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writes:Am I the only one that finds that dearcupid makes me paranoid reading about all the different questions people ask(cheating with bosses, having sex with brothers and sisters etc) Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): you may not be the only one that thinks this, but there are people out there that need someone anomously to talk to and that is where agony aunts come into it. You only have to put your problem down without your name and they help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I think that it has good advice, but also just makes me waste a lot of time and worry about whose advice I should take. When you think about it, even on here people are going to have different opinions, so it's really a matter of doing what you think you should do. Personally, I think I need to make better decisions by myself, and that is where I will find the strength to feel better about myself and trust my own judgment. So, yes, sometimes I do feel paranoid too.
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reader, AndreC. +, writes (22 August 2007):
AndreC. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yes you all are right and I do know that people that ask these questions are in need and come for help on this site and i alsothink its great but i also think that it makes u think about all the things that can happen in a relationship and also makes you appreciate your personal life more.This site is great it lends a hand to those in need!
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 I can honestly say, this site doesn't make me paranoid. If anything it simply makes me aware how awful some people's problems are. If I think about my situation and think it's bad, sometimes it's nothing compared to some of the things you read on here.
Everybody's got problems, and this site is a comfort zone for that. A place where people can help guide those in need to an answer to their problems. I take pride in helping people out, and also take comfort that people try to help me too.
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 I am never paranoid by this site. Disturbed by some of the things I read yes. I think it is a good way for people to vent, or get some advice to questions that they would be otherwise ashamed to ask. It offers a great service to our young people. Too bad this site wasn't around when I was growing up.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 August 2007):
 I'm never paranoid by the postings but some them are certainly disconcerting and some are absolutely heartbreaking. However I think this site provides a valuable service and many people find comfort and help from the aunts.
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reader, eddie +, writes (20 August 2007):
 What this site does is expose many angles to issues. As for being paranoid, that is determined by whether or not you can figure out the difference between potential and probable problems......could your girlfriend leave you, potentially. Is it probable, who knows?
Many people write in asking if it's possible their mate cheated on them. Of course it is. Why not. Is it probable? That depends on the relationship. Is it possible my wife finds other men attractive? Is it potentially true? Yes. Is it probable? Yes. Does that mean she could potentially cheat. Yes. Is it probable? No. Why is it not probable? It's not probable because I know how she thinks. That is a piece of information that nobody else on this site could know. Potential and probable are very important. You could worry your entire life about potentials. Ironically, as a result of your worry potentials can in fact, become probables.
AS an example, you are always pester your girlfriend about who she talks to. You're jealous and trying to avoid potential cheating. The fact that you're overbearing makes her cheating more probable because over time, she likes you less because you pester her. That leads to other men being more appealing. We had this discussion before, correct.
Is it possible you might be a little paranoid already or have unsolved issues in your own life. Sometimes people create their own paranoia. Many people need more help than can be expected from this site.
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reader, love-him +, writes (20 August 2007):
 hi bbe, it would be the same with any question site, because all you base your reason on is, all the questions. im sure you arnt the only one, but dearcupid has helped a lot of people. i found this site ( i cant remember how ) but it was when i was extremily upset. i hope i helped you. mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (20 August 2007):
 I think it could do if you dont put it into perspective. How boring would it be if the same amount of people just came on here asking why their relationships are so brilliant? see what im saying? We only hear from the people that have problems, thats what the site is here for.
There has always been marital problems in the world, there are only slightly more now due to the net/ mobile phones, people were just limited to where they could ask for advice. But it can make things look a lot worse in the world of relationships on a place like this!
But you can flip it round to another positive & actually read some of the things & learn from them yourself.I agree that sometimes the advice isnt always good. But i think its up to the individual asking the question to bear in mind most on here arent experts & ultimately they are just giving an opinion. Theres rarely a right or wrong answer.
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reader, Charlie84 +, writes (20 August 2007):
I'm going through rough times my self right now and to read others and answer their questions that I can see rationally compared to my love blinded sight helps a lot. Also getting answers from people to reaffirm my beliefs that I just refuse to believe help a lot.
Support from people, even if they're not a close friend, is very helpful in over coming a lot of life's challenges. Nobody has all of the answer so it's best to talk with as many people as you can to learn things about life and the tribulations it throws at you.
And yes there are lots of screwed up people out there but I feel there are more good people, its just a matter of finding the right one for you which at times seems nearly impossible. And with the way communication is and how small the world seems with modes of travel you'd think it'd be a lot easier to find the right person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I stumled on this site when I was going through a real rough time. As bad as it seems it was actually comforting to know that other people were going through the same thing, and it helped alot to talk to people that had been thru something similar to yourself. On the flip side its also nice to know that are actually blokes out there that are faithful to thier partners and are being treated like crap aswell. Not that that is a good thing but I was starting to think that faithful, loyal men don't exsist but they are out there somewhere. I just don't know where!!!!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (20 August 2007):
 Good yeah definitely, i thought my life was crap until i came on this site and now i know there's a hell of a lot worse to come yet:).
Take care.x.x
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (20 August 2007):
I admit that you do have a point on that, but at the same time, you have to realize that the people that ask questions are not the general population. The ones who come here and ask this stuff are only here because they are stuck and there is a much bigger population of people that aren't like this. If Jerry Springer or Maury Povich isn't enough to scare someone, then this shouldn't be either. Although i am afraid that as things like this, the shows I mentioned, and shows like Desperate Housewives and Sex in the City become more and more popular, the behavior makes it into the mainstream and will slowly become more and more acceptable. I am also finding it unsettling that so many of these questions often do have a blatantly obviously correct solution and the asker doesn't see it. That and the few that come here to give advice and give really bad advice, like when they tell 40 year old men to go out with 11 year olds. That's sick.
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