Should I tell my best friend's younger sister how I feel about her?
Q. Hi, I have had a crush on my best friends younger sister for a very long time. I have been best friends with him since First Grade, and I have been friends with his sister since about Fourth or Fifth Grade. She told me a few years ago that she like...
A. 20 July 2007: When you got crush the best is to befriend. The reason to do this is that crushes fade. And it is not recommended to build relationship on crush only. "Should I tell her how I feel and ask her out?" - I guess YES. You can "face possible anger",... (read in full...)
My mood seems related to my sexual activity, is this normal?
Q. When I have some form of sexual experience with my partner I feel really really happy for a day or so, but after that I start to want sex again and my mood starts to drop, and I don't feel really happy again until we have sex again. Is this normal? ...
A. 20 July 2007: Correlation between mood and desire for sex. There are physical and emotional parts of it. Sex drive is physical - this is something that you just have. As to the emotional: it may overlay sex drive to some extent. Probably this is happening in ... (read in full...)
We broke up but are still close. Am I just prolonging the heartbreak?
Q. Hey... i broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months 3 weeks ago, because felt he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore ( we are both 17!) We got along great, and we are best friends. And i thought that after we broke up, we would lose this ...
A. 20 July 2007: Things will never be the same after breakup. Even if you reunite, there will be changes. And the point here is that you cannot predict such changes. Moreover, from the other side it looks like you dumped him. "im always gonna want somthing more"... (read in full...)
I'm very uneasy in this relationship, how can I forget about him?
Q. Been with relationship for 4 years and i am madly in love with the guy. I feel he is my soulmate. We cant get into marriage for some reasons. I should provide for the family and though i am in love with him i am afraid on his personality side. I am ...
A. 19 July 2007: Do you see any signs of his recurrent behavior?
"i might be the same of what had happened to..."
He is your soulmate and you know answers better than anyone.
So if you can't see it, maybe it's because there is nothing.
"My question is how ... (read in full...)
Friend whom I lost contact with is back in my life; should I date him after he sort of dated my best friend?
Q. two years ago i was talking to a friend, we both liked each other very much but as time passed by we stopped speaking neither one of us remember why but he claims to now miss me and i miss him but the problem is that he "dated' my best friend it was ...
A. 19 July 2007: "Should i continue talking to him and date him?"
I would advise you give this relationship a try.
Most of the story belongs to past; think about the present.
Here is present: "he claims to now miss me and i miss him".
After all, human beings hav... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always stay quiet towards me and is opened up to his mates and not me.
Q. I need help... Why does my boyfriend always stay quiet towards me and is opened up to his mates and not me... I don't get it this really hurts me... all we say is hi bye I luv you, I miss you ntng n da buh I always put effort in and always tell him ...
A. 19 July 2007: What you mean by "open up" is not clear to me.
Let's talk about his quiet nature and shyness.
It's possible that he is introvert and that's how you see it.
You say he "is opened up to his mates": think whether they are close friends or distant f... (read in full...)
Can you love your boyfriend but still have feelings for your ex?
Q. Can you still have feelings for your ex and be in love with the boyfriend you have now? I'm in love with my boyfriend and we have a great relationship but occasionally memories of my ex come up and sometimes I've dreamt about him occasionally. I ...
A. 18 July 2007: Past boyfriends belong to your history.
You gotta overcome the feelings to him.
As I see, you are "in love with the boyfriend you have now".
So focus on building relationship with your current partner.
"thinking that if I could go back in time"... (read in full...)
How do I tell my inexperienced boyfriend how to do things the way I like it?
Q. ive recently started having sex with my boyfriend and we are both 17. he was a virgin before he met me and hes not to clued up on what to do. i dont know how to teach him to do things the way i like it without sounding patronising as ive never been ...
A. 18 July 2007: Just recall the time when you were a virgin.
So were you clued up on what to do then? NO.
"never been anyones first before", but someone was your first.
Anyway, the key phrase here is "i dont know how to teach him".
If you wanna teach him, you n... (read in full...)
I found out from my friends that my boyfriend kissed a girl who I hate!
Q. About a month ago, my boyfriend went to Ireland for two weeks for a school trip with other class mates. During this time, everyone was drinking alcohol. One night, he got really really drunk and so was everyone else. So because he was drunk, he ...
A. 18 July 2007: You move the point that your BF has addiction.
His drinking is occasional: it is not regular.
This means there is no physical addiction, only psychological.
It sounds also that you cant forgive him kissing another girl.
"Should I break up with hi... (read in full...)
My bf said he didn't think being with me was right. Then he changed his mind! It's messed w/ my head and I don't know what to do!
Q. hia, i have a bad relationship problem not last thursday the thursday before my boyfriend told me he didnt know what he wanted, he didnt think being with me was right, which partially broke my heart i love him so much and i dont care how young i am ...
A. 17 July 2007: My feeling here is that you want this guy.
"it took me a year and a half to get him"
Here is your mistake: "now all we do is have serious talks".
Take your time to think whether you wanna break what you got.
Now about "he doesnt want to be with ... (read in full...)
She called her boyfriend by MY name!
Q. Well I sorta found out that my really close friend called her boyffiend my name by accident I believe. We have been friends, even before they met. We're really close and she has told me that they have talked about me, and that he knows we're really ...
A. 17 July 2007: Let's see what will happen if you bring it up.
This may start a kind of argument between you.
She knows that you "have been friends, even before they met".
And I really hope that she knows that you were really close.
If my assumptions are ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for an answer? Should I just move on? Is there a way to ask for his answer?
Q. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We broke up three weeks ago. When we broke up he said he didn't have the same feelings for me that he used to. A lot of the reason we broke up had to do with my excessive calling, my clingy tendencies ...
A. 17 July 2007: Read your story completely and got an opinion.
I understand that my opinion may contain bias.
Here is question: Do guys prefer birchy or clingy girlfriends?
Once you answer this question yourself you get an opinion too.
You wait for an answer as... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or is this just a friendship?
Q. I know a guy at work. Although I'm not sure if he likes me. He is white and I am Indian. We get along quite well, although he always teases me, about me liking some weird looking guys. How will I know if he likes me? Is it just a friendship?...
A. 17 July 2007: It sounds like you want him to like you.
So, let's assume then that he likes you.
Will this change your attitude / behavior toward him somehow?
The point here is that relationship takes two people to work.
As to "Is it just a friendship" - On... (read in full...)
We're not exactly dating but I'm not sure if he really cares for me, he kissed another girl
Q. i have been kinda seeing this lad for 3 years, we are not going out because of the distance! and when we are together we dont go on the pull and that...how ever the other night we went out, everything was fine, i came back fro the bar, and he was ...
A. 16 July 2007: Well you look for advice and for explanation. Lust is physical and it depends on sex drive. You see him 3 years and his feelings toward you are emotional. Moving from here: why you compare "physical" with "emotional". Another point is attitude... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is behaving strangely around me
Q. hello right im really worried about my boyfriend because all this week he has been funny with me i just asked him if anything is wrong and he said no but i dont believe him =/ i dunno what to do....he dosent txt me as much as he used to and i we...
A. 16 July 2007: Okay, I see there are two things to explain. It should help you to understand him better. "he still kissed and cuddled me as normal couples would" This should be a sign that he is still interested in you. "went up his house thursday and he seemed... (read in full...)
Can things work out if my ex takes me back?
Q. i really need some advice am i kidding my self in thinking that if my ex takes me back after cheating on him twice things will work and and we will both be happy with each other please help anyone out there ...
A. 16 July 2007: Honestly I can't tell: this depends on your ex. Don't know his attitude to cheating in general. Thinking about this: "we will both be happy with each other". What is Happiness in your understanding? Is it state of mind? If answer is "no", why yo... (read in full...)
Guys, and possibly ladies! Do you prefer women who are attractive looking or that have a great body?
Q. I prefer guys to answer this question. However women could answer this question too. Do you prefer a women that is attractive looking, or have a great body? What do you like in women based on what they look like/personality or how attractive they ...
A. 16 July 2007: The point is guys have different preferences.
Any general answer to this can't be accurate.
One the one hand, it depends on what view is being marketed.
On the other hand, it depends on "role models" for each guy.
If guys prefer trendy stylish g... (read in full...)
Do I break my fiancee's heart and ask him to move out, desperately try to find a way to pay for it, and tell my ex that we can once again be together?
Q. I am in love with my ex-boyfriend and I know he loves me back, but I am engaged to another man. My ex and I met a couple years ago and dated for nearly a year and a half. He moved to another city after he finished college and I started working....
A. 12 July 2007: In this case you need to sort your feelings.
What exactly do you feel to ex and fiancee?
You should find your own answer to this question pretty soon.
It will help to know whether you should break the engagement.
As to "spend the rest of my life"... (read in full...)
I really like him but I'm not sure if he likes me back. What can I do next?
Q. I really like this guy at school. He definitely knows because one of my most trusted friends told him without my consent. I'm confused by the way he acts. Before she told him he was always looking at me and hanging near me and my friends. Now ...
A. 12 July 2007: You have two options to make your choice.
First, you can act as if nothing changed.
Second, you can change the way you act to adapt to his change.
Other options seem to be too hard to accomplish at the moment.
Think whether "my friend has let m... (read in full...)
The new guy shares my interests, but I'm comfortable with the old guy. Who should I choose?
Q. me and my on and off live in move out boyfriend of almost four years are off again. i went on a cruise and met a great guy, and even flew back to see him as soon as i got home from vacation. im confused do i stay with the only thing i know, or see ...
A. 12 July 2007: My advice is that you choose the new guy.
It sounds like this is what you want now.
"new guy has the same morals, intrests and future plans as me"
These things are important, very important in everyone's life.
However, it may turn out that yo... (read in full...)
I kissed my sister's best mate but I don't want my sister to know about it.
Q. On Friday night I kissed my sisters best mate but I really like her and I can't stop thinking about her. The only thing is I don't want my sister to find but I also really want to go out with her because I love her. What should I do?...
A. 11 July 2007: I do not think this secret will be kept long.
Anyway, you should talk to the one you kissed.
For you, "sisters best mate" is like a potential girlfriend.
You say you love her, but time will tell it's crush or love.... (read in full...)
Why do I pick fights with him for no reason?
Q. I have been on and off with my ex for about 2 years we have a beautiful daughter together. i love him more than anything but we have had a bit of ruff times and i know we can make it because we have made it this far. sometimes i pick fights with him ...
A. 11 July 2007: Thumbs up to love-him: you got to the point.
Agree with her advice, but I will add to it.
You should think whether these fights can be helpful somehow.
If you can't "see it", then the best you can do is stop them.... (read in full...)
I left him once and now he doesnt trust me
Q. I met someone online and after a few months we moved in together. We had alot of disagreements and problems the first year and I told him I was not happy and he was very angry at me and so I left without telling him. When he realized that I had ...
A. 11 July 2007: Any relationship without trust is troubled. "now 2 years later and he does not trust me" It sounds like he doesn't wanna trust you for some reason. Probably you had lots of arguments - try a different approach. You should focus on your mutua... (read in full...)
She asked for a break...but is she stringing me along?
Q. So I'm really confused. About 2 months ago my girlfriend of about a year and a half told me that we needed to take a break. At that time, I was working a lot and going through some roommate issues and I was not really there for her. When we first...
A. 11 July 2007: From what you wrote it's clear you'll wait.
Now you can't change relationship with her.
The fact that you keep talking to here is positive direction.
Unfortunately, at the moment there is not enough evidence to say for sure whether "she's just ... (read in full...)
He cheated in past relationships. Will he cheat on me?
Q. He cheated in past relationships. Will he cheat on me? I have a strong belief that people change and I feel such a strong connection with him that I am almost positive that my worries are only doubts stemming from my past hard times in relatio...
A. 10 July 2007: People may need motivation to make changes.
Ablity to change is different for everyone.
"Can I trust him not to cheat while I am gone for a month?"
I advise you take the risk and trust him or view it as test.
You cannot get pattern here, be... (read in full...)
Is there any chance of me and my "ex girlfriend" getting back together?
Q. Is there any chance of me and my "ex girlfriend" getting back together? or should I try and move on? I was seeing a girl for 9 months. I call it seeing because she always said we were never going out. Yet I would see almost every day, she stayed ...
A. 10 July 2007: I believe this story will have continuation.
At the moment you should not make decisions.
She is not sure now about her feelings for you in my opinion.
This means you should not view current situation as settled.
You are in relationship, bu... (read in full...)
He said he loves his wife... should I wait for him?
Q. I've been with a guy for three years he got married before we got serious we have a child together; we used to live together at the moment we're not. he said he love his wife for what she done for him but his heart is with me. should I wait for him ...
A. 10 July 2007: Expectations that you have are a bit unclear.
You say here that you "have a child together".
This means there is some kind of connection between you two.
As to emotional cheating on his wife it has to be proven yet.
"wait for him until he sort hi... (read in full...)
We have a lack of passion ... now I've met a great girl!
Q. I need help! I am in a relationship of a few years and lately we haven't been as passionate and "in love" as in the past. A lot of the relationship has been long distance and it is right now. The lack of passion thing has been a problem for some...
A. 10 July 2007: No, you should not step out of relationship.
This "great girl" that you met may be crush.
Most crushes fade after 3 to 18 months and you land nowhere.
Another point: think why your current relationship is stale.
Unless your GF is satisfied with i... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and never had a relationship - I want real love! Is this normal?
Q. i never have a relation ship whith someone.i want to have it but i m sker. because i want a real love and a good personne .im 19 years old and i never have a relation ship whith somone.ihave many boys friend but they are just friends . is this ...
A. 10 July 2007: There is no such thing as normal to be true.
It depends on where you are and who you are.
Your problem may be caused by one of the following reasons:
#1: "real love" the way you understand it is almost unreal;
#2: you are not doing things nee... (read in full...)
I think I like my best friend more than a friend.
Q. Hi i am a fourteen years old boy I have a best friend who is a 13 year old girl but we go to diferent schools and she has a boyfriend there or so she tells me but i think i like her more then a friend what do i do...
A. 9 July 2007: You continue being friends with her for now.
This is the most reasonable what you can do.
Advice #1 - what she tells you try to keep this to yourself.
Advice #2 - don't get involved in any way with her boyfriend.
Time will bring some changes to ... (read in full...)
What can I do to save our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over two years. Recently, I have been feeling alone. I feel like he isn't interested in me. When I try to tell him how I feel, I end up feeling guilty and cry. He acts as if he doesn't notice that ...
A. 9 July 2007: Here is lack of communication between partners.
I think that you are different from each other.
This is quite normal, but in a relationship you need to talk.
Advice to "I am starting to feel attracted to anyone who will hold up a conversation... (read in full...)
I am dating a girl and I am crazy on her, only thing is she's dating someone else at the same time until she can decide who she wants to be with.
Q. I've been dealing with a problem for quite some time now and all the advice I've been getting is unacceptable to me (no offence). So basically I've been secretely dating a girl for the last 5 months or so and I love her more than words can express. ...
A. 9 July 2007: As I see you wanna cross two options out here.
To forget her or wait for her is unacceptable.
It means that you are asking advice how to speed things up.
You should not press her to make decision in this situation.
Spend more time with her an... (read in full...)
Does he just want me to wait around?
Q. My boyfriend texted me and told me to call him so I did and he said he wants us to take a break, but not break up, that he wants to get himself financially stable, but hes 16 so there is no financially stable in my opinion, and deal with family ...
A. 9 July 2007: Well, it is difficult to say what he wants.
Anyway, use this break and think about him.
Here is the question: Do you wanna share your future with him?
If your answer is "yes", then you can wait some time for him.
If your answer is "no"/"?", the... (read in full...)
I really want to see us back together and make things work again.
Q. Hi, I am was in a 7 years relationship and my gf broke of with me for 8 months, she has no feelings for me anymore. She said stuff like she wants to find herself back as in this pass relationship we have made many mistake. I still love her alot an...
A. 9 July 2007: I think that she doesn't want the engagement.
You say "she has no feelings for me anymore".
Probably this is true, but if you still believe that she is the one for you, just give her time she needs for thinking.
Stay around, but don't press her - ... (read in full...)
My best friend told my girl a lie that made her dump me; how do I win her back?
Q. my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad cuz i didnt say anything to him now she broke up with me and everything i say she shoots it down what do i do to fix this and get her back...
A. 6 July 2007: This question can be interpreted in 2 ways.
I will give you two different answers here.
"my best friend told my girlfried sumthing that made her mad"
Give her time to get over it, and start building trust again.
Another point: "made her mad cu... (read in full...)
My gf and I can't go a day without arguing! She says being around me makes her angry. What should we do?
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years and I have been fighting alot lately. We can't seem to get along and not argue for more than a day. She says lately being around me makes her angry and in a bad mood. I really want this to work but I am not sure on what to ...
A. 6 July 2007: Does she want you to start to fix it?
From what she says the answer is "no".
"lately being around me makes her angry and in a bad mood"
It sounds like she is pushing you to end this relationship.
You should confront her now to make things a bi... (read in full...)
How can I forget her, be happy and just move on?
Q. Me and my ex have been dating for about 3 years and she decided that she wanted to be single. Now she has been hanging around one of my friends a little and it's driving me crazy!!!! I just need some advice on how to be happy and move on??...
A. 6 July 2007: "she decided that she wanted to be single"
This means you disagree with her decision.
"Now she has been hanging around one of my friends a little and it's driving me crazy" - it means she is playing games.
Advice: you should reconsider y... (read in full...)
Is this only temporary or is our relationship on the way out?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 4 months, he is by far the kindest, nicest and caring guy I have been with. He has been feeling constantly unwell for the past 2 months of the relationship with stomach pains (that no specilist has found an answer f...
A. 6 July 2007: Relationship takes both partners to work.
Now he needs you and so you stand by him.
My opinion is that you are doing this, because you love him.
"I'm trying my best to be supporting and caring but am starting to feel he is becoming emotionally ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he has big plans for our future like I do?
Q. hi everyone! im in a relationship with a 30yr old guy,im 25. At my age right now i want a serious relationship, making a commitment hoping that it will lead to a great future. the thing is my bf of a yr havent mention anything about marriage yet. ...
A. 6 July 2007: Okay, so you want a serious relationship. This is good that you know what you want. You have been a year with your boyfriend already and I think that you have the right to initiate conversation about future. "how will i ask him in a manner that... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of the turbulence in our marriage; what should I do?
Q. hi everyone well i just am very confused, i thought that my husband loved me and lately i just feel like he doesnt, i mean i admit ive done something; but there not anything that i wouldnt of done before we got married like going out with my ...
A. 6 July 2007: I guess you should wait till he comes home. Then you should talk to him about all this. Your concerns are clear - please discuss it with your husband. Marriage requires efforts from both partners - this is normal.... (read in full...)
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