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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for 1 year and 10 months now. we were getting on fine and then this afternoon he rang and said that he needed to speak to me face to face and that it was bad. when i asked him if he was going to break up with me he just said "I don't know yet". i'm really scared as he is the best thing in my life and i really don't want to lose him. i can't think of anything that it would be about. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve +, writes (15 March 2007):
 Have you cheated on him? Is there anything else you can think of that he could be angry about? Go expecting the worst, it may well be he's thinking of finishing things and if that's the case then you must be strong. Ask him for an explanation as to why he wants to break up (if of course that's what he wants to do.)
It may be you're getting yourself all worked up over nothing. It might be something which is really trivial and you'll think to yourself "is that all?" Go and find out THEN deal with it as maturely as possible. You might be pleasantly surprised!
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reader, kenny +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Like the other aunts have said the only way you will know is if you go ahead and meet him, and hear what he has got to say.
If it is that he want's to break up with you, at least he is being up front and diden't string you along, or send a text or something. Its hard, but you are young and will bounce back quickly.
Of course the reason for him wanting to meet you might not be that he want's to split up atal, that is something you are going to have to find out when you meet.
Remember to be strong, and take on board anything he says, who knows you may be worrying about nothing.
Let me know what he said,
Good luck x
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reader, bottletop +, writes (14 March 2007):
Do not work your self up.Dont start thinking of the worst case situation. What you have to do is go and see this boyfriend of yours, make sure that you look your absoloute best. hear what he has to say , and if hthe news is bad , remember people break up all the time and he may seem like that perfect guy but eventually you will find the right guy
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reader, chachacha +, writes (14 March 2007):
Go and listen to what he has to say.
If he does say that he wants to break up with you, just ask him if he minds you asking him questions about why he feels that way.
Then go away and spend a bit of time thinking about what he has said before you do anything else. You don't have to respond immediately.
Come back and tell us what he says.....................
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 The best thing to do is get this over and done with. The sooner you know the sooner you can move on. As long as you have got your friends then they will be there for support. It isn't the end of the world. I for one have thought past boyfriends were the be all and end all but everything happens for a reason and someone twice as good comes along and you will think what did I see in him?! If he ends it, act cool, smile, say ok that's fine (even if you feel like crying) then walk away. You need to stay in control. Act like you don't need him and trust me he will be the one wondering why you have acted this way. It's psychological sweety trust me! On the other hand, it could be something bothering him that he needs to see you about. Good Luck
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Well, the only way to find out what he wants is to go ahead and meet him. Whatever he wants to say isn't going to go away if you deny it so find out what's going on and deal with it then. It sounds to me like he wanted to scare you: why else say "it's bad"? But stay calm, don't let this panic you.
Whatever he says, you need to be strong. I know you love him and don't want to lose him but don't be that begging, pleading woman who's being dumped and can't let go. If that's his wish, let him go, he'll soon realise what he's missing!
There may be more to it, maybe he's cheated? Or maybe it's nothing to do with breaking up at all, maybe he needs to talk to you about something totally different. Who knows but you'll kill yourseld wondering so go and find out!
Get back to us on what he said, we can take it from there.
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