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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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'Now' is ok but I know this wont last forever!!!
Q. I almost definetly moved in with my boyfriend before I was ready and two years down the line I'm dealing with the consequences. The thing is although I don't feel I want to split with him, and broadly speaking we are happy - I find it difficul...
A. 15 June 2007: Given what you have just said i think you do need to end the relationship as your boyfriend obviously see this as a long term thing, and as you don't i would say that it is unfair to mislead him like this.
How can you ever possibly be happy also... (read in full...)
He wants to move but isnt sure he is 'in love' with me!!!
Q. I hope you have an answer for me because im really confused. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year but we have been in love for about 2and a half years, and we've been living with his dad for quite a few months. But he has recently started ...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you are right when you say should i give him space, it's a scary thing living with someone if it's not something you have done before, unlike rhythmandblues2 i believe it is a great idea to live with someone before marriage as i feel you ... (read in full...)
Talked to this guy for a year online, now I can meet someone else..what should I do?
Q. i have a bit of an online problem. I have been talking to two lads (never met either of them) i am very close to both of them and the 1st one luke we have been talking for about a year now and we are very very close we talk on the phone and were ...
A. 15 June 2007: You say you have never met luke before but you are close friends and talk about everything, so if you are that close why not tell him and it would be very good that he knows who you are going out with and where you are meeting.
Be safe and have fun.... (read in full...)
He liked someone else and it was embarrassing to be knocked back like that! Any advice?
Q. hey why do men always mess with my head? i went out to a club last week with some friends from work and one friend called Dan kept coming onto me and tried to come home with me but im not like that so i made excuses. i didnt kiss him or anything ...
A. 15 June 2007: I would say treat him as he treated you with no respect what so ever and move on to someone else, he sounds so arrogant and why would you really want someone like that?
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Call for new volunteer moderators (please read carefully)
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING! Moderators approve new questions, think up of interesting and accurate titles and approve/reject a...
A. 15 June 2007: Dear Andrew,
This is some thing i would be really interested in doing as i am on your site daily and i really enjoy giving people advice i have been registered on the sight since november but only started to log in daily over the last few weeks due ... (read in full...)
Confused. Don't know if I can be just a friend.
Q. Confused. Don't know if I can be just a friend. Hello. My thanks to all of you that have helped me before, and I hope you can help me again. I still have strong feelings for a woman that just sees me as a friend now. We were involved in a lon...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you need no matter how hard it will be to try and move on from this women because it sounds to me as though she is using you whenever it suits her she is keeping you dangling giving you false hope and then goes off and sees someone else tell ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee pregnant?
Q. Ok, the other day, my fiance and i made love with each other. It was first time for both and she had some blood coming out of her vagina during the intercourse, which we both know is normal the first time. However, i didn't come and stopped for the ...
A. 15 June 2007: Well if you did not use protection then yes it is a possibility even though you did not come inside her, if you are concerned which you clearly are if it is less than 72 hours since it happened she will still be in time to get emergency ... (read in full...)
My ex is harassing me, his wife found out, and now SHE's harassing me!
Q. My ex boyfriend (now married) has been calling me from pay phones and his friends cell phones. I have been returning his phone calls because I thought something happened to him. So, I gave up. So, I get this phone call thinking it was him unfor...
A. 15 June 2007: I think it is totally the right thing to do as you do not deserve to be treated like this by her or anyone else for that matter, keep hold of that message and keep a note of all calls listing times and dates and take it to the police, if you want to ... (read in full...)
I am seeing my friends brother.....but have a partner of my own!!
Q. I am seeing my friends brother and she dont no but i also have a partner of my own. I dont like the deceit but what can i do? I can't leave my partner because i dont work. I'm on the sick due to a car accident and i need him to pay my mortgage...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you are very brave to openly say this, you are being very selfish to say the least not only are you being unfaithful you are using your boyfriend to get your mortgage paid, surely if you are sick due to a car accident the insurance company ... (read in full...)
Will he go off me because I lack sexual experience?
Q. right i really like this lad i have known him 3 years now and we meet like every month somtimes not for a few cause we live like 3 hour drive away from each other any wayss..eevn thou i have had sex before i somehow dont think i could have sex with ...
A. 14 June 2007: If you are that concerned about having sex with him because you think he he will go off you because of your lack of experience , i can't see how if it did happen it could be enjoyable as you would probably not be relaxed at all because of worrying ... (read in full...)
He wanted space and now he has broken up with me out of the blue!!
Q. Hi i posted a question at the weekend saying that my bf had left for the summer saying he wanted space. He said we'd meet up in the summer and that he missed me and did want to be with me but he just needed to sort himself out. Admittedly i didn't...
A. 14 June 2007: Sounds like a case of he does not want you but he also does not want anyone else to have you either so he keeps you dangling letting you think there might be a chance of you two getting back together, i would have to agree with bubbloo24 and just ... (read in full...)
She emails my bf all the time! Is she going after him or what?
Q. a friend of my has been emailing my boyfriend whom I've been with for 18months. i sort of blame myself because on my boyfriends birthday(April)i told her to email(gave her his email add) him just to surprise him.i wanted to test her and see if she'd ...
A. 14 June 2007: What a cow sounds like she is taking full advantage of your good nature you were completly trusting of her and now she is stabbing you in the back, however due to the fact your boyfriend keeps you informed of any contact that she makes i don't think ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to ask him not to go to bars until I'm 21 aswell!?
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating when we were 17 and he has now just turned 21. I don't mind that he is able to drink and does when he can but I am concerned about him going to the bar. We made a promise to each other that we wouldn't go to bars ...
A. 14 June 2007: Imagine role reversal if you had turned twenty one first and you were back in your home town and all the friends were asking if were coming to the bar i'm sure you would be up for going even if you had made that promise, like you say you only have a ... (read in full...)
Does Marijuana change the taste of semen ?
Q. I've had 2 boyfriends, my current and my ex. My ex used to smoke cigarettes and I got him to quit sucessfully for his health and I noticed his semen tasted a bit better after a little while. I haven't gone down on my current boyfriend yet and I'm a ...
A. 14 June 2007: Looked into cannabis alot as a project and have never found anywhere the suggestion of it changing the taste of semen, also my husband smoked it for years on and off and i can't say i ever noticed a change in it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do I ask him to get the tests done or come off the pill and let nature do its thing!?
Q. help i posted a question a while back about my new man not being able to have kids and me wanting another baby, well after speaking about it again he has never had any tests done to prove this he was with his ex for 4 years and for 3 of them they ...
A. 14 June 2007: You could come off the pill but how long are you prepared to wait not actually knowing if you will get pregnant or not, as you have said you both want children then the best option would be to go and discuss it with your gp together and get some ... (read in full...)
Should I get him a fathers day gift even though hes not the biological father ?
Q. hey. well im 15, i was 15 in march just gone and i have the bestest boyfriend in the whole wide world. ever. and i love him lots and lots. we have the sweetest most beautiful baby girl, who is just 6 weeks old named taylor and she is adorable. we ...
A. 14 June 2007: I think it would be fantastic for you to get him something for fathers day you don't have to spend a lot as it is the thought that counts but i'm sure he would really apprieciate it, it sounds like you are on to a good one with this lad considering ... (read in full...)
The garage is his domain and he insists the rest of us can't use the space in there! What should Ido?
Q. All the issues my husband has with me surround my kids who he says basically just lives here, they have no rights in his eyes, this is our house not the kids.We have a 3 car garage, which my husband wants to keep like a living room. He has a tv, a ...
A. 14 June 2007: I personally think this is one very selfish man the house, garage and everything else belongs to the both of you so he has no right to say what goes in there and what does not, and as for your children he knew about them when you got together and i ... (read in full...)
Is the lad I like acting jealous?
Q. I know this is a silly question but i've liked this lad for ages and a while back I was texting a completley different lad. But every time I see the lad I like he always asks me if I am still texting this other lad which i'm not. Is the lad i like ...
A. 14 June 2007: Oh that definately sounds like jealousy he obviously like you to be that concerned over you texting another lad, go for it girl if you like him ask him out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Could we be back together someday??
Q. I'll try to keep this short but it is very difficult to explain (aren't they all..) My ex and I were together 10.5 months in all. After visiting me for my bday - around 9 months - he confessed that he'd kissed another girl, meant nothing, alcohol ...
A. 14 June 2007: Every one makes mistakes and from what you have said it sounds as though he reaaly knows he messed up and is truely sorry, it sounds as though you also still have alot of feelings for him too and i do know from experience that it takes a while to ... (read in full...)
Is she just being friendly or does she like me??
Q. A girl a year younger than me added me on msn and started talkin to me. She goes to my school. The next day for the first time we made eye contact and smiled. she smiled and was kinda shy which made her look even more cute! Anyway i than didn't g...
A. 14 June 2007: Bite the bullet and ask her out, from what you have been saying sounds as though she does like you,ask her to the cinema or bowling or something from the sounds of it i'm sure she will say yes.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is the age gap ok??
Q. I've fallen for this 14 year old girl. I'm 16. i'm not too sure about the age gap, what you guys think? How can i ask her out or meet her without embarrassing myself coz if she rejects me she will tell her friends which will be hell for me as they ...
A. 14 June 2007: there is no problem with the age gap as long as you are aware there should not be anything sexual between you, as for asking her out it's up to you if ou really like her surely it;s worth taking the risk of embarrasment if she rejects you.
Take care... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply to my text messages fast enough and I think I should dump him! What do you think?
Q. i have been dating a bloke for around a month now, he is ok with me a part from the fact that he has done all the initiating, ie texting me and asking me out, which obviously i dont mind at all but the problem i have is that when he texts me to ...
A. 14 June 2007: He obviously likes you as he is doing the chasing even though you are already dating, i know it's against what you normally do but like i say to many people in this sort of situation play them at their own game and see how they like it maybe when ... (read in full...)
Would it hurt to lose my virginity when I'm drunk?
Q. I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out ...
A. 14 June 2007: Your first experience is likely to hurt and i know you don't want to be lectured but i will say don't let the first time be when you are drunk you should be able to savour and remember your first time for the rest of your life, you need to be ... (read in full...)
Is it bad I lack experience, sex wise... never done anything with boys
Q. Im 16 and i have Never had a boy finger me or me do anything for a boy.. seems like everyone else has and i feel embarresed to say that ''i lack in sexual experience'' when personally i dont care but when people ask me.. i get ambarresed.. is this ...
A. 14 June 2007: I think it's great that you have waited this long and the people that should really be embarrased are the ones that have already done these things, you take things at your own pace and do things when you are good and ready.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
No kissing, no hugs and no sex since she got pregnant 4 years ago. She says she still wants a relationship, but...
Q. been goin out with my gf for 6 years now.had baby boy 4 years ago.since than(and duringshe just doesn't want it 9 months of pregnancy)there has been no sex in our relationship.she just doesn't want.not just sex,no kissing or hugs.this as you can ...
A. 13 June 2007: Sometimes when you have children it is very easy to loose sight of each other, what with work, daily chores looking after the children it's difficult for you to find time for you you could try getting someone to have your boy for the weekend and ... (read in full...)
We f*ck, we s*ag, we s*rew each other senseless... but we don't "make love" - is there something wrong with me?
Q. I think i have a problem. My husband and i were discussing our sex life and he said that we have NEVER "made love". Come to think of it...i have never been able to make love to anyone? Is there something wrong with me? i Love having sex- don't get ...
A. 13 June 2007: Have to agree with yummy mummy on this one, if you love each other what does it matter how you do it, each to their own as long as you are having a good time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We hardly make love and when we do, it feels like it's a job for him... is this relationship falling apart?
Q. My fiance and I are going through a very difficult time financially. We have NO relationship with each other whatsoever. He blames it on stress. We sleep in seperate bedrooms (aparently, that way he can "stretch out" much better). We hardly talk and ...
A. 13 June 2007: It's unbelievable the amount of damage financial problems can have on a relationship but the key to it is keep talking i think it would probably be very worth you getting financial advice as well as both visiting your gp and discussing every thing ... (read in full...)
Will my right eye vision be back to normal? What's wrong?
Q. I need help. I'm not sure what this is but on my right eye I feel that there is something in there but I cannot see it when I look in the mirror. When I woke up this morning I could see but my right eye was a bit blurry. Yesterday my sister talked ...
A. 13 June 2007: very difficult for anyone to give you an answer for this one babe your best bet is to drop into your local emergency room or gp and get them to have a look at your eye if you are that concerned, sorry i could not be of more help but you really ... (read in full...)
I think he wants me just for sex..how can I make him want me in a proper way?
Q. Dear Cupid. There is this guy that I really seem to like. When im not with him, I want to talk to him, and I constantally think about him. The proble is, I know that he doesn't feel the same way. I really think that his whole intentions for c...
A. 13 June 2007: Definately don't sleep with him yet if you really want him to like you and not just for the sex, as much as guys say they want it most of them if they really like someone would much prefer if you make them wait, play it call if he does not do some ... (read in full...)
Other people's views on marriage being burdensome is overwhelming me! How do I get through this?
Q. I feel that i am anxious about my marriage mainly because there is an overwhelming burdensome feeling that marriage is doomed to lead to miseries especially in the region where is live.. I sometimes get overwhelmed by this popular sentiment and give ...
A. 13 June 2007: Go with how you feel, you tend to find through out life people will always say the worst things about all different situations, for instance when i was pregnant all i heard was horror stories about giving birth and yet when it came down to it it was ... (read in full...)
Periods have gotten erratic...should I be worried?
Q. Hi, this is quite a personal woman problem. Well, i usually have my period about the 26th of every month and usually on for 4 days. Last month i was on for 7 days. And i have came on today (13th), i am usually good as clock work. It is getting me...
A. 13 June 2007: There are many reasons for a change in regularity of periods, i will give you some of them but i would suggest a visit to your gp to get some tests run.
1. the most common is a disturbance in the balance between oestrogen hormones and prog... (read in full...)
Why do I feel total strangers just stare and laugh at me?
Q. I don't know why this is happening. Somtimes when I go out to the public strangers just stare and laugh at me. It makes me feel sad and insecure with myself. I don't know what is so funny? Are people just this mean? Everytime when this happens, I go ...
A. 12 June 2007: Is this really happening or is it just paranoia, sorry to ask but have you ever had any relationship with drugs as this can be a side effect sometimes which can be long term, maybe you should book an appointment with your gp and discuss how you are ... (read in full...)
How can he commit to his love yet keep the family sane and see them grow up without any hurt or loss of love?
Q. It is not for me, a friend, who has a dear and truly loving family. He has met and fallen in love with a lady, yet he is still married and feels nothing for his wife, yes they get along, no arguing etc. 2 lovely daughters and a nephew as well. How ...
A. 12 June 2007: MYself and my husband split up ten months ago and i don't deny it affects the children but not as bad as we might think, if he leaves it does not mean he can not be there for them as since my husband left he has the children three nights a week ... (read in full...)
Am I too needy? Does she maybe not understand my emotions? What?
Q. I'm horribly confused. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now. At the end of both our leases were planning on moving out together. I'm really happy with our situation and finally feel comfortable being near someone so much....
A. 12 June 2007: Would have to agree with yummy mummy on this one, sounds like because of all you have been through you are suffering with depression and a visit to your gp will make the world of difference, as i have been through similar depression problems and ... (read in full...)
His behaviour has changed and everyone is telling me to break it off with him... but I can't!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am madly in love with my boyfriend. I would do anything for him. Over the last 8 months or so he has been under house arrest while attending college 2 hours away. I spent every weekend driving to see him even though I myself have a v...
A. 12 June 2007: personally i think you are mad wanting to stay with him but i know what it is like when you are in love with someone that much, so myonly suggestion is play him at his own game don't be at his beck and call if he does not want to see you one weekend ... (read in full...)
Gf dumped me because of a drunken kiss with another girl! How can I get her back?
Q. first of all I have been with my girlfriend nearly 5 years. I was out on saturday night and got really really drunk, I ended up kissing another girl which my girlfriend seen. this is totally out of character for me and it has been 2 days since it ...
A. 11 June 2007: Ok i would suggest back off a little as it's still very fresh in her mind, you could try writing her a letter telling her exactly how sorry you are and how you feel about her and then give her space she is obviously still very angry at the moment ... (read in full...)
I should let him go but I can't! Help?
Q. Hello, Ok here is how it is, Im 22,i have been seeing a married guy for a year and a half now, he is 47) we started off as friends but then things happened after a few drinks, feelings developed and i totally love him, i know im crazy! I know he...
A. 11 June 2007: Take it form me as i am in this situation i have two young children and did have a husband he met someone else and left, so i would say if he really wanted to be with you he would no matter what the consequences will be. You are young i know it will ... (read in full...)
Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more?
Q. Should I just accept this guy will be a primary friend in her life? Or is there more? Sorry for the length. My GF is recently divorced, I'm separated (my divorce final w/in 3 mos). We're both in our 40's. We dated back in high school/colleg...
A. 11 June 2007: You clearly do not trust your girlfriend anymore due to the fact you went through her phone, so tell me honestly do you really think there is any point in this relationship carrying on once the trust has gone what is left, failing that due to the ... (read in full...)
Am I too desperate?
Q. my name is max and i love sex but i can'nt find any who is fit and how want to have sex with me i would love to have sex with some one and you could be in my beb tonight or you could give me someones name for me to have sex with so pllease help me ...
A. 11 June 2007: how this question ever got posted is beyond me, you don't deserve a women try the farm.... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best mates ex and unsure how to handle the situation..what do I do?
Q. I am in love with my best mates ex and unsure how to handle the situation. They split about 6 weeks ago and I have tried to be there for both of them as a friend, however I have feelings for this girl and I now know that she feels the same way abou...
A. 9 June 2007: The only thing you can do is try talking to your best mate about it tell him that you like her but that you do not want it to ruin your friendship so you would like to know his feelings on it, if he goes off his head about it then you need to think ... (read in full...)
He has two jobs and I am feeling neglected because I don't see him! Am I being selfish?
Q. ok am i just being selfish? my boyfriend is working two jobs, though i'm pretty sure he only really needs to be doing one, and he works about 60 hours a week. but when he comes home he does more work. all week, all weekend. he has no time for me at ...
A. 9 June 2007: Have you told him this? as he might not realise how it is affecting you, if not try sitting down and telling him how you are feeling and if he does not want to do anything about it you might have to look at your relationship and wether it's going ... (read in full...)
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