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writes:My ex boyfriend (now married) has been calling me from pay phones and his friends cell phones. I have been returning his phone calls because I thought something happened to him. So, I gave up. So, I get this phone call thinking it was him unfortunately, it was his wife. What she doesn't know is he's been calling me at work (both lines) and on my cell phone. He's been telling me he wants to get back together and he still loves me. He's sorry for all he's done, etc. I have been ignoring his phone calls for quite sometime until he left a message that sound as if he was really in need of some help. She had left me a crazy message with strong use of profanity. She has called me twice which the second time I didn't pick up. I saved the message in which I will see what I have to do in order to file a restraining order or if it is enough evidence to file one. Do you think this is the right thing to do on my behlaf?
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (15 June 2007):
I don't know how threatening she was. If she has only called twice, and no more, maybe she's happy that she's "scared you off", as she imagines, and will leave it at that. I would keep her message though, and any more that you get. If he calls again, tell him to leave you alone and look after his poor wife, who he has treated very badly. If it's her, tell her you have nothing against her, but her husband is harassing you and you want nothing to do with him. If that doesn't stop them then remind them that you have a record of her call and that you will take legal action the next time.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (15 June 2007):
 I think it is totally the right thing to do as you do not deserve to be treated like this by her or anyone else for that matter, keep hold of that message and keep a note of all calls listing times and dates and take it to the police, if you want to talk to your ex first tell him about the message you have saved and warn him if they don't both leave you alone you will have to take it further hopefully that will do the trick.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): She's handling it very badly, but you cannot believe the pain she's in. If you fear her, then of course a restraining order makes sense. If she isn't actually threatening, then I would say something like "I know you aren't looking for my sympathy, but you have it. Please understand that I've never knowingly acted to cause you harm, and I wish you the best in working this out with your husband without my interference. I will not speak to him again, no matter what. Ever. Not even if you divorce him. Knowing that he has caused you such pain is plenty of reason to avoid him for good." And stick by that. His calls are manipulating you, seriously damaging his wife, and leading to this situation.
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