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writes:My girlfriend left me for another guy. But am still in love with her. What do i have to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Illinois Jack  +, writes (1 January 2022):
Just keep on chuggin' brother! You would be shocked at how much can actually really truly happen in a year or a month, You need to respect her wishes and let her do her thing, chances are in that time while you're doing your thing that you'll meet someone, or you could get back together or a whole lot of things but do not focus on getting back together or you'll jinx it, and do not smother whatever you do, even a little
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2021): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers guys. I appreciate you all.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (8 October 2021):
 At 16-17, these things happen... Unfortunately. It sucks and I'm sorry that you had to experience heartbreak at such an early stage in your life.
To be honest with you, this is out of your control. Meaning: there's absolutely nothing that you can do. This girl has made up her mind and there's probably nothing that you can do to change her mind. All you can do is control your reaction to this and perhaps learn something from it and move forward to maybe get some positives out of this negative situation.
My main piece of advice is to try to move on and focus your energy on other things in life right now. If you can, try to keep the best parts of yourself alive through this. Don't let it make you bitter and angry. It's not a bad thing to feel and to feel things deeply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2021): That's only natural. You loved her at some point, those feelings don't disappear overnight. Time heals wounds, and especially those of the heart. It's not easy, and it might take you weeks or even months to overcome, but it does eventually happen. Believe me, I've been there multiple times sadly.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 October 2021):
 I'm sorry, OP
That really sucks.
What do you have to do? Well, you have to accept that SHE doesn't feel the same way about you. If she did she wouldn't have left you. So while SHE was YOUR "pick", you were not HERS.
It happens. Especially at your age. You all are still trying to figure out WHO you are, WHAT you want, WHAT you like, WHO you like etc. etc.
You have to focus on what is important. And that is YOU. Work on school (if you are still in school) or figure out what direction you would like to go in life. It doesn't mean you HAVE to figure out this minute "what you want to be when you grow up" but what direction you would like to go.
Focus on yourself, friends, family.
In time your love for her will fade. And in time you will meet someone who will love you back to the same degree as you love them.
I know it sucks right now, but it will pass. Just don't wallow in self-pity. She wasn't right for you, you weren't right for her.
Chin up.
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reader, ConfusedCarrie84  +, writes (5 October 2021):
What you have to do is invest in YOUR recovery. She doesn not deserve your pain or love. It will get easier, I promise.
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reader, kenny +, writes (5 October 2021):
 The only advice i can pass on to you in this situation is that things will get easier as time goes on, time is the healer of all things.
We have all been there, and its difficult, but you are young with your whole life ahead of you and soon you will be over this hurdle and head over heals into someone else and she will be a thing of the past.
You have got to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on with your life.
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