A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:HiYesterday, my mom and I got into a fight she was totally wasted and when she gets drinking she's a fighter. I was sleeping for about 15 mins then out of the blue she tries to strangle me in my sleep. I told my boyfriend about this and he told me I have to move on, forget about her. I want to be with my boyfriend so bad because I feel safe from him but I don't think my dad will let me go. I promise to keep enrolled in school but I don't think he will let me go. I'm 17 and where I will be moving to is only an hour away. What do I do? Just go and leave him a note????
View related questions:
move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, lushlass93  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 you need to tell your dad what happend and if you still want to go with your boyfriend then you should tell your dad and make sure you syill go and see himit is your decision and make sure you still do go to school because i know its sad but you need to keep your educationgood luck
A
male
reader, rcn  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 I was saying tell the police department or a counselor because if your home is unsafe, your the authorities will make it so your dad doesn't have a choice if you go or not. He'll have to let you go in the interest of safety, and not by his choice.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondont have a lock on my door when I sleep. My mom and dad are divorced. I've lived with my boyfriend for 2 years... I cant tell my dad.. he wont let me gooo..
...............................
A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 I think you ought to tell your dad about it first instead of running away and leaving him a note. It could present more problems .
Lock the door when you want to sleep.
...............................
A
male
reader, polarkite +, writes (16 February 2008):
 It sounds like your bf is also moving really fast and in "protect" mode right now. But this can wear off easily and cause problems.
I'd suggest you deal with the issue with your parents without too much help from your bf, as strange as this sounds. Especially if you weren't planning on living with your bf in the first place.
You are still young. You don't want to move from one bad situation to another.
Best thing for you would if you are in school, is to get your own dorm or housing situation, that way you can focus on your studies without drama, and stay focused on the bigger picture, while all these annoying things are happening around you.
Rcn is right, getting help sounds like a great idea, whether it's from a counselor or the police. It shouldn't just be from your bf. It's too much to put on his shoulders. Even if he says he's willing to help, the truth is, he is likely not equipped to deal, and could unintentionally make mistakes and compound the issues you are dealing with.
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (16 February 2008):
I can't say it's the best to leave with your boyfriend. It sounds like something that has to be taken care of with urgency. Have you told your dad what happened? Personally I'd either speak to someone at your school, or I'd notify the police.
At any age, you have the right to live without harm. You may be her child, but she has not right to lay hands on you like that. The reason I just wouldn't take off, is that's running from the issue. Telling the authorities and letting them know you have somewhere to to, they may "legally" transfer your residence to there for safety.
...............................
A
female
reader, lanner lou +, writes (16 February 2008):
you are 17 and you can make your own decisions. If i were you and my mum tried to strangle me in my sleep, whether she was drunk or not, i'd be very scared she'd do it again. Is there not anywhere where you and your boyfriend can move closer to your dad? because an hour away seems pretty far especially if you are still going to go to school, and if you do move closer, your dad won't have much to worry about. No i don't think you should just leave him a note, i think you should talk to him and tell him about the effect your mum's actions has had on you and if he won't let you go after you have told him this, then leave him a note.
...............................
|
