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Im here to help people if i can. My friends always come to me to confide with me and ask for advice because im a good listener. Im non-judgemental and believe that everyone needs help sometimes. The reason i registered with this site is because i had a problem that i needed help with (even the helpers need help sometimes!!) i had an immediate response from my problem so im here to return the favour!
A little bit about me.....
* im 19 years old
* i live by myself
* im training to be a nurse and midwife
* im a big movie fan!
* ive been told im quite funny (hmmmm...lol!!)
* i love to help people
* the most important thing in my life are my family and friends
if anyone needs help then email me and i will respond asap! be brave and message me....i wont judge you and i will give you an honest answer and my honest opinion!
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Should we allow our daughter to meet this guy?
Q. My daughter's 16, and in college studying beauty therapy. She intends to work in tourism as a beauty therapist when she's older, and is doing well on her course. She's got a 21-year-old sister who's at university in Nottingham. Last week she ...
A. 21 January 2008: hi!
first things first, what a fantastic relationship you have with your daughter! you are so lucky that she loves and trusts you enough to tell you all of this because she could have gone ahead and met this guy without telling you and ended up... (read in full...)
19 years old...is sex with my 16 yo gf wrong??
Q. I am an 19 year old and im currently in a relationship with a 16 year old girl. I am in madly in love with her and i have never felt this way about anyone else. I've been with her for over 6 months now and we are ready for sex, but im not sure whe...
A. 21 January 2008: as the other posts have said, 16 years old is the age of consent so it isnt illegal for the two of you to have sex!
just make sure that you are both 100% ready, if you have any doubts i think you should wait until they are gone, you will both fee... (read in full...)
Does my unwillingness to mess araound with boys make me more of a catch?
Q. loads of people in my year are doing loads of stuff with a boy one of my close freinds has wanked off two boys is she a slut? i think she is but other people say shes not and we are only 14 is there somthing wrong with me or am i the only sane one ...
A. 21 October 2007: first of all i have to say its very refreshing to hear someone your age saying that they dont want to do these things even though their friends are because the tendency is to follow the crowd just so that people like you and you look cool! but you ... (read in full...)
Extremely happy with my bf, but I still enjoy other male attention. Why?
Q. hiya, i dont know whats going on with me. i am extremely happy with my boyfriend of 7 months, but i still enjoy other male attention. i really feel my bf is the one, but i enjoy others giving me comments e.g. on my myspace site, or previous ...
A. 20 October 2007: I agree with flower girl!! theres no harm in you enjoying the attention! nobody is getting hurt by this, your boyfriend may get a bit jealous with all the attention you are receiving but as long as you are happy and you trust each other that you are ... (read in full...)
My wife is 4 months pregant. Is sex safe during the pregnancy?
Q. Hi , My wife is pregnant now, she is now 4 months. Is sex is safe during in this period. Or give me a suggestion....
A. 16 September 2007: hey!! congratulations on the baby!! yes sex is fine during the pregnancy! my only suggestion would be that if your wife experiences any bleeding after intercourse to consult your midwife because there could be some erosion on the cervix! then it ... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregnant even though we stopped before he ejaculated ?
Q. So i just lost my virginity a few days ago and when he first did it we had sex unprotected....he didnt cum at all so we stopped before he did do anything like that.... i talked to my friend and she said that even a little speck of sperm can get me...
A. 16 September 2007: yes you absolutely can get pregnant even if he didnt ejaculate! guys have a pre-cum which is secreted before they ejaculate and this does contain sperm-it only takes one little sperm to make its way through and you would be pregnant!! it was ve... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and overweight. Help me recover my confidence?
Q. im only 15 and i think im over wieght! i read loads of magazines and im no where as slim or pretty as them. it makes me feel sad evey time i look in the mirror and i hate buying, going out the house! i have lost all my confidence! please help me ...
A. 15 September 2007: oh sweetheart, please please please dont compare yourself to the people in magazines!! the people in these magazines are not a good role model for young girls and they are the reason a lot of girls have eating disorders! they are only in the ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking that if I don't start my sexual life soon, I'll be too scared to initiate it later on. I'm 19...
Q. I am 19 years old and never had sex, im now starting to think if I dont soon I will be too scared to have sex later on. Have you got any advice for me please?...
A. 15 September 2007: Hunny, stop worrying!! the more you worry about the fact you have not had sex, the harder it will be!! why are you worried?! there is absolutely nothing to worry about!! you are only 19 years old, you have a life time ahead of you to meet someone ... (read in full...)
I think I am falling for my roomates gf! What do I do now?
Q. Oh dear. I've just got a new housemate, and I can't stand him. His girlfriend, however, is another matter. She's really nice and I get on well with her and I know she's relatively happy with her boyfriend, but I can't stop myself from falling for ...
A. 15 September 2007: its hard falling for someone we cant have!! unfortunately the only advice i can give you is to do nothing! you cannot act on this unfortunately-she is happy with her boyfriend and its as simple as that! you can be her friend but nothing more while ... (read in full...)
We want to experiment with squirty cream, but we don't really know what to do? Any advice?
Q. Hi all, just wanting some friendly advice, me and my partner are both on the large side, my partner is also disabled, we want to experiment with squirty cream, but we don't really know what to do, so can anybody give me some advice?...
A. 15 September 2007: spray it on and lick it off!!
simple as that! the fact that your partner is disabled and you are both on the large side makes absolutely no difference what so ever in the fun you can have with food sex!
just experiment and find whatever is... (read in full...)
What is he thinking? He says he's impressed with my maturity and enjoys our conversations.
Q. What is he thinking? Please analyze this with me and offer your opinions and suggestions. Thank you! I met a man who is ten years older than me (I am 25 years old) on an internet network about four months ago. We have been exchanging email...
A. 15 September 2007: ok well first of all i have to say that it is very risky ro meet someone from the internet--although it can sometimes work out, there is always the risk that the person you are talking to may not be who they say they are! you may have exchanged ... (read in full...)
Scared to tell my councillor the truth as he might call me a liar. It's not true that I noticed my parents of the pregancy, as I said...
Q. i had a boyfriend this time last year and i got pregant and had an abortion. and started to see my school concilor...but i lied to him. i said that i did tell my mum and the father, when really i didnt because i was too scared. now i feel guilty and ...
A. 15 September 2007: ok well your counsellor will not call you a liar, it is their job to listen to your problems and to help you! if he calls you a liar then you should report him because he is not doing his job properly! a counsellor is someone you should have ... (read in full...)
Should I let my 16 year old daughter sleep in the same bed with her bf?
Q. me my husband and our daughter are going on holiday for a week soon and i've told her she can take her bf who i know extremely well and have known all his life. I was just wondering what you would think if i let them sleep in the same bed. They...
A. 15 September 2007: i think if you trust both your daughter and her boyfriend then to let them sleep in the same bed if you feel comfortable with this! if you are happy that they have slept in the same bed before then it should be no different on holiday!
im su... (read in full...)
Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring.
Q. Is my fiance cheap? He makes 2800 a month and spend 2000 on my ring....
A. 15 September 2007: Just as the others have said---he is not cheap and i do think that you are being very materialistic! when did material posessions become the important thing in life?! i would just be greatful to have someone who loves me and is willing to commit his ... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant when only the pull-out method is used?
Q. Hey guys...=) Well basicly last night I had unprotected sex...i know it was stupid...I definatly wont be taking risks again... i know the guy/his history etc so STI'S isn't an issue... but I'm worried there could be a possibility of getting pregn...
A. 15 September 2007: yes you definately can get pregnant from the pull out method! this is a very unreliable way to prevent pregnancy-although no method is 100% effective, the pull out method is one of the most unreliable! it only takes one tiny little sperm to reach th... (read in full...)
I was with my boyfriend and he had a see through substance on the tip of his you know what...
Q. I was with my boyfriend and he had a see through substance on the tip of his you know what and I just wanted to know if it contains sperm or if it's a lubricant, also, why does this happen, we weren't even doing anything, I was just sitting on his ...
A. 15 September 2007: this is pre-cum produced by the penis during sexual excitement and yes it does contain sperm! you can get pregnant from this so ensure you use protection! it does act as a lubricant! the fact that you were sitting on his lap is enough to produce ... (read in full...)
After giving birth 2 months ago, every time I go near her breast she leaks milk...
Q. My wife gave birth to our baby daughter 2 months ago, she was our first but whenever me and my wife are having sex or being intimate and I go down to caress her breast etc(sorry to be graphic) or when I put my mouth near them she starts to leak if ...
A. 15 September 2007: the breasts produce milk when they are being stimulated! by caressing her breasts you are stimulating them and the horomone oxytocin sends signals to the brain to enable them to produce more milk! the more the breasts are stimulated, the more milk ... (read in full...)
My bf has to have a beard b/c of his religion, but I hate beards! I want him to cut it!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much, but he's got a beard and long hair, he has to have it this way because of his religion, but the thing is im not a fan of beards, but he can't cut it. I really hate beards ! It just makes him look older and my friends ...
A. 14 September 2007: im sorry hun but the other posts are right, if you love this man then you wouldnt ask him to change something that is so important to him! relationships are all about compromise and this is obviously something that you need to compromise on! you ... (read in full...)
Is what you see on porn films real or camera trickery????
Q. In a porn vidio i just watched, this guy put a ping pong ball in this girl's vagina. then he pushed it in so it was out of sight. Then he did something with her ass or something. i saw him put his finger's in her vagina, and fish out the ball.could ...
A. 5 September 2007: although i havent personally tried that myself (and im pretty sure i never will) im sure it probably is possible! i wouldnt believe everything you see in porn films though, they do things to look impressive and sometimes can be deceiving! i agree ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and want to have sex! I'm scared but I want to. Should I???
Q. i am 12 i want to have sex with my boyfriend. what should i do? i am so scarde but i want to, so should i have sex with him ...
A. 4 September 2007: no you shouldnt have sex! you are far too young! the legal age isnt until 16 so i would say wait until you at least reach that age! but the fact you are scared is just proof that you are not ready! enjoy being a kid at the moment and when you are ... (read in full...)
Does feeling up your boobs cause them to grow?
Q. hiia, i recently herd off a friends mum that feeling and playing with your boobs stimulate the cell tissue and makes them grow, is this true? i was just wondering because she always says to my friends who have bf that there boobs have bin man hand...
A. 4 September 2007: no, this definately sounds like an old wives tale im afraid! believe me if i thought it would work i would give it a go!!!
xxxx... (read in full...)
I am 23 and have fallen for a 14 year old!
Q. i am a 23 year old male, and i have a 14 year old friend i have meet and known for a while, we get on really well, and her parents seem to trust me and her. but i think i maybe fallin in love with her, and i think she feels the same way, im not...
A. 4 September 2007: If you really like this girl then i would suggest not talking your relationship further until she is 16-like the other agony aunt said--see how the friendship progresses because when she is so young the age gap really does make a difference. If you ... (read in full...)
He says I am frigid but I think I am too young!
Q. I am 13 and i like this 19 year old boy..he really likes me and i like him but he said i am frigid..i think i am to young and he is a dad what shall i do?? help...
A. 3 September 2007: You are too young hunny and i am so relieved to hear you say that!! so many times people come to us and say i want to do it when they are only 13 and i have to say to them that they are too young! its so refreshing to hear a young person acknowledge ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my mum to show me how to use a tampon?
Q. hello, just wondering, is it normal for my mum to want to show me how to use tampons ? i mean i was so embarssed about telling her i was even on my period, (she found blood stains in my pants so that's how she found out) and i am so scared. is this ...
A. 3 September 2007: hey hunny!! dont worry, a lot of people find out these things from their parents! im one of them! my mum showed me how to use tampons, she also bought me my first condoms! i personally think its great that your mum chats with you about this sort of ... (read in full...)
I'm a girl and worried about what to do during my first time.
Q. what does the girl do in sex? i am a virgin but am thinking about having sex woth my bf of 15 months. We are both virgins so he's not sure either but what does the girl do in sex?? do i jst lay there or do i hav to move or what? obviously i am going ...
A. 2 September 2007: no i wouldnt say that you are too young to be in love, although i would question how you knew that this was love as you have not had much life experience as someone who was 20! However, although you may feel ready to have sex--the reason why im c... (read in full...)
Why do I hear women complaining about their first times, while I felt no pain?
Q. I always thought I would bleed when I first had sex and that it would be painful...but I didnt bleed at all and there was barely any pain at all. I always imagined it to be this horrible feeling and stuff, but it didnt hurt much at all. After my ...
A. 2 September 2007: For me it did really hurt but some of my friends felt no pain! its just the way it goes...consider yourself lucky and continue to have a good sex life!!... (read in full...)
I'm a girl and worried about what to do during my first time.
Q. what does the girl do in sex? i am a virgin but am thinking about having sex woth my bf of 15 months. We are both virgins so he's not sure either but what does the girl do in sex?? do i jst lay there or do i hav to move or what? obviously i am going ...
A. 31 August 2007: ok first of all i have to say that your age says you are 13-15! is that your correct age because if it is then you are not old enough to be having sexual intercourse yet! it would be illegal! wait until you are 16 because that is the legal age of ... (read in full...)
He is not text-book attractive, however has a fantastic personality. Should I pursue a relationship with him, against the will of my friends?
Q. I need help!! Ive recently become intensely attracted to someone ive known for several years, but this is not where my problem lies. The issue is that this man is not text-book attractive. He's in his 30's, roughly five-ten, incredibly thin,...
A. 31 August 2007: ok sweetheart now i personally think you should absolutely pursue a relationship with this man if you feel about him the way you do!!! your friends are obviously a lot more shallow than you and they base their lives around attravtiveness! and as ... (read in full...)
I'm still worried I could be pregant!
Q. Hi everyone, Well about 3 days ago i lost my virginity and he was protected , we had sex for about 30 mins , but we had to discontinue because my mom came home . so he came over the next day and we had sex once again but unprotected this time ,ye...
A. 31 August 2007: ok hunny, well yes you can get pregnant even if your boyfriend doesnt ejaculate!! if you begin to get symptoms of pregnancy such as sickness, nipple darekening, missed period...then take a pregnancy test or visit your gp!
i hope you have learned ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend?
Q. How do I tell a guy that I like as a friend, that I'm not interested in him as a boyfriend? I met a guy on holiday as part of a big group of friends. I've since seen him again with several other people we met on holiday too, and we get on really...
A. 31 August 2007: The other posts have said it really!! you just need to be honest!! its best to be honest right from the start so that you dont unintentionally lead him on!
i think like true knowledge said, after youve gone to the cinema say somehing like "i ... (read in full...)
Is this even possible? Am I talking rubbish?
Q. Ok so this may seem strange but I was having a feel around my vagina (trying to have a bloody orgasm!) and I notice that there are actually i think two canals running from the entrance of my vagina, i think they go in slightly different directions, ...
A. 31 August 2007: i agree with the other posts! if you are worried then go and visit your doctor...they will be able to help you. it may be a bit embarassing at first but just remember they have seen it all before!!
good luck hunny!
xxx... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and the 22 year old guy I met online wants to meet me!
Q. I met this boy over a chat room started talking but the problem is hes 22 im only 14 i know hes not an old man or anything becasue he sent me a picture with my name on i told him first that i thought he was a fake but now i know hes not. He wants ...
A. 31 August 2007: like the other posts have said, this is incredibly dangerous and this man could be lying to you about everything!!! you shouldnt ever meet anyone off a chat room until you are an adult and even then i would urge you to be extremely cautious and only ... (read in full...)
What is normal behaviour when it comes to "friends," not to be misinterpreted with "lovers" ?
Q. I'm 17 and one of my closest friends is 15 and i've known her most of my life. But now people are starting to think something is happening between us (which it isnt), or saying we're acting like a couple. However much we deny this people still say ...
A. 31 August 2007: you sound like you are just great mates to me and continue to act in just the same way that you always have!! your behaviour as you described doesnt lead me to belive you are taking it too far, you sound like you really care for this girl and want ... (read in full...)
We are seperated because i dont feel I love him anymore. Have I done the right thing?
Q. I have been married for 1 year and I have off and on felt that I was not in love with my husband. I always tried to push the thoughts off and not think about them because he is so good to me. Finally, I started to have panic attacks (they were ...
A. 31 August 2007: you are very brave and i think that you have absolutely done the right thing!! if you feel as though this relationship isnt working and you dont love him anymore then you did the right thing ending it before something like children got into the ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he's cheating on me when he lives 40 minutes away?
Q. Hi I am currently in a relationship and he lives about 40 minutes away from me. We get to see each other about once a week and speak by text quite frequently. We have just booked a trip away together and he tells me he likes me all the time but I ...
A. 31 August 2007: what makes you think that he might be cheating on you? what signs (if any ) have you got that this may be the case? in a relationship you need to trust one another so it wouldnt make a difference if he only lived 5 minutes away, if you didnt trust ... (read in full...)
I want to be with this guy and I don't want to lose a good friend... what do I do?
Q. Liz in trouble I am 21... and my very old friend told me that he likes me... he's a great friend and I sort of like him too but he's going out with this other friend of mine called T... All three of us are together since junior high... I am in a ...
A. 31 August 2007: oooh youve got yourself in a right muddle here!! ok, well if the guy you like is in a relationship, regardless of whether the girl is your friend or not, it would be wrong to pursue him! it would be considered cheating and this is wrong as im sure ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by the guy I've been having an affair with! I dont need judging, I just need some advice...
Q. I have been seeing this guy for years. Before you judge me you don't have to live my life and there is a lot of screwed up stuff in my marriage. I am married and scared to death of my husband. I found out that I am pregnant and don't know what to ...
A. 31 August 2007: ok hunny, has your husand been violent to you in the past?? if he has and you are that scared of him then you must must must leave him straight away!! this is probably a scary thought but now you have yourself and your baby to look after!! you cant ... (read in full...)
My 17 yr old boyfriend doesn't take me anywhere and says because I'm 15 he didn't think I would want to go anywhere. Was I right to take offense?
Q. my 17 Yr old boyfriend never takes me anywhere. earlier i confronted him about this and he said "well your only 15, i didnt think you'd want to go anywhere" i took offence by this and he stormed off to bed when i expressed this. was i right to take ...
A. 31 August 2007: yeh you and your boyfriend obviously have different ideas about what you want from your relationship or where you are at! tell him that you want to spend time with him..make it blatant that you do!! if he still doenst want to spend time with you or ... (read in full...)
I think this is wrong but I'm not sure...
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 16 im turning 13 in december is this wrong? I think it is but im not sure....
A. 31 August 2007: well i can understand why people will be worried becuase guys of that age are usually only interested in sex and people may be worried that he will try to pressurise you into this! if you have found a guy that is happy to wait and treats you well ... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and me and my girlfriend keep breaking up. Should we be together? Help please.
Q. me and my girlfreind keep breaking up and getting back together over and over should we be together i am eleven...
A. 30 August 2007: oh hunny, your 11 years old, you shouldnt be worrying about things like this! you should be out with your mates enjoying being a kid!! this relationship doesnt sound as though its working so i would suggest ending it and enjoying your youth! worry ... (read in full...)
I think this is wrong but I'm not sure...
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 16 im turning 13 in december is this wrong? I think it is but im not sure....
A. 30 August 2007: Hey hun! the fact that you have to ask us if this is wrong and you say that you think it is wrong makes me wonder whether you are feeling comfortable in this relationship.
Your still very young so try not to concentrate too much on relation... (read in full...)
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