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What qualifies me to help people? Like most people, I've delved headfirst into go-nowhere relationships, fought with relatives and friends, and considered stapling post-its bearing very obscene messages to horrid bosses foreheads. Fortunately, I've come through those moments of my life as a stronger person who is now seldom rattled majorly by anything.
I work in customer service/sales at the moment, and also am carving out a literary career slowly and steadily. It's a tough career; there are a lot of proverbially starving artists out there who would gladly stab any competitor in the forehead with a stiletto for a book deal with a certain publisher. My day job is fantastic (but something of a sinecure...) and gives me a marvellous amount of thinking time, but my passion is all for the written word.
Aesthetics are important to me, and I appreciate art and architecture a great deal more than I appreciate anything else. The artists who have forever scratched their names upon my impressionable young heart are Constable, Vladimir Gusev, Pino Daeni, Etienne Piot, Jean Beraud, Soulacroix... gee, that list might actually go on long enough to form a book! To me, Beauty Is Everything! Not necesarily the beauty that is deemed "in" by the corruptive ad. executives of the world, but genuine, true beauty, which exists as much in the Pantheon as in the coquettish smiles of schoolgirls who have just fallen in love for the first time, and also in the grateful gazes of our pets as we treat them to bowls of milk and little fish treats.
I am an avid reader. If it has words, I will read it, but not necessarily like it. When it comes to literature, I am hard to please. The works of Balzac, Wilde, Goethe, Victor Hugo and Voltaire are my favourites. I do not care for modern authors any more than I care for the monstrosities that we call modern architecture.
I adore the theatre with my whole heart. There is something magical about watching a play. The atmosphere is magnetic, alive with expectation. A glance at the faces of those around you reminds you that we are all curious little children at heart :)
I believe that life is for living. There's a lot of fun to be had, and I feel sorry that people feel weighed down by life's lead-lined issues. If I can cheer up even one person, I'll be a happy girl indeed. |
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20 February 2011: Please turn your mobile phone off, take the house phone off the hook and make yourself something delicious to drink. Lock the front door, sit down somewhere comfortable and listen carefully to what I have to say to you. I am, after all, a sha...
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Am I asking for trouble if I sent naked photos of myself?
Q. okay, so recently i had a girl i know ask me to send her pictures of myself naked. i do have a great body and am not shy but refrained as i am not interested in her and dont want to give her the wrong impression. that being said i now have an urge ...
A. 23 February 2011: If you send naked pictures to the woman that you aren't interested in, oh my goodness, hell yes you'll be in for trouble! Nothing says fun to a spurned and bitter rejectee than a little photo posting on any and every social networking site! Do you ... (read in full...)
Which one, which one?
Q. There is this guy who just recently started to talk to me. I know him and used to go to school with him. He sent a Facebook message saying he missed me. I really like him but i have a boyfriend (who i never see) i love them both. Who should i pick?...
A. 23 February 2011: Excuse me, when did it become acceptable for guys to pursue us solely by Facebook messages? Tsk tsk. He could have at least called you. Seeing as he couldn't be bothered to make a serious effort to get your attention, I would stay with your ... (read in full...)
Almost 20 and still having trouble with relationships, is this abnormal?
Q. I'm almost 20 years old and I still have trouble with relationships. All through highschool I wanted to date but for some reason it never worked out! I drive myself nuts over this because the older I get I feel like I should be out more and having ...
A. 23 February 2011: No matter what anyone says, most of us have at least two jobs, at least at one point in our lives: a day job, and a romance. Both can be tricky. The major difference is that one pays you, the other one costs you, financially and emotionally ;) Both ... (read in full...)
Are men and women really that different in terms of our sexuality?
Q. Perhaps I'm wrong, but it seems to me there's a tendancy these days to want to think that men and women are identical, or close to it, in most or all respects. As an (obviously unscientific) experiment, I created both a fake male profile and a fa...
A. 23 February 2011: What a great experiment! I absolutely love it! While it is true that women enjoy sex, we're more likely to seek an emotional connection than a sexual connection. Sometimes an emotional connection overrides a sexual one. I'm not sure whether thi... (read in full...)
I really like him and don't want to give up on him, but he is 300 miles away!
Q. I know that you always hear people say the long distance relationships dont work but ive met a boy that is perfect for me but he lives in ireland, we met on saturday night on chatroulette(i know) and we havent stopped talking since, last night was ...
A. 23 February 2011: I think, between me and you, that Cupid has a drinking problem. Sometimes his aim seems veeeery off. Tsk, one arrow here, another one God only knows where. Someone get this guy into AA, pronto ;)
Don't give up on him just because your circumst... (read in full...)
I really love him but want to be strong and move on!
Q. Hello world. Beforehand, I would like to take the time to acknowledge any future responses - it means the world to me and I am forever grateful. I don't which way to put it but I am in deep distress over many aspects of this situation. I met...
A. 23 February 2011: I keep having to check your age as I read through your letter. Your maturity is quite astounding, and it seems as if you are emotionally very clever, deep and aware. The general feeling (my "gut feeling", if you will) is that he needs some time ... (read in full...)
Should I be happy that he won?
Q. I played chess with my boyfriend 3 times and I lost all of them. My boyfriend is dyslexic (although he is one very talented guy, he loves arts and plays the guitar and piano like a pro) and in school, he's placed in the last class. Me however, I'm ...
A. 21 February 2011: There's nothing wrong with you. Losing sucks. It just does. There is no fun way to lose at anything!... (read in full...)
Is this student teacher relationship normal?
Q. He's several years older than me. He's the friendly, kindhearted, sensitive type, but I think our relationship is becoming too close. I don't know and can't tell. He has a girlfriend and hasn't made any moves on me, however our conversations are a ...
A. 21 February 2011: Keep the relationship exactly as it is and it should not be an issue. It seems to me as if you are more mature than your classmates, and therefore he feels that you're "special", that you can actually engage in a proper conversation whereas people ... (read in full...)
I feel so disrespected by the way my boyfriend treats me!
Q. Hi everyone I would appreciate some advice about my boyfriend. We have been together for about a year now and I just feel so disrespected by the way he treats me.His friends ALWAYS come first, he completely ignores me sometimes when I ask him a ...
A. 21 February 2011: Sweetie, there are a million men in the world who are "sweet" and who won't belittle you, stomp on your feelings and smash up your heart for fun. There are even (GASP!) some men in the world who actually will like you.
OK, my gasp was entirely... (read in full...)
He cussed at me, I slapped him and he slapped me back!
Q. It started in the car coming from a birthday party and theres a girl that i dont really like him being around so we get back home and i say why were sitting by her in the car. Im a very jealous person. Any ways he starts geting loud and everyone ...
A. 21 February 2011: Oh, horror. I'm sorry that you were involved in such a horrible situation. I don't know you, but crazy at it seems, I can feel your misery. Your letter is steeped in it...
Firstly, nobody has a right to slap or otherwise assault someone else, be... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a relationship, I'm confused about my feelings for him...yet we're room mates who sleep together!
Q. Alright, so for the last three months i moved in with a very good guy friend. We are very good roomates and the "living together" is going on very well. We are in the same class in the university and we have the same part time job, meaning we spend ...
A. 21 February 2011: Oh gosh... what you have here is a F*ck buddy. A F*ck buddy is essentially a no-strings bedmate who is more than willing to loan you the equipment between their legs, but not their heart.
A lot of women find themselves in similar predicam... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him now that he is single?
Q. Hiya, So i am 15 years old and live at my cousins. So i really like this boy (lets call him K) who is best mates with my cousin. I have liked him for awhile and i cant stop thinking about him. Yestarday K posted on FB one of them like post...
A. 21 February 2011: A single guy is fair game to every huntress in heels who fancies a chance with him.
However, chicky, I will caution you about the overly friendly mannerisms of some guys. Really open guys are great to talk to, great to look at, and, oh God, the... (read in full...)
How can I improve my self confidence, stop worrying, and be better in school and relate better to others
Q. Hello, I am only 15 at the moment and I have a slight issue with my self confidence. I know I'm not really thin but I don't think I'm fat, I have an hourglass figure and have a little larger reir end and thighs, which is difficult to get rid of...
A. 20 February 2011: I'm going to tell you my most embarrassing memory, ever. Even more mortifying than the time I spent a few hours walking around Central Station in Melbourne (an extremely busy train station and shopping mall!) with my skirt tucked into my g-string.
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Sex...twice in one night???
Q. ok well ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and i would like to say its been great in the well bedroom but the thing is he wants to be able to have sex twice in one night and im not against the idea but i just know that whenever he finishes ...
A. 20 February 2011: The problem seems to lay with him falling asleep. Therefore the obvious solution is to keep him awake. After you're finished, you could probably ask him to get you a drink or a snack (anything to get him out of the bed/off the sofa/ out of wherever ... (read in full...)
Does he still like me? Even though it's a long time ago
Q. i'm not a confident girl at all.i just want your advice about something.i just want to know how i could possably get a particular guy to want to talk to me.something that would get him to say something first. i don't want me or him to feel unco...
A. 20 February 2011: I promise you that once you have that first conversation, you'll wonder what you were ever worried about!
In my experience, the best way to make a man approach you and start talking is to catch his eye and smile while he's near you. It's that sim... (read in full...)
I missed his call!! Do I call him back, now?
Q. Hi All, Please help!! I told my ex I loved him a week or so back by text, as I do and I miss him terribly!! Anyway, I felt a bit emabarrsed after I had said it by text, so I sent another one saying ' Sorry about the mad texts, I was feeling a bit ...
A. 20 February 2011: The Internet-age is certainly making cowardice easy! Chicky, listen to me. Are you paying attention? Listening well? OK.
Simple etiquette says that the medium through which you receive a message is the one which you should reply by. Seeing a... (read in full...)
In love with a married man...what do I do?
Q. dear cupid, I been searching a sites that can answer my problem, i know that is common problem but i dont know yet the answers. i been falling inlove with a man that is married. we been dating and no commitment for this situation. Why he dont tell...
A. 20 February 2011: Please, chicky, wake up and smell the pheromones! This man is simply using you as a place to park his penis when it's not in his pants or his wife. I'm sorry if that sounds horrible and vulgar, but there is simply no easier way for me to illustrate ... (read in full...)
Scarred by the past--how do I learn to open up?
Q. I had a child when i was 16 and the father denied the pregnancy. This whole thing affected me so badly that I find it difficult to stay in a relationship. When the person I'm with tries to get close I push them away and tell them that I'm wasting ...
A. 19 February 2011: The past is gone. It is dust, a memory that only exists now in the minds of those who are able to recall it. Knowing this, why are you letting it grab at you with those proverbial nasty black claws? It's ripping your heart and soul to shreds, ... (read in full...)
Once a cheat.....?
Q. Last year i came out of a long term relationship (i got married to the man towards the end) before i got married i met a man at work - who turned my life around! We fell completely in love! he was dating the secretary and obviously i was diue to get ...
A. 19 February 2011: If you treat him as if he is a cheater, he will probably cheat. Likewise, if you treat him in a way that suggests that he is genuine and willing to make the effort with you, there is a better chance of your relationship being harmonious.
Have ... (read in full...)
Drunken text has caused quite a strain in our relationship
Q. Look I need advice. Last Tuesday, the day after Valentine's, I had a little fight with my girlfriend. We had never fought before. I sent a stupid text while I was very drunk. She got really upset because she said I was comparing her to my ex. ...
A. 19 February 2011: It sounds as though she's preparing for a break-up, but isn't fully decided if that's what she wants. It is difficult to say without knowing what the text message said.
In future, leave your mobile phone at home if you are going to drink :)... (read in full...)
Speak up or stay quiet about this man's cheating ways
Q. I don't want criticism because I feel bad enough for what I've done. Just a simple question. If you were almost at the point of having an affair with a married man because he seemed just wonderful and made you feel wonderful too but then mutually ...
A. 19 February 2011: At the end of the day, you have no right to comment on who he chooses to share his bed with, whether or not you consider his decision to be moral. It is his life, not yours. Sometimes it's hard to take the upper road, but it's always well worth ... (read in full...)
Guy I'm seeing doesn't know who he is or what he wants., and I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. I've been in a complicated relationship with a guy. We met 3 1/2 years ago. It's been crazy and unhealthy, but I could use some help to figure this guy out. Firstly, we met and he was with someone else. I knew that. They were having a bunch of ...
A. 19 February 2011: Life is far too short to have to spend the whole lot of it babysitting somebody else!
Carrying around your own problems is heavy enough, so why would you possibly want to burden yourself, essentially doubling the weight you carry on your shoulder... (read in full...)
How do I get over all my securities? My guy says this could ruin our relationship if I can't
Q. how do i get over my insecurities? My insecurities hold me back from a lot of things as far as my relationship with my boyfriend. i feel embarrassed at times when we make love and when we partake in other intimate activities. he constantly tells me...
A. 19 February 2011: Accepting yourself is one of the toughest things you will ever have to do, but one of the most rewarding.
Some people like to repeat affirmations in the bathroom mirror. Think Christina Aguilera's "Beautiful", except in spoken word form, and you ... (read in full...)
How can I hide from my husband that I'm not a virgin
Q. im not virgin and im going to married in 1 year and so how can i hide from my husband...
A. 19 February 2011: You can try to lie about it by using the old "horse riding broke my hymen" or "just naturally broke during sports/gymnastics/whatever", which can happen... but what if skeletons decide to one day emerge from the closet and say otherwise? One little ... (read in full...)
What do I say on a date?
Q. I'm going on a date. I don't know what I'm going to say. My dad says I should just say, "Tell me something about you," but I still don't know what I'm going to say. I actually never went on a date. Help! ...
A. 19 February 2011: Just laugh, say you're shy and don't know what to say, and take it from there. Chances are, it will start a conversation and you'll wonder what you were even worried about! Good luck =)... (read in full...)
After I got angry with my bf, he cheated, and now I wonder if it I my fault!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years. When him and I fight, one of us says "its over" and the other one always ignores it because in the morning it doesn't matter. My son had a doctor's appointment valentines day at 12 pm, we...
A. 19 February 2011: Granted, you did say that it was over, but sometimes our emotions are more truthful than our actual words... and it seems as though he was fully aware of this fact when he cheated on you.
Respect is the backbone of any relationship, from which tr... (read in full...)
Boyfriend taking advantage of me being jealous!
Q. i am 13 and my bf is 14. im a very jealous person but my bf seems to be taking advantage of this, one day he came out of lesson telling me how big this other girls breasts are and her bra size. he has done this to me with many girls on many dif...
A. 19 February 2011: If he's saying those things about other girls, what is he saying about you behind your back?
A good boyfriend doesn't try to upset you. Only someone with no self esteem will deliberately upset you or make you jealous, because when you rise to ... (read in full...)
Am I just a booty call? Is he messing me around? Or is he genuine
Q. i met a lad at boxing a few months ago, and we've always had a bit of chemistry. recently last month he in boxed me, giving me his number, because he quit the gym. we've been texting ever since, he comes into my work at his break just to see me, ...
A. 19 February 2011: No self respecting woman would lend another woman her used tampon or her toothbrush. Seeing as a man is at least that intimate with us, why would you want to share him?
It sounds as though he does have some interest in you, but it seems to be eb... (read in full...)
Does his staring at me mean that hel ikes me?
Q. I like someone and I catch him staring at me a lot but I am not sure he likes me or not because whenever I catch him looking at me he turns away and doesn't talk to me. I don't know how to tell him that I love him. Please help me to know how would I ...
A. 19 February 2011: There is only one way: Speak up. You cannot start a relationship with silence any more than you can have a fire without flames.
If you're REALLY that shy, simply ask a friend/colleague to start a conversation when you're nearby and join in. It's... (read in full...)
He's sooo perfect. I think it's love at first sight. But does he like me?
Q. Last night I went to my school dance with my best friend (who is 2 years older than me and goes to the other middle school in town). We were dancing around and having the time of our lives when it happened. Her friend (lets call him Ty, two years ...
A. 19 February 2011: Ah, young love. Or, if not love, a whole lot of lust.
There are a few ways to approach the situation. The most subtle way is to use the Artful Gossip approach. Simply mention a few things to a few gossipy girls who are friendly with you, or accid... (read in full...)
Should I live with my friend even though having his gf there will make me so jealous and upset?
Q. Sorry... this is a long story. I’ve known a guy since I was 7 years old. Let’s call him John. He lived near my grandparents so I would see him at around Christmas time every year. My whole life I’ve had feelings for him. When we were a bit older...
A. 19 February 2011: Hello there. Sorry to hear that Cupid was drunk when he shot those poisonous arrows of his into you!
Let's be frank with one another, girl to girl: Can you REALLY imagine having to listen to her moaning and groaning through the bedroom walls, h... (read in full...)
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