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writes: How do I deal with my boyfriend's exwife? She is so crazy - I do what ever I can for their four kids and still she uses the kids and tells them mean stuff about me. I want to walk out b/c I hate hurting them kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2006): Time and patience. She is probably jealous and raw from the split. Did you split these two up? If yes, then she will be getting it all out of her system through the kids. If not, then ask your husband to have a work with her and let her know that this is doing no one any good, you are there to stay. If that doesn't work then you must put up with it. She will get bored in time or until she meets someone. Don't let her split you two up, that is probably what she wants and you mustn't give her the satisfaction. Stick it out - no matter what!
Take care
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 December 2006):
 I agree with Tellulah, if you were the reason that their marriage broke up then you should be prepared to endure her animosity as along as you are in a relationship with this man. She's got plenty of mean stuff she can say about you. The kids will resent you for spliting up their parents. If you were not the reason then it's just a case of jealousy on the Ex's part and she is either going to have to keep making up mean stuff to say about you or run out of steam pretty soon. Then I'm sure the kids will either see through the lies or just start ignoring her lies. Just depends.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (14 December 2006):
 Hi there,
There is nothing you can do, apart from, if you love this man, ride out the storm. If you were to blame for the break up, this is unfortunatly what you will get. But in time she will get over it. The kids will do as they want. And no mattter how she trys to poison them, as long as you are kind and considerate to them, they will come round.
If you were nothing to do with the break up, maybe you could talk to her. Let her know she is just making life hard for her children, that you understand, but are not going away.
Apart from this, well it takes time for wounds to heal. So try to be patient. And it will all work out in the end
Good luck and Happy New Year x
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