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How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company?
Q. How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company? He doesn't even seem to know he is doing this. I have talked to him about it and he thinks I am being unreasonable....
A. 8 May 2010: Men burp and break wind, women do too. Everybody does and it's normal. You do it too; do you hold it in or run out of the room? I'm inclined to think you do but you really shouldn't have to in a comfortable relationship.
The suggestion of dumping ... (read in full...)
How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company?
Q. How do I tactfully ask my partner to stop continually farting and belching in my company? He doesn't even seem to know he is doing this. I have talked to him about it and he thinks I am being unreasonable....
A. 8 May 2010: Men burp and break wind, women do too. Everybody does and it's normal. You do it too; do you hold it in or run out of the room? I'm inclined to think you do but you really shouldn't have to in a comfortable relationship.
The suggestion of dumping ... (read in full...)
Need good remedies and/or painkillers advice for menstruation!
Q. Hey, this isn't really a relationship problem but I know all the aunts have great advice. The thing is, next week I'm off do do work experience for the whole week during my half term, but I'm due on my period either Sunday/Monday. Like many girls I ...
A. 22 October 2009: Feminax ultra is a brilliant painkiller, its powerful and pretty fast-acting. It costs just under 5 pounds from the chemist. You can't take 2 at a time like normal painkillers as they're stronger, so make sure you read the instructions fully. Heat ... (read in full...)
I experimented with myself and now I don't know how to feel. Any advice?
Q. Hi. Last night I found myself experimenting with my body. I suddenly had all these urges which were probably brought on by the fact that I haven't had sex in nearly a year. At one point, I even tried finding and stimulating my g-spot...... And I'm ...
A. 19 February 2008: To many, it might seem like a homosexual act for a man to explore and pleasure themselves anally; it is completely normal, mainly because of that simple reason, pleasure. It feels good because the anus is extremely sensitive, filled with nerve ... (read in full...)
New feature: Keyword + phrases links
Q. Hi There are over 40,000 questions here on dearcupid and some absolute gems in amongst them. Problem is it has been hard to make associations between similar questions in order to get the most out of the site. So, I've introduced a new feat...
A. 14 December 2007: You've certainly been putting in a lot of work! Well done, another excellent idea.... (read in full...)
Would it sound childish to tell a college interviewer that I presided over a fan club?
Q. Can I say I presided a Fan Club when in College at a job interview? Or Is it too lame or childish? It's leadership experience... ...
A. 25 November 2007: Many colleges look for extra-curricular activities on their applicants' application forms. Running a club falls into the category of E-C. It is perfectly legitimate experience of leadership. Showing that you have taken keen interest in a personal ... (read in full...)
She suspects she's pregnant but missed an appointment to find out. Can I get a test for her elsewhere?
Q. Ok, well i slept with a friend a few weeks ago, and she told me she was late for her period. She told me she was going to go to the doctors today to have a pregnancy test but failed to get an appointment, only one being in another weeks time. Im not ...
A. 24 November 2007: I'm also in the UK and yes, you can buy a range of at-home pregnancy tests from just about any chemist. The lowest priced ones start at about £5. If you're unsure about what one to purchase, you can always ask the pharmacist for advice.... (read in full...)
Any advice on dirty talking in bed?
Q. What advice about talking dirty during sex do you have? ...
A. 24 November 2007: As with all relationship matters, I believe communication is the key. Talking dirty in bed with a partner should be talked about seriously first, before any attempts are actually made. This might seem a bit unsexy but it could save embarassment or ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 already and still have never had a boyfriend...
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. This is ...
A. 11 October 2007: There's no rush. I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 17; it didn't kill me to wait and it won't kill you. Waiting for someone special to come along is much more rewarding than just making a play for every guy you kinda-sorta like. If you're ... (read in full...)
I don't come close to ogasism, and he does.
Q. me and my bf just started having sex, and we use protection and were really contious about it, but one problem, he cums like 4 times and i dont orgasm or even get close to one. Is there somthing wrong with me!? like it feels good, and it pleases me, ...
A. 11 October 2007: There's nothing wrong with you. He finds it so easy to orgasm because the simple back and forth friction on his penis is enough stimulus for most men to reach climax. Women take a little more work. Is he arousing you before actual penetration, is he ... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 31 August 2007: Where I'm from, this is called a 'rainbow kiss' and is pretty normal, a lot of girls' sex drive is heightened when they're on their period. If she enjoys it too, then great; it's all good, as long as you rinse your mouth with mouthwash as soon as ... (read in full...)
Was this RAPE?
Q. Around 10 months ago I was out with an old friend from school and she met 2 of her friends which were 2 lads that I did not really know but had seen around the area a couple of times. They got pretty drunk and at first I didn't touch any drink but ...
A. 14 August 2007: Yes and it was not your fault. You didn't make him think you wanted sex, you said no quite clearly, even though you were drunk; the fact that he did anything sexual without your permission was wrong and the 'sex' was indeed rape. What's more, if he ... (read in full...)
How many days does it take to start my period after I've stopped taking the pill for this week?
Q. I've only just started taking the pill and have stopped to bring on my period for a week for the first time and was wondering how many days it takes to start my period after i'd stopped taking the pill for this week? i'm so worried that i havent ...
A. 6 August 2007: Don't worry, 4 days is a normal time to wait; I myself take the 3-week pill which requires a week's break and I usually wait 4-5 days. Remember that because your body is only just getting used to the alterations caused by the pill, your period may ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 6 August 2007: It's so nice to think all us agony aunts and uncles might be helping so many people out there!... (read in full...)
I love World of Warcraft but want a girlfriend and don't want to turn into a geek!
Q. Hi, Im a 15 year old boy who is desperate for a girlfriend. But the thing is i play on world of warcraft ALOT (online game). And i dont want to turn into a geek which i think the girls think i am. I love the game but i really want a girlfirend...
A. 6 August 2007: I was briefly addicted to the game too, you're not alone. Try setting designated time periods to play the game; like for 2 hours after dinnertime, or for an hour after you get home from school. Maybe even just allocate yourself 3 hours in the day to ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that my 2 year old niece has been abused and therefore masturbates when she goes to bed.
Q. My niece is 2 years old girl and whenever she goes to bed she puts her hand under her and humps the bed... kind of like mastubation. people always wonder why she does this and im not sure if she is being treated right. she is locked in the room ...
A. 6 August 2007: Oh and one more thing, please ignore the advice suggesting that you tell her it is wrong to be doing what she is doing. Instilling feelings of shame or 'being dirty' in a child so young will only cause her problems in her future; she could end up ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned that my 2 year old niece has been abused and therefore masturbates when she goes to bed.
Q. My niece is 2 years old girl and whenever she goes to bed she puts her hand under her and humps the bed... kind of like mastubation. people always wonder why she does this and im not sure if she is being treated right. she is locked in the room ...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree that masturbation in children is fairly normal, merely a pleasurable/comforting thing and not sexual; especially in a child as young as 2. Children so young will know what she/he is doing feels nice but not understand why it does; it is ... (read in full...)
Is it Ok to drink after getting a tattoo?
Q. is it ok do drink after getting a tatto cause im getting one on saturday and i am suppose to be going out on the ngiht time with the lasses?...
A. 4 August 2007: It's generally advised that you don't drink for 24 hours or so after getting a tattoo done, as alcohol thins your blood and can end up making the ink on your tattoo go a little wonky. I was told this by a tattoo-enthusiast friend, at first I wasn't ... (read in full...)
She thrives on attention from other people and doesn't understand why it bothers me
Q. Me and my girlfriend are in a distance relationship and recently got to go camping together with about 10 or so friends, mostly mine but some both of ours. She is a much more outgoing person then I am and easily gets the attention of other people, ...
A. 24 July 2007: It does seem a bit one-way street-ish. I think the only problem an introvert may cause to their extroverted partner is that the introverted one might seem less outgoing or less fun to the extroverted one, to put it as simply as possible. I don't ... (read in full...)
She thrives on attention from other people and doesn't understand why it bothers me
Q. Me and my girlfriend are in a distance relationship and recently got to go camping together with about 10 or so friends, mostly mine but some both of ours. She is a much more outgoing person then I am and easily gets the attention of other people, ...
A. 24 July 2007: She sounds rather unfairly unwilling to compromise about this. She may not see it as a big deal but you do and as your partner, she ought to respect that and cut back on that sort of behaviour. It's understandable that you feel uncomfortable, ... (read in full...)
When I masturbate I feel dirty and wrong
Q. I'm 13 and I just started to masterbate last week, but whenever I do it, I feel dirty and wrong. How can I not?...
A. 21 July 2007: Masturbation is normal and healthy and something everyone does; we even do it innocently when we are small children. Our bodies are ours to explore, in any way we choose to. Some people (particularly those of strong religious belief or extremely ... (read in full...)
Why do men look at other women?
Q. Why do married men--or any man for that matter--stare at other women when they want to be with you and they love you and all that stuff? Men are so confusing sometimes I'm surprised I have nerves left....
A. 13 July 2007: I think the last poster said everything perfectly; hear hear, female anonymous.... (read in full...)
I want to get my life on track and I don't want to lose her
Q. Hi All. I could really do with other people's advise on this. I suffer extreme depression and anxiety. This has got progressively worse over the last 10 years. It got so bad 3 years ago i had to leave my job and i have not been able to work...
A. 29 June 2007: Firstly, let me say that I suffer the same as you (agorophobia, anxiety and depression) and I agree that people with good mental health simply don't (and can't) understand as well as they say or try to. I think it's admirable you want so much to ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from 'dry humping'?
Q. This guy and I messed around but I was wearing boyshorts, he rubbed his penis on my vagina through my shorts. Now, my period is late and I'm wondering... Could I be pregnant?...
A. 28 June 2007: If any seminal fluid or 'pre-cum' (which contains active sperm) leaked from him while you were doing this, there would be a slight chance a little may have come into contact with your vagina but it isn't likely, even less so if he was also wearing ... (read in full...)
He tells another girl online that she's beautiful; I think he's being a hypocrite
Q. I have a problem with my bf of 5 months. We are both 18 years old. The other night a friend of mine was browsing one of my bf's profiles and noticed a comment from a girl which had a 3 (symbol for love heart online) in it. My friend then went to ...
A. 28 June 2007: While he may feel that telling another girl she is beautiful is perfectly fine, there's no reason for you to find it acceptable. He most likely sees it as a friendly greeting, a simple sign of affection to a friend, an innocent comment. As he thinks ... (read in full...)
How do I prepare to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time?
Q. Ok so I have been going out with this guy now for about 2 years and I am 16 and he is 26.. I know the age right. Well he has deffently had sex. And I have but it was always really quick in and out. So I am worried that I might bleed while I have sex ...
A. 26 June 2007: I think it's responsible of you to have waited to have sex with him until now. The first time you have sex and sometimes a few times after, it is normal to bleed; there shouldn't be much blood however, as only a very small area of you (your hymen) ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Call for new volunteer moderators (please read carefully)
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING! Moderators approve new questions, think up of interesting and accurate titles and approve/reject a...
A. 15 June 2007: I'm on Dear Cupid every day and have a lot of free time on my hands, as my health currently prohibits me from working; I'd gladly help the site by being a moderator. ... (read in full...)
Would it hurt to lose my virginity when I'm drunk?
Q. I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out ...
A. 14 June 2007: I'm not going to lecture you, though I will say do please be very careful when you're out with the boys, especially if you're getting intoxicated; for your own safety, try to make sure you always have a ride home with a friend and keep an eye on ... (read in full...)
I have spots on my scrotum--will they clear up and what causes this?
Q. Hi. Well, basically...I've got this problem...where I have got spots on my scrot. I have had these for a number of months...and had never even been near anyone else sexually when they started to appear. I spoke to my mate who says its pretty n...
A. 14 June 2007: This doesn't sound like an STD and if you'd had no sexual contact, it won't be. What are these spots like; do they itch, are they weeping, do they burn, are they red or white? If these spots are small, not weeping and white, then they are perfectly ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me with my masturbating problem?
Q. hi im just curious here. When u masturbate and then try and put a finger in i can only get it so far then i feel it won't go any further and it hurts, y is this? I've never really done this before but i here of many virgins doing this and it isn't ...
A. 2 June 2007: Your hymen does need to be broken, intercourse being the best way; I've read of women having surgery done to remove it but that would be an extreme eventuality. The breaking does hurt a little but after a few times of having sex, this pain goes away ... (read in full...)
I have this fear that if I have sex with him...I won't be good enough! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been talking about having sex. Everytime we get the opportunity, I am ready to do it, I just get a feeling that makes me change my mind. He and I are both virgins, and obviously we would both be nervous, but I have a huge ...
A. 2 June 2007: I'm afraid you won't know what it will be like until you do it. If you are both virgins then there will probably be a little akwardness to start with but not necessarily. Your fear of not pleasing him is common and he is more than likely worried ... (read in full...)
When I have sex with my partner my whole body tenses up.
Q. Im 24 years old and have been in a releationship for 3 years im also 8 months pregnant. The problem i have is that ever since i was 18/19 i have never really enjoyed sex i have it but only about 2 or 3 times a month i dont want to lose my partner ...
A. 2 June 2007: This sounds like you may have vaginismus, where your body (more particularly your vagina) tenses up when penetrative sex is looming, making intercourse painful. This is a psychological condition and is not curable by yourself; you would need to be ... (read in full...)
My husband's penis is a brown colour - is this normal!?!
Q. hi everyone i need help.....i noticed that my husbands penis is a brown color and he is white, my question is is this normal for every guy? or should i really get him checked? thank you for all your help...
A. 2 June 2007: Darker pigmentation on the penis than the rest of his skin is highly commom for a man and no threat to his health at all. The pigmentation level is completely variable; any man with pale or very pale skin on his body can have a much darker shaft; it ... (read in full...)
My one testicle is a bit bigger and hurts more than the other. Anyone know what the problem could be?
Q. Okay this is more a personal problem and I don't know where else to ask. I have been checking my testicles the past week as I think it is important and they do look normal but if I feel on the left it is a bit bigger than my right and when I feel it ...
A. 30 May 2007: First off I would adivse that if you have any concerns at all about the health of your testicles, then go straight to your doctor. Don't be embarassed, he or she will deal with this kind of complaint all the time. You may have a varicocele, which is ... (read in full...)
Can you tell me why I view any sexual partner this way?
Q. Hi... this is a weird one I guess. I have a secret I've never told anyone: Although I'm an intelligent, well-spoken, well-off man from a very upper-middle-class family, I am only really sexually attracted to women I can't stand. I've heard of ...
A. 22 May 2007: I'll admit, I'm rather worried about you. Clearly, there are underlying issues here that make you have these impulses; it's not quite the same as just having a thing for slutty women. The desire to hurt could be a simple sadistic tendency but the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family that I want to spend the rest of my life with my girlfriend? She is a bit older and I'm afraid they might not approve?
Q. Hey everyone! Iam a 21 male and my GF is 24! We are already talking about spending the rest of our lives together. Her family knows about me but my parents do not know about her. Only my sister does. I want to tell my parents about her but I dont ...
A. 21 May 2007: First, let me assure you that three years is not a big age gap at all; if you were 16, it would be a big gap. Three years is not much and many men find themselves drawn to older women, even if the age gap is slight. Secondly, you are 21; you are an ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what male sperm tastes like when he comes during oral and can it do harm of swallowed?
Q. Can anyone tell me what male sperm tastes like when he comes during oral and can it do harm of swallowed?...
A. 19 May 2007: I don't believe it's so much the taste that people find bothers them but the texture, the consistancy. The taste varies from man to man and diet has some bearing on the taste aka a better diet will result in a sweeter taste. Usually, it doesn't have ... (read in full...)
She gets extremely aroused but never really reaches full orgasm...
Q. Ive almost brought my partner to orgasm hundreds of times, during coital intercourse, oral intercourse and manual (finger) stimulation. She always stops me seconds before the deed is completed becuase she feels like she is going to urinate on me. ...
A. 19 May 2007: You're not doing anything improperly, the feeling of going to urinate isn't uncommon. She is obviously very aroused and extremely relaxed which is a very good thing. Not everyone knows that women can ejaculate like men, with less fluid and more of a ... (read in full...)
He has dreams about me but won't tell me what they are about...could they be sexual dreams?
Q. hey im 16 and so is my boyfriend who i have been with for 5 months. today we were talking about our dreams and i was asking him if he had any about me ever. He said he does but he doesn't really want to tell me what some of them are. Then he said ...
A. 19 May 2007: He is more than likely having sexual dreams about you but instead of being annoyed that he won't be upfront about it, be glad that he is trying to keep you from being uncomfortable by telling you every detail and suggesting you try it for real. ... (read in full...)
I always here that couples tease each other in a relationship, sexually. What does that imply?
Q. It might be the same for a girl but I say this from a guys point of view. I always here that couples tease each other in a relationship, sexually. What does that imply?...
A. 19 May 2007: Teasing in a sexual setting can imply a number of activities; basically, it is some form of sexual stimulation done in a manner as to bring your partner close to orgasm but not to let them follow through right away, to draw out their pleasure and ... (read in full...)
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