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writes:married 6 months, husband is a christian, is so busy and works till 8 to 10 at night, sex life is as he needs it, romance is not good, he is constantly worried about money, the weekends come and we should be happy come mon through friday the marriage is bad, he is driving me crazy with his worry self, I have finally started crying , and cant take it anymore, his 2 daughters married with children have cause problems in our marriage, I have tried to leave and he changes but goes back to self within hours or days, he says he loves me and keeps seeking the Lord, and believes that when his flesh is week and doesent feel God's presence he cant function, I have been a very good and faithful and submissive wife, and I feel as though I cant have a life other than for him, I love him and he says he loves me but the relationship marriage is getting worse, he use to be romantic loving and the spraks were there, he dosent even get aroused anymore, since I have been sleeping with him everynight, I slept in another room a lot but now since I'm sleeping with him things got worse I give him everything he wants and am sexy and loving but he is like a roller coaster up and down, what to do help
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Is your husband a workaholic?
I think your husband need to seek professional help . He needs to balance his career and family life.
Why does he has a preoccupation about money?
Money is not everything and it is no guarantee of happiness.
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 March 2008):
 First of all, I am Christian also. I know enough to understand God is not going to come down and tell him, now kiss your wife, take her to bed and/or provide additional instruction. God is there for everyone, but isn't there to live our lives for us. I think there is an unrealistic quite often around God and what He'll do. I don't think it works where our life goes wrong and we figure if we wait out the storm God will arrive and fix the damage for us.
I seek the Lord as well. I spend at least 2 hours a day in some form of biblical study. As a single parent, my studies don't allow me to wait for God to cook dinner for the kids, or take them to the park. Being a good parent, I may receive guidance, but I also have to make the choice too and choose to take care of them the way I do.
All though God is part of a bond in many marriages, that doesn't mean He creates the success in the marriage. That's up to you and your husband.
He needs to understand, he is not married to his job, or his kids, or the finances. But being strong in the marriage allows two people to compromise and come up with solutions to the problems instead of just one.
Marriage as a term doens't have the ability to succeed or fail, it's the people from within that create its success.
I think you should sit with him and tell him what you want. Demand to be treated the way you feel you need too. And do not accept excuses for why he's not doing that now.
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