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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 10 February 2008: Do it. You know sometimes its hard to point fingers at ourselves when it comes to changing. It's much easier to blam our partner or some other entity than looking in the mirror and taking blame for our own actions.
Within in marriage it's impo... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
My children's grandmother wants to take custody of them from me!
Q. Hello, My name is Faith and im 21 years old. I have triplet 5 year old girls Their father died 11 months after their birth. 3 days ago his mother demanded that the children went to live with her as im struggling. Im not. I work a part ti...
A. 10 February 2008: I finally found your other question. I'm not familier with your laws, but I do know ours follow fairly close when coming to family law. The courts don't care about how much money you have, or how many material posessions. They care about what's in ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 9 February 2008: Glad to hear you're doing better. Sometimes you have to let those who are lost be lost and potentially find their way. With those folks, there's really nothing in our power to change their way. They have to learn themselves.
Take Care.... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 9 February 2008: I can understand your side and with the kids. I believe people should work it out. I think too much is taked for granted and not enough is appreciated. He says you've been a good wife. I wonder how many people are married that wish they could say ... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 9 February 2008: Do you realize when people do a trial separation, the person who leaves has all ready made up their mind? It sounds like he's not going to be there to make a decision that he's all ready made. I don't think this is healthy for you and I don't think ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated on me, when to walk
Q. I have been dating a girl for just over a year. We just got engaged in mid december. A week after our engegement i found out that she has been having an affair with her ex boyfriend of 4 years for the past 3 months. I confronted her, she move...
A. 9 February 2008: She made the choice to cheat, you make the choice to not put up with being treated in the way her actions show. I ended it with one of my ex's that cheated. It was simple. She knew from the beginning that I don't accept it. I also told her it ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
My husband has ED and hasn't taken steps to improve it... and it's killing me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have 3 children. I know he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but he has ED and will not talk about it or try to resolve it. I got him t'to take Viagra and it helped for about a week and that ...
A. 9 February 2008: I'm not going to say I don't agree with you to a certain extent. You're preaching to the choir. I now have around 42 days to reach a goal of beginning my third year with no sexual contact. I have children and now it's time to focus on them. I miss ... (read in full...)
Will weed destroy my son's life?
Q. I found a small bag of pot and a 'pipe' in my son's room. He's 16 and he is smoking every day. He admitted to me he did this. And he said "don't worry...all the kid's do it" I am so worried about the long range effects and how this will ruin his ...
A. 9 February 2008: just for information. If the weed causing paranioa, it's laced. Some dealers mix some real wicked stuff in with weed. Generally paranoid behaviors from drugs are caused by a chemical reaction (lsd) (crank), etc. Weed that's just picked then roled ... (read in full...)
Tips on getting him to propose.
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. And as a joke he poped the question, a couple of time. We basicly live together. I go to school and I work. He works full time and has his own appartment. The only difference is, i'm actually serious ...
A. 9 February 2008: I have an idea for you. Do you have a cell phone with custom ring tones. Put the wedding march as your incoming ring tone. ... (read in full...)
Desparate and feeling worthless.
Q. lately ive just been feeling so worthless and it kinda seems like the world would be so much better without me. my girlfried deserves so much better than i can offer and no matter how much i try to improve i only make things worse. no matter what i ...
A. 9 February 2008: Have you taken any time to think that maybe your girlfriend is with you because she chooses to be with you? In a relationships it's not your position to analyze why she's with you, it's your position to know why you're with her. She knows why she's ... (read in full...)
Pregnant or miscarriage?
Q. ok, im 18 and i just lost my virginity 11 days ago.... is it possible that i could be pregnant already? and if i was, could i be having a miscarriage this soon? because earlier when i went to go use the bathroom, i had heavy bleeding, which wasn't ...
A. 9 February 2008: I'd say go to the doctor to find out. It can be so many things. I could be an "additional" period by loosing your virginity as well. Go get checked to make sure everything is OK with you.
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Do we all have a purpose??
Q. Do we all have a purpose? I wonder how can you explain,if your life doesn't go well?I mean if its a complete disaster. Is the best way , to think, it is happening for a reason? Or that you are punished? Or what is the best way to explain downfall? ...
A. 9 February 2008: I believe good and bad experiences have a positive benefit. I don't think it's a punishment as much as a learning experience. I am Christian, but I also believe we are here to learn something, to develop a stronger spirit. The bible states that we ... (read in full...)
Do you really get what you deserve in life?
Q. Do you really get what you deserve in life? Or there is no such a thing? Also do things really happens for a reason,or its just random?...
A. 9 February 2008: This is one of those "it depends" questions. Are you talking about deserving or wanting? I do agree that we aren't really capable of answering that question as a whole. I will say I've had periods in my life where I see there could be a plan. I'd ... (read in full...)
My husband has ED and hasn't taken steps to improve it... and it's killing me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have 3 children. I know he loves me and doesn't want to hurt me, but he has ED and will not talk about it or try to resolve it. I got him t'to take Viagra and it helped for about a week and that ...
A. 9 February 2008: Did a doctor diagnose him with E.D. or is that an assumption? With E.D. you're going to face more than one issue. The issue of the disorder itself, and the psychological impact not being able to get it up has on a man. Could you imagine the ... (read in full...)
Help with my survey...
Q. dear cupid I am currently doing a survey and would like to know how many percent of the world population are fat and skinny, how many are average weight and how many are underweight also can someone also define what average weight means? thanks...
A. 9 February 2008: average is due to age, hight what the approximate accepted weight is for that criteria.
I'm a bit overweight, but cary it well and still am happy with myself and the way I look.... (read in full...)
What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"?
Q. What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"? If a man isn't exactly complaining, yet that is the 1st word he uses to describe the wife/GF, is this a compliment? Hate to sound so stupid, but I'm serious and need to ...
A. 9 February 2008: Nope not a compliment. It means they have a leash on them, and choose weather or not their able to decide for themselves. ... (read in full...)
How do I make myself more sophisticated without shunning my family values and without giving up a part of myself to please my guy?
Q. Shane is extremely good to me. I've never had someone care for me as much as he has. But at times he wishes I would dress more sophisticated. He’s accustomed to dating very feminine, classy women, and I guess he assumed when we met that I was much ...
A. 9 February 2008: You do what makes you feel special. Girls generally don't dress up or wear make up for their man, they do it so they feel good about how they look. He's with you for a reason, and you don't have to be fake to make him want to be with you.... (read in full...)
Will weed destroy my son's life?
Q. I found a small bag of pot and a 'pipe' in my son's room. He's 16 and he is smoking every day. He admitted to me he did this. And he said "don't worry...all the kid's do it" I am so worried about the long range effects and how this will ruin his ...
A. 8 February 2008: He says don't worry. Years ago, I may have said the same thing. I personally don't do it, but I know people who do, and some are college professors.
Now, I've heard weed is safer than alcohol. In many fashion, I believe that to be true. Why do poli... (read in full...)
His Ex won't leave us alone.
Q. His ex won't leave us alone - Harassing phone calls etc to my home and work. Update- I received a further nuisance call tonight from my boyfriend's ex wife. I rang my boyfriend to tell him and he also had a hang up call 5 seconds before I called ...
A. 8 February 2008: This behavior really does affect children from two sides, directly, and indirectly. Directly is the instant emotion which comes from seeing the reaction of the person who answers the phone. Indirectly, we've heard the term "transferance" That's ... (read in full...)
I want them to have great lives.
Q. Hello again, My name is Faith and i previously posted a question about my childrens grandmother wanting to take custody of them. First of all thankyou for all your help but i have another question. Ive been thinking alot, and im just wonde...
A. 8 February 2008: I put my childrens needs and happiness over my own. But hardly seeing them, not a chance. I did a presentation about being wealthy for a class I was in. I shocked them because they thought it was about money. True wealth isn't financial, it's about ... (read in full...)
I try to reassure him but nothing seems to stop him doubting me.
Q. I am a wife of 3 months,to a wonderful husband. Only thing that gets me is that he's always accusing me of cheating,when it has NEVER happen. I do my best to assure him that the only other person besides him is God. In past relation...
A. 8 February 2008: He needs to forgive the person who wronged him, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because he deserves to live without this haunted past. You being a believer in God, there is a reason the bible states "forgiveness is devine". I've seen it. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is a stripper
Q. OK well this really isnt a normal scenario although having a girlfriend who is a stripper isnt normal to begin with. Anyways it makes it harder for me since i am in the military. Before i start we are both in our early 20's. I come back from bei...
A. 8 February 2008: I'm not going to take sides here. I don't see it my place to validate your being correct or her being correct. What I do see is a damaging form of communication between you and her. It's the "I'm right and you're wrong communication" You want her to ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Insecure about the way I look.
Q. Ok, I'm very insecure looks-wise. Media images mostly make me insecure, and porn. I know it's very plastic though. However, I just see how guys drool over actresses and porn. It's just fantasy they say. But I just get so down every time I see...
A. 7 February 2008: Any form of obsession can be dangerous. You know, my exterior is a bit big. When I was your age I had the six pack and everything. My kids tell me I traded my six pack in for a pony kaig. It's OK though because I am me and I love who I am, who I ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my boyfriend and should I tell him.
Q. HELLLPPP!! so im in a relationship with this boy ive been seeig for 7 mnths now and a new boy who is older than i im 16 nerly 17 this new man should i say is 23 asks me if i like him and i cudnt lie i sed yes i do he sed good i like you wht do ...
A. 7 February 2008: That's what your 23 year old is interested in, sex with a young one and that's it. You can tell whenever someone says "it's our little secret" you know it's a bad place to go.
I don't think, even if you didn't have a boyfriend that this would be a... (read in full...)
How can I stay with my wife and win back her heart? Lately we've had a lot of stress from two bereavements, and we've grown apart.
Q. Hello. In the middle of complete shock - four days ago I found love messages on my wife's phone (no I wasn't snooping, but whatever..) We have been married 2 years, together 5, we knew we'd both met 'the one' and have always been devoted to each ...
A. 7 February 2008: There are certain instances where one person has crawled into an emotional black hole. It seems as if this may be one of those. I don't know if your area is a cause or no fault divorce area. If it's a cause divorce area, I'd file for divorce with ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my lover's ex wife, she is making our life a misery
Q. Hello! Topic: I am the girlfriend of a man who is divorced and has a child. My boyfriend and I live together, he is divorced, and has a 4 year old son 43% of the week. She makes our life living Hell. She is RELENTLESS and will do Anything to get t...
A. 7 February 2008: You need to keep a callendar of events. Everything she does needs to be documented. Of cours, he being divorced with a child, one of the "written" laws is that she may not interfere with his visitation by using any sort of intimidation, harrassment, ... (read in full...)
Update! I made that fake account on AdultFriendFinder and she fell for it!
Q. Ok, well, I've posted the last couple days about my g/f that is away at school and is on adultfriendfinder.com. I made a fake account, and she fell for it, and talked to the fake guy "me" for about 2 hours, and how she wants to hook up and she's not ...
A. 7 February 2008: Her deceit falls with having a account with a site, with the intent of hooking up with someone other than the person she is "suppose" to be comitted too. I don't think you're wrong at all for seeing if she'd accept the bate, since by having the ... (read in full...)
How can we rekindle the romance under the pressure of financial stress??
Q. What should I do? First, I can't believe I'm writing about my situation. I've always felt I could deal with my marriage without outside help, although I've been to marriage/sex therapy 12 years ago. I've been married for 18 years now. Boy how time...
A. 7 February 2008: Now, I don't know how "great" this information will be, but we'll give it a go. You two are allowing life to control you, instead of taking control. You're not married to your finances. You're not married to your children. All though they are ... (read in full...)
Why the change of heart once I actually buy the ring?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 13 years and we just bought a house 8 months ago. She has been asking me about getting married for the past year and getting excited till she found out I bought a ring then I woke up one morning and she threw me ...
A. 7 February 2008: I'd get your things out of there. If you're both on the house, begin immediately on the sale of it, or transfering title. I know you love her and want to be with her, but you don't want to screw yourself by waiting.
What state do you live in?... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 7 February 2008: I just looked up the statute for you. It is legal to have sex with a minor if the actor is not more than three years older. ... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 7 February 2008: I wouldn't worry about the mom either. She'll realize, all though they live half way across the country, in order to do anything she'll have to return to California. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex is coming to town, he wants to meet up and go on a trip with her, she is o.k with this, what should I do?
Q. My wife hsa been contacted by a person that she was deeply in love with. It has been 5 years. She was hurt. She has been contacted by email. He has professed his love and feelings. Sh ehas told him she is married, could do a friendship. She ...
A. 6 February 2008: You're going to do what??? You'd let or allow your wife to sleep with someone else. I'm sory, but it sounds like you're compromizing your belifs, which means your character and integrity compromizes right along with it.
She said she's married.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my bisexuality keeps ruining my relationships, someone please help!
Q. I am bisexual and have long struggled with my sexuality. I am so depressed by this all and despite what people say - bisexuals are not greedy. It isnt even so much a sexual thing to me but something deeper and more meaningful. The emotions and ...
A. 6 February 2008: Weather bisexual or not, intimacy, and what you're lacking, isn't descriminatory. You can reach that level with your husband. It just takes work on both sides. This level you're seeking is (supplimented) by the feelings related when having sex with ... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 6 February 2008: I would say, Its not the best thing for you to get back with her. She kept leaving you for someone else, then coming back. WHY? If she was prepared (emotionally) to have a long term relationship with you, she wouldn't have left you in the first ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like her parents and therefore disapprove of my relationship with her. What do I do? Please my parents and lose my love?
Q. My name is Amit, Ive been dating a girl called Kajal - its been 4 years. Our parents knew of the relationship and we have subsequently started a business together and have plans buying a property, but we are not married. The relationship has...
A. 6 February 2008: Let me ask you a question. How much do you love her? Can you really see yourself spending the rest of your life with her? It is about you, and it is about her. All though I see her dads side to a certain extent. He's planning on giving his daughter ... (read in full...)
What can I do about the situation and can I deny the DNA test, given that I'm a teenager pregnant with my cousin's baby??
Q. I'm 17 years old. Me and my cousin have been dating for a while, it feels weird to be attracted to my cousin but i really do have lots of feelings for him. Anyway i'm about 5 months pregnant with his child. My parents already know about my pregnancy ...
A. 6 February 2008: Incest is unlawful, now the geneology chain changes from state to state. Some states it's unlawful for first cousins to engage in ANY sexual behavior with one another. You can deny the DNA test, but being you feel your old enough to have sex, you ... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 5 February 2008: Yea. I'd say you keep your questions and answers on here, copy and paste them to a word document with the dates. This way it proves you're attempt to seek assistance, prior to being charged with anything. Second, your sex with her took place in your ... (read in full...)
We had sex and then we broke up! Can I really be put in jail because of this?
Q. Ok, I was dating this girl for over a year, and we had sex a few months ago. Just recently (last night) we broke up, I do love and care about her, I just felt like the relationship was far too serious, and I did not want to be in anymore. After we ...
A. 5 February 2008: Learn something new. This is the reason you need to check in the state you reside. I thought it was law everywhere that someone over 18 could not have sexual relationships with someone under 18. In the state I live someone 15 and 16 may have sexual ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
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