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writes:Do you really get what you deserve in life?Or there is no such a thing?Also do things really happens for a reason,or its just random? Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 This is one of those "it depends" questions. Are you talking about deserving or wanting? I do agree that we aren't really capable of answering that question as a whole. I will say I've had periods in my life where I see there could be a plan. I'd make a bad choice and if I had not, I wouldn't have went in a direction to something greater. I've also made bad choices where, just a bad choice, nothing positive came of it. But if I hadn't made those, would I have made the choices that lead me to something greater?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2008):
I think people are naturally inclined to search out and attempt to find more fairness/karma/justice than there really is. We'd rather believe there is justice & purpose in life than accept the truth that there is none at all.
Ignorance is bliss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): I don't think we will ever know the answer to your question, none of us!!All I have to offer is that through my life there have been many poor choices I have made and many good ones. Whether this somehow is something destined and planned for me to learn through life will never be know by me. When things have not gone well and there have been a few!, it tends to follow through that it is not so much about what we get ourselves into, but how we get out of it. What others do to us, or situations we are in and how we handle it for a better and worthwhile outcome.Life is full of lessons and experiances. Many we do not wish to have again. But we always seem to learn something about ourselves and life when going through particularly tough times. I have found that in most if not all of stuff I have handled, that someone at some stage pops into my life down the track for me then to help or pass on what I learnt.Whether this is a devine plan or not is perhaps irrelavant. What you should consider is how the things that happen to you can one day help someone else. There will always be lessons and learning for you/us to do, mistakes others and yourself make which have impact. It is YOUR philosophy about your life and how you choose to live it that matters. All of us have different perspectives and beleifs, but it is what you believe in that matters and what you do with the lessons you learn that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): ""If we strive appropriately, rewards,eg happiness, security, should follow,but with no guarentees.""
I think ,it is very good point. My problem is , when you try it hard and you don't succeed.
It can get you down so much,that you can hardly move on again.
As you ask why? Why me? But its true ,you need spiritual answers,yet its not always available,as it depend on your path, if you have it or not. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Dear bitterblue, I was so happy to read your post. I felt we are on the same side,but you seem to be more wise than me already. That is my biggest wish in life, to reach wisdom ,what can help me get on with my life ,even in hard times.Peace and love
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Everything comes in a circle whether you believed it or not. There is God's laws and the Universal laws.
Whatever you sow , so shall you reap in this life or the life after.
Everything happens for a reason and you are just like a jigsaw puzzle and you cannot see the complete picture until all those pieces of puzzles are put into place. Everything happens because God wills it. The atheist do not believe it of course. But that is not my problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): The happy are inclined to say they have what they deserve. The misfortunate say otherwise. To be worthy of something, be it admiration, attention, facilities, etc? Do the poor deserve to be born in the peripheries, so exposed to misery and deliquencies? NO. Do dictators that have signed their names on books they haven't written deserve the titles? Or especially the influency employed for opressing purposes? We could go on. Too many have more than they deserve, or much less. In the end we have to extricate ourselves from difficulties with what we HAVE, clearly, and not "should have had" in other times and circumstances, and to provide a secure and cosy environment for the beloved ones to the limit of our possibilities. Peace wishes.
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reader, sister of mercy  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Everything happens for a reason, although it may not be clear at first you will soon see how everything works out.
And i don't think everyone gets what they deserve in life, although its unfair its life and we just have to live it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
This is a question that many ask themselves and I feel the answer lies within us, We all have our own beliefs and feelings on this kind of thing. My belief is karma what goes round will come around, Do unto others as you would wish to be done to you, I do believe things happen for a reason and we have choices in life in which path to take, And our lifes obsticles are our learning experiences.
If you were born lying in a bed of beautiful soft roses and taken care of by another never to feel pain hurt anger happiness laughter goodness and badness how could we grow and become stronger. Thats the way I see life hunny, Like a big school we cant bunk of from no matter what, we have to go everyday and everyday we learn something new be it bad or good. These are only my beliefs hunny I dont feel everyone should have the same, Enjoy life be kind to others and to yourself and live everyday as if your last listen to what other people may say as the people you least think of will be the ones that have the most profound thoughts TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Life is what you make it. I do not know if you are religous but in the Bible it states that God has a plan for you and that every hair on your head is numbered and that god knows each step you take and the path you will take. If you are not religous then I apologise to you and say that everything happens for a reason and while the reason might not be clear it may become apparent in time. Always count your blessings and be thankful for what you have instead of upset for what you don't have because everywhere there are greater and lesser people than yourself. Keep peace with yourself and strive to be happy. Above all else be on good terms with all people within reason and acknowledge your strengths and be kind to yourself. Smile often and take the time out each day to remind yourself that you are special and that there is no one else in the world quite like yourself.Love yourself and love others. Smile at a stranger and get the positive effects of your actions when that person smiles back.
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