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writes:Hello again,My name is Faith and i previously posted a question about my childrens grandmother wanting to take custody of them.First of all thankyou for all your help but i have another question.Ive been thinking alot, and im just wondering whether people would put their childrens happiness over themselves even if it meant hardly seeing them?I love them so much and i want to have great lives. What do you think?
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reader, Dipsydoodlenoodle +, writes (8 February 2008):
I dont agree with what Koga 777 said. I have read your previous post and their grandmother if she truly has their best interests at heart would take you up on your offer of you moving to America with the triplets and not just the triplets. You shouldn't have to move for her, if you are happy and doing ok I dont see what her problem is. She could always move to England if it bothers her so much!
Another point to note is (I dont know her age) but she is likely to pass away a lot earlier than you and then what is going to happen then? - sorry for being morbit but its a valid point.
I hope you get sorted soon (and don't let her have the triplets)
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (8 February 2008):
I had an abusive ex husband whose mother stood behind her "little flower" as she called him and tried to declare me insane and tried to have the children taken off me despite the fact that he was abusive to the children. She used her money and her "good family background" as an excuse to further torment me. I chose to fight tooth and nail to have my children with me and I won. All the money in the world does not buy children's happiness. Children are a precious priceless gift and what you instill in them ie values, morals, love, kindness is far more important than a healthy bank account. Ask your children what they value and you will be surprised by their response. My children say they are the happiest just SPENDING TIME WITH ME reading a book going to parks, movies etc. ie just me being there anywhere but with them is what they want. Hope I answered your question.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 I don't think you should part with them in this case. No matter how great or rich their grandmother is , I don't give a damned!
If they really want to give your children a great life, it has to involved you or nothing goes.
When your children grow up ,they may have great life or successful but they will hate you for giving them away.
Great people can come from the poor or the average. You don't have to be rich to become great.
If he is destined to be great, he will , whether he is born and raised from a poor or average background.
They are your most precious thing and you only give them up if you are unable to raise them.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (8 February 2008):
Their having a great life without you just won't happen,as you are a part of them and they are very much a part of you.And no truly, heart felt love is going to give up their own flesh and blood,and call that love. I couldn't do that,but I know where you are coming from,for a woman gave up her son so that he would have a life with my wife and I. A life that she could never give to him, but she never gave up her love for him,and long before she passed away,she became a part of our extended family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, if you need any background to why im asking this you should read a post i posted earlier this morning.
If you can tell me what you think i should do.
I love them dearly, and their my entire life everything i do is for them but maybe they deserve better.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 I put my childrens needs and happiness over my own. But hardly seeing them, not a chance. I did a presentation about being wealthy for a class I was in. I shocked them because they thought it was about money. True wealth isn't financial, it's about being with and spending time with those you love. My kids will tell you, we don't have a big bank account, but what we do have is each other, and that's something no amount of money can buy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): i would and parents have thats why some people put their children up for adoption and at least for me i put someone else happiness above my own because of how much i care for her thats what the old proverb "if you love something set it free" comes from
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