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Hi,

Ever since I can remember people have always fascinated me. I seemed to be very adept at solving people’s “life” problems and I never tired of the constant flow of friends asking for my help. I have always been a great listener and have a lot of patience and empathy for people and have written for advice columns in the past.

I am a Relationships Councillor and Life Coach and have a special aptitude with people. I have been active on this site for a number of years. I'm very much a positive thinker and hate being around negative people. Life is for living, it's too short to moan all the time. I'm determined, very spiritual, grounded, independent, strong willed and love life. Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream.

If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought. The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.

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We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

Q. Ouch, I am writing as a confused 32year old bloke who would value any advice. Me and my girlfriend (25) have been together for close on 3 years and I moved out of our home a month ago after just over a year of living together. We still see eachothe...

A. 29 October 2007: I'm so pleased for you. Things seem to be coming on heaps and bounds for you in this new relationship. And you're right, your ex was more familiar to you and 3 years is a long time but now you've moved on and seem to have found yourself a lovely ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 September 2007: I'm so pleased for you. It's a true saying, when one door closes another one opens. Enjoy being in each others company and getting to know one another and who knows what might happen. Again, well done! Keep us posted. Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 August 2007: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it to but at least she was honest with you and you can put closure on it now and move on. Things WILL get better, there are plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes and with every day that ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 August 2007: You see, she's beginning to notice a difference in you. Continue with your Counselling, you'll come on heaps and bounds and most importantly continue to have a positive attitude towards life. Remember, YOU are in charge of your own destiny so get ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 August 2007: You will have times like that but hey, you'll kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess. It may be your ex it may not be and if you're to be together then you will be. Just take one day at a time, think positive, get on with life and if ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 24 July 2007: Hey I'm so pleased for you! I would say you have a definite admirer there. She seems just as keen on you as you do on her so well done there! See? Your positive thinking has payed off for you. The world doesn't end when your ex wants to call it ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 July 2007: You're missing her and thinking negatively now. Just get on with things and keep a little bit of her in your heart then when December comes meet up again like you both agreed. A lot can happen between now and then but it will certainly test you ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 July 2007: She will be wanting the break for all of the things that you mention, she'll be wanting to test her feelings for you. I do believe in fate and think that if something's meant to be then it will be, it will find YOU so if you ARE both meant to be ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 July 2007: You sound far more positive and relaxed about things now. I smiled when I read your comments as you seem far more focussed on your way ahead now, I'm so please for you. Like you said, you can both live your lives with freedom of choice. Keep ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: It's not fair of her to keep on playing with your emotions, mentioning things in the past (the towel incident for example). She is more or less putting the guilt on YOU here saying she felt pressurised but that to me is an excuse. You get on with ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 9 July 2007: I am so sorry that the decision she made wasn't the one you hoped for. Things happen in our lives for a reason and maybe you two just weren't mean to be although you won't see it this way at the moment. Unfortunately we can't make someone love us ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 6 July 2007: Okay, I read over all of the posts again just to clarify things in my mind. This woman is crazy on you BUT she doesn't want to give you her all and you leave her again. In your very first post in this thread you say this - "Leaving the home has ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 4 July 2007: Here are some sites you can look at, one is to help you "Find Yourself" and the others are to help build up your confidence and self esteem. http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Yourself http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence http://pi... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 27 June 2007: Just keep busy and keep thinking POSITIVE and the time will fly in. Under no circumstances must you get in touch with her though. If you do then anything positive that's been achieved will be undone. Let her MISS you! ;o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Okay, I misread your meaning of the "old days", it was a positive rather than a negative. I think you have both done exactly the right thing. NO CONTACT for 4 weeks. That will help both of you see whether or not you are right for one another. It ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 25 June 2007: Nice to hear from you again! I was reading your posts again. You seem to miss her when she's not there and enjoy keeping in touch with her, wining and dining her and meeting up but when it comes to the actual crunch of being together for too long ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 20 April 2007: Yes, she is missing you, hence the reason she wants to involve you more. Just remember and don't always be too willing, have your own opinions and your own mind and don't be so accommodating all the time and I reckon you've cracked it! I wish you... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 10 April 2007: You have pulled back a bit and now she's chasing, simple as that! Because you've not seen her as often then she's missed you. Talking on the phone for long periods of time, although nice, can mean that you do say things you regret so you should ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 31 March 2007: I'm glad things are going well for you but I would pull back even further. You said you have seen her 6 days out of 7. Reduce that 4 days out of 7. Let her know you have things to do but would love to see her (Wednesday). MAKE HER WANT YOU!!! ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 18 March 2007: She NOTICED you didn't reply right away! That's good! If she calls you tomorrow asking to arrange something, suggest you call her back in an hour to be sure, say you have something else you needed to attend to and don't know if you can leave it or ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: Nooooo, you came across loud and clear the first time. You went for coffee, went back to her house to collect something then spoiled it lol by asking her did she want company. You poor love, I know how you are feeling, clutching at anything to ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 17 March 2007: It IS the best way, you'll see I'm right. Woman like a bit of a challenge and don't like a guy to always just "be there" when they snap their fingers, they lose their appeal. Keep in touch :o) Eve... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 16 March 2007: She cried because she knows how much you feel for her and you calling to ask if she wanted some company only confirmed that. If I were you I wouldn't call her or text her. Let HER do the running. She really IS trying to get her head around all of ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 15 March 2007: That is why you both need to move back down a couple of gears, take things very slowly, don't see one another as often and try not to sleep together as this only messes with your head and emotions. Put some space between you to see if you actually ... (read in full...)

Why does he seem so resentful of me even now given that it was him that broke it off with me?

Q. I know my ex and I treated each other badly but I need some pyschology as to WHY certain things happened. My ex, who has had a brain condition since birth, broke up with me several months ago after 3 months together. We had known each years...

A. 15 March 2007: He was with his ex a long time and personally I think you were a rebound relationship for him. You should both have remained friends for the time being. Too much has happened too fast with him. Having sex too with you was much too fast for him ... (read in full...)

she messaging guys and starting petty fights with me! Is she going off me?

Q. recently i think my girlfriend is going off me. she talks to other guys over the net a lot, and i know she is sending other guys messages. she flirts with them, i know for sure, as i have seen some of the messages she's sending. she has pretended in ...

A. 14 March 2007: Trust me, she's only with you just now until someone better (in her opinion) comes along. She's enjoying the attention from you meantime but she's doing her own thing regardless of your feelings. What are you afraid of? Be assertive! Stand up for ... (read in full...)

Has anyone got any tips on conversation topics?

Q. hi! has anyone got any tips on how conversation topics? i like this girl in my year but i never really know what to say to her. i can easily speak to her over the internet but in person i seem to be a bit shy. sometimes we can get a good ...

A. 14 March 2007: Here are some openers for you... 1. What do you like to do when you're not working/at school? 2. Where in the world would you most like to visit? 3. Are you interested in sport... if so what sport? 4. What do you look for in your ideal partner? ... (read in full...)

Is this love or lust?

Q. I think ive fallen in love but im not sure if im truely in love. i know people who've answered other questions have said "if ur in love then u just know" but i thought i was in love with my last boyfriend but then afterwards i realised i wasnt so i ...

A. 14 March 2007: First of all you need to know someone well before you fall in love with them or it's only infatuation. That's what teenage girls usually have with pop stars. You can't possibly fall in love with someone if you don't know them! If you truly lo... (read in full...)

Is he just using me to get what he wants?

Q. i like this boy, but he sees me as a 'friend'. we are only teenagers, so we practise things on each other. last time we went quite far and he wants me to do it again. im confused whether i should do it again. i want to but im not sure if he is just ...

A. 14 March 2007: Friends DON'T do things like that to one another. He IS using you big time I'm afraid. Tell him you've changed your mind and you are NOT going to do that any more. Have more respect for yourself and your body and don't let guys use you in this ... (read in full...)

Do I tell her that my feelings haven't changed or just let it ride and try to get over it?

Q. I have a problem, about 6 months ago I told a friend of mine that I had strong feelings for her, the response was that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship, after that we remained good friends (if not better friends). 2 weeks ago she got ...

A. 14 March 2007: I'm sure your friend was very flattered that you had feelings for her but she unfortunately didn't feel the same with you. I wouldn't tell her your feelings are still the same, I think she'll know that, she just doesn't feel compatible to you that ... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my friend....

Q. I'm really worried about my friend. She is 13, almost 14 and has lost 20 pounds. The girls in her grade excluded her and made up rumors. She became depressed, and stopped eating, except at school. Her 2 boyfriends dumped her because they felt ...

A. 14 March 2007: Continue being a friend to her. Let you know these guys weren't worth it and didn't deserve her. The so called girl friends that she had were very shallow and they too aren't worth knowing. Reassure her and tell her her good points! Do things ... (read in full...)

Can someone's looks change as they get older? Say between 13-16???

Q. dear readers i would like to know can some-ones looks change as they get older e.g. from 13-16 ?? as i am noticing changes in my looks, sometimes good looking sometimes bad :(:( tld by girls and do the good looking ones sometimes turn no...

A. 14 March 2007: Of course people's looks change as they get older, their face shapes change as well as their bodies. It's call adolescence! Some people get spots and acne some don't. Don't worry about how you look, make the best of yourself. Emphasise your good ... (read in full...)

I can't get over him at all. What shall I do?

Q. hey there, i need your advice and help! i met this guy in september last year, and were in the same college course, and i really like him, and he told me that he likes me too, but when i sort of asked him out he said "its not that i dont want to go ...

A. 14 March 2007: What he was telling you was he likes you as a friend but that's it! He's with someone else now and she's taking all his interest now. You need to move on. Now you can sit there dreaming about him and feeling miserable which is totally negative... ... (read in full...)

I am emailing an ex and I truly feel like a woman again!

Q. Hi dear lisener, I am 40 years old have two grown up daughters and a lovely husband who has never let me go without anything... He has suffered now for about five years in the bedroom if you get my drift, I have always been patient and feel really ...

A. 14 March 2007: It's nice that you're talking with your ex but you must remember that he is just that.... YOUR EX! You are married now and so is he and unless you want to open up a big can of worms then you musn't get involved with him. It would be much healthier ... (read in full...)

she messaging guys and starting petty fights with me! Is she going off me?

A. 14 March 2007: How can she possibly be your true love when she's doing the things she's doing? If she was your true love she'd be putting you first, loving and caring for you, YOU would be the most important person in her life! She is treating you like a piece ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 14 March 2007: I'm glad things are working out for you and your night was a success. Yes, keep us posted and let us know how things go! Be there for her without being too "in her face" all the time and you'll be fine. I wish you both all the very best. Eve... (read in full...)

What does it mean when someone says "she's broken?"

Q. pls pls will someone explain to me what it means when a female is "broken". I am a little delayed i know. Does she only break when she has sexual intercourse for the first time? I heard you can hear or feel when she "breaks" during sex, is that ...

A. 14 March 2007: When a woman has sexual intercourse with a man for the first time, there is a saying "that's her broken in," it means that she is no longer a virgin, the thin membrane around the entrance to the vagina is "broken." The hymen (thin membrane) doesn't ... (read in full...)

He sent me a text message saying he wants to slow our relationship down, now I'm so confused!

Q. Hi I need some help! I have been going with my boyfriend for 3 months and i am madly in love with him and he says that he loves me! Last night he sent me a txt message saying that he wants to slow our relationship down because he thinks that i...

A. 14 March 2007: He was in a relationship for 5 years, that's a long time. I think he's beginning to have deep feelings for you now and is scared in case it doesn't work out so he wants to slow things down a bit. Don't worry about this though, it's only natural ... (read in full...)

How do you know when your truely in love with someone?

Q. How do you know when your truely in love with someone? Ive thought ive been in love bout 4 times (alot for someone my age (20) i know) but then after the relationship has ended or something, ive realised it wasnt love. I think ive fallen in love ...

A. 14 March 2007: If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all ... (read in full...)

My male friend or my long term bf..which one is best for me?

Q. In the last 8 months I have spent alot of time socializing with my friends and have started to have feelings for a male friend. He is intelligent, funny and more on my wavelength than my boyfriend of 2 years-who is perfect but we don't have much in ...

A. 14 March 2007: You know I laughed when I read what you wrote... "he's perfect but we don't have much in common!" You need to end this relationship or you'll only start to resent your boyfriend, you'll look at him and think why can he not be more like (friend's ... (read in full...)

I'm heartbroken---how can he have fallen out of love with me so fast

Q. I'd really appreciate any feedback on this I can get. I'm 20 years old and I started my first proper relationship over a year ago at a new job I started. He was totally besotted with me.. couldnt take his eyes off me and stuttered whenever he sp...

A. 14 March 2007: He was infatuated with you to start off with but he's never been in love with you or he'd never have lied the way he did. Whether the lies were to impress you are one thing, he seems a bit of a habitual liar to me. He's also very insecure and ... (read in full...)

I got the girl!! Thanks to you Aunts!

Q. hey there ....i know this aint a question but id like to thank all the people who helped me...Dazzerg, Eve, aunty t and jendorset...you all helped me so much...i got the girl cosa your help...thank you... all the best :D:D:D:D...

A. 14 March 2007: Hey way to goooooooooo!!!! I'm so glad we were able to help you sort things out. I wish you all the very best with your relationship and thanks for letting us know. Eve... (read in full...)

How do I keep my gf interested in me, so I don't lose her?

Q. hi...ive got a GF and i was just wondering how to keep her interested in me....cos i really dont want to loose her...thank you...:)...

A. 14 March 2007: Be confident and assertive! Look good and treat her with respect. Listen to her when she talks and ask questions, be interested at what she has to say. Communication is one of the best ways to keep a relationship alive. Communication, trust, ... (read in full...)

she messaging guys and starting petty fights with me! Is she going off me?

A. 14 March 2007: YOU should end it with her! Don't sit there and be used like a doormat. Have some pride in yourslef and kick her to the kerb and find someone who will love and respect you more. Eve... (read in full...)

My friend wants to date me but I'm not physically attracted to him. What can I do?

Q. I know there have been similar questions to this recently but I could really do some advice. I have a friend who has told me they like me more than a friend but im not sure how i feel about them as im not attracted to them physically. Howe...

A. 14 March 2007: If there's no chemistry there with you for him then pass! You'll always see what's on the surface and not what lies underneath. You're not ready for a meaningful relationship yet so I definitely wouldn't go there. Eve... (read in full...)

He's not that great looking and I like him,but he rejected me...I'm hurt!

Q. hi hope you can help there is this man i recently started to like hes a friend of my brothers he isnt typically good looking but to me he is i told him i liked him he was shocked said i was way out of his league so i thought i would ask him for a ...

A. 14 March 2007: Wow! Are you vain or what? lol Just because you're deemed as good looking to some, other won't always see you that way. There is no such thing as being "too good looking!" Some people think Mel Gibson is attractive, yet with others he just ... (read in full...)

We moved in, we moved out - now I really want things to work out but don't want to scare her away!

A. 12 March 2007: Here is what to do if you want to win her back. She's getting the best of both worlds just now. She has her freedom to be with her friends and she has you! You said you still see her a couple of times a week and still have a kiss and cuddle ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me and only using me for sex? What do you guys think?

Q. Please help. I can't live like this anymore. I really think my boyfriend of three years and 7 months is cheating on me. We argue ALL the time. He treats me like sh** when we fight. He calls me a bi** and I told him to not call me that no matter how ...

A. 12 March 2007: You are being blinded here. He IS cheating on you, he has no respect for you whatsoever and is using you as a doormat whenever he shouts, you come running. Okay, so his parents are wealthy, YOU are only using his parents for what they have and ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me and only using me for sex? What do you guys think?

His best friend is a girl and I'm so jealous. How can I overcome this jealousy?

Q. hi i'm 16. one of my boyfriends best friends is a girl. they are very very close. and i cant help but feel jealous about it. we have a very good relationship and we love each other a lot. but i dont usually see him that often and it kills me know...

A. 12 March 2007: Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all, we say we feel like this BECAUSE we love the person but this isn't the case at all. Jealousy comes from wanting to possess and wanting to own or have. One cannot own ... (read in full...)

I want to go back to the bar where we met, but I don't want to look like a stalker!

Q. Dear Cupid, I need some help. New to dating scene again. Met a guy a couple of weeks ago who works as a dancer. We all met up at a bar afterwards. I gave him my #, he called a couple of days later looking to go out some time. However, I could...

A. 12 March 2007: Hey you can walk into that bar with your head held high, you have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. You let him see HE was the sleaze ball and you knew exactly what his game was. Go into the bar with your friends and if he comes up to ... (read in full...)

Do you think she'll want to be with me in the future?

Q. hey so me and this girl have known each other for a long time an we've liked eachother the whole time but we go on and off on and off...and now, we got close again and i wanted us to be together and she said no cuz she doesnt wanna hurt me again and ...

A. 12 March 2007: She obviously likes you but doesn't want anything serious. I would play hard to get with her. DON'T be so available to her, DON'T go out with her even as mates, DON'T call or text her and DON'T answer back immediately she calls or texts you. Let ... (read in full...)

CAN someone look in to your soul just by looking at your face or in to your eyes?

Q. Let me get this clear, CAN someone look in to your soul just by looking at your face or in to your eyes? I have heard of people who can read your mind, but how much of it is really true? ...

A. 12 March 2007: No, I don't think for a minute anyone can look into your soul. Some people are very perceptive and can read body language or just read a person from their mannerisms but NO ONE can look into your soul! Eve... (read in full...)

Is there anything I can do or say to find out how she feels aside from bluntly asking her how she feels?

Q. There's this girl I like (of course! why else would I be here). We're great friends and we can talk about anything. She's always been pretty flirty but I think she's laying it on pretty thick around me lately. She's been able to avoid my more su...

A. 12 March 2007: If you don't want to ask her outright then there are other ways to go about it. Why don't you ask her if she fancies taking in a movie one night? Or ask her if she wants to go for a pizza. The more quality time you spend together the more a ... (read in full...)

Am I doing the right thing or am I going to live to regret it?

Q. Hi guys, I need some help with sorting out a relationship issue. I am thinking of ending a 7 year relationship and need to know if I am doing the right thing or if im going to live to regret it. My guy tells me he loves me but does not show it in ...

A. 12 March 2007: It sounds to me that although you're "fond" of him you're not in love with him. I think you're with him more out of habit more than anything else and the longer you keep feeling this way the more you're going to resent him and notice all of his ... (read in full...)

Do you think I shouldd date him because I like him except that he is not good looking?

Q. Hi everyone. I just met this awesome, intelligent, great guy. He is a CEO of a big organisation and he is after me. I kind of like him, but i am not ready for a relationship yet, so I asked him to be patient..... What I like about him is his heart, ...

A. 12 March 2007: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." It's what's INSIDE that counts, not what's on the outside. Looks fade with age but a healthy personality never does. Okay, so he's no model, so what? As long as he is good to you and you have loads in ... (read in full...)

I am worried how to tell the rest of the family there's a 16 year age difference between us...

Q. i am 19 and I have been in a relationship for 4 months with a man who is 16 years my senior and i couldnt be happier! some of my family members know about us and are supportive. his family knows and is supportive for us too. i am worried on how to ...

A. 12 March 2007: Why don't you just let them meet him? As long as he's good to you and cares for you and they SEE that then that's the main thing regardless of how old he is. All your family want is for you to be happy and if they can SEE he makes you happy then ... (read in full...)

I would give my life for this girl. What can I do to get her back?

Q. Hey Agony my girlfriend broke up with me last December and I've been miserable ever since I've tried to move on but it just wont work and ever since i met her i knew there was something special about her and after all the time we dated i figured it ...

A. 12 March 2007: Unfortunately you can MAKE someone love you or make them come back to you. The best advice I can give you is to lay low for a bit and let her sort herself out. This other guy and her have hooked up now, you don't say how long she's had these ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried that he's still in contact with his ex?

Q. Over this past weekend, I saw that my boyfriend has been texting his ex girlfriend over the past couple of months. The messeges were nothing explicit but just friendly conversation. The last message he got from her was on his birthday last month ...

A. 12 March 2007: He may just be being polite and asking her how things are, it doesn't necessarily mean that he fancies her again however he does need to know that you feel very insecure about this. Ask him how he'd feel if it were you texting YOUR ex, maybe this ... (read in full...)

We seem to have a communication barrier. How can we overcome this?

Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months now and everything is great except for one thing- we have a communication barrier. I love to communicate and share my feelings about things with him, but , her on the other ha...

A. 12 March 2007: Most men hate confrontation and the "we need to talk" phrase. A lot of men also find it very difficult to talk about their feelings, they prefer to keep them inside and can even find it embarrassing to open up about them. It is still very early in ... (read in full...)

Do I go around to ask him to confirm the date?

Q. I really like my next door neighbour. He approaches me whenever he sees me, offers to do jobs for me and even asked me to the cinema. When i approached him the other day to ask him when he could go out he mentioned a day but then never got back to ...

A. 12 March 2007: I would knock on his door with a job you need doing and ask him if he still wants to go out, see what he says. I'm sure he'll be just as frustrated that he didn't arrange the date, time etc as you are and if he's shy then you'll have did him a ... (read in full...)

Please could you tell me how I stop these dreams and feelings and how I get on with my life without him in my head.

Q. Hello. I’ve been broken up with my ex-boyfriend for 4 years now. He was my first love and to be completely honest I have never fallen out of love with him. We had a load of relationship problems from fighting, arguing etc. He cheated on me with ...

A. 12 March 2007: To dream about your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend or ex-husband/wife suggests that something or someone in your current life that is bringing out similar feelings you felt during the relationship with your ex. The dream may be a way of alerting you to the ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I'm still a virgin at 21?

Q. Here is my problem. I'm a 21 year old virgin. The fact i've remained so is a mystery even to me. Mostly it's because I never let guys get beyond the first few dates, I go out and lose interest. But my biggest problem is that all my friends and even ...

A. 12 March 2007: Ask him how old he was when he lost HIS virginity. Then, when he asks you, you can say... "I haven't lost mines yet, the right man just hasn't came along yet." I don't think he'll think you're a freak at all, I think he'll feel very proud of you ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I'm still a virgin at 21?

A. 10 March 2007: Just take it one step at a time with this guy. I think he'll feel really good you haven't lost your virginity at 21. Don't feel embarrassed about it at all and don't make a big deal of it, just let things happen naturally when the time is right. ... (read in full...)