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| | *lovebowsandcherries's profile:Hi i'm 20 years old i live in the united kingdom. i'm straight.
i am currently single.
i love giving advice to people and trying to make a difference in peoples lives i've helped alot of people before on a website similar to this. i also go on some of my past experience in life and hope to make other peoples lives different i also want to make the realise and hope they don't make the same mistakes i did.
so if anyone needs any help just pop me a message or something. :)
i'm a friendly person i'm a good friend loyal and i am generally lovely :) i also have facebook.
i love listening to music and i love driving it's great!!! hanging out with my friends is the best!
i love random things i love pointless drives.
If you need any advice give me a shout :) i'm easy to talk too :) and very understanding.
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Should I give him oral even if I'm scared?
Q. My boyfriend likes me to do oral but I'm scared to. All his ex girlfriends gave him oral. He expects me to give him oral to. I tried it once but stopped. We really love each other and I am scared that if I do not do it he will leave me or cheat on ...
A. 23 September 2009: Sweety it's up to you if you want to do it then do it! if not then don't! he shouldn't force you
at the end of the day it's your choice!
if he loves you he'll stick by you whether or not you give him oral or not pressure you into doing it and lett... (read in full...)
Should I try to go back with her? Or just move on?
Q. This is going to be really difficult to explain to me, but hopefully people will get something out of it. So I was in a great relationship, my first serious girlfriend. We met in my college sophomore year, were together for several months, ...
A. 16 September 2009: well done really proud of you :)
chin up and best of luck for the future!... (read in full...)
Why am I so consumed with jealousy 2 years after we broke up?
Q. I am very confused, partly because I don't know where the problem actually lies. I broke up with my girlfriend of three years after drunkenly cheating on her- the only time I had done so. I didn't tell her this, instead saying that I wanted ti...
A. 28 August 2009: maybe you need to come to terms with the reason you ended it being the cheating and tell her that reason and maybe you'll find it changes things and perhaps it'll become in a way EASIER for you to move on because you'll feel right i know NOW i've ... (read in full...)
Why am I so consumed with jealousy 2 years after we broke up?
Q. I am very confused, partly because I don't know where the problem actually lies. I broke up with my girlfriend of three years after drunkenly cheating on her- the only time I had done so. I didn't tell her this, instead saying that I wanted ti...
A. 28 August 2009: well this maybe because you're still feeling so guilty for what happened aka you cheating on her and you've still not technically told her why you ended it you made up an excuse.
i think you still cared for her and deeply regret what you did and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my son may not actually be mine
Q. I heard off a good friend of mine that my son is apparently not mine. When I met my girlfriend about 5 years ago she was a single mum, who had a 3-year-old son. Two years later, we moved in together, our life was good, we then decided to try...
A. 28 August 2009: well to be honest these are just rumours you've not had any real proof of this situation right?
i mean just your "good!" friend, sometimes they aren't true.
if you are highly concerned i suggest you sit down with your fiancee and let her know wha... (read in full...)
Was I right to break my girlfriend's ex's leg and jaw because he used to hit her and cheat on her?
Q. look im a 15 year old kick boxer. i been with this girl ever since elementry i really like her. I broke her ex boy friends jaw and leg because he cheated on her and he hit her a couple of times. am I right or wrong....
A. 28 August 2009: to be honest this doesn't make you any better than him.
ok so you're not hitting her but you've hit someone else and who knows that anger could turn to her.
so to be fair you're really just as bad as he is.
... (read in full...)
Why do guys who are walking past on the street stare at me?
Q. Fistly, I think I made a mistake signing up because I'm 21! Anyway... I don't mean staring at my boobs or butt or checking me out. Some guys (usually ugly!) stare into my eyes on the street and say nothing and I'm sick of it and find it scary. D...
A. 28 August 2009: hey you're 21!!! you should love the attention guys are giving to you.
just work with it give them a sneaky smile back or something.
harmless fun.
i am 20 i often get stares i just either hold my head high and keep walking or i stare back and smi... (read in full...)
I want to block out my past and move on with my life!
Q. hi im a 20 year old female and im always stressed out and always have been since i can remember, even at my boyfriend who doesnt even do anything really wrong. Im so upset and angry all the time i think sometimes its about my past, i always have ...
A. 25 August 2009: from what i've read you have had a very traumatic experience and because of everything you've seen i think you feel it's difficult to let anyone come close to you and ask whats wrong or you can't stand to be in a confrontation with someone because ... (read in full...)
The only issue in our relationship is that he never says "I Love You"
Q. Hi there, I know I may not hear what I want to hear, but I'd like to get some perspective on my situation. I'm sorry if it's a bit long, but bear with me. I'm just about 23 and my boyfriend is 24. We will have been together 18 months as of Se...
A. 25 August 2009: perhaps he would rather express his love to you maybe he isn't good at sharing feelings some guys aren't
i know i'm like that i am a really loving girl but sometimes i find it difficult to share my feelings with people.
he could be wanting to make ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of something I don't really want to be in?
Q. I met my girlfriend about six years ago and we've been together coming up 5 years now I think, but I feel like I've lost interest in the relationship. I don't know, cause she's a nice and lovely person. But things just keep coming up, like ...
A. 20 August 2009: well it does seem things have sizzled away for you both.
i know you don't want to hurt her but at the end of the day you are hurting her more by lying to her all the time and keeping the relationship going when it's something you don't want to keep... (read in full...)
My family thinks that I could do better than my boyfriend!
Q. What can i do to overcome what my family think? My family just met the guy ive been dating for quite some time, particular circumstances prevented me from introducing him to my family earlier. My boyfriend is amazing treats me like gold howeve...
A. 18 August 2009: honey at the end of the day your family should but out of your life if this guy makes you happy and they see he does then that's all that should matter to them your happiness it's got nothing to do with them!
they're not the one in a rela... (read in full...)
I don't have any faith or confidence in myself since the breakup
Q. Thank you in advance to anyone who can offer me some good advice, I really appreciate it. Im sorry for the length, I just want to make sure you understand my situation. I am now in my second year of college and just getting over alot of really h...
A. 14 August 2009: aw hun i'm really made up for you :)
well done!!! for going out there and doing what you wanted!!
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is lovely and I have everything I want, so why cant I stop thinking about this other guy?
Q. A while back, I was getting close to this guy. He finally told me that he was falling for me, and I was really happy. I missed him when he wasn't around etc. Then someone else came along and asked me out, and I said yes. I've been with my boyfrien...
A. 13 August 2009: to be honest it just seems like you got with this guy because the one you really wanted never actually asked you out officially.
you settled for Robin when you want Batman.
also you never seem to even really like your boyfriend here just see him... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I might have miscarried
Q. i am 14 years old and 24 weeks pregnant and i have just woke up this morning with about half the amount that i get when i am on my period, i feel empty and my stomach is killing me i darent tell my mum as she didnt even no i was pregnant i was going ...
A. 13 August 2009: huny i think you need to get to your doctors ASAP!!!
this sounds pretty serious you need to get to a doctor you'll HAVE to tell your mum you need someone to be there with you you're too young to go this alone!!
she'll know what to do! she'll b... (read in full...)
I have decided an abortion is the right thing for me, but I'm worried what my boyfriend's family will do when they find out!
Q. I found out I was pregnant about two weeks ago. I am now about seven weeks pregnant. During these two weeks I have been forced to face some tough desicions. I am fifteen and my boyfriend is sixteen. At first my boyfriend was supportive, but ...
A. 13 August 2009: its your baby your life your body your choice.
if he treats you so shittily then get out of there!
you shouldn't feel threatened by him or his family!!!
you're 15 for gods sakes!! if you feel scared of how they'll react then get the police invol... (read in full...)
I just want to have sex to get it over with.
Q. I am jealous of sex because, I have not had sex yet. I am 17 years old and I never had a girlfriend before, or even kissed a girl. I am forced to lie to everyone that I have had sex so I will not be embarrassed of my virginity. I don't want to wait ...
A. 13 August 2009: duuuuuude!!! why are you so bothered?
i'm 20 years old female still a virgin and not been kissed and to be honest i am really not bothered! you're feeling pressured by your friends or anyone!
when it's right you'll know it's right and i bet the ... (read in full...)
Do chicks like red pubic hair?
Q. Okay, I am just wondering, do girls like red pubic hair? I mean, Im 18, just turned legal and want to know does it? I'm a natural red head. Just curious....
A. 13 August 2009: i'm a red head and it's up to you depends what that person likes!
not everyone likes it many people do.
depends what kind of girl you're with, and what ever you feel is better for you.
if you don't want it get rid if you do then keep it or trim ... (read in full...)
I logged into his myspace to leave him a surprise but I'm the one who got the surprise!
Q. My fiance and I have been going out for almost 2 years now. I am no longer sure if I can trust him any more. I was just messing around on myspace.com I was going to sign in to his account to leave a message for him as a surprise when he log on next, ...
A. 12 August 2009: talk to him about it tell him you've already seen it and you're not happy.
given you shouldn't have gone onto his myspace.
but he shouldn't have lied to you!
you really need to tell him about this other wise you'll never find out the truth and ke... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is very attractive...
Q. Been with my bf for 9 months and I love him so much. The problem is that I find his best friend extremely attractive and I find myself thinking about him all the time. I think he might find me attractive too because he always hangs out with me in ...
A. 12 August 2009: well put it this way hun! i don't think you're boyfriend you are with is the one you love if it was you wouldn't start feeling this way about a friend of his.
what i think you need to do is talk to your boyfriend and this relationship may have to e... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my Godfather
Q. I am a 22 year old female who is in love with my Godfather. Surprisingly enough, he has confessed to me that if he wasn't my Godfather, he would marry me. I really don't know what to do. I have dreams about him at night and I want to start a ...
A. 12 August 2009: at the end of the day we can't help who we fall in love with!
he's not related to you he's just someone whose meant to look out for you should anything happen to your family (touch wood it doesn't) like a guardian type person.
you've known him for ... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me and ruining our lives
Q. My ex husband and I have a 2 year old daughter together which he continues to use her to get to me and make me feel bad that we're not together anymore. He does nothing but stalk me, harass me, has broken up two of my relationships and lies ...
A. 12 August 2009: Honey you need to get the police involved!!! he's ruining your little girls life and yours!!! he won't let you go because he feels you're his property and that you and your little girl are SUPPOSED to be with him despite what he does to get you ... (read in full...)
Depressive breakdown and don't know what to do.
Q. i suffer from depression, a hell of a lot more than i realised i found out today, i was on a hugxe downer after a row with my boyfriend, we spent the whole of the night partyin with friends and when i asked him for some alone timean hour or so, he ...
A. 12 August 2009: to be honest you're probably not bothered by this because you knew what he was really like and are glad to be rid because he didn't exactly help you when you needed it most and you now know he's out your life for good i don't think you need to worry ... (read in full...)
I moved on but can't get him out of my head
Q. I been with this guy for a couple of years we live together and we have a baby together i do love him but i still feel like i'm in love with my ex i was with my ex for 4years why do i still feel in love with him how can i get over that its been ...
A. 12 August 2009: maybe because you've moved on and living with your current boyfriend have a child together you always thought that would be you and your ex and ponder as to why it didn't get that far.
alot of people think back on there exes like why didn't we last... (read in full...)
Fell in love after internet relationship, now he's gone, did he fake the 3 years, we were together?
Q. As it says there, i really didnt know where else to turn. i don't have many friends left.. So i'll start from the begining. it all started when i was only 13, i'm now 16. it started as an internet relationship and i never intended it to go far i ...
A. 12 August 2009: eugh! what a complete w*****!!!! my guess is he didn't know what he really actually wanted in a relationship.
reasons being cheating he didn't want to commit to one person but he also liked the idea of you being there as someone to care for him and ... (read in full...)
Trust issues are ruining our relationship
Q. Ive been going out with my gf for over 3years now and her trust problems are causing us to argue and i feel us moving apart. She had trouble in her previous and first relationship so told me she was a bit hesitant about men, basically the wh...
A. 11 August 2009: prove it to her prove to her that you are trust worthy!
reassure her anything you can.
say next time she doesn't like you doing something or anything like that and prove to her you are trust worthy and stick to your word.
... (read in full...)
I think I'm addicted to dating!
Q. after a certain period of time i get really depressed. and i know what makes it go away. if i have a girlfriend i never feel this way. i think its that i feel alone and un-loved but i cant ever keep a girlfriend very long. i think that i'm addicted ...
A. 11 August 2009: hun i don't think you're addicted to dating!
you're just living your life you are 13-15 years old you've got your whole life ahead of you to get a girlfriend and settle down for long term relationships!
i think that's what you're doing right ... (read in full...)
Trust issues are ruining our relationship
Q. Ive been going out with my gf for over 3years now and her trust problems are causing us to argue and i feel us moving apart. She had trouble in her previous and first relationship so told me she was a bit hesitant about men, basically the wh...
A. 11 August 2009: well she obviously is having a hard time letting things go from the past, perhaps if you both went to a counsellor to discuss the trust issues you guys are dealing with in this situation.
perhaps the counsellor can help her see that living in the ... (read in full...)
My friend stopped talking to me when I told her I had feelings for her!
Q. I told a friend i liked her i had emotions towards her. she stopped talking and doesnt want anything to do with me. what should i do?...
A. 11 August 2009: leave her be i mean she's obviously not that much of a friend for you.
if she was any kind of friend she would have talked to you about it and if she didn't have the same feelings towards you just let you understand that your friendship to her is m... (read in full...)
How do I get it through his head that it's best to wait before we get married? And how long do you normally wait before marriage?
Q. This summer was crazy, and I don't know where to start. Well first, My boyfriend is in army basic training, but because of a medical discharge he's coming back. He's done with the army for two years (his choice if he comes back). But has said he ...
A. 5 August 2009: Hun pretty much all army guys are rushed and want to get married have children pretty much all in the same year.
whether it's to do with the fact they want a family of their own should anything happen to them i'm not sure.
but i've been there i ... (read in full...)
The love I feel for her is overwhelming...but she loves someone from Australia and wants to move there
Q. This problem can be blamed on many things. I am the one that is to blame the most though. I have known this girl for over 10 years now and I can honestly say I love her. Don't look at my age and discriminate. I'm not naive, I know what this is. I've ...
A. 5 August 2009: if you can't express face to face try the net or text.
just let her know how you feel otherwise you'll kick yourself for not knowing.
at least if you know she doesn't feel the same you can move on without ever thinking i wonder what would of happe... (read in full...)
I'm 13, I want this 20-year-old to like me, is this OK??
Q. So im 13 going to be 14 and theres this guy that i like but hes 20 and he always come over or we always text my uncle knows that i like him and he says im not supposed to but i seriously like this dude and we he always listens to my problems and ...
A. 5 August 2009: Hun this isn't legal!
you're under age.
he probably protects you because he sees you more as a little sister.
you're at that young age of liking older guys it's natural but he may just see you as a sister a little sister and that's why he liste... (read in full...)
Why do my parents think I'm a ladies man? I'm not!
Q. My paents have always said all the girls would be chasing after me. That was a few years ago. Even now, thry are telling people, all the girls fancy me. I know they don't. I talk to girls but have never had a relationship and am not close to one. ...
A. 5 August 2009: you're there son they'll talk you up to there friends they obviously think that you're a very handsome young lad and are very proud of you and the way you've turned out.
they know you'll treat a girl right because they know you've been brought ... (read in full...)
Online dating. Should I give up on this fantasy?
Q. well theres this guy i have been with for about 3 months now.. we are online dating. we never met but we promised we will no matter what... he is great and he is the best guy i ever met and i hope one day we will actually end up together.. i know i ...
A. 4 August 2009: ohh sweety please be soo careful!
i'm actually going through something regarding an online guy and it's not pretty at all.
he was really lovely at first and now he's just a bully you need to be so careful with people online!!!
if you do mee... (read in full...)
What do I do about my affair with an older man?
Q. I am 26 years of age have 2 children aged 1 year and 4 years. Ive been with my husband since I was 17 and have been married 3 years.He is 33 years old. I started an affair 2 months ago with someone at my work he is 50+ he wont tell me his age.It is ...
A. 3 August 2009: well i think you should end the affair and also your relationship.
this man is clearly in a poor relationship but obviously cares for her alot due to her ms and he's seeking companionship and he gets that from you which is great but think of what... (read in full...)
First time parent worries about miscarriage
Q. Heyy! Myself and my partner are expecting a baby in April, just bit concerned about mis-carriages etc. Is it rare to have a mis-carriage? It's the first time that she is pregnant and everybody is excited about the news but I'm just worried ab...
A. 3 August 2009: you just need to relax try not to think of the negative at the moment everything should be fine just try not to think negative wait and see what the doctors say and take it from there.
:)
they're not rare it can happen to anyone.
as long as she'... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 3 August 2009: maybe that's why you felt no connection because in the back of your mind somewhere you knew something wasn't right with what he'd told you...
pretty poor that he lied about his age and also is daughters as you said why lie?
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Do I say yes and be his girlfriend? Or listen to my dad and keep away from him?
Q. There was this boy that i like, and he likes me too. He's already told me he likes me and i told him i like him too, but when i told my dad if i can have a Bf, he went all crazy and said that i can't have one Until i'm 18, and i'm barely 15. Then ...
A. 31 July 2009: as everyone has said your dad is looking out for you and protecting you and as rif raf said alot of young teens nowa days are getting pregnant and living on benefits and what not and he just knows what boys like that are thinking because normally ... (read in full...)
I ran into my childhood crush, things were going great, we slept together...and now he seems more distant
Q. I made a big mistake. You would think a woman 44 years old would know better. I ran into a man i had a huge crush on when I was in High School. We bacame friendly while online where we belonged to many of the same sites. Once we exchanged phone ...
A. 30 July 2009: well he seems to have gotten what he wants and he thinks that's it.
end of.
maybe that's what he tried to do for so long and took advantage.
if you still feel for him then yeah definately tell him how you feel maybe he's being distant because he f... (read in full...)
My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts
Q. My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...
A. 30 July 2009: he may just be slightly paranoid.
i know i sometimes get like that, he may be questioning things hence why he's been like that toward you i mean he may have a really pants phone and isn't picking up your messages and then is getting paranoid thin... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend whom I left.
Q. Hello. I left my ex-boyfriend in early August last year. He hadnt spoke to me much the last month we were together...I feel stupid for leaving him too. I left because i didnt feel loved anymore. Now i feel like i need to be loved and that im needy...
A. 30 July 2009: congratulations hun :)
best of luck.
x ilovebowsandcherries x... (read in full...)
My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts
Q. My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...
A. 29 July 2009: well how do you know he's not lying.
how do you know he's just saying he's not got them when really he has?
perhaps next time you're with him text him when you're there discreetly and see if he says oh i got a text or something that way you'll k... (read in full...)
Depressive breakdown and don't know what to do.
Q. i suffer from depression, a hell of a lot more than i realised i found out today, i was on a hugxe downer after a row with my boyfriend, we spent the whole of the night partyin with friends and when i asked him for some alone timean hour or so, he ...
A. 28 July 2009: good for you! glad to see you're going down the right road :) keep me updated on your situation. x ilovebowsandcherries x... (read in full...)
Depressive breakdown and don't know what to do.
Q. i suffer from depression, a hell of a lot more than i realised i found out today, i was on a hugxe downer after a row with my boyfriend, we spent the whole of the night partyin with friends and when i asked him for some alone timean hour or so, he ...
A. 24 July 2009: i think there is a difference in wanting someone there and needing someone there. needing you NEED them to sit with you and listen to what's going on in your head and wanting someone there is just to be there to hug you and cuddle you until you feel... (read in full...)
If I keep going out with him without feeling a connection, am I leading him on?
Q. I met this man and he is a nice person and I open really slowly so I usually need to spend lots of time with someone before I'm really into that person. He's a nice man, polite and seems to be very into me( calls me often, texts me, keeps asking me ...
A. 13 July 2009: well you've only been on two dates perhaps go on a few more see if anything progresses i mean he's trying really hard that's really sweet he clearly really likes you and wants you to give him a shot.
so go on a few more dates and see how things prog... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with my ex-boyfriend whom I left.
Q. Hello. I left my ex-boyfriend in early August last year. He hadnt spoke to me much the last month we were together...I feel stupid for leaving him too. I left because i didnt feel loved anymore. Now i feel like i need to be loved and that im needy...
A. 9 July 2009: hun why do you want him back?
you're 13-15 you got your life ahead of you.
it's not love i mean he doesn't even like you anymore he's a moron obviously!
you just miss the fact of having someone to love you but we all get like that at some point i... (read in full...)
I don't have any faith or confidence in myself since the breakup
Q. Thank you in advance to anyone who can offer me some good advice, I really appreciate it. Im sorry for the length, I just want to make sure you understand my situation. I am now in my second year of college and just getting over alot of really h...
A. 1 June 2009: well you've clearly been through alot with this other guy.
i mean i woudln't go back to him even if he did come back to you because he had his chance now it's time for someone elses and you've taken so long and so much hard work to get over him... (read in full...)
Should I try to go back with her? Or just move on?
Q. This is going to be really difficult to explain to me, but hopefully people will get something out of it. So I was in a great relationship, my first serious girlfriend. We met in my college sophomore year, were together for several months, ...
A. 20 April 2009: Hun don't go back with her. i am surprised you did to be honest because alot of people would of just upped and left. but you physically still can't trust her so why put yourself through all that when all you can think about is her going off w... (read in full...)
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