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Hi,

Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.

I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.

If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...

A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice. Keep ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem. http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence http://pi... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it! I wish you... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)

I am scared I will never be number one in his life...

Q. Me and my boyfriend fight all the time we can't agree on any thing. But I love him so much. When I am around him I feel something I have never felt before and when he looks in to my eyes i know he is true but I am scared I will never be never be ...

A. 17 March 2007: The best thing you can do here is be yourself! Don't nag your boyfriend over silly little things but show him how much you care about him. Have fun together and laugh instead of arguing. Don't come across as too needy or moan at him all the time ... (read in full...)

How do I know he's interested? It's been a while since I've been in the dating game...

Q. Can any one give me tips on what I should be looking for if a guys interested? (client/profession) been a while since I've been in the dating game. Thanks in advance!!...

A. 17 March 2007: You haven't gave me much to go on but generally if a guy's interested in you then he'll catch your gaze, smile at you and talk to you about things in general. He may even show up more often than normal. He might ask you questions just to get your ... (read in full...)

I feel as if I don't mean anything to him any more... Help!!

Q. hey... well Im only 14 but i feel that myn and my boyfriends relationship is a lot more than a teenage fling.. we go to the same school and we see each other every morning because we are in the same form. We are in some classes together...

A. 17 March 2007: Maybe he's noticed you don't act like a couple when your ex is around and he could be hurt because of this. You need to talk to him and ask him if there's a problem. It could be that he's just bored and doesn't feel the relationship is going ... (read in full...)

She recently told me a dirty secret and my love for her is reduced to 30 per cent now.

Q. Dear reader, please I urgently need your help. There is this girl I've been dating for 18 months , but recently she told me q dirty secret of her to me.(she said she slept with a male politician in close to our college). I didn'r react violentl...

A. 17 March 2007: The bad news is she slept with someone else, the good news is she was honest enough to tell you about it. If this was a one off and she can promise you that she is genuinely sorry for what happened then you should maybe give her another chance if ... (read in full...)

I found a girl's phone number in his pocket, do you think he's cheating on me?

Q. My boyfriend came home at 5 oclock in the morning. I found a girl's phone number in his pocket. Do you think he's been cheating on me?...

A. 17 March 2007: Does he make a habit of coming in at this time and if so where does he say he's been? Did you ask him where he was on this occasion? Without more information it's really hard to tell but it certainly sounds ominous. Are you having problems with ... (read in full...)

I just want to say THANKS to AskEve and Cheese! You were right, he WAS a jerk!

Q. hey. I know this isn't a question, but I just wanted to say, thanks to AskEve and Cheese. I took your advice about the friend I 'practise' with. He turned out to be a real jerk when I told him I didn't want to do it anymore, so I wanna say ...

A. 17 March 2007: Hey you're very welcome! At least you found him out sooner rather than later. Just make sure the next person you go out with acts more like a gentleman to you and doesn't take advantage and use you the way this guy did. All the best! Eve... (read in full...)

I find it difficult that he cheated on me, even although I've taken him back again...

Q. I am a girl of 16 and have just found out my boyfriend cheated on me a week before christmas after a day of knowing the girl, my boyfriend has just turned 17 and shes 21. He textd me on christmas day dumping me then went away with her, but I didn't ...

A. 17 March 2007: If he cheated on you with her, he'll cheat on you again. Don't waste any more time on him, he's using you and has no respect for you whatsoever. Not ALL men are the same. You are still very young, enjoy your life and leave men on the backburner ... (read in full...)

Should I text my ex to ask him how he is?

Q. Hi, This time last year I got together with my ex boyfriend. We split up last July, after quite a short relationship, but we had known each other for a year before that. When we split up in July, on my doing, I was very angry with him because ...

A. 17 March 2007: There is no harm in sending him a friendly text to ask how he's doing. As long as you don't give him the wrong idea and get his hopes up and make him think that you want to get back with him again when you know for sure you don't. Eve... (read in full...)

I called my ex and we talked like old friends. It's been 10 days since I called him and he hasn't called back. Should I call again?

Q. I met a man back in the fall online. We dated for a couple of month's. He broke up right before Christmas saying he needed space. I know it sounds strange, but we were very much in love. We were getting ready to meet each other's families and had ...

A. 17 March 2007: I would send him a text "Fancy meeting me for a coffee as friends? Really enjoyed our recent chat and would love to keep in touch." Leave it at that and see if he answers. If you don't hear from him (he'll have your number now so there's no excuse ... (read in full...)

He said he can't do this with me anymore and I don't know what to do now....

Q. I need some adviceee so badly! ... ok well, me and my boyfriend been together for 3 years, we share the same friends, go to the same places and same uni, but because we're opposites we are always arguing, I understand that every realtionship has...

A. 17 March 2007: What you need to do is cut your guy some slack! Give him some breathing space and trust him some more. The way you're acting just now you'll only push him into some other girl's arms. Ease off on him a bit and let him breathe! Eve... (read in full...)

Should I mix business with pleasure or not?

Q. I'm in a bit of a dilemma, theres a guy I took a shine to at work, problem is he's a client at the animal clinic I work at, I want to stay professional but at the same time don't want to miss out as I work wierd hours so it's difficult to find a ...

A. 17 March 2007: If you see him again, ask him how his pet is doing, try and hold a conversation with him and casually say something like "hey if you ever want to go for a drink and discuss your pet then don't hesitate to get in touch," he'll get the message. He's ... (read in full...)

This might sound stupid but how can you tell if a guy is flirting with you without making his self too obvious?

Q. This might sound stupid but how can you tell if a guy is flirting with you without making his self too obvious?...

A. 17 March 2007: If you see them watching you and singling you out to talk to then you know he likes you. If you're in a crowd and he mentions you or stands beside you and looks at you when you both laugh, he's flirting with you. If he says your hair looks good or ... (read in full...)

What do I do? Please take the time to read my story...

Q. I just lost my girlfriend and can't get over her what can i do to forget her? This was our situation okay i met her when I was 12, we had sex when we were only 13, had our first child when we were both 15 and our second when we were 19. She was my ...

A. 17 March 2007: What you need to do is stop wallowing in your own grief and self pity and get up and SHOW HER by your actions that you're a changed man. I don't mean to go up and beg for another chance, I mean to get on with your life. Always look good, hold down ... (read in full...)

I did the stupidest thing, I set my friend up with the boy I love... :o(

Q. I've just done the stupidest thing. I set my best mate up with the boy I love :( what can I do to tell her I like him?? xx...

A. 17 March 2007: If you tell her you'll only put her in an awkward situation and if she's already started seeing this boy then she'll most likely tell him too so DON'T MENTION IT. You'll have to sit this one out I'm afraid and hope they don't get along. Eve... (read in full...)

I love him but I don't want to freak him out...

Q. I really think this guy likes me, but I found out from a friend that he said he didn't. I feel like I'm in love with him, but I don't want to freak him out. How do I tell him I like him, and if he doesn't like me, should I tell him?...

A. 17 March 2007: No, I wouldn't mention to him that you love him, he will only run a mile and avoid you like the plague. Try and be in his company and chat to him in a friendly way first of all. Try to get to know him better. You'll soon get the vibes whether he ... (read in full...)

He had to leave me in his house for an hour to go to work, he locked his door and almost physically threw me out of his bedroom!!!

Q. Dear Cupid, I slept over at my boyfriend’s house last night and decided to spend the day with him but he had business call and had to leave for an hour. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years and lately there have been some proble...

A. 17 March 2007: Nah he has something to hide and he doesn't want YOU to find it! I went with a guy a long time ago and stayed the weekend with him when he had to go into work for a few hours. I had an idea he might be seeing someone else too so I DID snoop in his ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o) Eve... (read in full...)

He wants to go away and travel for 8 weeks, should I agree and let him go?

Q. Opinions needed from young people. I dated a guy long distance whilst he was at uni - he cheated kissing other girls at clubs (thats as far as he told me it went). So we split up in his third year. He graduated and came home so we decided to gi...

A. 16 March 2007: Your boyfriend, in my opinion is not nearly ready to settle down. He wants to spread his wings and see a bit of the world. I feel your relationship is hanging by a thread here and it might be a good idea to break things off with him and remain ... (read in full...)

I feel my mom considers me a showpiece to be displayed amongst people in society!

Q. I hate it when I am considered as a showpiece to be displayed amongst people in society by my mom. She keeps bugging me on the kind of clothes I wear or whether I look perfect or not. Apart from using me as an object of gratification in this manner, ...

A. 16 March 2007: lmao she MUST be a Virgo!!!! She's only proud of her son and wants what's best for him. You need to get to know your mum a bit better, ask her out for a day together, take her for a coffee and let her know that you're a grown man now and can look ... (read in full...)

How can I let him see that having a baby of OUR own is important to me?

Q. My partner has 2 girls from a pervious marriage but I never had any children and I am 40 of age. His children came to live with us a year ago and it's I who look after them because he works away a lot. We love each other very much and enjoy an ...

A. 16 March 2007: You need to try and tell him the advantages of having another child. He's thinking of the disadvantages financially first and foremost. Also, you need to remember that having another child will mean no social life and not a lot of time together ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)

He still keeps in contact with his ex's parents and they've been in our house!!!! I am not comfortable with this at all!

Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months and we moved in together last month. He has been keeping contact with his ex's parents. (He was with her for 4 years). They want the two of them to get back together and since he and I have been ...

A. 16 March 2007: The fact that you and your boyfriend have decided to move in together is enough to let you see he's made a commitment to you so he needs to move on and when we move on, we leave our past behind! If he wants to keep his inlaws as aquaintences then ... (read in full...)

I live with a wife that is abusing me, just few hours ago she told me that I am usless... I should leave right?

Q. I live with a wife that is abusing me, just few hours ago she told me that I am usless............ I should leave right? not so easy, I have a five year old daughter, who I had to leave a highflying career (and I mean it) just to look after her a...

A. 16 March 2007: If she's depressed then she goes to the doctor for treatment or to a counsellor to talk about it, they will decide the best way to handle her depression. When depression takes hold people say a lot of things they don't really mean. It can become ... (read in full...)

What would YOU do in my position????

Q. I had a funny feeling at lunch time earlier in the week and went home at lunch to see what was going on there. My boyfriend is not working as he quit his job and he is "off the chain" as they say.... I found him and two other people, a friend...

A. 16 March 2007: You ask what would I do in your position? I would NEVER be in your position! I would have gotten rid of him long before now. The guy is a total waster and is using you and your home. He has no respect for you or anything you own. Why are you ... (read in full...)

Why can I not seem to get a boyfriend?

Q. no matter how hard i try i cnt getta boyfriend! i hav had boyfriends before and i felt alot happier but they didnt last very long! my friend sed i am not ugly it is because i am abit moody how can i make myself more happy! i am always laughin a...

A. 16 March 2007: I would continue to be smiley and fun but try and put yourself out a little bit more for people for example... "have you got a chair?" "do you want to borrow a pencil?" "Are you okay, do you need a hand?" Simple gestures always go noticed! Give it ... (read in full...)

Do you think he'll ever be more than just my friend?

Q. Hey everyone. This site is great, keep up the good work :) I have been best friends with my male friend for a year and a half and over the past few months we've been getting closer. We speak pretty much every day about anything and everything, ...

A. 16 March 2007: I think he DOES see you as more of a friend but is just carrying on this "friendship" scenario the same way you are. You should say to him one night, "hey do you fancy it?" He'll say "whaaaaaat?" and you say "being more than just friends, do you ... (read in full...)

How can I begin to tell my girlfriend what I've done?

Q. I feel terrible, so, so terrible. Last night for some stupid reason, I made out with a mutual friend of mine and my girlfriend. We didn't take it to the sex level, more like a behind the bleachers make out. Not that that changes anything or how I ...

A. 16 March 2007: We all do things we regret at times. You were angry but you didn't actually sleep or have sex with her did you? If I were you I WOULDN'T mention it. I would put it to the back of your mind and completely forget about it. The guilt you feel after ... (read in full...)

Is it a red flag when he's not willing or ready to spend more time together?

Q. Is it a red flag when he's not willing or ready to spend more time together? After 8 months, and a wonderful relationship, I'm baffled by my boyfriend's resistance to spend more than 4 nights a week together. We live around 30 minutes apart, and ...

A. 16 March 2007: I think he does well if he's working yet still spends 4 nights out of 7 to come and see you. I'm a little concerned by the fact he doesn't want you to go to his flat though. Have you EVER been there and seen where and how he lives? Next time, ... (read in full...)

If he likes me as much as he says he does, why doesn't he ask me out?

Q. Hi everyone, I need a a bit of boy help. There is this boy who I like and he has told me that he feels the same way but when he says "I really want to see you" we never do. Is he playing with me? And also if he does like me as much as he says he ...

A. 16 March 2007: I would have thought when he said "I really want to see you" then that is him asking you out! Suggest going to see a movie together or going for a walk in the park, maybe he just needs ideas for some place to take you. Once you've suggested a ... (read in full...)

Any tips on what to do on a date?

Q. I am going out with my girlfriend soon and I don't know what to do. Should I kiss her or should we just hug? Should we hold hands? ...

A. 16 March 2007: Holding hands is fine as the date progresses. See how she is on the date, does she seem into you? Does she look really interested and is enjoying your company? If so then give her a little kiss at the end of the date and let her know you enjoyed ... (read in full...)

Does he like me or does he not? What's he playing at?

Q. I'm confused! This boy I really like said he loved me whilst we were having sex... but at the time my best mate was in love with him... they fell out and me and him got on really well but as soon as they became mates again he went cold and didnt ...

A. 16 March 2007: He used you, plain and simple! Why would you want to go out with your BEST FRIEND'S man anyway? You were there and up for it so why not is what he'd be thinking. You should have remained loyal to your friend, making SURE it was totally over ... (read in full...)

Do you think he's took cold feet?

Q. I have been seeing a man for 8 months who I met on the internet. He lives 250 miles away from me and we've been communting to each others places in turns about every 3 weeks. We decided we wanted to live together and I was going to move up to be ...

A. 16 March 2007: Dating someone from time to time and having someone move in and live with you are two very different things. Although he likes you and enjoys your company, he's being honest with you and letting you know that he's not ready for you to move in with ... (read in full...)

How can I get my mother to trust me more?

Q. I am 16 years old and have now been with my boyfriend for over 1 year and my mother still won't allow me to stop over night at his house, how can I get her to trust me? ...

A. 16 March 2007: Let her know you're 16 years old now and SENSIBLE! Sit with her and have a chat with her over coffee and let her know that you're not naive about sex and everything it entails, you would never sleep with him without contraception. If she doesn't ... (read in full...)

A question for the men! Why is it a man is first with a woman he is so nice to them but once in a relationship for a while, become total jerks?

Q. Here's a question directed mainly toward the men out there, but ladies feel free to respond as well as I'm sure plenty of you know where I'm coming from on this. Why is it that when a man (or boy) decides that they want to be with a woman they are ...

A. 16 March 2007: There is obviously a reason for the way he's been acting this past couple of years. He may feel a little put to the side as you say you have kids. It could be that he's feeling taken for granted and is going out to work and feels he's getting no ... (read in full...)

Met her online and seen her 4 times, last time we had sex, now she's emailed me to say there's no spark!

Q. Ive met a 35yr old women on a dating site on the internet. i have seen her 4 times and on the 3rd date we were kissing and holding hands the next day we had sex. i thought everything was great between us until she emailed me 3 days later saying she ...

A. 16 March 2007: The fact that she met with you 4 times is a clear indication that she did/does fancy you. Once sex comes into the equation it brings about a different set of emotions and I think she is just a bit overwhelmed by it all. Too much too soon is what I ... (read in full...)

We've been together for 10 years and he's cheated on me but I want him back!

Q. I have lived with my fiance for 10 years, we have child together. I recently caught him cheating- his girlfriend is pregnant. He stays at her house with her family and her daughter he took our son with him, but he comes home every day to get ...

A. 16 March 2007: You are too good for him and he's using you as a doormat and has even resorted to cheating on you! Get a grip of yourself and throw him out. Don't let him come round to "clean up". He's still using you even now when he's living with this other ... (read in full...)

Work is her number one priority. Can we ever find one another again?

Q. My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me cause she says I am smothering her and she needs her space. She says she loves me and can't replace me, but she can't fix me anymore, she can't even fix herself. She is an alcoholic and is seriously over ...

A. 16 March 2007: She obviously has decided you are not compatible and sleeping with someone else right away is her way of dealing with things. NOT the right way to go about it I might add. She seems to have far more hang ups than you do but she felt you were too ... (read in full...)

She just wants to be friends but I want to be more than that!

Q. I've liked her for 2 years, we went out a few times...and we've always been close, but she said we wont ever go out again,cuz id have to change and she said im perfect as a best friend.an weve been best friends for those 2 years now, but i still ...

A. 16 March 2007: Don't change for ANYONE! She can't like you that much if she wants you to change. Distance yourself from her and do your own thing. Maybe she'll miss you more than she thinks. She went out with you before and prefers friendship rather than a ... (read in full...)

Met her online and seen her 4 times, last time we had sex, now she's emailed me to say there's no spark!

A. 16 March 2007: She may feel she gave herself too easily to you and is regretting that now and feels guilty. Take things easy with her, be friendly and don't come on too heavy. Once she sees you play you might just woo her again! Let her see you respect her ... (read in full...)

I am the first girl he has ever cared and loved and i know he is learning but he is a bit of a phycho! I just need to sort his dark side.

Q. I have been with my bf for 7 months now we have a very secure relationship. I see him every weekend as we live so far away i am very surprised that it has worked so well really but we make time for each other and chat, text and im all the time. I ...

A. 16 March 2007: You need to assert yourself more with him. Don't let him tell you what to do and push you around. Stick up for yourself more, I'm sure that's what he wants you to do. He doesn't have a dark side lol he's just more confident that you are. Like I ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)