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My friend is seriously depressed! How can I help?
Q. This is a very complicated problem, but I'll try to be as concise as I can. My best friend has been very depressed recently--to the point of severe depression, and I don't know what to do. The cause of her depression is the fear of change...
A. 8 September 2008: well as far as getting over her fear of change help her to change something little in her life that wont have as much Significance as somthing big. and then a week later you can go back and point it out to her, like hey you changed this and that ... (read in full...)
How important are your school friends / your popularity at school?
Q. I am 15 at the moment. How important are your school friends/ your popularity at school? I have lots of friends at school and am sort of friends with everyone, yet I don't seem to really fit in anywhere? I am never inivited to particular gro...
A. 31 August 2008: im 29 and I can count on one hand how many of the 30 some odd friends that I had in high school that I still keep in touch with. Once you graduate you'll go off to your college and them to thiers. Before you know it you have your bachlers in a field ... (read in full...)
I cannot understand why he wants to keep me in the background when he preferred his wife?
Q. Ok, I'm back with another question...how do I get him to stop calling and texting me without changing my number. I accepted the fact that he went back to his wife and am glad he did so because that's not what I want. I'm trying to move on again ...
A. 31 August 2008: You need to set him straight and tell him flat out. I dont want to see or talk to you again, unless you have divorce papers in your hand ready to show them to me. Otherswise Get lost. I want either all of you or none of you I WON'T take just half of ... (read in full...)
My friend is seriously depressed! How can I help?
Q. This is a very complicated problem, but I'll try to be as concise as I can. My best friend has been very depressed recently--to the point of severe depression, and I don't know what to do. The cause of her depression is the fear of change...
A. 31 August 2008: It sounds like to me that your friend needs to go see a profecional about depression(a very serious problem if it gets out of hand). She might also need some counsling with a phsycologist or a theropist. But you cant put your life on hold. Tell your ... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 25 August 2008: This is the first time I read this page and I do have to say I am putting it on my watch list. BigSis those are some funny comments. Keep up the good work. ... (read in full...)
The only way my wife can climax is by "woman on top" or by touching herself, a problem she had in her previous marriage. What can I do?
Q. My wife and i have a great sex life and we realy enjoy trying new positions. The one thing is that i am unable to make my wife cum whether it be lying on top / using my fingers or oraly. The only way she can cum is if she is on top of me and ...
A. 25 August 2008: Just talk to her and tell her that you would like to be able to please her from ohter angles and if she says that you dothen you do so dont worry. I can tell you i have to be either on top or with clitoral stimulaton myself so dont feel as if your ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend never touch me in bed? Is he the type that waits for the woman to initiate?
Q. I have known my friend for a year and we have seen each other socially, on and off. On about four different occasions when I stayed over at his place he wanted me to share his bed, but he doesn't kiss me, except lightly on my lips to say goodnight ...
A. 25 August 2008: Text time your over there. try the cuddleing thing and then if he responds then Give him a passsionet kiss and see how well he responds he might think that you just look at him as a really good friend and if he makes a move on you then he could ruin ... (read in full...)
What can I do for this guy I like to open up more to me? He is my e-mail friend.
Q. I'm friends by email with this guy who btw is military (Air force). We met in person a while back in one of his missions. We flirted and I could sensed he liked me btw he looked at me and flirted with me. We actually treated like if he knew from lon...
A. 25 August 2008: just send him one e-mail and the only thing you put in the e-mail is " When is your Birthday?" and try to get him to call you and you can just ask him in person. Send him a phone card so he has no excuse why he cant call you when he is on leave ... (read in full...)
I'm getting no response from him, why?
Q. During university, i had a connection with 1 certain person. we became friends, however, i made sure nothing happened between as i wanted it to mean a lot more as we both knew we had a special connection. anyway, nothing happened, we both left ...
A. 24 August 2008: Sounds like mabie you were just afling for the night I would move on and if he contacts you then make him give chase to be able to meet with you again. men like to chase woman if gives then a challange.... (read in full...)
Should I masurbate or will it affect my health?
Q. HI all, i want ask that can i masturbate ? i'm 22. i masturbate every week after watching some porn. i never had sex with any girl. will this effect my health or not. some time i'm curious. i'm 22 170cm and my weight is 65 KG ? please guide m...
A. 24 August 2008: Your ok you could probably increase to a couple of times a week and it would be OK. Most men your age do about 2 to 3 times a week with out having a partner or some even with a partner. I know I do on a regular basis and im married but hey if your ... (read in full...)
I don't have any other symptoms other than being EXTREMELY emotional. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I take birth control, and when I went to refill my Rx, there was a problem with it so i picked it up a few days late. I took two the first day I got it, two the next day. Then I realized I had taken one too many so I didnt take one for a day. Now Im ...
A. 24 August 2008: If you are at all concwerned you need to either take a test or see your doctor. If you are that emotional mabie your on the wrong birthcontrol. but definetly go see a doctor either way.... (read in full...)
I can't keep up with my boyfriend in the bedroom.
Q. soo me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 2 year now and to be honest hes SEX CRAZY we have sex 26 days of the month! we only dont for 4 because its my time of the month, weve been secually active for about 8 months now! and yeah its ...
A. 24 August 2008: You should be greatful that he wants to have sex with you. As far as keeping up you could try taking a womens daily vitamin. It could help boost your energy levals.... (read in full...)
My friend saw me kissing my boyfriend at the bus stop last night ... but I was at my sister's house all night. Could he be cheating?
Q. Hey Well..!! basicly! im mega mega pissed off with my so called boyfriend and really dont know what to do! right so last night i was stayin at my sisters and my boyfriend phoned me askin if i wanted to go n meet him so i said i couldnt cos i wa...
A. 24 August 2008: It sounds as if you need to tell this guy to getnd dont bother with finding his way back Cause you wont be there.
Girl I can tell you one thing if this has happened at all in a relationship then find another boyfriend who will be faithfull. I know... (read in full...)
My parents won't let me date at 16. How can I get them to loosen up?
Q. Ok, Im sixteen but I cannot date. So do any of you guys have a idea of what I could say to persuade my parents otherwise?...
A. 24 August 2008: If your parents feel that you are not mature enough to date then you should abide by there wishes. When they feel that you are mature enough they will let you know. Talk to your mom and dad. Show them how much you have grown up do you get good ... (read in full...)
Does my husband want to live like a real couple? He's in another country...
Q. we are together more than 6 years i met him somewhere in indonesia i am western. i bring him to my country 1 and a half year ago and we married but no job for him there because of the language. we started fighting until the day my mother told him to ...
A. 23 August 2008: I agree with the first guy Danielepew, he is so right and I couldnt have said it better myself.... (read in full...)
How do I get that loving feeling back into my marriage of only 2 months?
Q. How do I get the dating feeling back into my marriage? I have only been married for 2 months. But I want that loving feeling like what we had when we were dating back. I know things change after you get married but I didn't think it would come ...
A. 22 August 2008: You need to first open up the lines of communication again it sounds as if one of you have closed them. Talk to him about how you feel. Tell him that you need to set aside atlest one nite a week when you and him can just take that time for just you ... (read in full...)
Can I have a relationship with my father's step brother?
Q. hi i know my question is stupid but i can't tell anyone. can i have a relationship with my father's step brother? he's not from our family he's just the son of my grandmother's new husband. we're so attracted to eachother but i don't know.. is he...
A. 22 August 2008: You are NOT blood related so go for it. basicly you are only related by marriage and arnt related at all.
Go for it your over 18 and hopefully he is also. Who cares what other people think. They will learn to accept it cause it makes you happ... (read in full...)
My cervix feels a bit off center. Is this normal?
Q. when i put my fingers in my vagina i can feel my cervix. Its not directly in the middle its more towards the left if i reach in. Is this normal? thanks...
A. 22 August 2008: yes this is normal. I think its like 75% of all women have a tilted cervix. they wont even know unless there doctor tells them or if they ask. I learned this when I would assist the dr I used work for, He told just about all his patients if theres ... (read in full...)
My partner is undermining my self confidence. Can he possibly love me?
Q. Help! I'm lacking in self confidence and my partner has started making me even more insecure about myself. When we first met over 4 1/2 years ago, I was a size 10/12 ,my hair was shoulder length and I wore glasses and at the time felt quite confi...
A. 22 August 2008: Talk to your family let them know your intentions and if they can help you threw it. Leave him be shure you take the child with you. Go to your parents or a trusted friend. Either way you need to get out of that relationship. Its not healthy to b... (read in full...)
Is it bad that we are having oral sex at our age?
Q. Me and my Girlfriend have been dating for about...5 months now, and the other day she gave me Oral, we were both fine with it, we didn't feel bad or anything. Is it bad that at my age I'm having oral sex? We've both discussed actual Sexual In...
A. 19 August 2008: I was 18 before I had sex of any kind, even then I dont know if I was ready. When your ready is realy up to you, and your partner. Just remember that if she backs out and and decides not to do it that means NO and dont push her. she will respect ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure and I don't feel like I'm good enough for my new boyfriend.
Q. I constantly worry about my bf breaking up with me. Im 19 years old and havent yet had a 'successful' relationship. I know im young but I feel like there must be something wrong with me because my first bf was emotionally, physically and sexually ...
A. 19 August 2008: First you need to tell him your concernes, never hide anything all it does it make things worse he will love you more for being honest. Second It sounds like you need some counsling to deal with the way the other men treated you.
Also mabie some... (read in full...)
We are first cousins, and I was told there's a huge possibility that we would have abnormal babies. Is this true?
Q. Hi dear, I am in trouble and if anyone knows about this can you please reply to me back as soon as you can. My problem is that someone told me few days ago that if we marry our cousin (kids of two sisters) there is a huge possibility that we ...
A. 19 August 2008: I have a friend and she and her husband are first cousins and they have three beutiful children 1 girl and two boys. oh and she is preg with there 4th child a boy also. All of her children are normal. I do agree with the first responce thow, all of ... (read in full...)
Why does my less attractive friend get all the girls?
Q. Why is it that everytime we go out clubbin, my less atrractive overweight friend gets the girls at the end? Sure he settles for lesser than what I would but its not my standards thats the problem. Its happening continually. Im not a bad looking guy ...
A. 19 August 2008: Your still young with age comes experience. Trial and error like the rest of us. Mabie your looking in the wrong place for girls. Stop looking and trying so hard. The right girl will come along when you least exspect it. let me give you an ... (read in full...)
The sex with my new girlfriend is not as good as the sex I had with my ex... What do I do?
Q. im very happy with this new girl im with. i trust her. we communicate very well and we arent bored with each other. but the only problem is the sex. im happy with the oral but the few times we had sex. its not as good as my other sex life i had. in ...
A. 19 August 2008: yes I do understand and If you are not physicaly attracted to her when it comes to sex then you need to move on because if your not then you will be more inclined to cheat later on even if you dont want to now. Its not fair to her for you to feel ... (read in full...)
My gut tells me something is up, but I'm don't want to make a fool of myself.
Q. I'm confused my boyfriend was living with me we had just gotten back together and this past week he went to stay at his sisters while she was away and watch his nephew. Well since he's left he's hardly called only late at night and is kind of iffy ...
A. 18 August 2008: If its only five minuits away jsut go over there and help him he is probley so tied up with playing fill in parent he dont think about anything else until the kids in bed.
take some games over there that you know the kid might like.
let him know... (read in full...)
The sex with my new girlfriend is not as good as the sex I had with my ex... What do I do?
Q. im very happy with this new girl im with. i trust her. we communicate very well and we arent bored with each other. but the only problem is the sex. im happy with the oral but the few times we had sex. its not as good as my other sex life i had. in ...
A. 18 August 2008: You need to teach her how you like it so she can make you happy. watcha a porno together or something. The only way she is going to be able to please you is if you tell her how you like it. I have to tell my husband how i Like it. Women are not mind ... (read in full...)
How can I find out his blood group? We need to know who our dad is!
Q. Hi, about ten years ago which was two years after my dad died, my mum kept dropping big hints about my dad may not be my real dad, this was a total shock.( i never thought for one second that could ever be as i can see some resemblance) The hints we...
A. 18 August 2008: the only way to know for shure is with a DNA test. Next time you are around him pull out a couple of his hears claiming that you thought it was a wild hair. Take it to a lab and get it tested against your own. It will probable cost you about 3 or 4 ... (read in full...)
The man I love won't leave his fiancee like he said he would, does he really love me?
Q. Hi everybody please dont judge me too soon as i already feel very guilty. I was previously in a relationship and split up since then I have met up with a friend of ours. We are instantly attracted to each other and couldnt help ourselves from having ...
A. 18 August 2008: Well you have gotten yourself into a pickle. Ives her he would basicly have to split everything just as if they were married once you have bought something with a person it is half yours. It sounds like to me that he is trying to keep from having to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hit me, but now threatens to kill himself if I leave him. Help!
Q. My bf and I get on good normally bt when we argue.. WE ARGUE.. we shout scream evrything but today he punched me.. I was in complete hysterics and tried to leave but he locked me in and I eventually managed to leave when his mate came in. He phoned ...
A. 18 August 2008: Pack your stuff and leave go to your parents house of a trusted friend that can help. hell go to the police and tell them about him hitting you, that way if he trys to come after you, you call the cops and they already know its domestic violence he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't do anything, and I'm the one providing for him - do I drop him or ride it out?
Q. ok this might be a hard one for anyone to answer.i went out with someone from h a (hells angels) and i was due my tattoo.in the mean time i met some1 else and took my time to dump my h a partner cuz the fort is only down the road where i live. m...
A. 18 August 2008: I agree dont suport him he needs to either get a job or get out. He is a grown man, not a child. tell him on monday to get off his keyster and get out and find a job or pack your stuff and leave. point blank.... (read in full...)
What is going on? Did he have a change of heart?
Q. Hi! oaky there is this man that has been in my life for 13 years, about 6 years ago he tells me that he wants to settle down with me and I run. Well we got in touch with each in the last year and there were some changes in his life (he was engaged,...
A. 18 August 2008: well it sounds e that the other woman might be back in his life. I deffinetly would not rule that out. Also he might still be enganged to her and just wanted one last fling before they get married. you deffinetly need to get to the bottom of his ... (read in full...)
Confused about sexual feelings for older male cousin. Help?
Q. I recently started dating my cousin [first cousin, once removed. btw], like a little over a month ago. But my problem is that even though he's not around [different state], I feel as though I wanna have sex with him. But even if he was around, w...
A. 17 August 2008: Ok first of all dont listen to that idiot anonymous who sayed go ahead and have sex. Just cause you want to dont mean your body is Phisicaly ready. These feelings are normal I remember having feelings like those about male cousin of mine but nothing ... (read in full...)
He crosses the limits and I do not know how to tell him NO!
Q. i think my bf is controlling me because whenever we make out or something he always gets his way. i dont want to break up with him but i dont know how i can say no. i dont mind him touching me over my clothes but sometimes he goes underneath. he d...
A. 17 August 2008: Next tiem you tell him NO and he does it anyway KNOCK THE FIRE out of him to get his attention and when he asks you what was that for just Tell him NO MEANS NO. Thats it and remove yourself from the sittuation if your on the couch then you move to ... (read in full...)
How can I be more romatic so she thinks that I love her and care?
Q. I have a a girlfriend that I adore but we argue all the time about me yelling at her and that I don't pay attention. How can I be more romatic so she thinks that i love her and care. We have been off and on for a year and i Still don't understand ...
A. 17 August 2008: First of all you should never yell at her if you are and second of all if she is telling you that you dont pay attention to her then you probley dont. You may not realize it but she is telling you cause she cares and dont want it to end. I am having ... (read in full...)
How do I get my life back when these men stole it from me?
Q. Im struggling. Im 18 and a sxual assult victum. Was raped at 6 and touched up by mumz ex at 13 i have been a mess since. I just want my life back. These men stole it from me and they dont get jail time or nufin how is that justice? How can i look a ...
A. 17 August 2008: I couldn't have said it better myself. You do need to talk to someone about what happened, Go to counsling or something. I will deffinetly keep you in my prayers if you like.
Take care and God Bless... (read in full...)
I want to try doggie style but I don't want him to see my butt hole!
Q. so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 1 and 1/2 years now. were pretty sexually active, but not too much. when we do things in bed, i want them to be good for him, and me too. dont get me wrong, they are good. theyre great. but i just wonder ...
A. 17 August 2008: Trust me he wont be woried about looking at your butthole. Guys love the doggy style anyway because they can see ther penis going into and out of you so trust me when I say wont be consentrated on your butt hole. Yes he will probley see it but wont ... (read in full...)
I am so angry at my husband about the way he is with MONEY!
Q. What do I do when my husband has money in his pocket from his paycheck but uses the money from my paycheck to by things or to eat out from our joint account. This Iritates me to no end. I have already told him that it bothers me but still he does it ...
A. 17 August 2008: thank you both for your excelant insite. I did do something a little difrant about his using the joint acount for them to eat. when I called and told him what I wanted to eat i told him since you used the acount for ya'll to eat then YOU can pay ... (read in full...)
Does a blow job involve blowing? I'm confused....
Q. This may sound stupid but what's a blowjob and how do i do it? I have sucked my man and had him cum in my mouth,is a blow job different? Does it involve blowing? Im so confused! X...
A. 17 August 2008: No its you do not blow on it, But sucking is done. My husband Loves it. To tell you the truth unless there gay and have actually given a blow job before men really dont know how its done, they just know what they like when we do it. Also Im going to ... (read in full...)
Go to counseling, deal with it or run?
Q. So, I've been with my now fiance for 2 yrs we've lived 2gthr 4 a while. He's caring and says that he wouldn't leave me and hasn't cheated. Problem is recently I found out he was dating his ex two months after we were "offical"! W...
A. 16 August 2008: Kick his A$$ to the curb and dont look back and dont worry about him hill probley go find somebody else he can smook off of.... (read in full...)
I really need some advice about my husband who has not worked in a almost a year.
Q. i really need some advice about my husband who has not worked in a almost a year. i met him in august 2006 and we got married december 2007 after he lost all his money in the stock market. he inherited his money from his mother who passed away ...
A. 16 August 2008: I agree with lexilou she hit the nail on the head so to speak. Give him a time frame like you have ONE month to find a JOB and start bringing in MONEY or you will have no place to live, or food. Cause I Am tired of SUPPORTING your LAZY behind, and ... (read in full...)
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