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writes: Okay,So this weekend was a big family blow out... We went to my aunts house for her b-day... And right as my aunt was opening her presents, my other aunt, (danielle) Well, she and I was having a disagreement, and I was just trying to tell her how I felt.. Well, things kinda got out of hand, and she called me a bi*** and then told me that I was being disrespectful. I said, " How can you say im being disrespectful, when you just called me a bi***?" Well, I looked at everyone else, and said, " Yah know, Im here for sheila, "my other aunt, birthday girl,"... Well, Everyone both kinda look at the two of us, and I got my kids and left.. Here is where the problem is... That night, I emailed her and I actually apoligized, ( even though eveyone in my family called me later on and told me that I wasnt in the wrong, and she should have been the one to leave.. ) So, anyhow, I wrote her to tell her I was sorry, and when she replied, she was SOOOO out of control. Now, she emailed everyone in my family to tell them that she is cutting herself out of the family.. Well, now everyone is mad at me... and i wasnt even in the wrong... now everyones torn up about this, and i have no clue. And the weirdest part is this, My aunt ( the one i got in the fight with ) is older then me... like by 17 yrs.. and she does NOT act like it.. obveisly) It got so bad that my grandmnother called me crying, asking how I could do this.... Im so lost... Please someone help me.... thank u... Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (15 March 2007):
 Go round to each and every one of your family with a copy of the email you sent to her SHOWING them that you apologised to her and she's blown it all out of proportion now. Let them know you did nothing wrong and even sent the email as way of an apology. You did that because you are mature! Maybe once they see the email they'll know she's the one that making mountains out of mole hills here.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Jeez, there are evidently too many women in your family, It sounds like school! I don't know what you can do except apologise to your aunt again, keep a copy of the email you send her in case your family want to see it ( don't go out of your way to show them but have it if they ask to see it) I personally don't think you should be the one to apologise either given your account of what happened but I know that in these kinds of situations both parties make it seem like theyre in the right and your aunt may have spun events her way too. In the email you should apologise for all that was said and say you regret it and that the last thing you want is for her to cut herself out of the family since she is an important part. Then whenever anyone has a go about whats happened you tell them you've emailed for a second time to apologise and feel like your aunt needs to be the one to make the next move now. After all, she's the older one of the two of you and while I'm not implying you're immature, she's obviously SHOULD BE the more mature one. Grovel this one last time to her but if she doesn't "forgive you" then don't do it again. There's only so much you can take and from your post it seems you've been more reasonable than she deserves already. Good luck.
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