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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 4 March 2009: So, what's going on. Seems like you have a lot of anger built up. You're a nice lady, and I enjoy chatting with you, and I believe during that time you've been warned time and time again to stay clear of this person.
The thing about people chan... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: Thank you for your wished. We're still doing well. I have my guitars. I can play them anytime, and they don't say no or talk back. lol
Did you see how the United Nations were forced to stop aid to the Asian country who the cyclone hit? They atte... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 May 2008: your welcome. I get lonely from time to time as well. Then remembering the actions and hurt people do to others snaps me right out of that thought of being with someone. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 May 2008: So you called him, and now know the truth about it not working out. What do you feel you need to do now? I suggest focusing on you. The problem I've seen is you're dependent. It seems as is you need someone there to "make" you happy. To help you ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 April 2008: No, I don't recall that song, but when I was a teen, I'd watch the "Flying Circus." It was late night, had to sneak down to the tv to watch it, or mom and dad would get up (busted).
I know some times I ramble. I get on a thought pattern and just... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 26 April 2008: Rape is an action that should not exist. One of the most damaging actions that can take place, weather in family or not. Ten years is crap. I guess that depends. I saw a show last night on prison, where many sexual criminals are killed before being ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 April 2008: Reading that letter I thought about two areas of concern. First, it's designed to cause guilt. Second, it's written without taking personal responsability for his actions. Every part of his apology was directed toward placing blame on people, or on ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 April 2008: We didn't get hired for filming. I think we applied too late. That's okay, still had a great time with the kids.
If he does show up, kick him in the ________, and tell him you think you just saw a ghost run by and nailed him in his twins. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 27 March 2008: Its hard when feeling alone. Then we ponder on could of would of should of. I use meditation as a form of relaxation and for stress relief.
What needs to happen in learning to really let go. Healing can't begin as long as you have this tight grip... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 March 2008: You're right, he's not a good person. Sending his a card, all though a polite gesture, is still holding on. I wish my ex's happy birthday, but we're also on good speaking terms without any intention past a birthday wish on either side.
Wish us luck... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 March 2008: You know you are going to be okay. Reason being, your persistant in doing so. The problem in domestic violence is when does all this begin. Lets look at my story in where I was living in an abusive relationship for a year, I was not the abuser.
M... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: She said she'll make you a big cookie. She's a good kid 13, and my little drama queen. She cooks when she visits because I tend to start fires, burn things. I burnt off my eye brows bbq'ing. She said I'm grounded from cooking.
Look at what he's done... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: You did good. You let him know you're not a toy he can just toss asside when he wants a variety. I'm proud of you for standing up to him and not caving in. (my daughter said you deserve a cookie.)
Standing up for yourself is a huge step in taki... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 2 March 2008: As I've said before, this broken feeling that doesn't seem to disappear is not because of the guy who wasn't nice. Quite often we use the affections of someone to fulfill a void feeling within ourselves because another area of our sense of self ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 1 March 2008: I know it's not easy, and it's not going to be quickly fixed. Your feelings are out of need or desire. What I'm trying to get you to realize is to build your personal happiness. These feelings you have are wanting someone to "make" you happy. No one ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 25 February 2008: It fairly humerous when someone gets together with someone who's cheating is starts out as the other woman, then when it happens to them, they just can't figure out why he wouldn't treat them different than they did the last one. Can people change? ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Dang girl 40 smokes a day. I can't say much, on stressful days when I smoked, I'd do around that. You're right, being in an emotionally abusive relationship it's sometimes difficult for the person in it to see. These guys use subtle changes, then ... (read in full...)
Do I just go with my boyfriend and leave my dad a note?
Q. Hi Yesterday, my mom and I got into a fight she was totally wasted and when she gets drinking she's a fighter. I was sleeping for about 15 mins then out of the blue she tries to strangle me in my sleep. I told my boyfriend about this and he told ...
A. 17 February 2008: I was saying tell the police department or a counselor because if your home is unsafe, your the authorities will make it so your dad doesn't have a choice if you go or not. He'll have to let you go in the interest of safety, and not by his choice. ... (read in full...)
Do Girls Really Like it When A Boyfriend Writes Them a Poem?
Q. I have a question for all you good natured girls? If I were to write a poem to a girl telling her that I wish she was mine; that, I would protect her; that, I would hold her in my arms when she is cold; that, I would wipe her tears away when she is ...
A. 16 February 2008: It's not too mushy. Why do you think girls listen to love songs. I remember what a famous song writer said, and this should answer your question. "The best loves songs are ones that say what every girl loves to hear, but every boy is afraid to say." ... (read in full...)
Do I just go with my boyfriend and leave my dad a note?
Q. Hi Yesterday, my mom and I got into a fight she was totally wasted and when she gets drinking she's a fighter. I was sleeping for about 15 mins then out of the blue she tries to strangle me in my sleep. I told my boyfriend about this and he told ...
A. 16 February 2008: I can't say it's the best to leave with your boyfriend. It sounds like something that has to be taken care of with urgency. Have you told your dad what happened? Personally I'd either speak to someone at your school, or I'd notify the police.
A... (read in full...)
Not like the other dreams I've had about my teacher...
Q. This is about a dream I've had. I've possibly had hundreds of dreams about my teacher for the past three years. I can't explain why I love him, I just do. I know that he's not anything I need, but somehow I keep falling for him over and over aga...
A. 16 February 2008: You're looking at him as being someone of comfort. It's not uncommon for children to see adults as someone safe and comforting individuals in their lives. ... (read in full...)
Have you ever told someone you loved them, but you didnt? why?
Q. Here is a question i asked early this morning, i'm putting back on as i wasnt as many answers as i can. How many of you out there have told a girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance, wife, husband you loved them but really you didn't? Just curiosity,...
A. 16 February 2008: Yes, a long time ago. I don't do so anymore because of the maturity level age give you. The reason being back then is the expectation behind it. If she says I love you, and the guy doesn't return the words, often she'll feel as if he's rejecting ... (read in full...)
Should I cry out when I orgasm?
Q. I've recently started to orgasm during intercourse and sometimes feel like calling out with the pleasure.I'm a bit shy though and wonder if the people in the bedroom next door might hear-especially when it's so quiet at night.My man says if ...
A. 16 February 2008: Not if it's unnatural. Sex should be a natural thing, not something that during times you go by a script.... (read in full...)
How can I make this long distance romance work?
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 23. We have a long distance realationship and its been so hard on me! i really love him and i really need him in my life! He loves me too he tells me he loves me that he would never leave me and that he has already decided ...
A. 16 February 2008: Respect your parents for their taking care of and protecting you. You look at it as interferance. There are so many children that wish their parents would interfere even a part of what your parents are doing. They love you and all though it goes ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men prefer women of lower IQ than them?
Q. I read an article in Metro which said (although it was at Valentine's event for geeky Massachusetts Institute of Technology students) that men often prefer to have sex with a woman of lower IQ. Do you think that's really true, because I know som...
A. 16 February 2008: If he's having sex with someone other than his girlfriend, she needs to cut him loose. IQ, to me makes not much difference, as long as it's not used as a tool against the other person. What I mean is, I'm smarter, so everything I say is correct, and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex the baby is really his?
Q. Last year i was meant to have an abortion after me and my boyfriend split up, but i never. I never told my ex i was pregnant either. I gave birth to a healthy baby boy called Levi on 24th January. I have seen my ex 1 or 2 times since we split u...
A. 16 February 2008: Yes it is wrong what you're doing. It may be your feeling to have your boyfriend raise him. It's normal to feel that way, but your baby deserves to know who his real father is. If the dad walks out, allow that to be his choice, but it's wrong to ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to help relieve the heartbreak I feel?
Q. Hello, So, here's my thing. I tend to fall in love, like deathly in love, with someone. And lately I've fallen in love with a very good friend of mine and just found out that she likes someone else. Now, this is the second time this has happened...
A. 16 February 2008: Why are you as dependant as you are? Seems to me you feel more adequate when in love? That would explain the falling quickly. You want the love, if you can't get it now, you might loose the opportunity. I'd find out what's going on with you that ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: I know you're in pain and hurting. If I could waive a wand and erase it, I would. I'm not sorry I went through what I had. If I never experienced it, I probably wouldn't be her talking to you. I didn't begin learning about behaviors becuase I ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 16 February 2008: U where wrong, give my watch and hat to the cat???? Now you're not in the wrong, just like the cat can't wear a watch, unless it's got some muscular legs.
Do you understand what manipulation and intimidation is? It's an act. A conscious choice to u... (read in full...)
Torn between two great guys...what can I do??
Q. Where to start... My now husband and I have been together for a very long time, since I was 14... I'm 21 now... we have been married for almost 4 years now, and have two beautiful children that are my life. I don't really know what happened...
A. 15 February 2008: You actually have the "what if" on both sides. With the new guy you can't say for sure if it would work out. You haven't had the test of time with him.
All I'll say is keep the children in mind when making your dicision. This is going to have to b... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Your mom is correct, but tell her from me that if it's true love and meant to be, then your treated as if you are.
Take care, and if you need anything let me know... (read in full...)
Water under the Bridge...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now, we have been through just about every wrong path a relationship can take... But we still care for each other. My family tells me to let go and move on, his family is embracing our relationship ...
A. 15 February 2008: During the past 3 years what have you learned? Part of the problem here is your letting each bad event be a building block for a new bad event. The water under the bridge, you need to close that bridge. Start with a clean slate. You need to forgive ... (read in full...)
Am I inadequate - if someone's desires and wants I can not fullfil, am I just crazy to stay with my girlfriend?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the past 2 years. Over the past couple months, several "significant" dates have passed by, and we have fought all the way to this point. My girlfriend has never felt I love her. I am not very emotional, and not one ...
A. 15 February 2008: No, you're not inadequate. Having an introverted personality is not being inadequate. You need to figure out what makes her feel loved. Once you find that, just repeat often. It's either a certain activity, such as going out to dinner. Giving her a ... (read in full...)
How do I get myself back to normal after all the heartaches I've endured?
Q. ok here it goes... i fell out with my boyfriend of 4 and a half yrs about 2 and a half years ago and ever since i fell out with him ive realised what it is like to be lonely. one minute i am single enjoying the single life then next minute i a...
A. 14 February 2008: You partially run yourself into the ground because of a man, the main part is because of you. One sentence says is all. "He made me feel good about myself." That's a dependency sign. A method of using a relationship to complete what you feel you ... (read in full...)
My bf's ex is haressing me....should I tell him and if so how??
Q. Hi...my ex's new girlfriend is harassing me. Should i inform him of her behaviour. We have a child together. I have kept quiet for while now but it gets worse as the days go on....should i tell him and if so how should i inform without sounding...
A. 14 February 2008: It's not being harsh letting him know what's going on. Just tell him what she's been doing and it's beginning to really bother you.... (read in full...)
We want to move in together but cannot come to an agreement!
Q. I had a really horrible childhood, my mum and dad split when I was little and he has barely been in my life, when he did arrange to see me and my sisters he would always let us down, my mum then went through 2abusive relationships and got into a lot ...
A. 14 February 2008: Let's look at the real issue here. It's not about your boyfriend and weather or not you live together right now. It's about fear. You are really afraid of what will happen in this relationship,and I don't think just this one, you fear the results of ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to go to church with my friend just because my husband doesn't like her?
Q. My husband doesn't like my female friend. I have been friends with her for 14 years and I know her family well. Over the last year she had been really going down hill, drinking, drugs, promiscuity, irratic behavior, lieing, using people, not ...
A. 14 February 2008: I'll have to disagree with the other poster. How many drugs are served at church? What about people having sex on the floor? I think church is a safe place to join your friend. It's not like you're going clubbing with her. You say he doesn't want ... (read in full...)
How do I approach this situation for the best?
Q. God I'm in agony. Me and the major love of my life who I have been with for 6 years have had a major major bust up about a week ago (we've had lots of problems) and not spoken for a week (he stormed out of the house and said he was never coming ...
A. 14 February 2008: First of all, I agree with the other poster. It's not your sister's relationship, she needs to butt out of it. There's nothing wose than a relative or friend making everything worse.
I wouldn't wait for him to make a move. You're both probably wait... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 14 February 2008: Sorry you're having a hard time. Remember this is your life. He wasn't respecting it or who you are. It's not a matter of wanting to date, or be with someone, it's the principle of you being treated well, and not accepting anything less than that. ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: Your welcome, I hope everything works out for you. Anytime you need to chat, just let me know. Take care.... (read in full...)
Can depression make him cold towards his family?
Q. My husband has suffered from depression off and on for some years but over the last year it has got worse to the point where he wants to be alone all the time and says he is not sure he loves me any more and wants to get a flat on his own. Can ...
A. 13 February 2008: He needs therapy. It's not going to assist as a cure, but he may need to be put on an emotional stabalizer. Now, it seems as if he may have depression, but I believe he may have anxiety as well.
If this is a biological imbalance, and prog... (read in full...)
I need help with my marriage
Q. My wife and I have had a lot of problems during the last 6 of our 21 year marriage. She cheated and was caught. To this day I have a hard time dealing with trusting her. My insecurities have been agrivated by her close friendships with a few men, ...
A. 13 February 2008: I think you both need help. She may deny needing help herself, but you weren't the one haveing the affair. That behavior was acted upon by her. Do you have the right to control who she associates with? Nope. Now, with her afairs, that was her ... (read in full...)
Why don't my parents love each other like they should?
Q. Help! My family life seems to be going down the drain. My parents have never showed any affection towards each other, not setting a good example for me or my little brother, both of us starting to date. They argue a lot, 16 years of it. My dad has a ...
A. 12 February 2008: I agree with the other poster. They need to know how you feel and how you look at this affecting you. The relationship starts out different, but through out we get use to adjusting to slight changes in behavior thinking it's not a big deal. Over 16 ... (read in full...)
Afraid what others will think if I get back with him
Q. My boy friend broke up with me 4 days ago, but then called me. We had a long talk and he told me how much he missed me and how I was the only one for him. All my friends tell me to let go because I deserve a better guy, but I think I still like him. ...
A. 12 February 2008: Relationships are personal, between the two people involved. It's about your happiness and not pleasing the crowd. ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from someone that had an affair with me?
Q. I just need some advice on how to move on.i was in a long distance relationship for nearly 2 years,with a guy who lives with his gf.i didnt know in the begining and only found out a few months into the relationship.he always said hes only there ...
A. 12 February 2008: So you want revenge? What's that going to solve. You've heard the term "instant gratification". Wanting to seek revenge in the wrong way to go about doing it, because it keeps you connected or emotionally tied to that person.
The best thing to do i... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 February 2008: I have to agree with the other poster. The guy who asked you out, go have dinner or coffee. You need to get out for a little while, it will do you good.
Take a nice walk or just sit outside with something to drink and just enjoy the beauty arou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is perfect, how can I stop worrying about our relationship?
Q. How do I stop obsessing about my current relationship? I am involved with an absolutely wonderful guy and I know part of the problem is ME! I sometimes feel like he's way out of my league. He's incredibly smart, funny, interesting and comes from a ...
A. 12 February 2008: I'd hate to be living inside your head. It sounds like the circus came and made up camp. lol
What I want you to do is view your relationship different. Why do you think you should analyze why he's with you. He has his reasons. You may not agree with... (read in full...)
Could I go to prison for having sex with my girlfriend? She's 15.
Q. I have got a 15 year old girlfriend and I'm 16. I love her to bits and me and her both want to take our relationship to sexual intercourse but I have heard about being put in prison? Is this true? If so how likely is it? I have neices, will I be ...
A. 12 February 2008: You have to check U.K. laws. I know here in the U.S. generally one year difference in age doesn't violate statute. ... (read in full...)
Could you enlighten me a bit more about oral sex please?
Q. Okay, I know this is probably a weird question but I'm sure there are some people on here who would like to know. When a guy gives a girl oral sex how does he do it? Does he suck on her vagina or lick it or what? Do they even do anything to the ...
A. 12 February 2008: This is a question for ummmmmmmmm mom or dad. ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and me and my sister have been fighting NON STOP!
Q. I'm 14 and me and my sister have been fighting NON STOP! I know it's because we are spending too much time together but I can't really get out of the house because when I'm fighting with her I'm usually taking it out on my friends (who over react ...
A. 12 February 2008: That would be like putting vicious dogs in a cage, and expecting them to get along. When he says that, ask him "OK, how?" Are you two fighting because it's really a serious issue you can't agree on, or are you fighting because there's just nothing ... (read in full...)
He cheats and cheats and cheats. What to do?
Q. hi i been wid my partner from last 5 years. Several times he has cheated on me, but i love him more than anything . is this just stupid love? evrytime he gets caught he promises me neva again. this has been ongoing. i have considered leaving ...
A. 11 February 2008: I'm not worried about him and if he quits and becomes yours. I'm worried about you and the way you're "allowing" him to treat you. When are you going to stop allowing him to treat you this way, not to mention completely disrespecting your ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want the drama queen?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years and i am completely in love with him.He tells me that he loves me too, but i dont believe it. He has always been in control of us. Before we got into a relationship he told me that he doesnt ...
A. 11 February 2008: There is a difference between being drama queen and wishing to discuss issues. It seems as if he's avoiding issues that may cause emotion or be difficult to discuss. This happens at times, but generally with people who are lacking something within ... (read in full...)
Do people who were abused lash out?
Q. I am so thankful that I finally got out of an abusive relationship I was in. He was emotionally abusive, for example he would get very angry if i didn't smoke or drink or sleep with him, he never respected me, and there's really so much more. And I ...
A. 11 February 2008: First I want you to know you should be proud of yourself for getting out of that situation. It takes real courage and strength to realize that's not a place you want to be and change it.
Now lets not judge who's more wrong. You're either wrong of y... (read in full...)
It makes me so jealous when my bf talks about celebraties being fit...what shall I do??
Q. My boyfriend talks about models and celebrities being buff and good looking and it makes me sooooo jealous. I try laughing it off or talking bout celebrites being buff myself but that makes it worse!! I really dont like it. What shall i do?...
A. 11 February 2008: stop judging against eachother. change your response when he does it. many times guys do that because they like your response, (think it's cute), if he doesn't get a good response, he'll get board doing it and it will decrease.... (read in full...)
How can I comfort him when he talks about his troubled past??
Q. Let me first of all apologize for this being long... So me and this one guy like each other and have gotten to be best friends. I have fallen in love with him. We have talked about dating, but he says once he gets everything that he is going th...
A. 10 February 2008: His being able to open up to you is a good sign with your relationship with him. Sometimes just being there is greater than telling him you will. He knows it, your actions prove it.
He's had a very tramatic life. I bet it was hell for him grow... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 10 February 2008: Do it. You know sometimes its hard to point fingers at ourselves when it comes to changing. It's much easier to blam our partner or some other entity than looking in the mirror and taking blame for our own actions.
Within in marriage it's impo... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: It's all about keeping personal strength. You have to remind yourself that you are a better person than to accept being mistreated by others. The name of my CD is "Everybody's Somebody's Child" That idea stems from treating others as you would ... (read in full...)
Is our age difference too big?
Q. I need some advice and my story might be a little long so please bear with me. I have fallen for a guy who is a regular customer at the store where I work. The problem is there is quite a big age difference between us. Iam almost 21 and he is 38. He ...
A. 10 February 2008: This is a decision that has to be made between you two. Love doesn't cary boundaries. You can't help who that special someone is. I don't think with the attraction you have for eachother the age difference is too large. You're both adults. You both ... (read in full...)
My children's grandmother wants to take custody of them from me!
Q. Hello, My name is Faith and im 21 years old. I have triplet 5 year old girls Their father died 11 months after their birth. 3 days ago his mother demanded that the children went to live with her as im struggling. Im not. I work a part ti...
A. 10 February 2008: I finally found your other question. I'm not familier with your laws, but I do know ours follow fairly close when coming to family law. The courts don't care about how much money you have, or how many material posessions. They care about what's in ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 10 February 2008: Thank your for the kind words. Take care of yourself, and feel free to ask anytime you need someone to talk to or advice. ... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 9 February 2008: I can understand your side and with the kids. I believe people should work it out. I think too much is taked for granted and not enough is appreciated. He says you've been a good wife. I wonder how many people are married that wish they could say ... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair for the past year.
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out that my husband (we've been married 21 years)had an affair last year. He says that it is over and is trying very hard to make ammends. we talk a lot and are going to relate. He has told lots of lies and last week I found that ...
A. 9 February 2008: Do you realize when people do a trial separation, the person who leaves has all ready made up their mind? It sounds like he's not going to be there to make a decision that he's all ready made. I don't think this is healthy for you and I don't think ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 9 February 2008: Remember the story of the "boy who cried wolf". He lied to you prior too. You knew he had lied, so where did his credibility go with you believing what he says? I'm in law as a profession. With a judge if one lie is proved, the judge can then ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: I know it hurts. If it didn't it would be a happy ending. Not everything ends happily, but even those that don't we learn something from them. I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for the good time and the bad times. I have learned so much off ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Thank you for the compliment hlskitten.
Now you're right, you don't deserve to be treated that way. He wants to talk about respect, but doesn't carry respect for you. I don't recall anytime when putting his pen in another girls ink was consider... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Sorry to hear about your pain. It's for reasons like this I remain single and plan to do so "till death do I part", unless someone comes a long that I just can't pass up. lol Now when he says he misses you tell him "I bet you say this to all the ... (read in full...)
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