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writes: I am in a relationship with a girl I truly care about, and we have been together for 2 years, but now this new and interesting girl has come into my life she is totally different than my girlfriend and it intrigues me. I feel bad for feeling attracted toward this new girl and do not know what to do. The new girl spends a lot of time with me, but just as friends. please help me out. what should I do. I have never cheated on my girlfriend, but this new girl seems to be everthing I like in girls, however I still have very strong feelings for my girlfriend. what should I do
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): I completely agree with eyeswideopen. This can also apply to sex as well. Now I'm not saying sleep around, but for some, if they wait until marriage and find that they're are far from being sexuall compatible...
Dating is all about trial and error. If one doesn't suit your needs, wants, and future aspirations, then you should for the next one that does, until you're ready to settle down with someone who meets you half way, and grow together on that.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 This is exactly the reason for dating different people before marriage. You learn what personality traits you are attracted to, etc.... Hardly anybody finds the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with on the first try. If this new girl is closer to your ideal mate than your current girlfriend then you need to pursue it. Be honest and gentle with your girlfriend when you break it off. Remember you are doing her a service as well, she will now be free to look for someone that fits her personality better. Good luck to all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): Well this is a tough one, I would say that it sounds like a case of "the grass is always greener".
you made your decision, so if you want to finish your current relationship then go ahead!, but be warned the girl that you are attracted to may turn out to be a complete flop and you will end up alone. And the guilt of finishing with your girlfriend may eat you up.
So just remember, we all pine for what we dont have and some people go ahead and take what they want regardless of whether it hurts people or not and in my experience those people are ussually very shallow!.
Its your decision just remember you have to live with whatever you decide.
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