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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I only see him 3 nights a week and do want more but get the feeling he doesn't. What should I do?
Q. been seeing a guy for a year on and of,he is just about divorced and i would like to know where i stand with him? his kids are the same age as mine and get on great at school but he doesnt really involve them too much with me.i only see him 3 nites ...
A. 19 June 2007: I personally would not leave it till sept to try and find out where this is going i would speak to him now about it, i can understand that he that he is keeping the children out of your relationship abit at the moment as it is probably best for the ... (read in full...)
I know she reads my texts but she's choosing not to answer me right away for some reason! can someone explain why this may be?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me last sunday and this sunday just gone we talked about starting fresh and 2 take things slow by just dating again and meeting up every week or so and to slow down on all the calls and texts, i was fine with that and still am ...
A. 19 June 2007: Hi babe, just tell me why are you still letting her treat you like this you DO NOT deserve it, i can see you obviously care about her but she is treating you like dirt, you need to stop texting her and trying to call her and give her a taste of her ... (read in full...)
My life is in a rut. I want to settle down but dont know how to find my lifemate
Q. I'm 32 and feel my life's in a rut. I'd like to settle down, get married and have a family. In fact, that's what I've wanted since I was about 17. I'm starting to think the reason I haven't settled is that I've still got a lot of growing up and ...
A. 19 June 2007: You could try joining a dating website in the comfort of your own home so many people i know have done it and met their soul mates that way, you can pick and chose if you don't want to speak to someone then don't and the great thing is straight away ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I am gay and how can I become straight again?
Q. I am so worried. I think, I really do not know, but I think that I might be gay. It scares the hell out of me, I don't want to be gay!! I've got a girlfriend and I love her but I am so confused. I cannot talk to ANYONE about this. How can I become s...
A. 19 June 2007: Will agree with yummymummy here, i think if we are all 100% truthful with ourselves we all experience this at some point while we are growing up, just ride with it and don't let it consume you it will probably pass in time and if it does not it is ... (read in full...)
I made my boyfriend mad by being so clingy and now he wont talk to me
Q. Ok..I did something to make my boyfriend mad...I couldn't get a hold of him so I went to his work and he wasn't working, he was there hanging with friends and he was more or less blowing me off, telling me he didn't want to be bothered, kept wanting ...
A. 19 June 2007: If he is playing games with your it's a very cruel game to be playing as he has just left you dangling, if he wants to go on a journey to better himself then thats up to him but he has no right to say to you don't fall in love as i will be back.
Y... (read in full...)
About to give birth but have no worries. Shouldnt I be freaked?
Q. Heya :) This sounds a little silly but shouldn't I be worried about going in to labour for the first time, or any worries at all..... I'm 21 weeks pregnant and feel a little odd as I'm not panicking as much as other pregnant women I know and ...
A. 19 June 2007: I was not all that worried when i had my first even considering all of the horror stories i had been told before, it is such a fantastic experience and not even half as bad as some people make out, i know everyone has different pain thresholds but ... (read in full...)
Do men who have georgeous girlfriends still fantasize, look at porn or cheat?
Q. Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat? I am an attractive woman and all my boyfriends have looked at other women or porn at some time or another in our relationship(and some ...
A. 19 June 2007: Up her own a@#e springs to mind i would say that looking at other women sometimes even fantasising and watching porn are quite common in most men, and as long as they don't follow it through with an affair whats the harm.
I would pay no atte... (read in full...)
Theres a new girl in school and I want her to join my group of friends
Q. Hi this is quite complicated so if any of you can help that would be great, i wopuld like some different opions on this please+ sorry if its really long. Ok well im 15 and theres this girl that has just moved to the area and my school. I met her ...
A. 19 June 2007: Well you certainly sound like a lovely lad, if she has been let down before by other people it is going to be hard for her to trust again so the only thing you can do is keep trying, like for instance instead of asking her to sit with you at lunch ... (read in full...)
Sometimes it seems he loves me, other times he threatens me; should I end it?
Q. Okay so i have been going out with this guy for almost 9 months. now ately he's been mean towards me saying stuff like "i'm going to push you down the stairs" and i dont know if hes kidding or not. He says he might really do it. And said if i was in ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you ahve not got that much in common and he treats you this way then you should definately leave him there is no reason to stick around, so ok he says he loves you but these types of men what say what they think you want to hear because if they ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he's impotent but then we successfully had sex; I'm so confused
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend Roger and I have been dating 4 months this Friday. It took us forever for things to get physical. When I gave him oral (for the first time) the other night, I did it for ages and he didn't come. He eventually broke down and t...
A. 19 June 2007: There are many different causes of impotence so here goes;
Temporary psychological factors like stress more long term factors due to anxiety and guilt originating in childhood and it may also be a symtom of depression.
Also other factors are thin... (read in full...)
She wants a year apart from me to have fun at college but I'm so depressed about her decision
Q. Im still in college and my fiance just broke up with me. What's worse is that I saw this coming 6 months ago, but it just kept getting worse and worse until now. We don't go to the same school, so I didn't see her everyday until the summer started ...
A. 19 June 2007: I will have to second the previous poster on this one as they have hit the nail on the head.
The only thing i would suggest also is that you go and see your gp about the depression as it will not just go away on it's own and when you start gett... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated to get revenge; should I stay with her?
Q. I'm 19 years old, young i know, my girlfriend is going to be 17 in 3 days and about an hour ago i found out that she had cheated on me about 4 days ago. i'm so depressed this is a first for her i have never cheated on her and never will i feel like ...
A. 19 June 2007: Oh josh, i know how it feels babe it's crap, this happened to me ten months ago with my husband of twelve years and as hard as it can be for a while if you really love that person you can get over it, if you can honestly trust the fact they will not ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him anymore but I don't want to hurt him
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He is my first serious boyfriend. Lately I think that my feelings are changing towards him. I still care about him, I just don't think I love him anymore. It's not another man, but I'm 22 and i don't excatly ...
A. 19 June 2007: Some times in a relationship things go abit stale and you do just fall out of love, but if thats the way you feel then you need to do something about it.
Like has been previously said if you stay with him you will only hurt him and yourself more... (read in full...)
Met a guy online, will we last when we meet?
Q. Ok so here's the thing...i met this guy online and well...ok lemme start from the beginning... ok...so me n him met in a random room n started talking. At first i thought he was a goofball who i wudn't be interested in at all. We talked for like....
A. 18 June 2007: Who knows if you would last but sometimes you just have to take a chance in life, if you don't meet you will never know.
Go for it girl.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
All my friends have boyfriends and I'm really unhappy what can I do?
Q. Hey, im 14 but have never had a boyfriend:( i have never kissed a boy or done anything!!!!!! All my friends have..i just have really bad confidence..and im overweight and i dont think im pretyy...pweezz help someone just to give me advice its ma...
A. 18 June 2007: Hey babe,
Don't you worry about things like that not having had a boyfriend or even kissing one is no huge great deal at your age, your confidence will grow with you i had no confidence when i was your age and i felt similar things about myse... (read in full...)
is it wrong for me to want to feel desired and irresistable to my fiance?
Q. is it wrong for me to want to feel desired and irresistable to my fiance?...
A. 18 June 2007: It most definately is not wrong for you to feel like that, in fact i would be more concerned if you did not feel like that.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend during our 9 month relationship. He caught me. What can I do?
Q. Hi, i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now but i have cheated on him twice and he has just caught me out. there is no way i could deny anything. He doesn't want to end it but what shall i do? i feel so sick and its making me ill... How can ...
A. 18 June 2007: If he can get over it and you really like him then you can get over it, if you really like him though take his feelings into consideration and if you can not stay faithful then don't be with him.
Take care.xx. ... (read in full...)
Is it considered slutty to sleep with someone a week into a relationship when one of them is a virgin?
Q. I need peoples opinions here... Do u think its slutty to sleep with someone a week into the relationship, if one of the people are virgins? ....If yes what do you think is an apropriate amount of time to wait?...
A. 18 June 2007: No one can tell you when it is right to sleep with someone you just have to go with what is right for you, all i can say is that before i met my husband i slept with a couple of people very quickly into the ralationships and they never lasted that ... (read in full...)
After the death of my brother, I don't feel like I care about anything anymore. Please help me!
Q. hello out there well i have a problem and i dont know what to do or if its normal or whats wrong with me wel lmy brother died a couple of months ago and for like the first few days i was said and now its like it didnt happen i dont even think about ...
A. 18 June 2007: Firstly i just want to say i'm sorry to hear what you have been going through.
Secondly everyone deals with losing someone in different ways, have you had any type of conselling to deal with the loss of your brother?
It sounds as though since yo... (read in full...)
My ex is tired of his live-in girlfriend - am I a fool if I were to get involved with him again?
Q. I was wondering how much of a fool I am to get involved with my ex husband. He left me for a 19 year old girl and they have a baby together. As I stated we are divorced now and he is living with his girlfriend but she is moving out soon. He is ...
A. 18 June 2007: Go with your heart, people can change and no matter what others say just because he cheated once it does not mean he will do it again.
If you think you can get over what has happened in the past then why not give it another go just take it slow... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with this man when I go back over in July? He's 16 years older than me.
Q. I have a problem, I'll start from the beginning, when i was 13 i met this man who was 29 and we hit it off, he didn't know i was 13 since he never asked and i looked older for my age. He lives in the Phillipines and i live in england, and go over ...
A. 18 June 2007: Please don't do it, like you said yourself he only said he loved you after you said you would only sleep with someone that loved you, and no matter how grown up you look for your age he probably does have some idea of how old you are.
There are many... (read in full...)
Should I go up and speak to her or what???
Q. a girl at college keeps givin me looks but quickly turning when i catch her eye! is she trying to tell me something or would i be wasting my time making a move on her?...
A. 18 June 2007: I sounds like she probably likes you but maybe she is just shy, if you like her go for it what have you got to loose, don't waste time in not doing anything about it just in case someone else gets in there first.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
How do you know if your meant to be together?
Q. How do you know if your meant to be together? i met this guy in hs,he was w/ his gf. We started talking n really clicked, n he didn't want be w/his gf but felt like a jerk if he just broke it off w/her. So he was going wait until she finds anothe...
A. 18 June 2007: What's that all about he is doing it for their happiness, how can he expect to be happy if he does not really want to marry her, if you really feel that strongly about each other then maybe you are meant to be together and nothing should come in the ... (read in full...)
I've told him I want to end it but he won't let me, he said he is going to take me somewhere and I can't come home or he'll rape me!
Q. I've told him I want to end it but he won't let me, he said he is going to take me somewhere and I can't come home or he'll rape me! I want to run away but my problem will just follow why can't i run away from my problem? i can't talk 2 my mum she ...
A. 18 June 2007: Babe you need to call 999 NOW tell the police everything that you have told us and they will deal with person and you will be safe do not leave it any longer.
Take care you know where we are if you need to talk.xx.... (read in full...)
The man i have been dating was hiding phone calls with married woman he was interested in.
Q. I am so hurt. The man i have been dating was hiding phone calls with married woman he was interested in and it's happened more then once so I had to end it. He of course kept denying it but there was no reason for the calls. Whether or not I was ...
A. 18 June 2007: You done totally the right thing and believe me these kind of people do not usually land on their feet, they always get their just deserts, you can move on now knowing you are not wrecking someones marriage and meet someone that wants to be with you ... (read in full...)
Why do you think he is starting to tease me so much?
Q. i am friends with this guy who has been teasing me a lot lately. sometimes, it hurts my feelings, and i start to think that he no longer wants to be friends with me, but we always end up play fighting or hugging. with his teasing me, i'm starting to ...
A. 18 June 2007: Sounds like the actions of some one that likes you to me, it's more attractive to you because you get on well and you feel comfortable round him, so if you like him why not say something and see if it goes any further.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I separated from my husband because I didn't feel attracted to him anymore. Now I'm with someone else who's great at times but sometimes shows no respect to me. What should I do?
Q. I am currently separated from my husband because I do not feel attracted to him anymore. He's a kind person, but I feel I have outgrown him in many ways, though I still love him, but more like a companion, than a husband/lover. We didn't have any ...
A. 18 June 2007: You are strong enough to be on your own we all think that we are not but when it comes to it we are fine, i've been on my own for the last ten months and that was something i never thought i would ever be able to do and it's really not all that bad ... (read in full...)
What must I do? Is he trying to give me a message or can it be something else?
Q. I have met a guy awhile back (+-3years) we used to work together but there was no magic between us we were just co-workers. So I have found a new job. And every now and then we meet at some or another place then we just have eye contact and smile at ...
A. 18 June 2007: Give up the chase, if he likes you he will contact you if not then move on and find someone else where the feeling is mutual.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Met a guy at a party, we text each other all the time but he has a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. I've been talking to one of my friends a lot more. We spend a lot of time together and he's recently has been helping me out to deal with my ex problems. Well, anyways...a while back when we weren't talking as much we were at a party. In that ...
A. 18 June 2007: I would say go for it like the others have said he got your no so it must mean he is interested, tell him how you feel but also explain that if he wants to be with you it's you and only you, and if thats what he wants he will get rid of the ... (read in full...)
does she still like me, I feel like asking her but I dunno if that would put her off me what do I do?
Q. I like this girl, she is 16 I am 17. I met her through a mate when we were out in his car, I felt a strong love for her as soon as I saw her, kind of a love at first site thingie. Asked her if she would go out with me. She answered "I am n...
A. 18 June 2007: Hey just bite the bullett and ask her what have you got to lose sounds as though she likes you maybe she is just waiting for you to make the first move.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm scared of losing his friendship forever but I can't be around him while he is with her.
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up just over 3 months ago now. We were together nearly 4 years and before we got together we were best friends for 6 years. It has been the worst 3 months for me and I'm still not over him even a little bit. I loved him so ...
A. 18 June 2007: Obviously he still cares for you and that is why no one wanted to tell you about him and his new girl as they new how it would effect you, don't send this letter just yet maybe you could send him a text or something saying you understand that he ... (read in full...)
What do you say to some you love dearly when they have just lost someone close?
Q. What do you say to some you love dearly when they have just lost someone close? I mean recently as in yesterday morning! What am i supposed to do she just lies crying there not saying anything now i know this is normal but what can i do i don't know ...
A. 18 June 2007: There is nothing you can say until she has dealt with it in her own way and is ready to start talking about it, just be there for her give her space if she needs it and hugs if she needs them, you being there will be enough and like you say it was ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me for someone else, how do I get on with my life?
Q. My relationship with my fiance has recently come to an end, a big shock to me but not to him supposedly. He proposed at Christmas, wedding booked for next July. His initial reason for our break up was that he didn't know what he wanted, then it was ...
A. 18 June 2007: When you stop and really think about it it should not be that hard to move on with your life, the person you loved when you needed them most for support when your mother started cancer treatment probably started a relationship with another girl, you ... (read in full...)
How do I forgive my friend who ran off with my old bf!
Q. Anger doesn't quite cover it... I was in a relationship for three years and the guy I was with treated me like a pile of rubbish yet I still stuck by him despite how many friends I lost being being out with him is frankly troublesome, dan...
A. 17 June 2007: You know what she is so in the wrong here and people will see it for themselves i think as hard as it is and i do know you have to just forget about her you are the decent person in this and do not let her drag you down to her level, women like her ... (read in full...)
I like him but he keeps pressuring me for sex! Should I dump him?
Q. hey i am 13 years old and same with me boyfriend. on the very first night he kept asking me to do bj's with him and made me feel very uncomfortable. I confronted him about it and he said that he was sorry, but he keeps asking me to like take showers ...
A. 17 June 2007: Ah babe you don't have to go to the movies with him and you certainly don't have do do anything sexual with him. I think your friends are right babe you should break up with him as you should not be in a relationship with someone that puts that much ... (read in full...)
Should I end my marriage and just go on a hope and a prayer, with this other guy?
Q. Alright, I have a problem. My head hurts from thinking about it and analyzing it. Let me give you some background. Basically I met this guy, B, sophomore year of high school. We hit it off immediately. Literally the week that we started dating ...
A. 17 June 2007: From the way you have been talking it does not sound like you should be in this marriage anymore anyway, i know i would not want to stay with someone if things were just alright.
You should not end your marriage on the hope that there could be some... (read in full...)
This girl I know makes confusing references to sex..what am I to make of her?
Q. A North American girl I am working with everyday keeps making references to a question someone asked her: her exact words are "he asked me how much I could take", meaning, how many times she could have intercourse in a row. Then, she suddenly says ...
A. 17 June 2007: She sounds scary, if i were you i would stay clear of this one.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do I allow him into my children's lives without feeling such hatred for him? Also, I don't want his girlfriend in my children's lives.
Q. Hi I wanted some tips for coping with an ex-partner when he comes to see the kids, Its been 2 months since Ive thrown him out(for cheating) and even though I dont love him anymore, I hate it when he comes round I just feel such hatred for him and ...
A. 17 June 2007: I know totally how you feel about not wanting the girlfriend to have anything to do with the children as i am in the same situation but unfortunatly the law is not in our favour when it comes to this, so as hard as it is we just have to deal with ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex back ? He said that I have abused him for too long.
Q. I did not get any responses to help me in my torture at the moment! So, posting another cry for help! Thanks for your patience and time to read again! How do I get my ex back ? He said that I have abused him for too long and that he was OUT of i...
A. 17 June 2007: He obviously still cares for you, but i think you need to just come out and ask him why he is still making contact with you if he wanted out of the relationship and let him know that through the contact it is giving you false hope and that is not ... (read in full...)
She's a lesbian and I love her but I'm not ready to come out of the closet.
Q. dear cupid, a good friend of over 3 years has just come out and has now said that she is in love with me and has been for a while..we are now involved in a very intense relationship, we have a major problem, she wants me to come out, and i told her ...
A. 17 June 2007: If you really truely love this women then you should not feel comfortable hiding the relationship, you should be wanting to shout about it from the rooftops and be proud to say you are together, so maybe you need to question your true feelings for ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with her or give up on her?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for four years. Not only was it my first and only relationship, it was my first and only relationship. I had always wanted this to be an open relationship because since I had never been in a relationship before, I ...
A. 17 June 2007: The situation is out of your control now, all you can do is tell her exactly how you feel tell her that you love her and you are sorry you messed up but you wanted to be sure about your feelings and then you have to give her time to make her ... (read in full...)
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