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anonymous
writes:hey why do men always mess with my head? i went out to a club last week with some friends from work and one friend called Dan kept coming onto me and tried to come home with me but im not like that so i made excuses. i didnt kiss him or anything either because my manager was nearby and i didnt want him to see us, although i did flirt back so Dan new i was interested. i then had a weekend off work (we only work partime) so didnt see Dan for a week, but we all went out again last night. Dan was really flirty with me again so i was hoping we could pick things up again and this time i would kiss him but then he phoned one of our other friends asking her to come out (they both had a one-night stand with each other the other week). he then proceeded to spend the whole night trying to get with her but she has a boyfriend who was with her so Dan got really moody and basically ignored me all night.this really hurt because i actually really like him and its horrible watching him trying it on with this other friend. i was sat next to her and he was oposite her and he just sat watching her and whenever she went on the dancefloor, so did he ... things like that. i felt like an idiot to be honest. especially because if i went and sat down next to him, after about 2 minutes he would get up and move next to her. it was really embarrassing to be knocked back like that.why would he be interested last week but then be a complete arse to me this week?how should i act with him at work tonight?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): I am not sure how well you know Dad or if there was a budding relationship going on before the night of the club, or if that was the first time that he showed you an interest.
If it is the latter, it sounds to me like he is just looking for some sex, and the girl he had a one night stand with was a sure bet and you are not like that and he knows it....I think he showed you some disrespect, and you might want to rethink if a guy like that is worth your time...if you think he did it to make you jealous, that is another thing and may be because of the first scenario and he is not sure of how he really feels about you and not wanting to take things to a relationship or dating level just yet....guys can be very frustrating, but he does not really sound like he wants a date, just a bed partner for now....pretty soon he may get tired of that and follow his heart to a friendship/relationship with you.
The best thing at work is probably to just laugh it off and tell him you can't believe he is wasting his time on that girl with a boyfriend, and just act as if you have other options of people to date and you aren't waiting around for him to ask you....and if you feel like he is worth your time, just continue to being friendly and upbeat, and be his friend, if he likes you, he will eventually come around, but in the mean time, don't count out some other more worthy guys.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 "how should i act with him at work tonight?"
You should act as if nothing has happened.
In case that you wanna make it work between you in the future.
There was some misunderstanding between you in club, so what?
"horrible watching him trying it on with this other friend"
Let him "keep on trying" for a while - you have to wait now.
Soon he will be available again for you to make move on him.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (15 June 2007):
 I would say treat him as he treated you with no respect what so ever and move on to someone else, he sounds so arrogant and why would you really want someone like that?
Take care.xx.
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