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writes:Ok here it goes. For the last few months now, I notice that if I go to my boyfriend's place and he just tells me to get naked and lay down because he wants to play with me, I end up crying during sex. If we make out and work into touching, foreplay, and sex..etc, I don't cry at all. Is this normal? Does anyone else experience this? When I cry he gets upset and thinks I'm mad at him but I'm not. Its almost like I feel ------ if we just get naked and don't let it happen naturally. If we lay down and let it happen naturally I feel loved and stuff... Idk this is strange. Can anyone relate to me???
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reader, Sandman +, writes (19 August 2007):
 Well, you're welcome. glad to have been able to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You very much for the answers!!! My boyfriend and I sat down when this crying thing happened and I told him exactly what everyone has told me here today. He understands and we're on the same page now. I was just wondering if anyone has been in that situation before. Before we dated, we were just friends helping each other out "sexually" But now since being in a relationship for almost 2 years now, we've taken it to a new level emotionally and I think thats why I can't handle that whole "playing" thing anymore because I need that love and what not.
Anyway. Thanks a bunch!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 August 2007):
 Sandman is right, you don't want to feel like you are his plaything but rather his lover. How callous and cold to tell someone to strip and lay down so he can play with you! That's why you cry sweetheart. Lay it all out for him, if he's worth a grain of salt, he'll listen to you. If he remains an insensitive jerk, then walk away and don't look back.
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reader, Everlasting Love +, writes (16 August 2007):
you want to feel the love he just wants the sex but when it comes to foreplay n all that romantic things its alright. I believe you should just let him know that there is a difference between love and lost and that whole entire part of you just getting drop dead naked the moment you get there shows that he is a very horny person I don't blame him. try and lessen up on the sex if possible, plan a day out just you and him
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reader, Sandman +, writes (16 August 2007):
Althought I cannot relate, it seems like you're wanting more than the sex. It seems like you want the kissing, the caressing, the fondling, looking deeply in his eyes, smelling his scent, etc...Sex is more than putting his penis into you - it's all that stuff i mentioned and more. You want to feel desired, loved, want to be held - not just f@#$ed!
That's just my opinion though. You should try expressing to him that you need more than just being told to lie down and open your legs. Where's the passion and romance in that? Anybody can f@#$, but you seem to want the love making. What do you think about this? Is this true for you?
Talk to him - let him know your feelings, desires, wants, and wishes. If he doesn't agree is isn't wanting to understand your feelings, then shut down Pleasure Tunnel Road and tell him to make a right on Blue Balls Lane.
Or, you could wait until your married so you enjoy the wonders of sex with a husband who loves you deeply and dearly and will do anything to please you. Just a thought.
Hope this helps.
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