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writes:Right, ok, i'm 13, and I've done everything with a guy but sex, i've recently met this great guy, who i really like, he is a year older than me, and hasn't been that far with a girl. We have both talked about having sex,and we have both have said that we are ready for it, now I am ready to have sex, but I am worried that i'm a bit too young, and am worried about getting pregnant. What shall i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, x.Helpful.Cupid.x +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Hi..
OMG girl, your 13, & i bet your not ready, so basicly your just agreeing because you think your "in love" well your not, & you havent learned enough about sex, STI'S, responsibility, babies, parenting..so just DONT ok.
I mean, i cant tell you what to do, but it would be stupid to do it, get pregnant at 13 & have to handle it.
just do what you feel is right, but i advise you to NOT do it.
Good luck anyway x
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reader, doodle_dudette +, writes (15 March 2007):
DONT do it! I'm 15 and I haven't. Me and my boyfriend have been together over a yaer. If he has never had sex, don't, he doesn't know what it is like so he cant be upset if you don't. He has no experience so he is not going to go looking for it. I think you should wait until you are at least 16 and also before you have sex talk, plan contraception ask a doctor. Your body is still developing, you're not ready for it. If you have doubts and worries than that's your body, brain and heart telling you its not good. There is no rush, if you don't do it you can't regret it and as you say you've done other stuff just stick to that. Personally I'm surprised you've done so much at such a young age, love is not about sex it's about being together.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (15 March 2007):
 What do you do? You wait until you are 16 of course. Don't get involved in all that emotional hassle so young, you're body hasn't even fully developed yet so enjoy being a kid for now... yes, that IS what you are, like it or not, besides, it's illegal for you AND your boyfriend! Stick to your studies and enjoy growing up. Too many young ones are growing up way too fast today, get out there, ride your bike, play with your friends, experiment with make up and leave the sex to the grown ups!
Eve
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reader, perkypanda  +, writes (14 March 2007):
Almost everyone I know regrets their first time and wishes they had waited, even if they were much older than you.You also mentioned you "really like" this guy, but you didn't say love. No one should do something this memorable unless it's like someone they really love. You are worried about pregnancy, it would be a lot harder if you care little for the father.Also, they tell you about pregnancy and diseases, but there are so many emotional problems that having sex can cause. It's something you can live without for a few years.Make sure you do use full protect if you do decide to do it.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Sex is a nice idea at 13 because you think it will bring you closer to a guy and ensure that you're together forever but the reality is nearly always different. Girls who start having sex earlier are more likely to gain a reputation as a slut, break up with their boyfriends, get pregnant or a disease and are also more likely to get cervical cancer than someone who waits until their cervix is fully formed before having sex (around 17) Guys your age, however nice they might seem, can't be trusted to keep their mouths shut about sex either. You could become the talk of the school in no time at all. There are so many other ways to show each other that you love each other without rushing for the finishing post and it's obvious that the consequences of sex are much more extreme for a girl than a guy at this age. However if you do decide to go against the advice then visit your doctor asap for contraception advice to prevent yourself from becoming pregnant or catching something nasty.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): You should not have sex with him, no matter how much you like him! You say you're worried that you're too young (13 IS much too young - 16 is the legal age) and worried about getting pregnant.You need to listen to those worries! Getting pregnant is a real possibility, and you don't need to be having a baby at 13, nor even at 16, 17 or 18. You should be involved in your school work and activities with your friends. How would you feel if you do have sex with this boy and then a short time later he drops you? Teenage boys get obsessive about sex, and typically don't want to stay with any one girl very long. That's the "nature of the beast" at their age.And what about you? You would feel hurt, no, devastated, and might have to face the prospect of carrying a baby that your body is not ready for, physically, NOR emotionally.Don't have sex with him!
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reader, Farris +, writes (14 March 2007):
 At 13 it's ILLEGAL to have sex, so YES YOU ARE TOO YOUNG.
If you're worried that you're too young, then you probably are too young; legal or not. Also if you're worried about getting pregnant then you seriously need to look into contraception and general sex education. If you really don't think you could handle the consequences if you got pregnant, then you really shouldn't be having sex.
There are many ways which you can be intimate with a guy that doesn't involve sex, and often can be JUST as enjoyable.
Best wishes.
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