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writes:I have a question for all you good natured girls? If I were to write a poem to a girl telling her that I wish she was mine; that, I would protect her; that, I would hold her in my arms when she is cold; that, I would wipe her tears away when she is sad...Do you think this is too mushy to reveal...even though I really mean it. Do girls really like it when their significant other are open and honest with them? Some of my friends tell me its best to just have her guessing. I don't know about that one...I just hate the games already. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): i would love it i wished guys would be more like that i would fall in love with them
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Definatley! Unless they've only just met and rushing things and talking about marridge and children...
A nice sweet poem will make her melt :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): yes they will love it just tell her how u feel girlz love that tell her i fi was her i would love it
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): yes. girls love it when guys write them poems! it is romantiv and shows sensitivity!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): i would love to be written a poem, its so romantic :)
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Excellent words to live by. I can live with the regret of trying but not the regret of not trying.
I say give her that poem. You might even read it to her over a glass of wine.
Take care and I am cheering you on. Let us know how it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wanted to say a special thanks to all those who had responded to my question. All of you had great insights. As for this special girl, we've known each other for over a year. Initially we clicked and had a good time laughing, joking, teasing, and complimenting each other. I guess a time came when she wanted to gauge my true interest in her so she began playing games by making me jealous. Unfortunately, I took it the wrong way and since then I took the approach of painfully being just friends. Right now she gives me the cold shoulder and we both can feel the tension. All my life I've been looking for someone I could live with...but, I have finally found someone who I can't live without. Which led me to my question. I needed to tell her the truth. I don't want to look back 10 years from now and live with any regrets. Besides, I can live with regret of trying, but not with the regret of doing nothing. Thanks Again.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (17 February 2008):
That sounds so sweet. She must be a really special person. If she feels the same she will be bedazzled and flattered and probably laminate it. If she does not feel the same way it will creep her out. I got a love letter from a bloke and he said some really beautiful things about me but I did not feel the same and I think he wrote it to me because he could feel me slipping away. Find out how she feels and maybe get her to write you a poem telling you how she feels and then give each other the poem and see where this leads. Good luck and please do not change. We need more sensitive beautiful men like yourself in this world. There are too many brutes and not enough sweethearts.
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Most women will like it - but "everybody's different!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): For real, I don't like games either. Guys who initially just have me guessing lose their chances with me pretty quickly. I just assume they are not interested and so I move on. But it goes the same way with girls who play games. Guys get tired quick.
The whole idea of keeping people guessing is misinterpreted by alot of people. Its not that you shouldn't show someone your interest in them and instead play hard to get and silly games like that. Its more that, in general you should keep your individuality and not be too clingy. But showing someone that you like them is awesome. You can love someone and show them that you love them with poems and being there for them without being clingy. I love your poem. I love guys who go the extra mile and fight for me and really show me that I am worth their time and I am worth for them to go that extra mile for me and have that drive to be with me. That is an A+. That would make me feel special. And your poem really shows that. And when you like a girl you should make her feel special.
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reader, danielle_25  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 If I'm the girl then I would appreaciate your lovely poem, but every woman has different personalities!! Good luck to you my friend!!
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (16 February 2008):
Given your age I would expect the women you date to have a fair amount of maturity. In this case, I think a woman would appreciate the poem. The only issue is that if she doesn't feel the same it may make her feel uncomfortable and if you are not in a relationship it may scare her off.
If you want to know how I would respond here goes. If a man I cared about and had been dating for a period wrote me a song or poem I would be honored and feel special. If a man whom I was not close to did the same, it would probably scare me off that he wanted an instant relationship and relationships take time to build.
Good luck to you. I will say that I have learned in life to appreciate a sensitive man. I think they are under rated and I will tell you the man I am looking for will be sensitive this time around. Take Care.
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reader, rootsreggaerocknroll +, writes (16 February 2008):
obviously it depends on the context and the girl! but im sure you know already if she is the sort of girl who would like a poem written for her ;)
I'd like it lol!
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reader, loveee +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Heyya,
im only 16 we have a bit of an age gap but i have to say that i would love it if a someone was to write me a poem. it is a lovly thing for you to do and shows that you have taken time to think about this girl, their are so many players out their writing her this poem will show you arent one and hopefully she will like it however it depends on the stituation you are in and the type of relationship consider this first and if you think it is aporiate then go for it.
hope every thing goes well.
God bless.x
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reader, MissKin +, writes (16 February 2008):
 I think poems are lovely. They're not for everyone, and some girls will be embarassed by them (they make me SUPER shy, but i love it.) but deep down, i think all nice girls like traditional romance.
My boyfriend wrote me a poem for valentines day, I loved it. Your poem sounds like a wonderful idea. gud luck. x
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reader, polarkite +, writes (16 February 2008):
 Dear anon,
The quality of your poem will depend on how well the writing and delivery are executed.
I would say that you should write your poem, and put it in a storage box and save it for your 1yr anniversary with this girl.
Too much commitment before you've even started a relationship is an instant turn-off and will scare most girls away.
If you want to write a poem to give to her now, I would recommend that you focus on why you like her purely for her own virtues, and nothing to do with you. Girls totally dig sensitivity, subtlety, and awareness, and when guys "notice" things about them.
Remember, keep the mystery alive! Telling a girl you like her is one thing, but strewing your guts out in front of her is surely another.
~polarkite
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Yes, definitely. I guess every situation is different, but it's always great to live impulsively and passionately.
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 February 2008):
 It's not too mushy. Why do you think girls listen to love songs. I remember what a famous song writer said, and this should answer your question. "The best loves songs are ones that say what every girl loves to hear, but every boy is afraid to say." --Kenny Rogers
Take care. I hope it works out for you.
PS: Be honest. If they can't trust you with small issues, how can you expect to be trusted with big.
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