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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Should I totally move on or should I keep a little hope that the love of my life will come back to me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years and everything has been great but this last month. I was her first serious relationship and we had a great time, traveled the world together. With in the last year she moved about 4 hours away ...
A. 18 July 2007: I personally think she is being very selfish, the way that she is giving you hope telling you that she may be back.
She is expecting you to wait around for her while she goes out and has a great time dating other people and thats not fair on you.... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time.
Q. I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time. How do I make it go away? ...
A. 8 July 2007: I'm not sure that you can make it go away, unless of course you are willing to leave your job so you do not see her again.
It will probably fade away in time as long as you know not to over step that line with her then whats the problem, just try ... (read in full...)
I'm 27, he's 22. Is there a problem?
Q. hello, i met a nice young man who is 22 years old he is mentally mature and understands me he tells me that he likes me and wants a future with me.I like him too and we both like the same things .But iam 27 do you think the age difference is a ...
A. 8 July 2007: There is no way it is a problem in most peoples views, but the most important thing is wether you see it as a problem.
You are both adults so if you like him there should be no issue.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I told her I didn't love her the same way she loved me and now she's leaving the state because she doesn't want to hurt my relationship with my girlfriend.
Q. I'm like really confused right now ok so if this is long just level with me ok. Last year I started dating a girl who at first her parents hated me but now they love me, me and her broke up about 2 weeks after we started dating because I was more ...
A. 8 July 2007: Judging by your ages do you really believe she is leaving the state because she does not want to hurt the relationship you have with your girlfriend, this sounds more like a guilt trip because she has not got what she wanted.
Now the girlfriend you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend (26) has moved in... and he's so messy it's like living with a child!
Q. Hello all! I wanted advice on what I'm hoping is a fairly common phenomena: My boyfriend of almost a year moved in with me 3 weeks ago.We have been at university together and known each other/seen/dated for 5 years off/on. I am getting in...
A. 8 July 2007: This is what happens when you move in together, suddenly you realise there are things that you don't like about each other.
My husband is messy leaves shoes lying around, puts his clothes next to the washing basket and asks me where his wallett and ... (read in full...)
I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him.
Q. I think I fell in love with an ex coworker and I want to leave my husband for him....
A. 8 July 2007: Red Flag!!!!!
You have just said 'I THINK I FELL IN LOVE'.
So you are not sure, don't rush into anything.
You decide to leave your husband and then you find out it was actually just a crush.
Husband understandably does not want you back and you... (read in full...)
All of my bf's friends are females -and- they are all people he's either hooked up with or had a crush on. He doesn't understand why it would bother me that he's hanging out with them. What do I do?
Q. All of my bf's friends are females -and- they are all people he's either hooked up with or had a crush on. He doesn't understand why it would bother me that he's hanging out with them. What do I do?...
A. 8 July 2007: Has he ever given you any reason to make you think he would cheat on you?
If not then i think you just need to trust him, ok so they are all girls and exs but he is with you now and if he did not want that then he would not be with you.
You c... (read in full...)
Do men like games and challenges?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a mutual friend who set my boyfriend and I up. The friend told me that I should present more of a challenge because men like that sort of thing. He thinks I should stop texting and send nice messages to see how he really ...
A. 8 July 2007: There is nothing wrong with challenge as long as you don't mess with peoples feelings.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Completely move on or just do my own thing and wait?
Q. Completely move on or just do my own thing and wait? I'm in love with a girl (she currently has a bf) and she knows it. She'd do things like let me hold her, sleep next to her (never spoon or ne thing like that), and slow dance with me, while t...
A. 8 July 2007: She is so not worth putting your life on hold for, sorry to say that but you said be blunt.
If she really cared for you she would be with you, rather than playing with your emotions the way that she is.
Babe you are young and i know you love her... (read in full...)
Over the course of 15 years my husband and I have argued quite a lot and I think he plays mind games.
Q. Hi - over the course of 15 years my husband and I have argued quite a lot and I think he plays mind games. On a handful of occasions these arguments have been physically abusive. I have also lashed out during these incidents but I have felt pushed ...
A. 8 July 2007: You should get out no matter what you have said or done to him that DOES NOT justify him hitting you babe.
Do you really want to stay and become another statistic, the minute a man raises his hand to you that should be a big red flag.
Those... (read in full...)
How can I do to help end this stupid cycle?
Q. I've been talking to a guy online over a year now. Our pattern is: I initiate conversation, he responds politely and vaguely. After some weeks or months I ask why is he still responding to my messages, he vaguely asks to meet up and I say I'm busy. ...
A. 8 July 2007: The only way to stop this cycle is to stop having contact with him altogether, you both seem to be playing games with one another so what is the point in this carrying on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I think my husband may be attracted to his co-worker at his new job of 6 weeks.
Q. I think my husband may be attracted to his co-worker at his new job of 6 weeks. We've been married for 11 months but have been together as a couple for 10 years. I am now 7 months pregnant. They are one the phone everyday even after office hours. ...
A. 8 July 2007: Catch 22 situation here by the sounds of it.
Ok your pregnant and your hormones are all over the place and like you said you feel fat and unattractive.
You are beautiful and pregnant with your husbands baby.
How you are feeling at the moment with ... (read in full...)
My head feels weird. Should I get it checked out?
Q. I have this odd feeling on the side of my head (temporalis). I dont think it is a headache. It feels like this odd feeling is pumping and moving around. When I walk and talk I could feel it. I was wondering what should I do? What is it? Should I be ...
A. 8 July 2007: I agree with bubbloo 24, anything like this we are not going to be able to help you with you really do need to see your doctor and discuss your concerns with them.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My sex life has gone down the toilet!
Q. Dear cupid... My problem is that my sex life has gone down the toilet. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. I'm in my mid 20s and he's in his early 30s. So I dont think it's age. We're both healthy and active and neither of us has p...
A. 8 July 2007: Low sex drive can be down to many things so i am going to give you some examples and you can try and eliminate them.
Has your boyfriend been overtired or under stress recently?
Feeling like this can sometimes mean that sex is like a chore and it's... (read in full...)
My boyfriend admited that he thinks his previous crush is cute and that he still likes her!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are together for a month. But I am having a problem about him. It's because my boyfriend admited that he thinks his previous crush is cute and that he still likes her! And, I totally agree with him because his previous crush is ...
A. 8 July 2007: Looks aren't everything, maybe she did not have the personality to go with those looks as it's very rare that all these things come in a complete package.
He is with you and if he did not want to be he would walk away.
If you spend to much time dwe... (read in full...)
My husband and I are separated. We are starting to communicate, but scared to get too close. Afraid he will run.
Q. My husband and I are separated. We are starting to communicate, but scared to get too close. Afraid he will run. What should I do?...
A. 8 July 2007: I've just been through this myself, we seperated last year and on many occasions we have got close he has come home and then left again because i was clung to him, scared of being hurt and losing him again.
The last time he left we cut contact down... (read in full...)
I also kind of resent the fact that he is considered so amazing and yet I feel like the wicked witch because I want nothing to do with his mind games. Why did he ask me out in the first place?
Q. My ex broke off our relationship nearly 7 months ago. He has got a possible learning problem/character disorder which has gone undiagnosed. He had split up with his previous ex and was devastated about it. I was a good friend to him to help him ...
A. 8 July 2007: You have done nothing wrong, you were there for him when he needed it, try not to torture yourself if thats the kind of person he is he will never be happy in a loving relationship where as on the other you will be.
Do you need to have contact with... (read in full...)
I lose my concentration during sex and go soft!
Q. I was involved in a car accident just over 8 years ago now, I have been dating this older woman (I'm 26yrs old, She's 47) now for just over the last 3 months. I have found over the last month "I would say" that when we have been having sex ...
A. 8 July 2007: Erection problems are more common than you might think, and most men go through this at some point in their lives.
It could be physchological or it could be pyhisical so your best option would be to visit your doctor about it.
They are very use... (read in full...)
Do you talk about exes?
Q. I was just wondering, how much have you and your boyfriend/girlfriend talked about past relationships? Do you know a lot about their previous significant others, or barely anything at all? I just ask because with my current boyfriend, he ha...
A. 8 July 2007: I think it depends on the person, myself and my other half have had these discussions early on in our relationship, but now it never gets mentioned.
He is right to say the 'what is in the past is in the past' and sometimes i really do think it shou... (read in full...)
I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day?
Q. I am a fulltime carer, how can I manitain my relationship of 6 years with my boyfriend? we are growing a part each day? ...
A. 8 July 2007: Would you consider changing the amount of hours you work so you could have more time together?
If not then you need to make sure the time you do spend together is quality time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a guy but I've been sleeping with his cousin.
Q. ive been seeing a guy for the past three weeks and hes great and treats me like a princess, but ive been sleeping with his cousinfor the past 2 weeks, this guy is also my best mates boyfriend, i do feel guilty but i think the fear of gettin cought ...
A. 7 July 2007: Hopefully you have been using protection with both of them.
I'm sure the risk is exciting, but if the tables were turned how would you feel, also imagine the family rows that could be caused by you doing this if you were to get caught.
There... (read in full...)
He's 50 and he's reknowned for cheating. Will it be different now?
Q. Is it possible for someone who has cheated on nearly every girlfriend he has had to change and not cheat anymore? He is in his 50's now...
A. 7 July 2007: I have to say i believe people can change, maybe he has got to the point in his life where he wants to settle down.
Maybe i'm just naive but i like to think people can change their ways.
Take care.xx.
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My boyfriend of 5 years (he's 34 years old) is my best friend. The problem is that he has given up on everything.
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years (he's 34 years old) is my best friend. The problem is that he has given up on everything. He lost his job three months ago and he still isn't looking for one. He just sits all day long in his room, browsing the net or ...
A. 7 July 2007: No problem, keep me updated with how you get on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that she'll cheat on me again. How can I stop feeling paranoid?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year now. She has split with me a few times. She always said she didn't really know whether she wanted to be in a relationship. In February, she convinced me that it really was me she wanted t...
A. 7 July 2007: I don't think you will stop being paranoid judging by the history that you have already had as a couple.
I don't think it's a case of paranoia, more a trust issue because of what she has done, you think she may well do it again and that is not your... (read in full...)
Should I totally move on or should I keep a little hope that the love of my life will come back to me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years and everything has been great but this last month. I was her first serious relationship and we had a great time, traveled the world together. With in the last year she moved about 4 hours away ...
A. 7 July 2007: I personally think that maybe you should move on, if she feels that she needs space and to figure her life out then why should you wait around on the off chance that she may come back to you.
If she loves you and she comes back and you have move... (read in full...)
The father is coming on to me but it's the son I want to get closer to.
Q. Hi, I am working in a private firm since past 6 years. I have attained a very good reputation by proving my calibre and dedication towards my work here. I have three strict bosses (father and two sons). Suddenly my boss (father) has started showing ...
A. 7 July 2007: I think if you are uncomfortable with the situation concerning the father then it might be wise not to say anything o the son, as they say blood is thicker than water and you might find yourself in a very awkward position.
If it is affecting badl... (read in full...)
I need space from him, he's smothering me wanting to be with me all the time!
Q. Me and this guy have been dating for the past 2 1/2 months and he is deeply in love with me already. At first I thought I was in love but I'm not. I love him but not the way he loves me. For the past 1 1/2 months while we were dating I've been ...
A. 7 July 2007: Well the first time you spoke to him about it did not seem to make any difference so whats the chances it will this time either.
If you really like him and you think it is worth trying to talk to him about it then go for it, but make it clear to h... (read in full...)
I want to find someone else but I want to forget about her. What will help?
Q. I split with my first proper love 5 months ago. I haven't spoken to her for about 3 months. After being with her for 7 months I find myself thinking about her out of the blue and it really brings me down. I broke up with her on the terms that t...
A. 7 July 2007: The only thing that is likely to help you is if you start getting out there and meeting new people, have you considered joining any clubs of any kind?
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm unable to come at all when I'm with a woman - by myself I can do it.
Q. I'm 22 years old now, had this problem since I first started having sex. I'm unable to come at all when I'm with a woman- by myself I can do it, but I've never come during sex or other wholesome activities. However, I can orgasm-a little trick I ...
A. 7 July 2007: I think this problem my well be pshychological and in order to get it treated your are going to have to visit your doctor and see if they can reccommend you for some counselling, but is it a problem that can be sorted out so don't worry.
Take care... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to accept her love/trust her but I don't know why.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now and just recently both told each other that we love each other. I had said it first a couple of weeks before and knew she was not ready at the time but couldn't help it. I am finding it ha...
A. 7 July 2007: I don't think there is anything that you girlfriend can do to make you overcome your insecurities.
You are in a very new relationship and you are young so try not to worry so much about things like this and enjoy it.
If she has told you she love... (read in full...)
Does this bloke have a commitment problem or is he just not interested???
Q. I have met this guy who says he likes me, I really like him however meeting up is always a problem as he arranges to come over and then never shows up. He tells me he likes me but rarely texts me in the day just at night. One minute he tells me to ...
A. 7 July 2007: Now the only way to find out if he really likes you is to ignore him if he prank calls you don't phone him.
If he wants to be with you he will chase you.
It sounds very much like insecurities, when someone says something like 'get on with your lif... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 5 years (he's 34 years old) is my best friend. The problem is that he has given up on everything.
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years (he's 34 years old) is my best friend. The problem is that he has given up on everything. He lost his job three months ago and he still isn't looking for one. He just sits all day long in his room, browsing the net or ...
A. 7 July 2007: From the sounds of everything you have said i think it is possible he is suffering with depression.
Lack of job, can't be bothered. reduced sex drive and wanting to sleep alot.
Now this can be sorted but it is a very difficult situation, as he wi... (read in full...)
Should I give her time and space to work out both her feelings of stress for that situation and her feelings for me, or should I just leave this situation completely?
Q. Well I started seeing someone I've known for about 6 years now. WE are in a long distance relationship and I know I love her. The problem came when her brother had a heart attack. IT was as if over night she decided that she didn't know what she ...
A. 7 July 2007: This sort of thing can really make people evaluate their lives.
Give her a bit of time and space, and hopefuuly that will help her decide what she wants out of life.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does she like me is there a chance of a possible romance?
Q. Does she like me is there a chance of a possible romance? Met this girl we get on like house on fire but has been through hell her partner died leaving her at twenty two "widowed" with two children.Even though this was about four or five years ag...
A. 7 July 2007: She had someone that she loved and had children with and he was taken away from her.
Maybe she feels that anyone she gets too close to she will lose.
If you really feel that strongly for her then tell her that, tell her that the children are not ... (read in full...)
If I did "cum" then what are the chances of her being pregnant during this time in the menstrual cycle?
Q. Hey, my name's Jack, I have a massive problem. I had a one night stand and I was totally drunk, I wasn't in control and ended up having unprotected sex (I can sorta remember that part), I don't think I "came" but then again I can't remember much of ...
A. 7 July 2007: You can get pregnant while you are on your period, livehttp://www.region.peel.on.ca/health/hsexual/htmfiles/pperiod.htm
Check this site out and it will tell you all you need to know and then show it to the girl and tell her it would be a good idea... (read in full...)
Should I break into his bank account????
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend five weeks ago. I'm just not speaking to him. After an argument I went to his place and left there the cell phone he was paying for me and other things and I have not spoken to him since. He always thinks he is right and ...
A. 7 July 2007: If you know his bank account details then you could do it.
Now i'm not saying that i justify this as at the end of the day it is theft, but it is also money that is owed to you.
Email him about the money and ask him if he would be as kind as to tr... (read in full...)
He still talks to his ex-girlfriend.
Q. He still talks to his ex-girlfriend. I know for a fact he hasn't told her that we are together and we've been seriously together for 2 and 1/2 years. I think he still has feelings for her and he still calls her all the time. They talk on the ...
A. 7 July 2007: I agree with KayKay totally, if they have no children together than after this amount of time they do not need to talk and text this many times every single day.
Tell him that you know about it and that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
If he has a... (read in full...)
He asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off.
Q. Me and my boyfriend were discussing oral sex and then I told him I wasn't really ready for oral but I would give him a hand job, so he asked where he would cum and asked if I could lick it off. Would it taste bitter like everyone says because it's ...
A. 7 July 2007: If he comes in your mouth it would taste far better then if he does it somewhere else and then you lick it off because i personally have found once it hits fresh air it does not taste too nice at all.
Just remember it needs to be safe sex thou... (read in full...)
After the death of her father she has grown dependent on me. Will these feelings go away?
Q. My girlfriend just lost her father in a car accident very recently and it has changed the way she thinks and feels about me. She has grown very attached and dependent upon me. I just want to know some ways that will help us through this hard time ...
A. 7 July 2007: Hey she has just lost the most important male figure in her life.
She is probably going through all sorts of emotions at the moment and with you being the next important male figure she is depending on you to be there for her and get her thro... (read in full...)
We were always friends but I want more. Is now my chance?
Q. I have a friend of 7 years whom I have always had feelings for. She often had boyfriends and i hadn't ever had the confidence to ask her out- as she was a friend and didn't want to spoil that. I had been just about to tell her my feelings, having ...
A. 7 July 2007: She may have had the dream she may not, what i think you need to take from this is she was probably trying to sound you out.
It would be very hard to just come out and say, 'I'm not happy any more and i would love to come over and have a rela... (read in full...)
He is my best friend but recently we are acting more. I'm not sure if we like each other??
Q. I have had a best guy friend for about two years now. Recently, we kissed and almost slept together. And at frist I freaked out.. we agreed we were just friends and it was a big mistake. Now this past week we have been acting as if we are ...
A. 7 July 2007:
Maybe you should sit down and have a chat about how you feel about each other, you are after all adults now.
See if you both want to step it up and have a relationship.
You obviously have feelings for one another so why not take it to the n... (read in full...)
How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change?
Q. How do you find the strength to leave a relationship that you know is not good for you and will probably never change? I know everyone says being alone will be fine, but I have panic attacks just thinking about it. I know I am possibly a bit ...
A. 7 July 2007: I think you say you love him so much to justify staying with him so you don't have to be on your own, which is really not good.
Have you not got any family or friends that you can stay with? as i'm sure if they knew how you felt they would be more... (read in full...)
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