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Hi,

Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.

I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.

If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...

A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice. Keep ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem. http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence http://pi... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it! I wish you... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)

I am the first girl he has ever cared and loved and i know he is learning but he is a bit of a phycho! I just need to sort his dark side.

Q. I have been with my bf for 7 months now we have a very secure relationship. I see him every weekend as we live so far away i am very surprised that it has worked so well really but we make time for each other and chat, text and im all the time. I ...

A. 16 March 2007: You need to assert yourself more with him. Don't let him tell you what to do and push you around. Stick up for yourself more, I'm sure that's what he wants you to do. He doesn't have a dark side lol he's just more confident that you are. Like I ... (read in full...)

What is going on here and what am I going to do?

Q. Hi there. Me and my girlfriend up until recently, about a month or so, were madly in love. Then she decided she was holding be back and that by being with her I wasn't achieving my life's potential or my dreams and wasn't truly happy with my life ...

A. 16 March 2007: You don't say how long you were together but it sounds to me as if she is using you wanting to better yourself and her holding you back as an excuse to break things off. She might have an alterior motive here but she definitely wants some space to ... (read in full...)

Any tips for getting over someone quickly and easily?

Q. I can't get a guy out of my head. I've known him for about 6 months now and we've been good friends... I've liked him since I met him but he's already gone out with 2 of my friends. Lately he told me he really liked me. obviously I was happy, but ...

A. 16 March 2007: If you want to get over him once and for all then take up a new hobby or a sport, something that keeps you busy. Don't hang around with him or go to the same places he does. Tell yourself he's not worth it, he's using you to make your friend ... (read in full...)

I'm sure he's paid the girl downstairs money for oral sex, do you think I should leave him?

Q. My boyfriend of 3 years paid 3 prostitutes but said he never did anything. He ended up giving them money too by drugs thinking he would get sex. I had to coerce this out of him, now I'm pretty sure he has paid the girl downstairs money for oral ...

A. 16 March 2007: Go by your gut feeling, you obviously have your suspicions. He sounds like a loser to me so I would definitely get rid! What makes you think he paid the girl downstairs for oral sex? Eve... (read in full...)

I have a very negative self image and can't bear to look at myself in a mirror.

Q. I am 18, at uni and fed up! I've only had one boyfriend (being single at the moment) and he constantly pressured me for sex, which at the time I was not prepared to give him. I have a very negative self-image (can't bear to catch sight of myself i...

A. 16 March 2007: You need to think positive and feel more confident about yourself. Go to a gym and firm up, cut down on what you eat and leave out all the junk and fats. Take up a sport, go running, cycling, swimming or something you enjoy doing. Everyone is ... (read in full...)

Should I trust him or do you think he and his wife are back together?

Q. Dear Cupid: I've been seeing this gentleman for 1 and 1/2 years now. At first he pursued me day and night. After about 10 months down the relationship, he tells me that he and his first wife are now friends. He says that the kids think that they ...

A. 16 March 2007: How old are you? If you're between the ages of 10-12 then I'd say forget him NOW!!!!! Eve... (read in full...)

Should I trust him or do you think he and his wife are back together?

A. 16 March 2007: I wouldn't call him again until he calls you. Since his ex came back on the scene he seems to have cooled with you a bit. Play hard to get, let him see by you NOT calling him that you have a life besides him and you're not as crazy on him as he ... (read in full...)

Any tips on how to ask this girl I like so much, out?

Q. OK heres the story.... I like this short blonde girl at my school..she is an animal freak like me *no we are not nerds...* But I like her so much it's not even funny and I have not had a true girlfriend before and I'm afraid to ask her out but my ...

A. 16 March 2007: Why don't you ask her if she wants to go to the local cat and dog home with you. Let her know you've always fancied going and just never got round to it, or you could ask her if she fancies hanging out at the weekend, you could go to the mall or ... (read in full...)

What should I do? The last thing I ever want to do is be untrue or hurt my wife.

Q. I have been with married for 4 years and together for 8 years. I love my wife, but she can be very selfish and self centered. I have a female friend at work that is on the verge of a divorce. I have been her shoulder to lean on, because she...

A. 16 March 2007: Your wife doesn't seem very selfish and self centred to me. I don't think a lot of wives would be so trusting of their husband to take another woman out to dinner. You are starting to see the danger signals so I would back off from this woman a ... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time and energy giving my love to someone who will never return it the way I want?

Q. I have known "my boy" for 20+ years. We grew up together, our parents were friends, etc. I moved away for 13 years, and when I came back I fell for him, as he did for me. He is married and has three children, but only stays in the relationsh...

A. 16 March 2007: The best thing to do is give him some space. This man may have been "your boy" in the past but he is married now with 3 children and you have turned his world upside down. Give him some space and time away from you to get his head together then ... (read in full...)

My partner will not marry me until both my parents and her parents are gonna give us their blessings.

Q. My partner will not marry me until both my parents and her parents are gonna give us their blessings, what can i do? I know it is difficult for us both and she has said that she feels she is a burden and that maybe it is fate that is making them not ...

A. 16 March 2007: You are both adults and should be able to marry with or without your parents' consent. Yes, it would be nice if they gave you both their blessing but you could be waiting years if at all for this to happen. In the meantime I would try to prove ... (read in full...)

When a guy meets a girl off the internet for the first time, where should he take her?

Q. When a guy meets a girl off the internet for the first time, where should he take her?...

A. 15 March 2007: Take her somewhere with a nice atmosphere with people around where you can have a drink and talk, maybe a meal afterwards if everything goes well. You'll be able to see if the chemistry is there between you both and see whether you both feel ... (read in full...)

Is it a normal guy thing to get a thrill out of being able to subjugate many women?

Q. Is it a normal guy thing to get a thrill out of being able to subjugate many women? ...

A. 15 March 2007: Men who subjugate (intimidate or put down) women all the time are usually very insecure and this is one way they can feel powerful. It's not only distasteful but shows them up as being chauvenistic, shallow, arrogant and immature. If you try to ... (read in full...)

We met online, met up and got on great but I'm scared it's going to end up like past relationships and I really don't want to lose this one.

Q. In a nutshell, met this guy on line. We met up, instantly attracted to each other. We both feel the same about this and want it to work but i am getting scared that its all going to end like it has in the past. I have never felt how i do for him, ...

A. 15 March 2007: You have to remember that every man is different. All that's lacking here is confidence on your part. You need to believe in yourself more and tell yourself that you are a beautiful unique woman and this man is lucky to have met you. Boost your ... (read in full...)

We met online, met up and got on great but I'm scared it's going to end up like past relationships and I really don't want to lose this one.

My partner will not marry me until both my parents and her parents are gonna give us their blessings.

A. 15 March 2007: Are you the same person who wrote this question below? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-she-not-want-to-have-sex.html What is the problem with both sets of parents? How old are you and your girlfriend? Why aren't both your parent's... (read in full...)

Why does she not want to have sex with me any more? Is it religion?

Q. My girlfriend and I havent had sex since August, what happened was we went away for the Notting Hill carnival in London in August bank Holiday and had a great time, once we came back she was baptised and ever since then we have not had sex or ...

A. 15 March 2007: Is she a religious person? It may be that now, because she's been baptised she sees sex before marriage as taboo but you need to ask her about it. You've been together for a fairly long time so you should feel comfortable enough to ask. If it is ... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem to want anything to do with me sexually any more, I'm hurt and confused...

Q. "Please help me. He is older with a low sex drive" I am 27 yrs old. I have been in a relationship with this man for 6 1/2 months or so. He is 36 years old. He use to be addicted to pain pills so he got on Methadone. He says it decreases his sex ...

A. 15 March 2007: It could be the Methadone that is causing his problem then. He's to be commended on wanting to get off the pills so let him know you admire him for doing that. Don't keep going on at him about the sex side of things as this will only add more ... (read in full...)

He doesn't seem interested in sex any more and is not on a course of anti-depressants. What can I do to help him?

Q. My husband has been depressed since the end of last summer. Up to about Xmas our sex life was fine but now things have gone really down hill as he is no longer interested and does not want to discuss it and I feel as if I am putting more pressure ...

A. 15 March 2007: Do you know what is making him feel depressed? Have you spoken to him about how he's feeling? If he's feeling depressed and you push him for sex then you're only adding more pressure. I would forget about sex with him just now and concentrate on ... (read in full...)

How do I keep myself under control without jeopardising our friendship?

Q. hi all, need your advice my husband and I have the same group of friends as we have been together for 12 years, we either all go out as a group or depending on events/shows etc, sometimes a couple of us go out on our own. The thing is though, ...

A. 15 March 2007: If you continue allowing yourself to feel like this then it's only a matter of time before something happens between you both and that is NOT being fair to your husband. He trusts you so respect him more. Think of it this way... You have a mind, ... (read in full...)

What sort of things could I do to him to spice up our sex life?

Q. message for you GUYS: What do you prefer in the way of sex acts? I want to give my boyfriend a night to remember and he told me he was bored of dominating me, and would find it really sexy if I could do something for him... ...

A. 15 March 2007: Jeeeeze, I just saw how old you are. It might be better you forget about the things I suggested and wait a few years. You are too young to have sex at your age and it's against the law too! I don't know how old your boyfriend is but he could get ... (read in full...)

What sort of things could I do to him to spice up our sex life?

A. 15 March 2007: Then why don't you switch roles and YOU be the dominant one and let him be in submission to you? Blindfold him and do things to him that he least expects. Use ice to touch him in his sensitive spots. Have some role play, you wear a basque and ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)

My husband of 2 months doesn't seem to have time for me any more, what can I do about it?

Q. My husband and I have been married for a couple of months now and already our relationship is in the pits. I feel so neglected. We have a child together but I don't know if I can stay with him anymore. He is always on the phone with his friends, he ...

A. 15 March 2007: You need to talk to him and let him know exactly how you're feeling. It may be that he's feeling a bit left out because you're having to spend a lot of time with your daughter. Tell him you miss him and feel invisible! Let him know you feel ... (read in full...)

I am planning to break up with him because of his porn habits. What is the best way to do this?

Q. hi, im 21 my bf is 27, we have been together 3 years and we live together, the situation is that over the 3 years we have been together he keeps looking at porn, in one month I found evidence of him getting off to porn over 20 times while i was at ...

A. 15 March 2007: Let him know you KNOW he watches porn and gets aroused easily by it so the excuse he has a low libido doesn't wear with you. Give him an ultimatum and tell him either the porn goes or HE DOES! Her are a couple of links that will help you with that ... (read in full...)

I am 16, my fiancee is 15, we've been together since we were 6 and want to get married as soon as possible!

Q. i am 16 years old. my fiancee is 15 and we have been together since we were 6. i want to get around the parental thing so that we can get married asap!! is there any possible way i can get around that??...

A. 15 March 2007: Here is a link regarding the legal age of marriage in the USA. http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm Eve... (read in full...)

I am 16, my fiancee is 15, we've been together since we were 6 and want to get married as soon as possible!

A. 15 March 2007: You are both far too young to be married I'm afraid. What's the big rush????? I have no idea the legal age for marriage in USA but in the UK you can be married at 16 WITH the consent of a parent or guardian. Don't rush into marriage, it brings ... (read in full...)

Am I being a hypocrite???

Q. Dear Cupid am I being a hypocrite? I am 19 years old and dating a 45 year old man (3 wonderful weeks). Our relationship is very healthy and happy and wonderful and I couldn't ask for better. My younger cousin Elise is 18 and has been dating ...

A. 15 March 2007: You are very much a hypocrite I'm afraid! You are technically only a few months older than your cousin and she will be the same age as you in a few months. You're dating a man 24 years your senior yet you condemn your cousin for dating someone 8 ... (read in full...)

I know the saying "opposites attract" but can people with very similar things in common attract too?

Q. I heard some where once that opposites attract. Well I’ve become really good friends with a girl recently and she’s the only person in the world that I’ve met that is similar to me, we share viewpoints and we conclude things the same. We have d...

A. 15 March 2007: I would say definitely YES, people with similar tastes do attract, even more so than opposites! As you rightly said, although you have a lot of things in common, you still have different taste in other things. My husband is a psychologist and I ... (read in full...)

He chatted to this girl on the net, we live together and I can't get over it!

Q. I happened to look at my bf's laptop yesterday and saw a chat with some girl (he saisd she was some random girl who added him to her contact list), HE initiated the chat, asked her if she had a webcam, she said she was sorry she didn't. Then they ...

A. 15 March 2007: The problem is simple! BOTH OF YOU GET OFF THESE CHAT SITES! Why are you both chatting to other people online when you could be spending time together? The computer is robbing you both of spending quality time together. Both of you have been ... (read in full...)

Can I take an injunction out to stop my ex harassing my wife and I?

Q. I was a prize idiot, and cheated on my wife with an ex. It meant nothing, I've felt awful ever since, and since I told my wife about it, fortunately she appears to be giving us a chance to work it out. However, the ex is a bit of a nutter (has ma...

A. 15 March 2007: The easiest way to go about this is either to change your phone number or call the operator and have her number blocked. Regarding her emailing your wife, she can also block her emails from coming through, either that or change her email address. ... (read in full...)

I'm so confused and just don't know what to do, please help me decide!

Q. Dear Listener, Sorry if this is kind of long but i'm in distress. I am in such a dilemma right now and need someone's help. Two weeks ago i celebrated my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has had relationships in his pas...

A. 15 March 2007: I think it's commendable that your boyfriend has been truthful with you. His first and worst encounter was only 1 and a half months into the relationship yet he stopped and didn't let it carry on. As time's went on and your relationship has grown ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has asked to meet me and said that it was bad. I'm terrified in case he wants to break up with me!

Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now. we were getting on fine and then this afternoon he rang and said that he needed to speak to me face to face and that it was bad. when i asked him if he was going to break up with ...

A. 15 March 2007: Have you cheated on him? Is there anything else you can think of that he could be angry about? Go expecting the worst, it may well be he's thinking of finishing things and if that's the case then you must be strong. Ask him for an explanation as ... (read in full...)

Any ideas what I can say to start a conversation up with her?

Q. i find it so hard to start a conversation with the girl i fancy. i promised myself today i would talk to her at school. she was looking so pretty it put me off my task! it's awkward sayin hi because we dont talk much. any ideas to start a conversa...

A. 15 March 2007: Here are some openers for you... 1. What do you like to do at weekends? 2. Where in the world would you most like to visit? 3. Are you interested in sport... if so what sport? 4. What do you look for in your ideal partner? 5. What r... (read in full...)

I'm still crazy on her! Do I get over her or give it another go?

Q. i get this weird feeling when i see this girl at school talk to another boy. it kills my insides in jealousy if she smiles at them! i really like her but it's impossible to say somethin to her because she rejected me a few months ago, she still ta...

A. 15 March 2007: If she rejected you a few months ago then it's too soon to try again with her. Does she know when she talks to you online that you're the same person she rejected? I would stop talking to her online for a bit as this isn't helping things. Find ... (read in full...)

I'm worried I'm too young and I'm worried in case I get pregnant. What will I do?

Q. Right, ok, i'm 13, and I've done everything with a guy but sex, i've recently met this great guy, who i really like, he is a year older than me, and hasn't been that far with a girl. We have both talked about having sex,and we have both have said ...

A. 15 March 2007: What do you do? You wait until you are 16 of course. Don't get involved in all that emotional hassle so young, you're body hasn't even fully developed yet so enjoy being a kid for now... yes, that IS what you are, like it or not, besides, it's ... (read in full...)

How or what should I talk to him about?! I really get the feeling he likes me, and that he is shy as well!

Q. I just got out of a 3 and a half year relationship a month ago. I am so over it! SO! There is a new guy at work, and he is very cute and sweet. I am 21 and he is 27. Age doesnt matter, but it is making me even more shy than I usually am to someone ...

A. 15 March 2007: Here are some openers for you... 1. What do you like to do when you're not working? 2. Where in the world would you most like to visit? 3. Are you interested in sport... if so what sport? 4. What do you look for in your ideal partner? ... (read in full...)

I had an argument with my aunt, now my family are all against me!

Q. Okay, So this weekend was a big family blow out... We went to my aunts house for her b-day... And right as my aunt was opening her presents, my other aunt, (danielle) Well, she and I was having a disagreement, and I was just trying to tell h...

A. 15 March 2007: Go round to each and every one of your family with a copy of the email you sent to her SHOWING them that you apologised to her and she's blown it all out of proportion now. Let them know you did nothing wrong and even sent the email as way of an ... (read in full...)

Does my neighbour only see me as a friend? He never DID get back to me about that cinema date!

Q. I really fancy my next door neighbour, he approaches me whenever i see him, always offers to do jobs for me and even asked me to the cinema once. I have since asked him when we are going and he said he would get back to me about it. He never did but ...

A. 15 March 2007: Next time he asks to do a job for you ask him if he'd like a coffee afterwards and get to know him better. Try and build up a friendship before anything more. Once he feels more comfortable talking to you then he'll ask you to go see that movie, ... (read in full...)

Should i push it or give him more time??

Q. I have started seeing my tutor at college, I am a mature student so there isnt a big age gap. The problem is i think i have fallen for him but i dont know if he feels the same way. We see each other once a week, usually on a saturday night and spend ...

A. 15 March 2007: See him without sleeping with him, see if THAT makes a difference. If you are sleeping with him then he's taking advantage of you. Slow things down considerably and see if he's still as interested, I feel as if you're just a release for him, sorry ... (read in full...)

Why does he seem so resentful of me even now given that it was him that broke it off with me?

Q. I know my ex and I treated each other badly but I need some pyschology as to WHY certain things happened. My ex, who has had a brain condition since birth, broke up with me several months ago after 3 months together. We had known each years...

A. 15 March 2007: He was with his ex a long time and personally I think you were a rebound relationship for him. You should both have remained friends for the time being. Too much has happened too fast with him. Having sex too with you was much too fast for him ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)