like it only because it has happend before. He tells me he's a virgin but yet I can't trust anyone.I want to tell him I like him. But he says I'm shy about everything. how can i get the nerve to tell him I'm scared and I trust no guy?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 May 2015):
 Why would you have to tell him ?
He knows you are shy, he said it himself. wouldn't it be up to him to reassure and make you feel comfortable by acting patient, consistent, reliable and dependable ?
What would you think you'd accomplish by telling him you are wary ? What do you think he'd answer if he WAS a player ? " No worries, babe. Not me. I am different ".He would not tell you " As a matter of fact you are right, I am just leading you on ".
I am not inviting you to be paranoid. Only to use wisdom tempered by experience. It's not right to punish a new guy for something another man did to you in the past, true, - but it's also true that trust must be EARNED. You do not go around trusting everybody indiscriminately just because they look cute. Particularly if you have a weird gut feeling about it.
...Is he pressuring you for sex by any chance ?...
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