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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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He is my guy now, but his ex still calls him Babe and talks all nice to him!
Q. I am in this same situation! My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now, and I realized that he still contacts his ex girlfriend. They dated for about 7 months or so. My boyfriend and I started off as friends, and I've helped him ...
A. 13 July 2007: Firstly i would just like to say i have been with my husband for twelve years and i never have and never would check his emails or his phone as it is a serious invasion of privacy, so i would not say that it is normal to do that.
When it comes to t... (read in full...)
I have very pronounced nipples that are always noticeable; how noticeable is a padded bra?
Q. Can people tell when you're wearing a bra with padding? I have pronounced nipples and need some padding to keep people from staring all the time and the bra is also supposed to "lift and shape" your bust but I'm wondering if it looks very ...
A. 13 July 2007: Most of my bras are padded because i find them very comfortable and they give me a nice shape and a great cleavage.
I have some very honest girlfriends and they have never said anything about it looking unnatural and they would definately say.... (read in full...)
Would sex help relax my girlfriend who is stressed? What else can I do for her?
Q. just curious here. This is probably mainly for the girls than the guys. Would you say that sex is a good stress reliever and that it relaxes you when your stressed? If so are there any tips that you can give me that helps you relax more and that can ...
A. 13 July 2007: For me sex is a fantastic stress reliever, also a very sensual massage with oils does the trick, a relaxing day out i find is a nice picnic in the country and a stroll afterwards.
Obviously just my opinion.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and I kissed my boyfriend after one day; what do I do now?
Q. i am only 12yrs old and i have a boyfriend we have already kissed and weve only bin going out for a day what shall i do??? do i kiss him again?? please help me!! ...
A. 13 July 2007: If you want to kiss him babe then do it, if your not ready don't feel under any pressure you do things as and when you want to, and if he is a decent lad he will be happy with whatever you decide.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm the One but he doesn't want to date me
Q. i've been seeing a guy for over 4 months. i fell in love with him and he fell in love with me. he had just come out of a long term relationship which he lived with her. he got his own flat and everything was great until 5 weeks ago he said that he ...
A. 13 July 2007: Maybe it is just how he said and he just needs a bit of time to himself.
He has told you he still loves you and when you spend a little less time together that is generally when you realise how much you do or don't like and want to be with some... (read in full...)
I fancy my teacher, what should I do?
Q. Well.. i am 14 and i really like this teacher .. hes gorgeous and i like him so much . and i no its wrong but i cant help it . i don't no what to do? any advice?...
A. 13 July 2007: Babe it's not wrong it's called a crush we all have them at some point and we all get over them as well.
Usually when we are over it we can have a right old giggle about it too, it will pass so don't worry about it too much.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I broke up; is it going to be easier in time to entertain the idea of being with somebody else?
Q. Ok, so it looks like my ex-Girlfriend and me are going through a pretty ok break up, which surprises and (only in SOME, and not many ways) delights me. I know it's early but, I really don't feel like I want to be with anyone else, and it hurts me to ...
A. 13 July 2007: Everything you are feeling is totally natural if it's still early days, try not to dwell on the past and look to the future now.
Time is a good healer and i would say you won't feel like this for long.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What are the safe days during your menstrual cycle for having sex?
Q. what is the safest days 2 have sex during ur menstuational cycle?...
A. 13 July 2007: You can get pregnant at any time in the month so there are no really safe days, if you are going to go down the road of having sex at your age i would be concerned about std's aswell so you should make sure you always use protection.
Take care... (read in full...)
Does he love me or not?
Q. i'm in love with ag guy a year older than me. i love him with all my heart, but the problem now is i don't know how he feels about me. we once had communication breakdown and i sugested we part ways thinking that maybe he will realise that i'm ...
A. 13 July 2007: I have to agree with LauraE, maybe he did not chase you because you asked for the split and he did not think that you had the feelings for him.
Some men are not all that good at expressing their feelings very well, and if you ended it with him mayb... (read in full...)
My 'friends with benifits' is going to get married, but I want him now!
Q. I am confused about my feelings for my best friend. I'll call him David. I met David 4 years ago. We met through mutual friends and our social circles and interests just crossed paths. We are both involved in an organized sports...
A. 13 July 2007: Ok you might not want to hear this but i'm going to tell it as i see it,
You say he asked her to marry him ' because he felt obliged to', i'm sorry but i just don't buy that at all, if she is abusive and unfaithful to him like he says then he real... (read in full...)
He is mad about a one night stand that happened 7 years ago!
Q. 10 Years ago I went out with this lad for 3 years, we had a very volatile relationship, we were always finishing, but was strange as we did really love each other and the sex was always great, 1 of the times we split up for 3 months a during that ...
A. 13 July 2007: Ok so what you done was wrong , but you came clean about it and said you were sorry and that it would not happen again.
If he can not get over this there is absolutly no chance of your relationship working at all.
Sometimes we make mistakes... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 13 July 2007: I totally agree with you there is no need for some of the harsh words said on here, i think if you do not agree with something and you can't help yourself not to be rude then just don't answer, as their are lots of other aunts and uncles that can be ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to have asked for the expensive ring back?
Q. I just bought a $3K ring for my girlfriend and then she announces she is moving out after 10 months. I asked for the ring back and that offended her? Am I wrong to have asked?...
A. 13 July 2007: No not at all, when she accepted the ring from you she entered into a contract, ok not legally binding but she has now broken the contract so why should she keep the ring.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do you think im being selfish towards him doing what I did?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been on/off together for 8 years. We have a 3 year old boy which I really don't think he is bothered about. He never buys him clothes or toys it always me who does. He doesn't live with us, he's 40 and still lives with ...
A. 13 July 2007: Not at all there is no way anyone would consider what you said as being selfish, you have to look out for you and your boy and the consequences for you would be very severe if he had been caught driving with out his licence and it was you that ... (read in full...)
I need to know if the relationship will be inappropriate due to the age difference.
Q. Well I'm a 14 year old freshman and I really like this girl who's two years younger than me. She's in seventh grade, which is the same grade as my brother. I need to know if the relationship will be inappropriate due to the age difference, or I ...
A. 12 July 2007: I can't see it as being inappropriate as long as you understand that you are both below the legal age for anything sexual.
If you have a problem with the age gap which is very minimal then maybe you should not pursue it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What do I do to get back her interest and for her to fall in love with me?
Q. I have been in relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years and she is already married to a man. My girlfriend and her husband married due to family pressures when they were young and there have never been any kind of relationship between them. Me ...
A. 12 July 2007: How can you be sure she is not seeing anyone else because at the end of the day wether it was due to family pressures or not, she is living with her husband and her boyfriend.
If she is treating you in this way, why are you wanting to stay ther... (read in full...)
She has apologised and said she was stupid for what she done and all and said she will fight and do anything to get my trust back... but should I give her another chance??
Q. I'm 29 and have been with my girlfriend 28 for a year, and believed she was the one. We've been on holidays, hotels weekends, met each other's parents. I was genuinely in love with her. She left to work abroad this month (she's a nanny) for a month ...
A. 12 July 2007: Can you forgive, forget and trust her again?
If you think that you can then everyone deserves a second chance, it's your call.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He isn't happy with just kissing me and wants to try out other things.
Q. I've got a boyfriend but he we have kissed and snogged and stuff already but my boyfriend is a year older then me and he says he wants to try out more stuff then kissing... but im not sure .... What should I do to pleasure by the way im only 12 .. ...
A. 12 July 2007: Personally i think you should stick to just the kissing due to your age, Please enjoy being a child as it does not last long enough, you have plenty of time for other things later in life.
If you are not ready (which i hope you are not) then tell... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so down?
Q. I don't know what is the matter is with me, I'm a 19 year old lad with loads going for me in life and yesterday I was so happy and today life feels hopeless. Why do I feel like this?...
A. 12 July 2007: Maybe you are suffering with depression as that can make you feel like that, especially if you have so much going on in your life and you don't know what to deal with first.
You should maybe visit your doctor and tell them how you are feeling, they... (read in full...)
If we cant get back together with all of these things buttoned up permanently then there is no hope.
Q. Ive been with my fiancee for 10 years since we were 17 (engaged for the last 5). We bought a house at 20 and have owned it for 7 years. We did everything possible together and ditched our friends because we were more then enough for one another. Our ...
A. 12 July 2007: Personally because i have been through a very similar situation myself over the last year i think you are going about the whole thing in totally the right way.
Me and my husband three years ago decided to start our own business so my husband left... (read in full...)
I am married but want to meet up with my ex and see if there is anything there
Q. Ex messing up my life! I have been married for less then a year (together for almost seven years) and have always had strong feelings for my ex since it ended without proper closure etc. So I got married but would still think about him. So ...
A. 12 July 2007: You have been married for less than a year babe, so have you got problems in your marriage at the moment to decide after seven years of obviously being happy enough to get married, to look him up.
Was it just curiosity on your part or is there more... (read in full...)
I have kept in contact with my ex, but lately he has been rude. Is it time to discontinue contact?
Q. My ex and I broke up a year and a half ago. He moved to a different city quite a distance away and he can only keep in phone contact. I may call two to three times a year. Lately when I have called I have found him being a little rude and ...
A. 12 July 2007: Stop calling and move on, cant do your self esteem any good when you get that sort of responce.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I got my period but could I still be pregnant?
Q. basicly i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend the day before my period. he came earlier so i guess there was sperm in the pre cum but i was really drunk and i didnt think much about that. ... anyway we had unprotected sex, he didnt actually cum ...
A. 12 July 2007: It's going to be impossible for any of us to answer that question for you babe so your best bet would be to visit your gp and have a test done that way you will know for sure.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I want to join them for the concert, but I dont want to make it awkward
Q. So things are going really great with my girlfriend. We've been dating 3 1/2 months and love each other. During that time, a good friend of her's confessed that he has liked her for a long time, even before she met me. Later he kind of recanted, ...
A. 12 July 2007: I totally agree with Beckto, if you mention wanting to go that will put the doubt in their minds that you do not trust them together on their own.
There will be other concerts.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Will I bleed when I lose my virginity?
Q. I bled when I was fingered and it was a bit sore. Does that mean my hymen was broken? Does that mean I will not bleed when I have sex for the first time?...
A. 12 July 2007: If you have been using tampons for your periods it's very probable that your hyman has already been broken long before now anyways.
It's possible but totally natural that you may bleed when you have intercourse, just take things slowly and enjo... (read in full...)
I want my guy to go down on me
Q. What can you all use to have your guy go down on you? Guys what do you like?...
A. 12 July 2007: I tend to just ask that does it for us.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We're on a break but I think she's just keeping me handy until she finds a new guy
Q. ok so she wants space, i wanna know what that means exactly. we've been together for a year now, recently we have had a few fights. the other week she broke it off with me and she says she wants space. i ask if its a break or a break up, she says a ...
A. 12 July 2007: If i were in your position i would move on, i personally think you are right in your thinking that she is playing you.
To want space is one thing but to want space and see other people is something else.
You deserve better than this.
Take care... (read in full...)
Back to square one in getting over my ex after listening to a song she told me to listen to.
Q. I have a problem regarding my ex, basically the backstory is we were together for 7 years, lived together for 2 and two months ago i proposed to her in paris as we had talked about it for years and i felt ready to pop the question, she accepted and ...
A. 11 July 2007: Everyone makes mistakes and it is not until it has happened that you realised what you have done, also i believe that everyone deserves a second chance, so the choice is yours.
Everyone will give you different advice and if you were completely over... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend pregnant? Her period has changed.
Q. Me and my girlfriend just had sex last tuesday (june 12)and when we did there were two problems. the condom was too big and it fell off once. even though im sure it didnt touch her in any way, she is worrried that she is pregnant. the next day (june ...
A. 11 July 2007: Get her to the gp for a test or do a home kit, not everyone shows signs of being pregnant, some people can go through nearly their whole pregnancy with out knowing.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I saw my best friend's husband cheating on her!
Q. Ok, so here's my problem. My bestfriend started dating this guy about three years ago. Pretty much that whole time there were rumors he was cheating on her. I told her many times that this was going on (not that it was necessarly true just that I ...
A. 11 July 2007: You say you and your husband are very good friends with them, can you not ask your husband to have a friendly word in his ear next time you get together, just to let him know that he was seen and that you are considering telling his wife and that ... (read in full...)
He tells little lies...how do I trust him and should I?
Q. Hi, In the past nine or ten months, my partner of over four years has been very snappy and distant. He blames me for everything, even when it can't possibly have been my fault. About nine months ago, my partner made a new friend, a pretty woma...
A. 11 July 2007: Kick this so called man into touch he is an absolute creep,
He is supposed to be your partner and yet he goes round visiting her every night for weeks, he sits there cuddling her at Your Birthday Party then he admits to kissing her.
He has absolute... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hits me--what can I do?
Q. I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 15. I'm starting to worry about my relationship with her. I really love her but sometimes when I don't do what she asks she hits me. It's more of a punch to the arm or a slap. I'm worried in future years she may get ...
A. 11 July 2007: If she does not mean to then why does she do it, if she can not stop this then you should walk away as violence is really not a good thing in any relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I met a girl through a personal ad and there's 8 years between us; I'm excited but concerned
Q. Recently,I put a dating ad in the newspaper, and this girl replied who I really seem to like. However there's quite a big age gap. Im 29 and she is only 21. I've not had a girlfriend for 5 years now and have only really had one real relationshi...
A. 11 July 2007: Most of these concerns you have are totally natural, due to the fact you have not met.
The age gap is only going to be a problem if you are not happy with it and you make it a problem.
You are both consenting adults and she obviously does not have... (read in full...)
To all the women who AREN'T bothered by their partner watching porn; why?
Q. Wow, this porn issue is huge and obviously we women are bothered a lot by it. But there are women out there who AREN'T, and it is to these impressive women that I go to for advice: Why aren't you bothered by it, and what can you suggest to help ...
A. 11 July 2007: Ok i'm cool with porn and my husband watching it, and the resaons why are because;
1; it's just a film, so ok it's not like your average film but they are not forced to do it and they get paid for it.
2; i find it can be a great turn on to watch it... (read in full...)
Just wondering but which part of a guy's body do you look at first?
Q. (FOR THE GIRLS) Just wondering but which part of a guy's body do you look at first? My mates say they always look at the face, is it the same for most girls? just wondered ...
A. 10 July 2007: For me definatly the face.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's cousin. Should I make it obvious I like him?
Q. I have a crush on my friend's cousin. Everytime I see him I get excited or get butterflies in my stomach. I'm not afaid to be around him or anything. It's just that if I tell my friend I have a crush on her cousin she might get mad. If I tell no ...
A. 10 July 2007: Why do you think your friend would get mad about you liking her cousin.
There is nothing wrong with that, just talk to her about it if she is a true friend she will support you and be fine with it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I haven't done anything before and I don't know how far I should go with him before I say stop.
Q. I'm really really into this guy and I love him loads and he loves me too but I think that he wants it to go faster than I do. I haven't done anything before and I don't know how far I should go with him before I say stop. I love him so much and I ...
A. 10 July 2007: If you have to ask other people if you are ready, then you cleary are not.
You are young and you should enjoy your childhood because take it from all of us that have been there it does not last anywhere near long enough.
Do not let him pressure... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to forgive me?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years 4 months ago. I thought I was over him but as we do the same sports we saw each other on a course, but we had a huge argument and now he won't talk to me. I feel I still love him, I know I shouldn't ...
A. 10 July 2007: If forgiveness is going to come it will be in time and the arguement will not have helped the situation.
Give him lots of space you have tried to tell him you are sorry and if he is prepared to forgive you it will be in his own time.
You really d... (read in full...)
My best friend just died and I'm feeling depressed all the time and can't shake myself out of it.
Q. My best friend just died and it's like someone has just shot me, run me over and all that. I find it hard because we were so close and now I'm depressed and can't shake out of it like I did last time. Any ideas?...
A. 10 July 2007: Ah babe i'm sorry for your loss.
It's totally understandable that you feel this way at the moment especially when it was such a close friend.
If you have close friends and family around you try and surround yourself with them as you will need all... (read in full...)
I want to last longer sexually
Q. I was in a long distance relationship until very recently. We used to only have Sex a few times every 7 weeks or so and I found that I was ejaculating way too quick when having Sex. While she loved the "warmth" of me finishing inside her, I still ...
A. 10 July 2007: Premature ejaculation particulaly in young men is the most common sexual problem especially if in a new relationship.
It is usually due to over stimulation or anxiety about your sexual performance.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I discreetly got DNA and the result shows I am not her biological father. I am stunned and do not know what to do.
Q. Just found out my 12 year old daughter is not mine, I was divorced recently and an old friend of my ex wife told me when she had a few drinks . I confronted my ex she said it was rubbish but it has been playing on my mind for months. I discreetly ...
A. 10 July 2007: You have been her father now for the past twelve years, and i can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now you must be devestated.
Ok so you are not her biological father but you are still the one that has been there for her.
Do yo... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend pregnant? Her period has changed.
Q. Me and my girlfriend just had sex last tuesday (june 12)and when we did there were two problems. the condom was too big and it fell off once. even though im sure it didnt touch her in any way, she is worrried that she is pregnant. the next day (june ...
A. 16 June 2007: The only way you are going to know for sure is by visiting her gp which will be in strict confidence so her parents need never know, i am glad to hear you are using protection though and it is perfectly normal for accidents to happen but please be ... (read in full...)
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