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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 March 2009: Best of Luck to you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 July 2008: Hasn't your solicitor heard of a continuance. You have the right to be hard in all matters of law.
After these decisions are made, do you have a higher court to appeal the ruling of a lower court? I don't believe your solicitor did a job the best... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 1 July 2008: Sounds like you're doing better, as a manner of speaking. Your right it doesn't look good to the judge to drag out court.
Just a bit of warning. Seeing someone prior to the end of the divorce can be used in court as well. Legal marriage, is lega... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 June 2008: That's what you need to concentrate on. As far as his taking the solicitor out to lunch and such. Violation of ethics. People here get their licenses taken away or suspended for those behaviors.
Keep a calendar of all issues. Everytime he cance... (read in full...)
I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 9 June 2008: Congrats. Never said transitions are easy. What's sometimes difficult in the short term, has the greatest long term benefit.
Always remember in the difficult times. You are your own person. You choose who to associate with. You owe yourself more... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 27 May 2008: If you can establish proof of his dating his solicitor, that should establish a conflict of interest, which would pull her off the case, and may cause issues with her ability to continue law.
I woulnd't accept less than what you feel you dese... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 15 May 2008: If he seeks an injunction, a hearing should be set to answer to it. If his calls were done by home phone, have your phone company pull a copy of those records which show his phone calls to you. If they are done by cell phone, your bill should ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 26 April 2008: I know this is hard for you to deal with. Working with people who have been through divorce and seeing the after affects, it's heart breaking. I can't figure out your question either of how someone can act or live as if they love and care for ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 19 April 2008: The first piece of advice anyone one law gives is to not speak to the other person. Speak through your legal professionals. Reason being, "anything you say can be used against you in court." Couples who split up can get into some heated arguments. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 11 March 2008: I'm glad everything is working out for you. I can see where your solicitor is coming from. I'm in law as well and hoping to begin in family law. My two big pet peeves in family law are adultry and any lack of responsability on the best interest of ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Six months into this marriage and it's very rocky...advice?
Q. married 6 months, husband is a christian, is so busy and works till 8 to 10 at night, sex life is as he needs it, romance is not good, he is constantly worried about money, the weekends come and we should be happy come mon through friday the ...
A. 1 March 2008: First of all, I am Christian also. I know enough to understand God is not going to come down and tell him, now kiss your wife, take her to bed and/or provide additional instruction. God is there for everyone, but isn't there to live our lives for ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Something has changed between us.
Q. Hi, can somebody pls help? My girlfriend and I are going through a rough patch, just arguing about nothing really. I feel she is pulling away as the loving texts\mails she used to send have stopped. However, we are stil in regular contact but less...
A. 29 February 2008: if you turn the tables, that's reinforcing her backing off. a big problem in relationships is instead of being proactive, we become reactive. using the "where do we stand" causes pain to generally one or more people, reason being is you recognize ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he trust me?
Q. My boyfriend does not trust me whatsoever, and I havn't done anything to break his trust. Once I had my suspicions of him flirting with another girl on the Internet. However I did not make a big deal about it, because I knew how he felt for me. She ...
A. 29 February 2008: Smart and don't take shit, but weak. Let me ask you this. Are relationships supose to be a choice where your with one guy, but then you have to give up all your friends? Relationships come and go, but good friends are hard to find, and keep.
H... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get my ex to be more cooperative?
Q. I am in the process of divorce after ten years of marriage,and a beautiful 17 month daughter. My "ex" won't communicate with me verbally, and the occasional email responses I get in response to anything I ask are usually one or two words long. H...
A. 28 February 2008: Do you have an attorney? If not, get one. You need someone to discuss important issues on behalf of yourself.
Some people it takes a while for them to be available to talk, or feel comfortable in doing so. Think about this. You're married, have a ch... (read in full...)
Suffering far from home with a bf who hates me, what can I do??
Q. Since the beginning of our 3yr relationship, my bf and I have had troubles. I found out through investigation, that he was still involved with his ex, and by the time the info came to me, I was pregnant. I gave him a second chance, but he treated ...
A. 27 February 2008: I want you to know something and remember this. Why someone does (their actions) show truth where there words do not. He'd already proven to you who he is by the past bad treatment. Do you think promising you the world changes who he is? Abusers are ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to have intimate thoughts about a work colleague but I'm married. How can I tell if she's feeling the same way?
Q. I have developed a very close relationship with a woman I work with. We have become best friends and I have intimate thoughts of her. We are both married. She kisses me on the lips quite a bit. When we are out drinking and dancing and she comments...
A. 26 February 2008: It sounds like she may feel the same way. Just a reminder, while married cheating is cheating. Once it happens it is your spouses right to know. Then it is their right to choose if they remain or move on. You married, hopefully out of love, so out ... (read in full...)
More MMF fun - some advice needed.
Q. Didn't think it would come to this and I probably know the answer but need to be told it from outside observers. Anyway, I'm in my thirties, and I'm pretty sure that I've fallen in love for the first time (I've been in relationships before, but not ...
A. 26 February 2008: You're right, you have no right to judge her past. You said you two are great together, that's where it needs to stay. What you need to be asking yourself, is where are these feeling coming from. Were her 5 minute actions against your personal ... (read in full...)
Cheating fiance - help me please!
Q. I found out that my fiance has feelings for another guy. We have had a stressfull few months,she started a new job, im about to lose mine, im clearly suffering from stress and depression but not getting any support from her, she ended up turning to ...
A. 26 February 2008: I think having a good, long conversation with her is needed. Tell her how you feel about all this and how the stress is affecting you.
There's also another side of this to consider. It is okay if emotional support is not being provided, for what... (read in full...)
She went back to her abusive ex. How do I get her back?
Q. I met this girl on the internet. She is 28 divorced and has two boys. When i met her she said she came out of a abisive relationship that she was in for 4 yrs. I am 40 and have a son. I know i took some of the retionship for granted because she said ...
A. 26 February 2008: You know, every choice we make has a negative or a positive consequense. You say you love her, but you took her for granted and did some things that weren't nice. When looking at a girl who was abused, how are your actions much different. Being ... (read in full...)
I saw a flirty txt on his phone and now he won't let me see his phone bill...are guys just like that??
Q. hi, my fiance changed careers at the start of the year and has to train for 5 months. He doesnt come home at night until after 9 every night apart from Fri and Sat. When I approached the subject of setting a date for the wedding for a year and a ha...
A. 26 February 2008: Are all guys like what? Lying, cheating, flirting and secretive? Na, but I'd bet the guy your with has those wonderful relationship qualities you try to find if it's a man thing.
He can't commit to a date, because he can't commit. In life what is r... (read in full...)
Which is usually the best pillar for a decision, ration or sentiments?
Q. I made a big decision after fighting my head with my heart for some time. I chose to go with what my head was telling me after months of questioning what I should do. The actual day of my decision I had felt the strongest, that what I chose was the ...
A. 26 February 2008: I'd say the strongest feeling. Most decisions we'll think about what if we chose different. That doens't make the coice we made wrong, it's just our way of viewing their are different possabilities and different outcomes to each choice we make. ... (read in full...)
My gf broke up with me to find out with certainty if she is gay. What to do?
Q. hey I broke up with my gf 5 days ago this is really complicated lol anyways i've known her on and off since i was 13 and i always thought she was the one, we got together 2 years back and it was great all 2 years of it only ever had one or 2 ...
A. 26 February 2008: I'd say move on or invite her to bring a girlfriend along.
The problem with the confusion is if you wait for her, and she comes back, how long before confused again? ... (read in full...)
Why do I have to suffer and love him so much, and how can I get over this overwhelming pain?
Q. I recently broke up with my ex. About an hour ago. Not the first time, but I think this is the last one. We had been having problems for a long time because he didn't trust me, he dislilked and judged me a lot about my past. He always made me feel ...
A. 26 February 2008: If he was your first love, what about your past was he disagreeing with. Generally, a judgement on someone's past in a relationship is sexually based. So you can forgive him for his way of treating and you love him so much; why is it so difficult ... (read in full...)
He is obsessed with my ex, I told him it's all in the past, now we aren't talking,what did I do wrong?
Q. i was seeing this gentleman who would always bring up my old boyfriend. He would not let it go. I finally got upset, said that I don't live in the past. I live right now. He said me if I told him I loved him. I could not understand why he kept ...
A. 26 February 2008: You didn't do anything wrong. You can't control the lack of maturity in anothers behavior. We at times feel guilty if our past doesn't match what someone else believes "trying to choose the right words" morally sound.
Saying "I love you" to some... (read in full...)
Should I call my ex boyfriend's current girlfriend and let her know that he has been playing both of us?
Q. Wondering if i should call my cheating ex boyfriend's current girl and let her know that he has been playing both of us. I am the only one that knows about it. She is only 22 and he is turning 34 this year. So she is young and I would be lying if I ...
A. 26 February 2008: Let me ask you something. Why does he need to see that? Isn't your holding your head high and living with dignity a personal choice? If it's a personal choice, which is a positive direction, why should you have to prove anything to him. His ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
My mother says the Bible does not approve of interracial relationships. How can I prove her wrong?
Q. Im engaged to a black man, and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him, hes just like me in every way. My father is racist, and my mother claims that she is just "against marrying out of your race" because of her "religious ...
A. 24 February 2008: I think the web site the other poster offered would be a wonderful article for your mom to read.
The problem is when people take their own beliefs and figure well I'm Christian so if I believe this, it must be Gods way. Now God, I don't think judg... (read in full...)
I feel so betrayed and so belittled because I thought we were good friends.
Q. I am hurt so badly and i want some advice. i sort of had acrush with this girl i like so much at my place of work. we like each other so much (or so i think). she has been nice to me in so many ways and vice-versa. i began to have feelings for her ...
A. 23 February 2008: After reading this, I think you are good friends. You should know, don't believe everything friends say about girls, or what they claim they have said.
If she really did say that, I believe her behavior at work would be different, don't you? Peop... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 22 February 2008: First of all, make sure you file your response within the time the court has allowed, it's generall (at least here) 30 days from the date you receive the paperwork. Remember too, the response, if you do it prior to meeting with the solicitor, i... (read in full...)
It was wrong to cheat years ago, but do I have to suffer for the rest of my life!
Q. I am not for sure where to even begin. Here it goes! My BF and I have been together for 4years in the beginning of our relationship I cheated on him. I know it was wrong and I am not excusing myself for this, after a year he found out about ...
A. 21 February 2008: Your right, there is never an excuse for cheating. It's a choice, not influenced by anything else. The "not getting enough thing" that's still an activity, which is still separate from the act of cheating, and is still a concious choice.
You made... (read in full...)
My cheating boyfriend wants to stay together, I think, does he?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now.He's 34 and Im 25 and Ive stuck by him through thick and thin.when his car broke down,i took him to work for four straight months. He lost that job last month, i was still driving him around,spending ...
A. 21 February 2008: It sounds like he's working it out on his terms. He gets you and doesn't have to change his behavior. If you're wanting a steady relationship, the first thing to do is find someone who has steadiness in their life. With him wanting to play all the ... (read in full...)
His stepdaughter is treating me like crap. How do I confront this?
Q. I am having serious problems with my partners 9 year old daughter. My partner and I started dating about 9 months ago. It was a different situation than normal, as I was traveling and met him during my travels. We dated for about three weeks when I ...
A. 21 February 2008: This is a test. Look at it from her side. How do you think she feels not having mommy with daddy anymore. Even after those years not being together, do you think she may feel abandoned, not important enough for them to be together, like she may have ... (read in full...)
Was he wearing the trunks when with her... or not???
Q. Heres the deal. I probably set myself up for this by being such a nice guy, but now I need advice on how to handle this situation. We're married for quite a few years now, and last spring, out of the blue, an ex-boyfriend of my wife's contacted...
A. 20 February 2008: I agree with the other poster. I'd approach her too. When you do, you're not looking at placing any sort of blame. You are too hear her our fully without any judgment or interruptions on your part.
Just simply let her know that this is both... (read in full...)
I'm scared of my ex...
Q. I split up with my boyfriend in December, we had been together 13 months and he is being a absolute idiot, he has taken pictures of my house and put them on bebo, he is almost 14, I'm almost 13. What should I do? I don't want to get back with him ...
A. 20 February 2008: I'd notify the police and have them intervene. This is not too uncommon in teens who are swaying in and out from maturity to not. It symbolizes the characteristics of antisocial behavior disorder.
When someone makes threat and puts your house on b... (read in full...)
Trapped in a loveless marruage and I want to end it...but I can't leave my kids.
Q. Dear Readers, I have been in a loveless marriage with my wife for the past 11 years. Please don’t judge me, but there has never been any sort of love between us and therefore I have always cheated on her which she is fully aware of but doesn’t ...
A. 20 February 2008: Let me ask you this question. All though not intimate as husband and wife. How do you get along as roommates. The reason I ask that is if your friendship as roommates is going OK, then congradulations, you're doing better than 1/3 of marriages, and ... (read in full...)
Another Example Of A MAN!
Q. I have 2 beautifully little daughters, one is 5 and the other is 2. The 2 year old's father (27) is a long story but to make it short... We lived together in the apartment upstairs from my mom, my younger (aged 16) cousin lived there too. That means ...
A. 20 February 2008: Violence isn't the answer. All you're doing then is allowing their actions to affect yours.
I think it's a good idea to let her know that you know. That way she knows she's busted, all thought she wasn't caught right then it still came out. migh... (read in full...)
I really fancy my ex girlfriend's mother...
Q. I am 18. My relationship with my girlfriend ended with her leaving me. She said that we could remain friends. This happened over a month ago. My ex-girlfriend and I have remained friends. She has a new boyfriend and she seems happy. I am happy for ...
A. 20 February 2008: This may be a fake message. The ages staes 18, but the profile is 22-25.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont go down on me
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for about 7 months. She has always said that she thinks sucking dick is disgusting. However she said that she has done it in the past to other guys. It is really starting to bother me everytime we talk about ...
A. 19 February 2008: I agree with the other posters, but I also think instead of trying to pry her reasons from her, maybe calmly tell her why you're bothered by this.
With that being said. Remember it's all her decision. When it comes to what she performs on you, that... (read in full...)
My ex seems to want me back, but I really am happy with my new guy
Q. I have been in constant contact daily now with my ex husband and also sometimes a few times a week with a man I have always wanted to be with that lives near me and I work with daily.My ex helped me alot helping me get a new car that me and my ...
A. 19 February 2008: It doesn't sound like you need help. You've made up your mind. You want the new guy. Everything you wrote was about out with the old, on with the new.
Now I think you need to take it slow, no matter who you're with. Your confusion shows weak... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 19 February 2008: I attempted to locate your laws on common law. Some areas have a mandated marriage after living together as a couple for a certain period of time. This may mean he'd be obligated to provide a certain level of support.
I just hate it when things like... (read in full...)
I want an orgasm- please help!
Q. I haven't had many sexual partners (4) but I am not a sexually inexperienced or unadventurous person. But I have always faked orgasms with all my boyfriends and I am ashamed to say I have never, not even once, had an orgasm through sex. I can ...
A. 19 February 2008: I need to wake my mind up first thing in the morning. The heading "Please Help" the first thing that came to mind was "well OK, and your address is?" lol
Your a bit self conscious. I was too when I hadn't much experience. This is true. I had a girl... (read in full...)
I have been dumped after 10 years, during which he kept picking fault with me. Help!
Q. i have just been 'dumped' after 10 years. I am an extremely attractive and kind soul. I did not deserve this. I tried to change for him when he kept picking fault with me. he would never try, even counselling. i made the decision to let it go, ...
A. 18 February 2008: If you don't mind answering. Where exactely are you from? I couldn't tell the flag there. I'd like to know that so I can be as accurate as possible with your answer. Thank you... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why my ex didn't treat me properly...?
Q. Well to start off I was in a 3 year relationship with my ex and basically I just need to let it all out. I'm the person who posted about the low heartbeat. My baby was fine at 6 weeks, good heartbeat and looked healthy but then on the Friday I wen...
A. 17 February 2008: Your ex is definately a piece of work, and not from a good design. Sorry about your loss. That has to be hard and so many unanswered questions.
I'd say if this boy contacts you again, tell him to have no contact with you. You're on the right dire... (read in full...)
Summer vacation in safety - New York City or Los Angeles? Please help me decide.
Q. Ok, this is not a relationship problem. I want to take my daughter on a vacation this summer and I have two choices. Either Los Angelos where we will have to rent a car but we can go to the beaches and also go shopping on rodeo drive (mind you we ...
A. 17 February 2008: I would say either one. Whatever you choose to do. I'm not going to tell you not to error on the side of caution, but I've found big cities are just big cities. People talk about the violence and the gangs. They do exist. The key is knowing where ... (read in full...)
My ex owes me thousands, I'm taking him to small claims, but how easy is it to get a charging order on his house?
Q. I lent my ex when I was with him, nearly 5 grand to finish a refurb on his house so he could sell it. It was suppose to be for 2 weeks till a remortgage he applied for came through, anyway long story short, he didn't get the remortgage and we split ...
A. 17 February 2008: You should check with a solicitor. You should be able to get a lein against the home by going to the office that records deeds to property.
In reading this, I wonder if small claims is going to be a waste of time. As I said, check with a soli... (read in full...)
Do I just go with my boyfriend and leave my dad a note?
Q. Hi Yesterday, my mom and I got into a fight she was totally wasted and when she gets drinking she's a fighter. I was sleeping for about 15 mins then out of the blue she tries to strangle me in my sleep. I told my boyfriend about this and he told ...
A. 17 February 2008: I was saying tell the police department or a counselor because if your home is unsafe, your the authorities will make it so your dad doesn't have a choice if you go or not. He'll have to let you go in the interest of safety, and not by his choice. ... (read in full...)
Choice between abortion or keeping it
Q. If anyone here has ever had the choice to make between keeping a baby, making a person you love very much happy or aborting a baby and having a future, please help me! I'm 17 and a college student. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 10 mo...
A. 17 February 2008: It sounds like your dad is a real supportive person. Why do you think you can't have a future with a child? My ex gave birth to our son when she was in high school and 16 years old. She's now living in Hawaii and has a college degree. Having our ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't want me to go to church.
Q. My husband doesnt want me to go to church, i want to so bad to fellowship, music and to just enjoy the presents of the Lord, i do free enjoy the presents of the Lord home. Why ? he says that they want to know where he is and that they will start ...
A. 17 February 2008: Your husband says your disobeying him? Your not property. It's your choice to go to church if that's what you want to do. I'm really confused about his control here. As far as I know, marriage still doesn't give anyone the right to dictate the ... (read in full...)
Do Girls Really Like it When A Boyfriend Writes Them a Poem?
Q. I have a question for all you good natured girls? If I were to write a poem to a girl telling her that I wish she was mine; that, I would protect her; that, I would hold her in my arms when she is cold; that, I would wipe her tears away when she is ...
A. 16 February 2008: It's not too mushy. Why do you think girls listen to love songs. I remember what a famous song writer said, and this should answer your question. "The best loves songs are ones that say what every girl loves to hear, but every boy is afraid to say." ... (read in full...)
Do I just go with my boyfriend and leave my dad a note?
Q. Hi Yesterday, my mom and I got into a fight she was totally wasted and when she gets drinking she's a fighter. I was sleeping for about 15 mins then out of the blue she tries to strangle me in my sleep. I told my boyfriend about this and he told ...
A. 16 February 2008: I can't say it's the best to leave with your boyfriend. It sounds like something that has to be taken care of with urgency. Have you told your dad what happened? Personally I'd either speak to someone at your school, or I'd notify the police.
A... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 9 February 2008: Great, have your son contact me on here, I'll let him know you give your permission to toss your phone in the river.
Let me ask you this. If you didn't have your phone, would that stop you, or would you find another way?
Do you believe life... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 13 November 2007: Your doing what's right. I hope your strength keeps building. I know it's hard sometimes around the holidays to be alone. Before I got custody of my children. I would eat Christmas dinner alone at a diner. But other than that, being alone was OK. I ... (read in full...)
My husband is with another woman but I want him back! What can I do to leave him alone and calm down? Help!
Q. Hi there, I wonder if anyone out there can give me some helpful advice. I have been married for 14 years and we have one son aged 10. My husband has always been a bit moody but has a City job and always worked very long hours. Since November...
A. 20 September 2007: I am soooo glad to hear you are moving on with your life. It's better for you and your son. You don't want him growing up imitating his dad's behavior. You are a wonderful person and someone who really loves their child and plans to put him first. I ... (read in full...)
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