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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 30 June 2007: Maybe when you are with her next time and she looks at your ring take it off and hand it to her, just say to her you only had to ask if you wanted a closer look as i have catch you looking at it before, if she gets embarrased about it, it's probably ... (read in full...)
is there anything I can do to forget him? Should I date other guys, or focus on something else?
Q. My boyfriend just broke up with me yesterday, he is off to college in September, and he says he wants to get ready. And when we were watching a movie the other nite, one of my ex-friends Roxy called and asked wat he'll be doing that nite...he says ...
A. 28 June 2007: You are young and just out of a relationship, so i would give yourself some time to adjust to this.
Don't jump into another relationship as it would be too soon, just go out and have fun with your friends and live a little for a while.
Is there an... (read in full...)
Is it normal for us to enjoy filming eachother having sex with other people?
Q. I have always talked about my girlfriend have sex with other guys as a turn on. i met a girl 6 months ago and brought up this during sex. she started describing scenarios of what she would do with another guy. one day she asked if i would like her...
A. 28 June 2007: Reality check, the idea of it might be fun and a turn on but you really need to consider what it might do to you as a couple if you actually go through with this.
Each to there own and i have no right to say you should or shouldn't, it's just that... (read in full...)
Update:She went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do? She now wants to be friends.
Q. hi again plz read my other question: She went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do? iv tryed giving her space but she txt me last night saying "hope your doing ok" but i didnt txt back. So she phoned ...
A. 28 June 2007: Hi,
Difficult situation because you love her so it's your call.
If you carry on receiving texts and phone calls from her it's likely to mess your head up even more as it's giving you a glimmer of hope even though she says she does not want to try a... (read in full...)
I thought we could make something out of this... Now I feel that I was wrong. Any advice?
Q. Okay, we are not children, I'm 40, he's 45. We met through mutual friends and there is definitely attraction and we have just begun seeing each other. He found my site on Match.com after our first date, and now has created a page there as well. I ...
A. 28 June 2007: This is only a suggestion but maybe he created the account on match.com so he could check to see if you were logging on daily, becausebecause you can only see certain things on there if you have an account.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My husband spread gossip about me at work. What should I do?
Q. After I lost my job I went through a period of depression. Then I went on a weight loss program and dropped 25 pounds, got a new job, looked around and realized I wasn't happy in my dead-end marriage so I got out. Now I've found a new man but my ...
A. 28 June 2007: Like you say what can you do, you have no proof that they are definately saying something.
If i were you i would hold my head up high as you have done nothing wrong, keep doing your job well and don't let them see or know that it is effecting you ... (read in full...)
We're always at physical war with eachother... I'm beginning to like him!
Q. There's this guy i like a lot. I've told him this but he's taken it as a joke. Recently i've been in a war thing with him where we've mucked each other up. He put toothpaste and shaving gel in my hair and I did other stuff to him. Because we're ...
A. 28 June 2007: Messing around like that can sometimes be a sign of affection, go for the kill tell him again and if nothing happens from there at least you will know where you stand babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
On MSN we're mates, but she laughs at me with her other friends!
Q. Right, I have this friend - Me and her often get along great and we have a good chatter and laugh on msn! However, I get the feeling she's embarrassed to be my mate because often I see her sat with another of her mates and they're laughing at me, ...
A. 28 June 2007: If i were you i would not take that anymore, if you are not a friend in her eyes in every place and situation then get rid of her because she is so not worth it babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
If a girl kisses u on the neck slowly and than says your my sweetheart what does she mean?
Q. If a girl kisses u on the neck slowly and than says your my sweetheart what does she mean? by the way im a girl aswell lol shes 32 and im 22. I am a lesbian but she doesnt know lol. Thing is shes married with 5 children, she got into an arrang...
A. 28 June 2007: If she is married you need to stay claer of that one unless you want to cause trouble.
As for the fact you have never told her that you are a lesbian , i am straight as they come and i can tell a gay/lesbian person a mile off so maybe she is just... (read in full...)
For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring?
Q. For the gals: What are you thinking when you are checking out a guy's wedding ring? I was having lunch with a buddy of mine when this topic came up. Occasionally, when I am among women, I catch them ogling my wedding ring. If they end up maki...
A. 28 June 2007: I tend to find that women if they think a guy is nice the first thing they do is check out to see if they are wearing a wedding ring( if they have an ounce of decency anyway), failing that you must have one stunnig wedding ring and it just catches ... (read in full...)
Am I just deluding myself and should I forget about him?
Q. I worked in a local shopping mall for about a year and think I have fallen in love with one of the security guys there. Trouble is I dont work there anymore and I've just found out today that neither does he. I am heartbroken :( I cant stop myself ...
A. 28 June 2007: I think you should just look at this as one of lifes little fantasies and move on from it, as you have said yourself you have a boyfriend, he has a girlfriend so it was probably a bit of harmless flirtation.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He never pulls out before he ejacualtes and I don't want another child right now!
Q. My boyfriend always ejaculates in me, unless I tell him specicfically every time "pull out" And it can be that we have sex and I tell him to pull out, and he does then 5 min. later he is ready again, and if I don't tell him to pull out that time ...
A. 28 June 2007: DISRESPECT is what his problem is, you have told him many times not to do it and he has totally ignored you.
Anyway that aside it is a very unsafe form of contraception, have you tried talking to your doctor and exploring all of the many diff... (read in full...)
I feel left out because all my mates have boyfriends.
Q. Well... i dont really have a problem but i really want a bf! i no its daft but all my mates have one and i am startin to feel left out! i dont want one but i think i need one to fit in! i feel stupid writin this but hey thats what your here for!...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey you certainly do not need one to fit in, young free and single is the best way to be sometimes, you can please yourself totally.
There is plenty of time for all that when you feel ready and just because your mates are doing it does not mean you ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and my period has stopped. What should I do?
Q. I have never had sex so why havent i had my periods for nearly 3 months now why?...
A. 28 June 2007: I agree with bubbloo24, i think it would be advisable to get you mum to take you to see your gp and speak to them about it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's changed his appearance and now I'm concerned as to why.
Q. My b/f is absolutely hunky but in the 2 years I've been with him he takes no interest in his appearance. He still looks great but he doesn't fuss with his looks or his hair, which is long and curly so it looks sexy when it's touseled like he just ...
A. 28 June 2007: Maybe he has just reached that point in his life where he wants to start taking pride in his appearance, relax and unless you see any thing else which is not the norm in him then just enjoy him.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm also so tempted to just use her, tell her I still love her and have a ton of sex then move away (as wrong as it is).
Q. Six years after I met this girl (lets call her P) I am still confused. I think I instantly fell in love with her, she was the complete opposite to me and a perfect compliment to my personality. We were at college together (17/18 years old...
A. 28 June 2007: If there are other girls that you like and you know that this relationship will go no where, then i would walk away now because the longer this carry's on the more you are both going to end up hurting.
Do not carry on seeing her and cheat thats just... (read in full...)
Her husband is okay with her seeing other women...
Q. Hi I am 25 years old and there this woman I like but she's married with three kids. Her husband okay with her seeing other women and I have asked her how long shes be in a relationship with a woman and she said to me a few months and that she's ...
A. 28 June 2007: Personally i think that even though she says her husband is ok with it you should not be.
Marriage is a commitment between two people and no one should stand in the way of that.
I would stay clear and find someone that is 100% available.
Take care... (read in full...)
How do I light a fire under my lazy ass wife?
Q. How do I light a fire under my lazy ass wife? She doesnt do anything but lay around while im at work, and then expect me to do dishes, laundry, and clean the house. Should i just quit doing everything? Granted we have a two and four year old, but ...
A. 28 June 2007: I went through this i am a stay at home mum, i do the house work, shopping , and still have time to lunch with the ladies.
I stopped everything could hardly drag myself out of bed in the morning, threw things into cupboards rather then putting them... (read in full...)
He doesn't know if he can be with me because his friends would hate him for it...
Q. Just broke up with boyfriend, really like his best friend, best friend likes me, but doesn't know if he can be with me because his friends would hate him for it... he's out of town right now... what should I be thinking? Any hope for something ...
A. 28 June 2007: If you like each other then maybe you could just give it a bit of time, let the dust settle a little.
After that i can not see the problem with you having a relationship as these things happen, as long as you both take his feelings into cons... (read in full...)
She thinks I am flirtatious, when, in fact, I am just a very friendly person.
Q. My girlfriend of one year has been rather pissed off all the time lately. I never knew what the problem was, but it seemed to all come out just a few hours ago. Apparently, she thinks I am flirtatious, when, in fact, I am just a very friendly ...
A. 28 June 2007: If she does not like the way you are with people, then is she really the girl for you.
You should not have to change the way you are just because she does not like it and i think you need to tell her that, if she can not accept that they maybe you ... (read in full...)
She keeps destroying me by leading me on!
Q. I'm 16. Like this girl, asked her out to watch a movie, she accepted but keeps changing the day. What should I do? I really really like her, I'm crazy over her but if she makes another excuse I want to say something to make her feel bad. Any ideas? ...
A. 28 June 2007: She is playing you and you should not stand for it, you should not contact her and if she contacts you reject the number or ignore the text.
There are plenty of girls out there that are not interested in playing games with men, i would conc... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and meet her for a date?
Q. There is this girl who I like and I think she likes me. I think she likes me because she says hi to me everyday in school and if I don't say hi she talks to me online and asks me why I didn't. She tells me she loves me. Sometimes I see her flirting ...
A. 28 June 2007: What have you got to lose, i would say go for it, just go out on the date and as for kissing her, you will know if it's the right thing to do depending on how the date goes.
Take care.xx... (read in full...)
the day he left.
Q. ok i might just be seventeen years old but i have had some bad experiences in my life and i wish to share it with you. I was born on Monday 25 th june 1990 my real biological father didn't believe i was his so he had a bloo test it was proven i ...
A. 28 June 2007: Glad to hear you have come out the other side.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is all over me in public, but not at home--what is up?
Q. My boyfriend is all over me in public and never touches me at home! Why?...
A. 28 June 2007: I would just like to apologise for my earlier answer i must have been having a funny five mins reading the question completely wrong, hopefully like stina said you can provide a few more details and i can try again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do even guys with attractive girlfriends check out other women?
Q. To sexy girls: do your boyfriends still look at other women? I'm in a new relationship and afraid of ruining it with my jealousy. In the past I always had boyfriends who looked at other women a lot and they would also comment on my weight and ...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey i'm no model but at the same time i'm not the back end of a cow either.
Just wanted to say it's life we all look at other people and it 9 times out of ten means nothing at all, it does not mean they do not find you sexy because if they did not ... (read in full...)
We both cheated, but she got pregnant--she was the worst, right?
Q. My girlfriend has always screwed up things in the relationship and we seperated but still lived together. I cheated a few times and she knew because I stayed out all night. We got back together and started new then we broke up for a week. She ...
A. 28 June 2007: Personally i think if neither of you can be faithful to each other there is no point in the relationship at all.
So yeah you are right to want her to go, go your own separate ways and start again, hopefully learning from your mistakes.
Take ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is all over me in public, but not at home--what is up?
Q. My boyfriend is all over me in public and never touches me at home! Why?...
A. 28 June 2007: Some people are just not openly affectionate in front of other people especially when there are so many people out there there make such a fuss about it.
I would not let it worry you to much he shows you when it counts most when you are in priv... (read in full...)
We had 10 seconds of unprotected sex!
Q. My boyfriend and I got very drunk last week and wanted sex. i made him get a condom but he hates them and to my dismay did not put it on for about 10 seconds when he was inside me... im afraid there was pre cum on his penis.. im so scared.. am i ...
A. 28 June 2007: It is always possible no matter how look they were in for so it would be advisable to get a pregnancy test, better to be safe then sorry.
Next time he goes no where nere you unless you have seen it on him first.
I feel that it is better without ... (read in full...)
He is going back and forth between us. Will he ever just leave her for me?
Q. Ive never wrote to 1 of these before but Im in need of some advice. Ive met a man who really wants to be with me, but at the moment he is living with some one. He is not happy but every time he splits up with her she stops him seeing his son. Its...
A. 28 June 2007: If he was that serious about wanting to be with you he would leave her and be with you.
No court in the land would allow her to stop him seeing his child, so he could go to court and get that sorted , it's just excuses.
You should tell him you have... (read in full...)
My girlfriend never wants to have sex anymore!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half. When we first got together it was without a doubt the happiest that I have ever been in my life. But now things have changed and I don´t know what to do. She doesn´t want to have sex with ...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey don't worry too much i think everyone goes through stages where they are not as up for it as we may like them to be.
Just leave her be for a while and you will probably find she will be ok again soon.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont buy my car, but I think she should
Q. I recently suggested to my girlfriend that she could buy my car off me in about a year or so when she has passed her test. She hasn't even started learning yet. The car itself is in perfect condition and everyone who sees it wished they had a car ...
A. 28 June 2007: Hey this is from a women when it comes to cars the only thing that bothers us is the colour, so if she wants a black one just let her have one and sell your car you would probably get more money selling it to someone else anyway.
It's too smal... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have sex with him, but I know I'm too young. Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a month and 6 days. He's very sweet and caring but all of a sudden he asked me if we can have sex. He said it's okay if i don't want to. I'm 14 and his going to be 15 on July 14th. I said Yes, its okay. But ...
A. 28 June 2007: You just have to come straight out with it and tell him, you are too young, it is illegal and you are not ready for it.
If he is worth anything at all he will accept that and leave it till you are ready, if not then get rid of him beacuse you dese... (read in full...)
I'm going to the doctor about depression, anybody have any help or advice on the subject?
Q. my mum thinks i have depression because lately ive felt really low and ive lost my appetite and im finding it harder and harder to sleep. On monday ive got to go see a doctor which im quite nervous about (even though i want to get help with this) i ...
A. 28 June 2007: I am myself suffering with depression and believe me the hardest part is admitting to it, i am currently seeing my doctor on a regular basis and taking anti depressants to help me with this.
Ypu will be fine when you see the doctor and they will... (read in full...)
Is this normal break-up behaviour?
Q. I need help again! My ex boyfriend is still contacting me, he actually called now whereas he's only been contacting me through emails or text messenges. He just called to say "Hi and to see how I was doing". I don't know what to do anymore. I ...
A. 28 June 2007: So maybe you should ask him what it is he wants from you, if he says nothing i just want to be friends, then you will have to tell him you are hurting, you want to move on so please would he have the decency to allow you to do that and not contact ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my boyfriend in a good mood when we're out in public?
Q. Hi everyone, I would like advice from guys and girls on this subject: Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. There are so many times when we are falling asleep that he hold me and tells me how much he loves me. He is very ...
A. 27 June 2007: Maybe you should only meet for lunch once a week, as it might just be like routine now which can get very boring, it's probably not that he is bored with you.
Do you go to different places for lunch?
Maybe you could try meeting somewhere differen... (read in full...)
I caught my friend kissing a teacher--what do I do?
Q. I caught my best friend with another female teacher in a cupboard. They were stood in front of me kissing and I didn't know what to do so I pretended I didn't see. This teacher is engaged and doesn't seem to talk to my best friend--...
A. 27 June 2007: You were right not to go and see the teacher involved, i totally agree with all the other aunts on this it is totally wrong and illegal and it needs to be reported and once you have done that you should be very proud of yourself for doing the right ... (read in full...)
Want to give my new gf flowers from our garden, would that make me seem cheap?
Q. Hi, sorry if this is a really odd question. hopefully going to meet my new girlfriend for the day sometime next week, and want to take some flowers for her. Was thinking of taking them from the family garden, which i thought might be nice, but at ...
A. 27 June 2007: It's the thought that counts babe so you go for your life, i'm sure she will love them where ever they come from as they will be from you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How long does it take for the pill to be effective?
Q. i just got my first order of birth control pills yesterday (yaz) and will start them mid july. im just a little confused about the time it will take for the pill to take full effect and protect against pregnancy??? is it a week, a month, three ...
A. 27 June 2007: It depends entirely on what pill you are on as they work differently, you should have a leaflet inside the packet telling you everything you need to know about that pill, if you are unsure mail me and i will give you the information that you need.
T... (read in full...)
My first kiss became a snog--should we have gone slower?
Q. My first kiss was on a school bus and we went straight to snog, should we have slowed down?...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey it was just a kiss and as long as you don't go any further than that whats the harm, being young is about enjoying yourself just make sure you stick to the law.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a penis enlargement....does anyone have any info on this?
Q. Apologies for the extremely long post but I want to get this out the way... it's been worrying me for 4 weeks now. I'm 21 years old, my boyfriend's 23. Recently he's been complaining our sex life's not good enough, even though I think it's good....
A. 27 June 2007: http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,185156,00.html
Hi just found this site which lists different view points after studies into penile enlargement, give it a look and show it to your partner and see what he thinks.
Hope it is of some use.
Ta... (read in full...)
He's been chatting online to women with the webcam and even plans to meet someone!!!
Q. Several months ago, I found out my boyfriend (of 14 months) was using a webcam to chat online with other women while I was gone. I found this out because I came home a little earlier than he'd expected one day and caught him. He told me he wasn't ...
A. 27 June 2007: Why try and catch him out?
Why not keep you dignity by not stooping to his level and just leave him and walk away with your head held high.
Let him get on with his secret meetings and you go off and get yourself a new life, as you have said you... (read in full...)
He's looking at pics of exes and have also caught him texting them....what should I do?
Q. I feel so stupid. I am dating someone, and have been with him for a year now. But things are different. He used to tell me that I am beautiful, that he knows I'm meant for him....that the sex was good, etc. But now he doesnt do those things. We ...
A. 27 June 2007: He talks about other women during sex with you and he thinks they would not be getting upset, what planet is he on i'm sorry but this man is an absolute arsehole.
I can assure you me and just about every other women out there would be feeling exac... (read in full...)
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