I said I'd have sex with this player, and don't know how to get out of it
Q. So I'm 14 , and theres this guy I really like , hes 15 We had a little thing going on at the beginning but then he went out with one of my friends. He's a player and really only wants a girl to put out for him , thing is i said I would , it all star...
A. 13 May 2010: This guy sounds like the loser of the century...just tell him you've changed your mind!... (read in full...)
My ex suddenly wants back after a year, should I dump my current boyfriend for him?
Q. Me and my ex went out for a year and a half, we had plans to get married, have children and all the rest. Sadly that all came to an end June last year, he had a change of heart and needed to rediscover who he was, and left. I was absolutely heartbro...
A. 19 April 2010: Ex's are bad news. He dumped you without warning last time, so what says that if something goes wrong again then he won't walk away? Look forward....not back.... (read in full...)
He has time for his friends and revision but none for me...
Q. Lately, my boyfriend has been really confusing me. He keeps telling me that he wants to see me, but I always feel as though he doesn't. We used to see eachother a lot - his excuse is that "people change". He tells me he needs to do revision as h...
A. 17 April 2010: Sorry, but it sounds like this relationship is over and he is too chicken to tell you. If he thinks you're boring why would he want to be with you, and more importantly why would you want to be with him? If he can't make time for you and puts you ... (read in full...)
15, don't like the life I live, and want a baby
Q. I am 15 years old and want a baby. I do not beleive i am completely ready to have a baby, but what parent is? I have recently moved away from all my family and friends due to my parents divorce. Having parents that were together was really diffacult ...
A. 15 April 2010: If you don't like your life, then why would you want to bring a baby into it? Are you irresponsible and immature enough to think that a baby will really make life easier on you?... (read in full...)
Marriage is a mess! Can anything be salvaged from it?
Q. I stumbled across this site through Google, and basically just need someone to listen. 11 years ago, my wife and I got married (second time for me, first for her). At that time, she was a little overweight, but sexy with it. Fast forward to 2009:...
A. 8 April 2010: The truth is you're unhappy, and from the sounds of it not enough will ever change to make you the happy person you once were and want to be again. I would have a serious talk with your wife and see what it is you both want from the rest of your ... (read in full...)
Why is he avoiding me after the kiss?
Q. The guy I like kissed me he is one grade higher than me and i kinda felt it coming. I like him a lot but the thing is that he has stopped all the usual. All that happened on a Friday the next week he stopped walking me home and instead of walking ...
A. 18 March 2010: Hmmm, perhaps the fact that he is a grade higher is the problem here. I mean, you said he acted all serious in front of his friend, and for some reason it'd look bad that he was going around with someone from a grade lower. Either that or he thought ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spread a secret around school
Q. I told my boyfriend, whom I tell everything to, that my best friend was pregnant. I assumed that he would keep this a secret, like he does with anything personal I share with him, but found out that he told his friends at school. My Pregnant best ...
A. 17 March 2010: Well, in fairness, this is as much your fault as it is your boyfriends. You say yourself that this was a SECRET, which your best friend told you in confidence. You then told the secret to someone else you were close to, and he then told it to ... (read in full...)
Girls is it confidence, appearance, attitude; what?
Q. Girls: does confidence matter more if the guy is generally seen as "unattractive"? I have good days where i'm super cocky, other days where i'm almost shy. As confident as I get and as much time as i spend on my appearance and personality, I get ...
A. 17 March 2010: Agree with Angzw. Cocky and confident are two VERY different things. If you're cocky you come across as being an ass, whereas confidence is a great quality. If your two traits are shy and occasionally cocky, then here's why you're not getting ... (read in full...)
Is it harmless or should I be moving on?
Q. My boyfriend of several years is looking at online dating sites and "classified ads." I have caught him emailing some of the girls and when I confront him he says he is "just looking" and would never do anything. Is it harmless or should I be ...
A. 17 March 2010: Move on. Definitely.... (read in full...)
Will allowing my wife to sleep with other men get her through her mid life crisis?
Q. My wife has came to me with the idea that she wants to sleep with other men. She is madly in love with me and our sex life is incredible. She has been chatting online with other men and has lined up her first "dude" for this Friday night. She is ...
A. 17 March 2010: No. It won't help at all. It will put alot more confusion, tension and heartache into your relationship. Sorry.... (read in full...)
I love my mistress but I feel bad for leaving my wife and kids
Q. I am 35 years old, married for 9 years with 3 kids relatively young - 7 and twins of 4 years old. I met a girl 4 years ago (Kelly) but we really started to see each other more often like twice a week over the past 4 months, before it was once a mo...
A. 17 March 2010: It's almost universally accepted that these types of mistress to partner relationships don't work out. "But Kelly and I are strong and love each other way too much" I hear you say. Wrong. You see each other a few times a month...big whoop. This is a ... (read in full...)
Do I quit my marriage altogether? Confront him then quit? Help!!!
Q. I am a 24 year old, I have been married for just over 2 years and in a relationship with my husband for just over 7 years. We dated young and married young, but we were both experienced sexually with others. What I mean to say is that we weren’t ...
A. 8 March 2009: I have a friend who was in this type of relationship. Trust me, you will be a lot happier when it's over - relationships cannot be built on lies and mistrust.... (read in full...)
How effective are condoms? I don't want to get pregnant
Q. Hey people. Me an my boyfriend are about to have sex an he is goin to use a condom. but i'm so afraid i'm goin to get pregnant. A lot of my friends are saying i won't. But i don't know. I really want to do this. I'm not gettin birth control but how ...
A. 5 March 2009: I think it's 97% effective - but there is, of course, always that 3% to think about. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with :-)... (read in full...)
I discovered my b/f cheated and has had a child, how can I be sure he doesn't see his child?
Q. me and my boyfriend have two children together and going back last year i found out he has another child in between the age gap of my children he says he wants nothing to do with the other child. i found out he was seeing the child behind my back, ...
A. 5 March 2009: It's his KID!!! It's not the kid's fault, and he shouldn't be deprived of a father because of his mistake. The kid is there now...I think you're gonna have to make the best of it - as I said, it's your boyfriend's fault so DO NOT make the kid pay!... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a girlfriend?
Q. Why can't I find a girlfriend ? Okay I am 20 years old soon to be 21 I have brown curly hair brown eyes. I have tan clear conplection and I am 6 foot tall about 165 I bench around 245 I am well built and I even make $6000 dollers a month and I I ...
A. 26 February 2009: So you have money, looks and a reasonably sized dick. The one thing you don't mention in there is that you have a great personality...all you can talk about is stuff that doesn't really matter. That's why you don't have a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
He wants it hard and fast and I am a virgin and he knows but doesn't care! Please help!
Q. okay. this is really scary to me so someone please give me some advice. i have a boyfriend, he is 18. i'm a little younger than him, hehe. anyways we want to have sex. he knows i am a virgin.... he wants me to be on my hands and knees when we do it. ...
A. 26 February 2009: Your boyfriend is an asswipe. Get someone who RESPECTS you.... (read in full...)
My girl is skiing in Austria with her guy friends and I'm a nervous wreck.
Q. my gf is in austria atm, skiing with skl. i kinda dont like her doing this cos i know that her mates (boys) will try flirting with her. its been 4 days since she left, and 4 days till she comes back. i have been a nervous wreck for the last week, ...
A. 25 February 2009: Oh, grow a pair....she'll be back in a few days. If she loves you then she won't do anything will she.... (read in full...)
Pregnant with his child, but suspect he's gay... I'm so confused!
Q. Me and my partner are about to have our first child, although he's very manly ie:- sports, beer, sex, the usual, I've seen a few times now that he has been on gay porn for straight guys and shemales websites. It makes me feel sick but I don't wa...
A. 25 February 2009: I think you are VERY confused...one minute you say he's very manly, the next you say he's very feminie....which is it?... (read in full...)
A moment of weakness...
Q. My husband of 9 years just sat me down the other day, and told me that 6 years ago he had a moment of weakness and with a co workder pulled over in a parking lot and and pulled his pants down, and before anything could happen the cops pulled up and ...
A. 12 February 2009: I think that not only should you forgive him, but you shouldn't give him a hard time about it either. That's not to say you shouldn't "lay down the law" as to what will happen if this situation presents itself again but, come on, cut the guy some ... (read in full...)
Do guys prefer blondes over brunettes?
Q. do most guys perfer a pretty blonde to a brunette. any guy i have known always went for the blondes heavy or thin. do guys not like brunette are we not good enough or pretty enough like the blondes...
A. 11 February 2009: Nope. I don't.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin her birthday by saying I wasn't ready for under the pants action?
Q. okay ineed a little help... mee and my girlfriend have been going out for over 3 months now,, and she's great, i love her to death, i cant be without her and she loves me too-she's a really great grl.. so yesterday was her birthday and she...
A. 7 February 2009: You did right - you're young and you're not ready yet. Respect.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are so different and it's causing problems.
Q. My boyfriend just wants to see me as and when it suits him and if there is nothing else better to do. We dont share many similar interests except watching tv. He drinks a lot and I don't so any time he goes out he doesn't want me in his company cos ...
A. 28 October 2008: You DO deserve better. Breaking up will be hard, but since it seems like this guy doesn't want you to be part of the majority of his life (TV is not a life), you need to break it off with him. You WILL find someone much better.... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I KNOW???
Q. I really need some advice recently I went threw my boyfriend's fone (I know I shouldn't have) and found that when he had gone out he had met a girl and now hes been texting her asking her to send pictures of herself and things like that. It's kil...
A. 28 October 2008: Jaime90, what the HELL are you talking about. In no way is it alright to go through your partners phone without permission - this is an invasion of privacy. Would you go through their diary too? This is why people need TRUST in a relationship. I ... (read in full...)
I feel so completely insecure sexually with her now, and suspicious of her reasons of being with me.
Q. Dear everyone. I think I am at a about to end my relationship with my girlfriend, but I really wish I could just get over this problem instead. I have become uncontrollably jealous and insecure in this relationship and regardless of what it takes, ...
A. 27 October 2008: You're right. Love ISN'T enough to make a relationship work. There has to be trust, security, communication and all the rest of it. You are missing some key components here and to be honest, I think not ending it now would just set you up for more ... (read in full...)
I really miss feeling depressed, I miss the codine and I miss the attention!!!
Q. I have been through a very hard time since I was a kid, my mother was an alcoholic she drank 24/7 but now she's stopped completley and I'm so happy for her but when she was drinking I suffered with depression and I was addicted to codine. I had ...
A. 23 October 2008: I'm all about honesty, and the truth is you are an attention seeker. You hate to NOT be the centre of attention. If everything is better how can you miss being depressed. I don't hate you, as you put it, I just think you are in love with yourself a ... (read in full...)
I am feeling depressed because I want someone to love me.
Q. I wouldn't say I'm fully co-dependent because I don't have to have a boyfriend 24/7. I know I'm young but I really need help. I'm on depression pills, but I haven't taken them yet today and I just feel pathetic. I don't understand why none of the ...
A. 23 October 2008: I'm sorry, but I hate these sugar-coated answers you are getting, and if you are honest with yourself you will know that you dont need them either. The TRUTH is this: how on earth can you expect someone to love you when it comes across that you ... (read in full...)
I am so sick of being the only single one in the group!
Q. I'm so fed up of being alone. Every single one of my mates are either in a relationship or have been in one. I feel so left out of it, yet I just can't find anyone who is interested in me. I know I'm only young, and I'm not asking for some to marry, ...
A. 23 October 2008: The reason you are alone is because 'slagging' yourself around as you put it has given you a reputation that no guy looking for a relationship would want to deal with. You either need to find someone 'out of the loop' who doesn't know you at all ... (read in full...)
I think I'll let him use me for sex as I like him so much.
Q. I've known this guy now for about a year, we met at a friend's birthday party and I fancied the pants off of him! He told me he liked me too, we ended up kissing, dancing etc.. but we didn't see each other again until June, she had another party and ...
A. 23 October 2008: If you want to be the slut he tells all his friends about, go for it - just remember that reputations are built on stuff like this.... (read in full...)
He took my virginity but he'd already slept with 7 other girls!
Q. Dear cupids. My boyfriend lied to me for 8 months about being a virgin, but then after he took my virginity he confessed to previousy sleeping with 7 girls!! He told me he didn't want to hurt my feelings, which he did twice as much by lying! W...
A. 23 October 2008: No, you were absolutely right. If he is gonna lie to you about things this important, then imagine what else he would lie about. This could have been just the tip of the iceberg. You did the right thing.... (read in full...)
He used to have chlamydia but he says it's gone now.
Q. This might sound like a daft question but does chlamydia come and go? I know he HAD it, but he said he doesn't now :s does it just go? or does he still have it?? He wants me to sleep with him but I'm really unsure about him although I do like him, ...
A. 23 October 2008: From what I have read about it, it is totally curable with antibiotics. That being said, MAKE SURE!!!... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that she is the one and only?
Q. Okay me and my girlfriend love each other very very much. And I know for sure that this is true love and not a high school crush. I am currently 14 and my girlfriend is the same age. We have been going out for 6 months. When we first got together ...
A. 23 October 2008: Look, you're 14. You probably never will get married, or end up with this girl. Very few relationships from this age last the course - not because we don't have feelings for them, but because people change, situations change etc. You made a big ... (read in full...)
Can we continue to live together as a threesome?
Q. I have been married for a few years now and recently i met a girl and she moved in with me and my wife, i have got children with my wife and after sitting down and talking for a long while we decided it would be best that we stay together but ...
A. 22 October 2008: In the short term, maybe this can work if it is what you all want right now....but in the long term HELL NO!... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex. Am I pregnant?
Q. I'm 14 and me and my boyfriend had sex without a condem and I think that i'm preagnet but i'm not sure. I haven't started my period in I don't know how long and I have all of the symptoms of being preagnet. Am i preagnet?...
A. 15 October 2008: What the hell are you doing having sex if you can't even spell 'pregnant' or 'condom'? God Almighty!... (read in full...)
We're 'friends with benefits' is that bad? and does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. If I am not with someone anymore but were friends with benefits, is that bad? And if I am in love with him, and he says he loves me too, does he really mean it?...
A. 15 October 2008: Er, no, of course he doesn't mean it. ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina too large for my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Aunts, I am worried that my vagina is too large for my boyfriend. I am 30 yrs old and have not had any children, and he has a large penis (it must be 7 or 8 inches and is quite wide - certainly the largest I have encountered). Al...
A. 13 October 2008: If you don't make an issue about this, it probably won't be an issue to him, so I say take DoubleM's advice.... (read in full...)
Okay, got her number, now how or what do I text her?
Q. Okay, I got this girl's number after just asking (still a little suprised at that lol) now how do I ask her out? or what do I text her with? Should I be like I am with my friends?...
A. 13 October 2008: Oh, for GODS SAKE don't text her - texting someone to ask them out is a good way of showing that you don't have any confidence. Call her up and ask her out. She already gave you her number, she must think you're alright.... (read in full...)
We're 15, we consider ourselves married but our parents don't wants us to be together and I hate them for this! I'm thinking about running away!
Q. Okay, let me start by saying I hate my parents! Now I'll explain why. I'm 15 and so is she. About 2 months ago I asked my girlfriend to marry me. We've never actually had sex but it has gone up to me giving her oral, she's never given it to me ...
A. 12 October 2008: In a way I sympathise - in a way I don't. If you consider yourselves married, good for you. On the other hand, you are both children and both live under your parents roofs - ergo you have to live by their rules. Stop making such a big deal out of ... (read in full...)
He made me sleep with him and now I'm pregnant! Help!
Q. Hi, not really sure how to say this, I am 15 and slept with a guy a while a go, I didn't want to because I knew a)he was sleeping around, and b)he had just broken up with his girlfriend. He made me in the end saying he was going to tell everyone ...
A. 12 October 2008: This is rape. Go to the police IMMEDIATELY!... (read in full...)
My in-laws are making my life miserable, my husband will not stand up for me, what can I do?
Q. Please help! me and my husband have been married for 3 years now and we have dated for 9. everything was fine until we got married and had a baby then they started to controll everything even him! they would tell him to tell me things that aren't ...
A. 12 October 2008: Honestly, I'd leave. Your husband will ALWAYS side with them - he's even told you as much by saying he tells you things to keep you happy. Leave this moron, and get the number for CPS so that when they threaten you again, you can offer them the ... (read in full...)
So, is this relationship already doomed to fail? Has my ex changed?
Q. Has my ex changed? I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex a year ago, and just talked to him for the first time yesterday. He said he has been seeing a girl, but that it wasn't serious (yet he had sex with her) and that he stil missed me and ...
A. 12 October 2008: Ultimately, yes, I think it's doomed to fail. You clearly don't see eye to eye on things and he is not willing to change not talking about things - the reason you give for breaking up in the first place. I think wanting to get back with him is just ... (read in full...)
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