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writes:Hi i posted a question at the weekend saying that my bf had left for the summer saying he wanted space. He said we'd meet up in the summer and that he missed me and did want to be with me but he just needed to sort himself out. Admittedly i didn't give him the space he needed this week as i was stressed cos i had a major exam and needed reassurance. He was meant to be coming to my cousin's wedding with me in august and i checked that he was still coming so i could book the hotel room. He said he didn't think he should come as he needed to sort himself out. I felt hurt as this will be 2 months from when he left and if you loved someone you surely would want to see them in that space of time. I said that i was fed up of feeling hurt all the time and he got angry and said we're finished for good. He said that we weren't getting on and he felt free now he was back at home. I'm devastated and don't understand cos when he was with me last week he was saying how much he loved me and talked about all the things we will do next year. I know i've been posessive this week but i told him before he went that i'd be like that this week because of all the stress. I'm upset all the time and i'm left in our apartment whilst he's back at home 250 miles away. He's still txting me each day but i just don't understand any of it. He wasn't even upset. He just said people break up you know. I asked him if there's anyone else and he said he doesn't want anyone. I just don't understand how he could hurt me so much by saying all that last week and just doing this to me! Help cos i really don't know what to do x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 June 2007):
 Sounds like a case of he does not want you but he also does not want anyone else to have you either so he keeps you dangling letting you think there might be a chance of you two getting back together, i would have to agree with bubbloo24 and just ignore any attempt he makes to contact you if he gives up after a few days you know it's time to move on.
Take care.xx.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 This man obviously is very uncaring. If he's gonna mess you about and not give you a clean break up to keep you hanging, he's not worth it.
I know it's not what you want to hear, but if he texts you again, don't reply. It's time you didn't speak to him again.
He's not worth it, I assure you.
He kept you hanging just so that he could go back to you when he felt like it. You don't want or need a relationship like that where you're messed about all the time especially if you're going through stress on top of it all.
I think the break would be better for you as you can now move on and do well in the things you are dealing with at the moment.
It will take time to heal the wound, but I promise you, you're much better without him. You're worth more than that.
x
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