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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (15 August 2007):
 hee hee
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (15 August 2007):
 Wow, did I just suffer from a brainfart or what? :)
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 August 2007):
I'm willing to bet this poster has moved on by now...
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reader, Wild Thaing +, writes (15 August 2007):
Your problems cannot be solved whilst you are in the arms of anyone.
Take a break from all romantic relationships while you try to sort yourself out. I see a disturbing pattern of co-dependency forming in all of your relationships. You are missing something in your life, and it is most likely related to your low sense of self-worth. You need the affections of others because you do not love yourself.
It is not going to be an easy row to hoe, but if you want to have truly fulfilling relationships you need to learn to love yourself. And you cannot do it when the affections of others are such an easy and available substitute.
Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): I am in the same position as the "should I marry my "a-bit-boring" boyfriend." Maybe I should listen to the same advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2005): The boyfriend is obviously not right for you, if he bores you now he will make your head buzz with boredom 5 years down the road and you will always find better options. Security is nice but not a deciding factor in your case. And don't be afraid to be alone and just figure out what you really want. I agree that there comes a point in a relationship that you get bored b/c you spent so much time together but you have made a bad decision to start to cheat on him instead of telling him that you need to make things more interesting. I think you should choose none of the above and spend sometime figuring out what you want in life b/c I think neither one is right for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2005): You really need to get your act together. It's really immature to for you to cheat on somebody. I don't care if he's cheating on you. BREAK UP. You're just going to end up hurting both of yourselves. You do NOT really love him. If you have the nerve to cheat on him and he has the nerve to cheat on you...you're both too immature to think about love...much less MARRIAGE. Grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2005): oh my god! iam going through the exact thing! ive just split up with my boyfriend of 3 years because i feel like he's boring and feel like weve grown apart. he also is very faithful and would do anything for me! i just had to look at whether i could spend the rest of my life with him and never see anyone else and when i realised the answer was no i had to finish with him. now i am seeing someone else and still seeing my ex occasionaly but its not a loving relationship like i had with my ex. if you think that he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then stay with him and get married, otherwise get out xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2005): Hi hunny.It sounds to me like yur relationship has moved on from the honeymoon period that all new relationships experience.The longer a couple are together the more comfortable and relaxed sometimes even boring it can become.Perhaps you just need to try to put that spark back in there but you will need to do it together.It won`t work unless you both make the effort.I hope i`ve been of some help to you.Take care and good luck.
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (9 May 2005):
Sounds fair enough to me 8-)If you get married you should stop seeing the other guy.
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