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writes: I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. They just signed the final papers for his 4 year divorce. He wants to now approach his ex and tell her about us. We've talked about the best way he can approach her to not cause a huge upset and between us, we can not come up with a really great idea. The conversation needs to happen soon, since he has invited me to go out with him and his son to meet his Parents for Christmas. Any great suggestions?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 December 2006):
 When he talks to his ex about taking his son to his parents he can casually mention that you are going with him. If she wants more info at that point he can go into more depth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): How long had he and his wife been separated before you started dating him? Its better to wait until the divorce is final, ideally, and to take some time to think over the mistakes that were made, to "grieve" for the loss of the marriage, and to be single for a while before entering into another relationship.
However, why is it necessary for him to tell his ex-wife that he is dating someone else? Will his son tell her if he doesn't do so? Is his ex expecting to be invited to her former parents-in-law for Christmas?
There probably is NO good way to tell her that won't hurt her feelings - UNLESS SHE initiated the divorce. I suppose the only way to do it is to write to her and let her know he has met someone new........I just don't know.
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