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writes:Im 16 and i have Never had a boy finger me or me do anything for a boy.. seems like everyone else has and i feel embarresed to say that ''i lack in sexual experience'' when personally i dont care but when people ask me.. i get ambarresed.. is this bad i lack in it? i dont no what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, darksecretangel  +, writes (16 June 2007):
 NO you should not feel embaressed. There is nothing to feel embaressed about anyway. You are only 16 anyway you have plenty of time to gain experiance.
If people hassle you about your lack of experiance tell them to shut up, it is after all your decision, dont feel pressurized to do loads of things with boys, just because you want to fit in.
It doesnt work and then you get labelled. It may seem that you are the only one who doesnt have experiance , however there are other teenagers your age who are in the same situation as yourself. I think that because you lack in experiance it will be more special when you do the things. Also if a guy starts pressurizing you about going further than dump him. The right guy would be honoured to be your first.
Good luck :)
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (14 June 2007):
I used to get embarrest to, but you just have to tell them its none of there business. Your private life is yours only. Whatever you do, dont make things up...because im sure thats what your school mates are doing. Im sure your not the only virgin out of your friends or social group and others at school. Infact im positive your not. I have friends who are still virgins at 18. So please dont worry, because when its gone you can never get it back. Wait untill you have found someone who you love, and who loves and respects you back. If you ever want to message me to talk about anything, feel free. Its just part of being a girl and be all go through this stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2007): By no stretch of any derranged imagination is sexual innocence a bad thing. I hope you have the self esteem to not take any guff from people. Also, because I'm an older guy and hear younger female friends of mine alk about this.Guys who are pushy like that, aren't worth the the time it takes them to be insensitive
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reader, rachal  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 no it's not a bad thing! in fact i give you props! all my friends are like the rebels at our high school (don't ask me how i got in their crowd) and almost all of them have done everything[and i mean EVERYTHING] but when they ask me, we all end up making a joke about it. but the truth is, that the only guys who actually like girls w/ a lot of experience at our age are nothing but a bunch of horn dogs! just don't rush into something that you're not sure of. wait until your're ready.i have a purity ring [ also known as an abstinence ring] and i made a spiritual vow to God, and to my self that i'm gonna stay a virgin until i'm married. so don't feel ashamed about it, chances are most of your friends haven't done all of what they're saying. GOOD LUCK!
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reader, Jualsy  +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I am sooooooooo proud of you. You are missing nothing except the chance of losing your self respect. You have the rest of your life to discover the real joys of a loving relationship.
There is an organisation in the United States called "True Love Waits" Look it up and see how proud young people can be for deciding to wait for marriage before having sex. It may seem hard to believe these days, but its a lovely way to deal with things.
As I said, I am proud of you.....don't join the masses, be different.
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (14 June 2007):
No it isn't anything to be ashamed of or wonder about or feel you are anything less than who you are. I really admire you for being yourself. I really do. Stick to your guns girl. Seriously, don't be sucked in by what is going on.
I admire you more for being a really cool girl at 16 than the idiot I was. I am 33 now and have LOTS of regrets.
Take care,
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reader, flower girl +, writes (14 June 2007):
 I think it's great that you have waited this long and the people that should really be embarrased are the ones that have already done these things, you take things at your own pace and do things when you are good and ready.
Take care.xx.
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reader, babydoll0713 +, writes (14 June 2007):
 In no way is this a bad thing. To be honest it gets really tiring to hear about these 13 year old girls having babies. It's refreshing to know that some young girls still have a brain. Stay pure sweetie. I know you've probably heard it before but you will thank yourself later, and when you meet that right guy he will also. But if that time comes with a guy and you both really care about each other he won't mind that he is your first with everything. Infact I'm sure he will feel pretty special. So in the end you should do absolutly nothing. Be yourself and don't let anyone push you into anything or try to grow up faster then you alreay are. I hope that helped sweetie!
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reader, kaylaaarg +, writes (14 June 2007):
It's not bad at all! It may feel like you're the last person on earth to do anything like that, but trust me, you're not alone.
16 is still young anyway! You have plenty of time, haha.
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