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Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?

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Question - (23 April 2015) 6 Answers - (Newest, 25 April 2015)
A female United Kingdom age , anonymous writes:

My daughter in law is leaving my son and has made it clear that she is taking the children with her.

Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (25 April 2015):

CindyCares agony aunt Yes. In UK there are no laws or rights that state that the child should live specifically with either parent. Assuming that both have parental responsibility it is up to them to negotiate residency on the base of what's best FOR THE CHILDREN. If they cannot reach a residency agreement, they need to get the Court involved and it will decide on the base of what is best FOR THE CHILDREN ( not of either parent's preferences ).

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2015):

In short, yes.

But as a grandmother you have legal rights to see your grandchildren.

These are protected laws put in place to help grandparents.

Do a bit of research online and you will find more information about this.

Or go and see a lawyer.

But act quickly.

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A female reader, yanna58 United Kingdom +, writes (25 April 2015):

This is very upsetting, but on the upside, his chances of getting happily remarried are much higher if the mom has custody.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2015):

If she was a stay at home mum and he works full time... in the short term she probably has the upper hand.

The tension between your son and DIL is probably rife. Be the voice of reason for them both. 'Taking the children' is a punishment so get her to calm down and open up to you. Ofcourse get lawyers involved but for the children's sakes try to be the peace keeper. The courts might give equal custody but all your lives will be hell if she is feeding them poison about their father or you. So it's more than just legal. Win her over as a person. Whatever she's done, the kids will ultimately be happier if you can all get along.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (24 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYour son needs to find a solicitor and set up visitation plan and child maintenance.

Since they are married it is NOT as easy for her to just walk away WITH the kids. BUT quite often mothers end up the primary caregiver in split up/divorce.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2015):

Ummm... This question should be put before a good attorney?

Also,with no details (are they married, are they not? you say daughter-in-law, but so many couples have children whilst unmarried, but have been together for so long they're like family members).

IF they are married and now intending to separate/divorce- you should know that's unlikely. She can not make unilateral decisions about THEIR children.

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